ok so yeah he does write on her page but that was before we started going out and when we started going out he stopped talking to that one girl that he was leaving messages on her myspace because it is one of his ex's, and i found them and he said that it was his ex and those messages were when they were gonig out, and i asked him to delete them because they bothered me, and he said that they shouldn't bother me and that he isn't going to delete them, but he knows that it bothered me....
thank you
-beanie
Just that specific issue you just explained if all that is true then it is not so bad for this particular incident but he should still be more considerate of your feelings and why wont he delete it although it shouldn't bother you that it is up there rather you force him to take them down or not and i'm not saying that you should but you sshould ask him why would it bother him to delete them if they are from the past and are insignificant especially it if hurts you what difference would it make if they were up there are not.
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I know that I trust my boyfriend and I know that he would never cheat on me because he honestly loves me and it's a mutual feeling, but he's been talking to this girl that he said he met about a year ago and she lives about an hour away from where him and i live, but when he visits his dad he visits her, and she is suposidly one of his best friends, but for some reason whenever i'm hanging around with him and a girl calls h sits there and texts her or talks to her, and it bugs me alot, and i said something once and he said that he would never cheat on me, but for some reason i'm still scared that something will happen. I'm also upset because I was looking at this girls MySpace and it had some comments on there from like almost a year ago him saying on her pictures stuff like "Or you're so sexy.." and stuff like that but he posted those things before him and i started dating, but it bugs me that they are still there and i tried telling him i didn't like it and asked him to delete it but he told me that i shouldn't worry about it and it shouldn't be a problem but for some reason i still don't like it, and he talks about his ex's alot and it bugs me alot and i told him and he said that i had nothing to worry about and i shouldn't worry about, but i really love him but it bugs me so much and i try to ignore it but i can't and whenever i try to talk about it with him he gets pissy and moody and says that i'm not listening to my heart and i'm only thinking about his past.
I'm sorry that this is so long but i needed to get it out. Thank you so much.
-Beanie
Okay boo I don't know which direction you should go in leaving or staying because young men will be young men. But, first of all you never said but do you know for absolute sure that the girl knows about you and that you are his woman you say he writes on her myspce page so he must have one too if you are on his and it is self-evident that you are his main girlfriend that is a plus because even if he is snooping around on you you are his main squeeze. Men cheat all the time but they have this one girl that is in their heart and that may be you. Now you say he wrote some stuff about her being sexy it is for absolute sure that he is sexually attracted to her is they aren't having sex and if they haven't had a more serious relationship in the pass. He has feeling for her no doubt boo, he may not be acting one them for sure but that id only a maybe. But, it had crossed his mind and he is thinking about it and maybe just maybe if she came on storng enough one night he would. But, you say when a girl calls he sits there and talks to them now i don't know if you are talking about her or just other girls in general. But, if it is other girls nothing maynot be going on with them. So he can sit there and talk with them without incriminating himself. But i think he is trying to use reverse psychology on you trying to pretend he is being open while hiding so much if it is her he is just trying to seem innnocent. Why should he be getting mad at you when you inquire about something that hurts you and makes yo uncomfortable he is flipping the script so that you won't continue to ask questions and get to the bottom of it. The bottom line is i know you are trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and be an understanding girlfriend but take it from someone who has been there before. In situations like this listen to your heart because your intuition doesn't lie. If you would like to ask me any specific questions or soemthing i didn't fully answer that you'd like to know don't hesitate to ask BEY.
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i flat iron my hair.
what are some good things to put on it before to make it not damage?
Although i know you said you wanted to just know what products to put on your hair to keep it from damaging I just want to add the bit of info. to let yo know you can put things on it to keep it from damaging so much but if you constantly put a flat iron on your hair yyou are going to damage it regardless. Try to use it as less as possible because it is just not healthy for your hair and nothing is going to change that.
