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Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do??
do not ditch haley. its possible that shes your only real friend. why dump her for your old friends. the friends that ridiculed you for being goth. you need to stick up for haley. try working this friendship back together and dont give up. if time runs out and it doesnt seem that anything is working out between all of you then just dump your old friends. if they cant accept you for who you are or what you've become then its their own personal problem. your trying to do the right thing and the right thing is not to trash haley with your old friends. sisters stick together.
Okay, this isn't a joke at all and I'm really in a bit of a bind here and I don't know what to do. I'm a 16 year old graduating sophomore male and I'm also a homosexual. My life so far has been pretty lonely and I've been waiting for that special someone to sweep me off my feet. A couple weeks ago, I found him! His name was Justin and he was my type: gay, handsome, smart, loving, sweet, every woman or gay male's dream guy. I got to know him and we totally connected. Three weeks ago, we got together and I've never been happier in my entire life! It was more amazing than anything I've ever felt and I was completely and totally happy for the first time in my life. Now here comes the part that's dramatic. A few days ago, he tells me his uncle's dog died and he was really beaten up about it. He ended up breaking up with me because he told me he was unsure of things because apparently he had been physically and emotionally connected to this dog. When he clarified on the physical part, I realized that he had had sex with the dog in the past! I love this guy so much that I supported him through it and we got back together. Two days ago however, he had his friend break up with me and he wouldn't tell me why. WHen I went to school today, he came up to me and said that he had made a decision not to date or do 'people' anymore and that things weren't going to work out between us. I am completely heartbroken and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should talk to him about it or if he'll just think I'm trying to control or change him. I don't even know if it's possible not to like "people" as a whole and only have "relationships" with animals, is it? All I know is I'm still desperately in love with him and that I feel sick being away from him. What should I do, say, feel, act upon? I just think this entire situation is so messed up but I finally found love, I just don't know how I'm going to fight to get it back. Help Me Please!!!!! :-)
talk to this boy about it because your definately in love and you cant let it leave you. but sweetsz dont smother him. dont keep asking him questions. dont let him think your trying to control him. if all this fales and he wont cone back respect his decision and support him. this might be heart breaking but its the right thing to do. plus if your working it out with him and always being there for him then he might realize that hes making a terrible decision and to come back to you.
Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
well he really loves you. and the reason he trys to get in touch with you is because he doesn want to lose you anymore than he already has. but still he needs to respect your decision. tell him 'hi and that your sorry but your in a relationship that your really happy with. you know you've had some good times but its time to move on and just go our seperate ways'. he might be crushed and wounded but he'll get over it. frankly i dont see why he hasnt taken the hint already. so basically its his own fault. anyway i hope that helped you.
theres these two boys. Both of them are my good friends. One is always on my mind, and i really like him. But when the other one looks at me and talks to me, he makes me feel happy. When he smiles at me, i get, allrite this will sound lame, he gives me butterflies in my stomach. But i dont think of him as much as i think of the other one. I used to have a crush on the one that makes me feel happy, and i never knew why. Now i know, but i dont want to like him again, cause i cant see myself with him, but i can see myself with the other one. Im so confused about them.
well you still have feeliing with the boy that makes you happy. but maybe you think that you can do better so you wont let yourself completely like him again. youyr falling for the other boy but you need to go for him and get noticed before you end up getting hurt. be friends with the boy that makes you happy. be very good friends. and just go for the other. dont let the boy that makes you happy stand in the way of the boy you really want to be with
I hooked up with this kid(joe) who likes me last friday. On saturday, I hooked up with this other kid, (tom). Well now, Joe's friend keeps telling me Joe is going to ask me out and he really likes me. I don't like him though and I don't want to go out with him, especcially since summer is soon. Should I tell Joe I don't want to go out with him cause it's almost summer or because I hooked up with someone else and I don't want to hurt him cause of it? (that is really the truth)
tell him both but say it as one. for example say that you dont want to go out with him because you want to stay friends and your kind of seeing someone write now anyway. say it nice and sweet if your worried about hurting him
I went to boarding school this past year and had to leave on account of an eatting disorder. Hahaha thats some first sentence. Well while I was at school (2 hours from home) I met this guy. We became instantly friends, and that was it. Well he stuck by me through all my issues and I never felt anything besides friends. He has told me more than once that he likes me as more than a friend. Well now that I'm home I have feelings for him to(Alot). We still talk on the phone everyday sometimes more. And he wants me to come visit. But I feel like if I get close I'm only going to get hurt. He lives extremely far away and the only way is to fly. I mean he's going to go to boarding school for another two years but still I mean 2 hours away is still pretty far. So I guess my question is, do I go with my gut that tells me I should get involved, or should I just stay friends on the phone and leave it at that. :)
well sweetsz do what your heart tells you (sounds cheasy i kno). but if this is a boy that you really have feelings for then go for it. sure it might be hard but you can take it. make plans with this boy. after all he stuck by you when you had an eating disorder. just be confident that you can beat this problem and your parents will understand
I have a sinus infection, so my nose is incredibly stuffy. My "M" sounds like a "B", which is really bad because I have my choir concert tomorrow night. I have been taking nose sprays and what not, but nothing is working. Any home made remedies that can help?
