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Parents Taking Anger Out On Me
My parents always take their anger out on me.
My dad has been doing it for years, so I've gotten used to it.
Lately, my mom has become irritated with my dad,
and it seems like every day, she finds something to yell at ME about,
when I know she's really mad at my dad, not me.
She'll yell at me about the dumbest things like having too many files on the computer.
A few hours after she yells at me, she apologizes,
and asks if I accept her apology, which I don't,
because I think that's unacceptable that my parents can just take their anger out on me.
Do you think I should talk to my parents, or at least my mom about this?
I really think we need to go to family counseling.
Or should I just try to accept the fact that my parents get angry sometimes and need to do that occasionally?
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Yes i definatly think you should talk to your family about it. if you all disagree maybe counsling is good for you. Communication is most important.
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talk to your mom first. then set your parents down for the big talk. tell them how you fell and that what their doing is wrong and they need to stop. family counseling is a good idea and the fact that you thought of it shows how mature you are and that your serious.
~~~~~Candi xox luv~~~~~
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Look, your parents are human. Human beings normally try to be thier best, and often they fail.
It isn't okay that they take their anger out on you, but it also isn't okay for you to be so ungracious and selfish as to not accept an honest apology from your mom.
Have you never had a bad day at school and taken it out on someone else? Sure you may try hard not too, but I wouldn't believe it for a second if you say you've NEVER done it.
So, yes you should accept that your parents get anger sometimes, and you should also accept honest, well meant apologies. You'd certainly be deeply hurt if your mother refused a sincere apology from you wouldn’t you?
But you should also try to talk to your mother. Calmly and respectfully accept her apology and tell her how you feel about what is going on in your family, with your father and her anger. Suggest family counseling, and perhaps even, tell her you might want to talk to a guidance counselor so you have some help dealing with it, even if she or your dad don’t want to go to counseling.
The two important things are to take care of yourself and remain respectful to others. Give them the benefit of the doubt, even they don’t deserve it, because everyone makes mistakes, and being malicious about it will only make your life harder.
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