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my best friend who i have gotten to kno this school year. has been geting into alot of trouble with her pranets lately and is now sexually active. she barely hangs out wit us at school cuz she is too busy making out with difrernt boys and we don't ever go out to like the movies cuz she is having sex with them (diferent boi per night)..my friends n i are debating if we should tel her off that she is a bad influence and our true feelings towards her but we don't know if thaT would be right to do...we are confused..help us out.
The only way she can be a bad influence is if you follow in her footstpes and since you all can see obviously that she is wrong by her ways than you aren't following her and you shouldn't; you have your own minds so no she is not a bad influence. She just is just displaying bad choices and behavior right now that is only hurting her. Right now you should try to get throuh to her and alarm her of the mistakes she is making. Let her know you guys are important to and you want to see a little more of her spend a little more time with her and tell her all the bad points about what she is doing such as stds,pregnancy, and humiliation. Don't desert her and don't judge her be her best friend and if she can't give you the same thing back then maybe you should cut ties with her.
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I wear Axe spray deoderant and since its smell is overbearing, I also wear Aeropostale A87 cologne and I try to spray a lot on, because I tend to sweat a lot during the day, and sometimes I start to have some unwanted B.O.
What is a reliable and long-lasting deoderant to have, because my axe obviously isn't working.
Thanks for any suggestions, and please say what's good about the deoderant you mention.
Try mitchum and/or anti-dri that comes in a white and green box. You can try anything that says doctor recommended fo in your CVS first.
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16/f
I've talked to this guy on myspace [I knew him from middle school] so he's not a stranger to me. We talked for many weeks. We met up about 3-4 times and we are going out now.
But I feel so stupid because I'm so shy and I can't look at him
We are surrounded around our friends and we haven't been alone.. I can only glance at his face. If i really stare at him, i get so shy.. my eyes water [for some reason? sensitive eyes?] and i blush like mad. I'm awful at eye contact. i keep telling myself to look into his eyes but i end up looking away.
I'm also tensed and nervous. I don't know how to feel comfortable around him. We haven't been dating long. Maybe a week? How can I be more open? Not so shy around him?
I can hug him but it's so awkward standing next to him. Maybe it's because he's watching my every move. It sort of scares me.
I need help:[
I agree with ali but i was very shy also and what i did to cover up for it was talk and laugh more then the blushing doesn't seem like blushing it seems like you are having an interesting conversation and he was funny and interesting. Although you are shy and you can force yourself to try to look at him one thing i know you can succesfully force yourself to tey to do is make upmore things to talk about and joke about and yo will gradually begin to feel more comfortable with him while making him enjoy your company at the same time.
(Conversation and Humor)- conquers shyness
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There's this girl, Rayna. She's so mean. And anyway, I was talking to this guy on facebook whos really great, and she comments him and tells him that he should stop talking to me and that shell "explain later." and ive never even talked to her, so shes just doing it to spite me. So anyway, would it be a bad idea to message her saying "what did rayna say about me?" And should i say something else?
If it is that important to you than ask but I don't think that it should be that important because she is an immature little girl. You know who you are and what you are about you shouldn'r have to worry about what anyone else has to say. If he were to treat you differently or ask you any strange questions then I would get around to asking about whatever acusations she made. But, usually honestly what we don't know won't hurt us in these situtations and finding out details only make things worse. to actually get to a bottom of a problem like this I feel the best way to "nip it in the bud" would be to act mature step to the girl and find out what the problem is. You could simply in a nice way ask her " Do you have a problem with me?" and let the chips fall fro there. But if you don't want to go there and you know if you are prepared for something like that just ignore it because she is not worth it that is too childish to worry about; let it go.
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theres this girl whos a complete bitch named sophia
i was talking to a guy on facebook and she commented that he should stop talking to me &shed explain later.
i dont want to stop talking to him.
would it be a completely bad idea to message him saying "what did sophia say about me?"