Thanks.
this helps me: get a BIG bowl (a bowl a little bigger than your head) and fill it with boiling water. get a towel and cover your head and lean close to the water (like a sona). make sure the steam doesnt come out. dont touch the water. stay their for at least 10 min. have a box of tissue because you nose will start running (the mucuc from your sines is breaking up).
I want to get my eyebrows shaped. Do I go into a hair salon or a nail salon or someplace other than those? What would I ask for because once a lady tweezed, but it didn't do any good. Are there any links that'll show eyebrow shapes that could be a possibility for me?
a nail salon. you ask for a eyebrow wax. theres an arch (its the most painful because it takes most hair out) and theres regular shape where you just get the eyebrows in line and get rid of unibrow. it really doesnt hurt. your eyes water but thats normal. if you have sensitive skin and burn easily (like me lol) ask them to blow on the wax before applying
My best guy mate is called phil. He's really nice and sweet and i know he would never hurt anyone on purpose. But over the past couple of weeks he's been acting weirdly with me. For example, if we're talking on msn and he has to go, he used to just say g2g cya xx then go offline before i even reply. But now he doesn't go offline untill i answer and he says g2g cya with loads and loads of kisses and sometimes with a heart and allways with a sad smiley face.
We made up this joke a couple of weeks ago, like we would call each my lovly or something, and now he starts calling me babe and baby and everything.
He told me he likes someone and apprantly everyone knows. But, i wanted to know why he wouldn't tell me, we tell each other everything, and i mean everything, everyone was saying it's me but i kept saying we're only friends. Well, i finally got it out of him and he said ''well, i'm not sure yet but it might be storme [this other girl at my school], but i'm not sure yet'' and i asked him why he wouldn't tell me before and he said i didn't want to :(.
Arghh it's pissing me off! Does he like me or is he messing around with me?!
xxx
ok he deffinately is trying harder to be nice to you. he likes you but realy think he likes storme to (but not alot). your just asking too much of him. he said he didnt want to cause he didnt need. he did think it would matter to you so much. try making as much as an effort as him. he'll forget all about storme and head for you. hope that helped
~~~~~~Candi xoxo luv~~~~~~
I got this in feedback a few days ago- and I have no idea what it means. Can someone possibly explain it to me, or is this person just a complete idiot?
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lauraxomichelle&mode=qview&q=494559
If that link doesn't work, go to my feedback and it's the top question that's rated a 1. Obviously you can tell who's asking this by the link I provided. Thanks to anyone who helps me :)
i guess suckeer means differently... for example
sucker1- as in your gullable
sucker2- candy
sucker3-she could be implying some stupid make up word that shes to bored and doesnt have a life. =)
~~~~~~Candi xoxo luv~~~~~~
Is there anyway to get my music videos on to my video ipod? i like download my videos from limewire and drag it onto itunes but it wont get on my ipod i tried converting it but it keeps saying itunes has an error converting it. i heard of videora but i dont get how it works. is there another program where i can download music and music videos without paying anything or paying for a music program thing just to download music? i just want a simple way on how to get music videos onto my ipod for FREE.
ok yeah i tried that too but the sound doesnt come on. all i can say is use itunes. the ipod videos and music videos are designed for that sorry.
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
my cousin is a good girl who has a lot of friends, is popular in school and gets great grades. Shes hanging out with this one girl Jenni who is a complete slut (but shes ugly as hell) and is getting Jackie(my cousin) to talk to these older boys on myspace. Shes talking to this one kid whos 17, dropped out of Highschool, does drugs, sells drugs, and has sex. Apparently he came to her house once with pot and a condom and was talking to her outside, but no one knew it ever happend. Me and her are really really close and i am always trying to protect her but now shes growing up and doesnt want me to protect her. shes lying to me about ahnging out with boys, even when they are boys in her own grade who i dont mind her haning out with. I dont get why she is doing this stuff. I try to talk to her and she tells me she is not going to talk to him anymore, but then i find out from her friends taht she STILL is talking to him after she PROMISED she wouldnt anymore. It really concerns me. Especially this weekend, becaue today is the year annivarsay since since her dad killed himself.....
im worried that shes going to make the wrong decisions. what should i do?
this is a private matter that needs to be handles by you or a professional (dont get anyone involved who doesnt need to be). she might be pressured by her friend to be with that boy. but you need to get through to her that this is dangerous. that guy can go to jail and if the police catch him with her then she could actually go to jail to. you need a serious talk with her. how shes in danger and makeing poor decisions. dont talk to the boy by yourself it could be dangerous. you dont know what he'll do if he gets mad. (all the more for your cousin to get away from him)
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
I want to know if this will work. I'm gonna wear these really cute ae jeans and they do look cute but the problem is they look slightly baggy and baggy is really a big turnoff in fashion but they ARE cute. I don't know what to do
baggy is OK but your right its not really a turn on. i say wear them. you spent your money on them and you deserve to wear them. if anybody has a problem with it then its their own personal problem.