No it would not be a complete bad idea just as a woman i would not do it because you should not care. Even if you do you should pretend you don't especially if she is just being a bitch and dong some childish sh** for no reason. If you treated him the way a friend should treat a friend he should treat the you the same way in return and not care what some heifer tells him about you. Show maturity and confidence by being the biggger person and not caring because like I said before you shouldn't care; that is a waste of time especially on her part. Realize she had too much time on her hands to put that much energy into ruining a relationship you have established with someone else. If you tell anyone anything tell him that if it comes up he'll respect and admire you more.
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this guy and I have been talking for a while. We have gotten real close and he asked me out today.
Okay, that's all good until he said 'Love you'
and that he wanted to kiss me.
How do I tell him that I want to slow down?
I'm used to waiting months for a first kiss.
I may be old fashion.. is this how relationships are .. nowadays?
I want to say it in the nicest way so he doesn't get embarrassed.. because I think.. he might take it as rejection. "No, I don't want to kiss you."
Just simply tell him that I dont want to move too fast and explain to him why think of the reasons and carefully explain them to him and tell him that it is not because anything is wrong with him it is just for your benifit to make you comfortable in the relationship (because you don't want to start doing things you dont want to do in relationships and letting people rush and pressure you so you have to tell him how you feel.) If you are old fashion that is fine you don't have to compare you and your relationship to any body else always stay true to yourself especially in relationships trust me because if you don't they'll end up in destruction anyway
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ok so i cut it "down" there and its like really itchy. what do i do to make it stop?
If it is itchy it is a possibility it may begin to burn as well but when this happens you can out vaseline up there and it will soothe it ass well as balmex. Start drinking water, cranberry juice, and taking more care of your vagina, although it happens to all of us some times.
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has anyone seen a movie called Carmen Jones? In my social studies class I have to make a stamp on this lady called Dorothy Dandridge, for black history month. I have no idea what to do for the stamp, so please give me ideas. But like she was famous because she was the first African American to be nominated for the Academy Award in the Best Actress category and the third African American to receive a nomination in any category overall (after Hattie McDaniel and Ethel Waters). And she was nominated for her movie called Carmen Jones.. would it be okay if I watched the film? I'm 13 years old, and Im not sure if it will be like.. not for my age. Or, just give me a review on the movie, and like important things involving Dorothy's character in the movie.. so maybe i can represent the movie in the stamp I have to draw. (BTW: the stamp is like.. a whole page big, not some tiny stamp..though hopefully that was obvious) and well.. yeah. I'll give additional information if you need any more to answer this.
In short, i'm asking what the movie carmen jones is about, how it relates to Dorothy Dandridge and such, how her character in the movie is represented as.. and all that jazz. Also, I'm asking for really creative ideas that I can make for my poster. And I cant draw Dorothy in the stamp, so I need things that like.. represent her.
THANKYOU.. ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know you have seen carmen in which beyonce' played in it is the same movie accept in the end Dorothy Dandridge's lover(harry belofonte') kills her for leaving him. It is the exact sme story line it is just small diff. deatails but i'll run through them. She was in love with an army guy and he got into a scuffle and killed his superior officer over her because in a way she taunted him and pushed him to. Then because of that he was wanted so they had to leave town together. Before all of this she had just met this big time boxer who promised her all these lavish things just like the rapper promised beyonce' but she was waitning on her army guy so she couldn't accept it. When they got there she was with her best friend and she would go out and leave him in the house because he couldn't go out 'cause he was hot. She begin to see the boxer fellow and she begin to be bored with him because he couldn't do anything so she decided she was going to leave him for the boxer. One night she got all dressed up and went to see his boxing match and he came to find her and he said either you leave with me or i'll kill you. and he strangled her to death for being a hussy. She also performed oprah or hopra however you spell it. She was glamorous; the beyonce' for that time. If you haven't seen the movie imagine beyonce' in that pepsi commericial singing hoprah that was based on her too where she had on the black top and red skirt. If you need to know anything specific just send me a message oor look it up on the internet.
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im not an A student or a straight B student or an A and B student. Im like a one B the rest C's and maybe one D here and there on the report card. I want to go to college, and get a good job. How are my chances?? I'm a freshmen and I have really started trying this 3rd marking period to possibly get all B's and maybe 2 C's. My question is really what are my chances of getting into a good college?? Thanks
If you buckle down right now and make A's, B's, and fewer C's the next three years you'll be in fantastic shape this year is only the tip of the iceburg admission counselers love to see improvement and one of your most important years is your junior year even more important than your senior year when getting admitted although if you do fall off to bad senior year you can still be denied after being accepted. But your chances of getting into a good college are extremely fair. Just stay focused.
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okay so i like boys..but boys like girls with boobs..yeah i dont have boobs.
thats the problem. boys dont like me because of my invisible boobs. NO SERIOUSLY IM SO FLAT CHESTED!
ughh i dont want to STUFF. i dont want to be a fake. i want to be MYSELF, but what if MYSELF is no boobs.
please help
Yes there is nothing you can do to change the way that you are right now so you sould enjoy the way God mad you and be confident in yourself because like the person told you earlier guys really love confidence. Show your personality and style. And, you could one day give bloussant a try even though I heard it works in rare cases and in the further future plastic surgery is an option salene is safer now for people than the original silicone but if you get comfortable in your own skin I doublt you'll want to.
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15/ female
a few months ago my friend (15/female)told me she was going to have sex with her boy friend(16 male) of like 5 months. I didnt think it was a good idea, since I thought he was kind of a jerk and a druggie. But I tried to berealy supportive and a good friend, and she promised to go to a doctor, but her mom is sorta verbally abusive, so shes worried the doctor will tell. Well I suggested she go to a teen clinic near her house, and she went but it wasnt open
well then she went ahead and had sex, but she said she wasnt going to do it again. and that shes on this new medication that says she shouldnt be sexually active
well she lied and told my friend four weeks later that they had sex again. So I brought it up, and I said that she should go see a doctor, and she said she would. Then she told me later that she didnt, and then she said that she had sex again! And I was lik, k, you should go see your doctor, just to make sure its okay while your on the medication, and she said no. So I told her that if she didnt, I would talk to her parents. Because I was really worried about her, and I know its not my job, but I was probably wrong. Well then her boyfriend harrassed me online and I freaked out. He called me a bad friend and a bully and stuff, and I didnt knwo what to, seeing as I didnt really do anything wrong, I just told her I'd tell her mom. Well then my friend and I got in a fight because I was scared of her boyfriend and I didnt really want to be around the two of them anymore, so then she asked what was going on so I was honest. And then she said she would go to a doctor if it would make me feel batter. That was about three months ago and I asked her the other day if they were still doing it, and if she had gone to the doctor and she said they were and she hadnt. Then she told me this long story about how shes worried about him and thinks he may be addicted to pot.
I was just wondering; is there anything that can hurt her from his drugs?, should I talk to her parents? Is there anything that could harm her from the medication shes on, do you think that it is important for her to go to a doctor? and is this really my place, or should I back out? I dont want to, but I guess I cant really change her. Any advice would really help. I tried looking at this from an advicenator's perspective and was confused more. Please help, I'd really appreaciate it! Thanks lots!
You should back off I know you care about her but pushing her to do things even if they are good for her is only going to make her resent you and rebel against you more to do the wrong thing. All you can do is keep talking to her not in a condescending way but talk to her in a sensitive manner as her friend and someone who understands her not as an advisor. That way you can get her to listen to you better and get through to her wihtout her getting upset. Keep telling her the right thing to do with tact and give her all the good reasons why it is the right thing to do such as having protected sex and getting papsmears to make sure the sex isn't harming her in any way. Don't preach to her and don't go to her parents with this because that may push her over the edge and just cause more drama in her life and force her to get more out of control because they'll probably restrict her some more and then she'll rebel some more and she'll no longer be your frined and then who will she have to point her in the right direction. Just give her all your love and understanding and give her some time to mature.