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
My parents always take their anger out on me.
My dad has been doing it for years, so I've gotten used to it.
Lately, my mom has become irritated with my dad,
and it seems like every day, she finds something to yell at ME about,
when I know she's really mad at my dad, not me.
She'll yell at me about the dumbest things like having too many files on the computer.
A few hours after she yells at me, she apologizes,
and asks if I accept her apology, which I don't,
because I think that's unacceptable that my parents can just take their anger out on me.
Do you think I should talk to my parents, or at least my mom about this?
I really think we need to go to family counseling.
Or should I just try to accept the fact that my parents get angry sometimes and need to do that occasionally?
talk to your mom first. then set your parents down for the big talk. tell them how you fell and that what their doing is wrong and they need to stop. family counseling is a good idea and the fact that you thought of it shows how mature you are and that your serious.
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
Alright, so i have problems opening up. I know my boyfriend gets frusterated sometimes because i'll be upset and not tell him whats wrong for a while. Its like i have a hard time saying whats on my mind while the time is right. I really do try and open up and communicate better but its something thats kind of hard for me, for some reason. Its like when I'm talking to him I dont tell him things that I should and then when I hang up I think of things I should have told him. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to work on communicating better? Thanks. (18/f)
well i dont have this problem but it can be serious if you dont say whats on your mind. you should get a diary or journal to write your thoughts down. whenever you feel like you missed your time then go back and say it right away. or practice what your going to say and tell them the next time you see that person.... hope that helped!
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
how do you get a boy to "chase" you without making him annoyed or run away. i guess what im saying is how do you flirt with him and let him know that your the one?
omg sweetsz what girl DOESNT want that! lol :P.
well never ever be without lipgkoss (clear or pink). giggle alot without doing to much (it might freak him out). hold your head high for confidence. never give up on what you want either.
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
Well, I've had a crush on this guy for a few months.
He knows because my now ex-friend told it right to his face. At first he didn't talk to me much, then my friend had given him my screen name and we talked a little on there and he said hi to me in the halls and stuff. Now, suddenly, he occasionally asks who I like (I'm guessing it's to know if I still like him) and he's been IMing me first. He seems a little more interested in me lately, and sometimes we talk in the halls (very occasionally, but either I go up to him first, or he comes up to me) Lately on IM when he says he has to go, he usually only said "got to go sorry" and got off. Now he's saying stuff like "got to go, sorry, bye, see you tomorrow," and smiley faces. Do you think hes interested? He likes another girl I know.. but I just want to know if its possible.
It sort of sucks since summers almost here and we will be in HS next year, probably never see each other.
he likes you. hes trying to get to know you. and your right he is still wondering if you still like him. some guys flirt very obviously. others flirt.....NOT obviously :P. he likes another girl but is he treating her the way he treats you? if he isnt then...*wink wink hint hint* lol. talk to him over summer. dont let your relationship end in school (even if it is just friends). on the last day of see how far you can go without going to far and scaring him off =)
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
why cant guys get it though there skulls! when i said "i dont like you in that way" why do they have to keep on talking about? they talk about going out and he still dont get it to move on! its annoying. how can i tell him nicely to stop talking about us getting together? i just want to be his friend.
the if from : I dont get these two?
refrase the words. be like all. 'yo dude we arent going out got it?. but i still wanna be friends' you dont have to say that EXACTLY but the key is to say like your the boss. say your not going out. say it seriously and with force to show your not playin around. make sure you tell him that you still want to be friends even (or his feelings will get hurt). he might still like you even after that (its not like you cant turn his feelings off). if hes still doing it then just get tough. you dont have to say anything mean but just look tough when he says something. act like you dont appreciate it (oooo tell him that to) =)
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
I used to be friends with everybody. & Everyone. No one hated me nothing. But then I had this party really big one, where people couldnt get in, and I hooked up with a guy. There were tons of people there 227 to be exact. Then all of a sudden after that no one has wanted to talk to me. I dont know what to do? I went from having to say sorry I've made plans already to...Hey do you wanan hang out? & I know that sounds conceited and bad. But I dont know what happenned. & I'm not very happy about it, I've gone into a deep depression and everyday I think about killing myself.
dont kill yourself over friends (i think your being too dramatic btw) they probabally just used you for the part. or the ones that couldnt get in are just pissed. its probabally not as bad as you think either. really look at your surroundings. start making friends again. it might be fustrating but start asking questions. the people that were your friends- ask them 'what happened' but dont sound desperate or depressed just bring it up. you might get some answers
Im having a party this friday and im inviteing my friends and i have a crush on one of them named anthony.Well he dated two of my friends one he used one and the other he went out for two weeks.I think me and him connect he makes me laugh he gives me stuff but i dont know if he likes me.Another thing IDK if he went out with my friends to get closer to me.
well your friends could have thought the same way and look what happened to them. but if your serious and really think hes into you then go for it. tell your friends just to keep them informed and get out a conflict with them. (or surprise them) keep your friends in th 'know' because you are still friends