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My friend, who lacks a computer, has turned to me for advice. She is an underage smoker (I disapprove too, but keep reading) who has been having sinus problems and illnesses. She wants to go to a doctor and be honest about her smoking because it may be related to her problems. However, her parents don't know she smokes and she would like to avoid them finding out. Are there any services in the Northern California (around San Francisco) Bay Area that she could get to? I heard about these last year, but they only said checkups for STDs etc. Thank you.
I don't live in California but the best thing to do to find out is get the phone book and call clinics and other facilities and just ask them what the preferences are.
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sorry its so long and its in the wrong category. anyways i'm 14/f. :
i would really like advice on how to get my life back in order. well my parents recently got divorced i have a BF in another state and my parents recently found out we kissed on vacation and i got in trouble and he didnt, i have a couple really good friends but my 2 best friends dont get along, i've caught my mom in lies and i cant trust her anymore,my mom is starting to talk to strangers on the internet and meeting them. and now she kindof has a bf who says he wants to share me w/ my mom., my dads starting to make me go to church, and my grades are at their worst. i'm under so much stress and worst of all i have dance classes, karate classes, musical auditions comming up, talent show audtions coming up, and i've been trying so hard to loose weight for our school winterfest and if i dont get good grades my bf cant come from his state to mine and be my date for winterfest. i just need some organization, and order, and just plain advice on how to lower my stress level. and keep focused on my priotys.i dont want to talk to my parents about it cause i've tried and they just dont get it. any advice is awsome. thank you sooo much in advance.
first of all calm down, slow down, and take a deep breathe. right now everyone around yo has problems and they love you just like you love them but they migh tnot be able to give you the attention you are craving deep down inside right now. So without hurting anyone else your main focus right now should be you. Focus on you and what is good for you. That may seem selfish but sometimes what is good for us can also be good for those around us as well. Forget about the kiss and getting in trouble for it it is insignificant. The relatinship isn't over all you have to do is handle your business in school and you've got him and your winter fest. Your extracurricular activities such as dance and karate aren't meant to stress you out they are meant for you to release your energy and that is what you should be doing enjoying them. If it is coming to the point where you feel like they are hurting you then talk to your mom about cutting out the ones that you can live wihtout not only will that help you in school but it will help her save cash considering a divorce and all. Next it seems like your mom is having a difficult time right now she is a grown woman and there isn't much you can do to change her so take some time to just sit down and talk to her don't judge her just have simple conversations about anything. And, when convinient jump in and ask the questions to make sure she is alright. You will be showing signs of maturity and all she is trying to do is make sure you can make safe sound decisions and these actions will be good for you and her because the happier she is the happier you'll be when she is around. But mainly if you do the right thing with your mother your main focus should be on your school work especially if you are going to college no you don't have to be a straight a student and you don't want to push yourself to the limit but you do want to graduate on time and be able to have some choices in which school you want to go to. think about that some your future and how much fun, freedom, and responsinility you will have in about 4 years. That is motivation for better grades and setting higher standards for yourself within school/work and relationships. Another way to lower your stress level is is you can you know better than me but if at all posiible talk to your firneds individually see if there is a way that they can possibly get along without bad mouthing either one of them and if possible ask if they could do it for you. If not than make sure you stay neutral and make sure they understand that you are neutral and you are going to stay neutral and you won't take sides in their bickering are particcipate in any conversation about one friend to the other. And, that is all you can do that is all yo are responsible for there issues are their problem not yours and don't let it become yours. but, try to talk and laugh with them as much as possible because they are one of the brightest things in your life right now it will make you feel good to give and recieve love from them cheerfullnesss wil always reduce stress try to have as much fun as possible you have a busy schedule doing things (you can work at school) but aside from that enjoy the things you do you know how many people wish they could get out of the house and have a life to live that is what you're doing living to the fullest but like i said wwhen it gets to the point where the unecessary stuff in life isn't fun any more let it go and take a rest that way you can be healthy and happy.
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I'm doing a project in English & I need to have a book. I'm having a lot of trouble finding one so I was hoping someone could help me out.
I'm interested in books like "Go Ask Alice" & things about teenage things that I can relate to. It has to be around 300 pages. I don't want Gossip Girls or anything like that, so does anyone have any good suggestions?
Thank you so much. I'm going to the library tomorrow so help before then would be appriciated.
Blood and chocolate is not the most girly book but it has a lot to do with relationships and you'll love it if they have it try it out.
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I love a guy in my class named Raul. But he is moving 3 hours away. What should i say to him becuase tomorrow is the last day for him. He knows i like him and i think he likes me. What should i say? what is i start crying again?
Tell him goodbye that you love him and that you'll miss him tell him that you're always available for him to talk to exchange contact information and if it is meant to be it will be.
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I really like my guy friend (lets call him Sam). He and I are always together in school and everyone guessed that I like him but i never admit it. Sam and I flirt alot, we talk, we make eye contact, we trust eachother, hes there for me, he defends me, he'll try to talk to me if he sees me cry, he smiles at me when we see eachother in the hall, and hes so sweet. Now, one of my guy friends got really depressed and I tried to help him through it. It didn't work so well and Sam could tell I was getting upset over something. He once overheard me telling my best friend how I couldn't take knowing about this and how in the end I told his parents. Sam overheard when I said I had cried the night before and as soon as class ended he came to the door and asked me what was wrong. I couldn't tell him the secret but I told him a bit. Now he is bugging me to tell him more and the othe guy is really mad I told even a little bit. What should I do?
You were just wrong for letting it slip both of them are probably upset becaause i hate back stabbing and i hate when people start things they can't finish but people make mistakes and that is how you learn tobe a better person so. If you really trust him and that is only 100% and he is your best friend finish telling him make sure he doesn't repeat it and never make that mistake again be a trust worthy friend. Otherwise make up a simple non incriminating, harmless lie to tell him to finish it off. And apoligize to the other friend for telling his secret and tell him you'll never do it again and how and why you did it and mean it. Always be a dependable frined don't tell other friends secrets and never put other friends in a position where they feel like you don't trust them .
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Here's the story: I met this amazing guy a couple months ago. We hung out one day and started going out. We tried a relationship for a while but things didn't work out and he said he wanted to be just friends. We turned to be friends with benefits but only made out and thats all i allowed. well i ended up falling in love with him. i wanted so much to be with him. We hung out all the time and became good friends. Well he ended up telling me one day he needed to talk .. i was hoping he would want to get back together but he didnt he wanted to tell me that he likes another girl but wanted to make sure i was ok with it since he broke up with me weeks prior and didnt want me to be upset about it. Ever since that day things weren't the same. We stopped hanging out alot and talking. After he stayed home from school for a week and came back, he completely changed. We havent hung out since then and we only talk every now and then. He is "together" with that girl he liked. I really miss him and its been months. I thought i was over him but we've been talking, flirting, and always looking at eachother lately. I think he misses me too but he's afraid to tell me. How can I get myself to talk to him again? I never see him alone that much to be able to talk to him and see if he wants to talk or hang out. I don't think things between him and his girl are good right now. & Im not one of those girls that like to get in between things like that. Tips on how to get a converstation on how to hang out with him and talk, it would be great. THANKS.
It sounds like he took advantage of you a little bit but boys will be boys and it sounds like you had a good friendship and if he is what you think than focus on that try to reestablish your friendsip with him just start telling himt hat you miss him and that you don't want to not have him in your life and that all you want from him is the friendship that you once had if nothing more because frindship can last when a relationsip won't and if you really care about this person than you'll accept what he can give you and not be selfish to cut it off if you can't get what you want. Get your friendship back and take it slow really try to be just friends that way you don't have to live without him rather he has a girlfriend or not and you two can be honest with each other and see how far you can go. trust me i've done this before and don't let someone take advatage of you to wher they get everything their way they don't have to claim you and they can get freaky with you when you know deep down inside you want more it is either a friendship or a b-f g-f relationship nothing in between. But always cherich a good friend
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