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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I am pretty much Fill out what I am feeling. I am try my best for anyone try to understand frist I let you know I do have grammer problem so try to bail with me. if you couldn't understand I can do like email thing and thing I know Advicenators don't want real long messages... so anybody that can be able read some long messages not just long just where it be to long on here. so My advice be on about Religon.. i have a boyfreind and well we have different beliefts and there more but hard to me to explaine that why i thought someone willing really try understasnd read longer messages.. comment me and i can inbox you my long needy advice...
You can send me a long message.
We "can't" ever do anything?
My boyfriend and I have been together a year and 3 months now. He's 19, I'm 18. He has a full time job that he's been at for about a year. I have a part time job since I'm in school still. Usually he works until about four, then I work at five until about nine or ten. So we only really get to spend time together a few hours in a day before it's back to bed then work. On the rare days we get off together I try to do something instead of the usual sit at home, relax and watch tv. But he doesn't ever want to do anything because he says his days off are for him to relax.. I get quite bored just doing that but I just try to understand since he does work 9 hours everyday. I just am afraid it's going to stay like that. Maybe it's just because he's still young and got a full time job at 18 and isn't used to it yet. But on our days off together I would like to go out on a date or something fun and simple. I have to say I'll pay or something extra to motivate him to want to do anything.. I wouldn't leave him for this, but I just am bored. I've expressed this to him, but all it does is hurt his feelings thinking I'm completely bored of him and it makes him think that I don't understand how hard he works everyday, which is entirely not what I mean to do.
That's a tough situation to break, because I know what its like to work everyday and wanting just to lounge on my days off. Why not different things at the house like having a picnic, having a movie night, or having friends over to hang out. I realize you want to get him out of the house and do stuff, but guys are really hard to break when it comes to laziness. Or find something he really likes and would do anything to see them, like maybe a band. Or find someone such as a friend who could motivate him to leave. Most of the time guys can get guys to go out and party. I am not suggesting to go to a party, but having outside help could help with the situation. You could do double dating or something.
21/f Tony -18
So I've known Tony for a long time, but we never stayed close. Fourth of July week we were at the same cabin. We got really close and we started both developing feelings for each other.
The thing is, that he's not my type. He's a country boy and I usually go for the athletic jock types, the ones who are jerks. I think Tony's cute, but it's not like I'm like OMG he's the hottest I'm so lucky! I know it's not all about looks but I just feel like I could do better sometimes :\ not to sound conceited AT ALL.
I don't know what to do! He treats me like a princess tho, he would seriously do anything for me. He opens my car door when I'm leaving, he tells me how beautiful I am every day. He doesn't try to hook up with me because he knows that's not what I want and I'm not like that. I could honestly go on and on about everything he does for me. We're not officially dating yet, we're just "talking" if that's what you want to call it. I'm still a little torn. I'm so comfortable with him. I can even hang out with him when I just get out of the shower and he still reassures me that he thinks i'm beautiful. I need a guy like that. I think me not being that attracted to him and also his age is holding me back.
What should I do! Should I go for it? Should I not? Maybe i'm pushing him away because no guy has ever treated me so good before. I don't know!
The new experience of finally meeting a nice guy is definitely scary and feels weird at the same time. You find yourself wondering if this is to good to be true or if you even could get something so perfect. You go for guys who are jocks and jerks because it was always what you have done. Have you ever seen the movie I Love You Beth Cooper? You have these two people who are complete opposites and yet in the end, they were absolutely perfect for one another. You have the pretty cheerleader how I might add is absolutely nuts and a nerd who is a complete sweetheart. In the end she chose him because he was sweet, nice, and treated you right. You may not be attracted to him right now, but you are drawn to his personality. I think you should give it a shot with him. Once you start dating, you will find yourself falling in love with him, and the attraction will only increase from there. You want a relationship that means something before it gets physical. This is the path to finding what you truly dreamt about or wanted all along.
me nd this guy kissed de first day we met,,talked on de fone 24/7 afta dat,,realli liked each other,,hav loads in common..he lives far from me but we agreed it wont be a problem and he's going to 2nd year in university while am a graduate,,but he didnt mind and i was cool with dat. we met 2nd time kissed in cinema,,3rd time again in same week kissed.,i sucked his dick and he sucked ma breast but no sex., we agreed we be freinds but because we both haven't been in a relationship for de past 2 years we couldnt control out hormones...then we got so close..i hanged up on him as a joke but i said sorry,,,then he called me back afta 3days saying he tinks we are rushing and we should jus be freinds and ever since then we hardly talk..i text him sometimes and he calls me at random times(midnite, afternoon). i tink he misses me but doesnt want to admit it and me too am trying to act mature, ignore him and move on,,but i cant get him out of ma head everyday HELP.,eventhough we didnt go out i still felt hurt by his suddn change and i was hoping we would go out as we were getin close..plzzz HELP with any advice i realii need it asap..thanks
This is the "pull away" act guys often do when they find someone they really like. They find themselves getting too serious and falling for the person. Hes afraid of the idea of a relationship or the idea of getting serious. In the beginning it was all fun, fresh, and games but after some time, you really started to fall for each other. I would advise not giving up on him. If you can't get him out of your head, then that means you do not want to move on from him. Believe me when I say, when it is the hardest to forget someone, it means you weren't meant to. I would be completely honest with him, ask him the next time you talk to him, do you want to talk to me or do you want me to leave you alone forever. If he is given an ultimatum, he will choose quickly. I have a feeling he will admit that he doesn't want to lose you.
13/F
ok so there is this guy,lets call him D and i have a friend, lets call her N.
D is one of my really close friends and so is N, i hang out with D every lunch and recess at school and know him really well, i only hang out with guys at lunch and recess but sometimes N comes 2.
i tell D everything along with N and other close friends, lets call them B,J,f, their are both male and E who is female and others that dont matter in this need of advice.
so one Saturday E came 2 my place for a sleepover and we both got really hyper at about 9pm and i called B and what i didn't know was D and J was at B's house for the night 2. and i said some really embarrassing things such as i really like D and i thought he had the cutest laugh/smile and some other really embarrassing things then B said D liked me and if D would ever ask me out, would i say yes and i said yes so B invited me to the movies with D and J and F on Sunday so i said yes straight away and wen i saw my mum i asked her if i could go and she said she would think bout it and the next morning she said no because she hasn't ever met the guys and would like them 2 come over before i go places with them :( so i texted B saying i couldn't come because i was going to the city with my family because i was 2 embarrassed to say mum didn't let me because she didn't know them.
The next day at school,we were doing maths and J said D was sad i bailed, and it was sorta awkward between me and D but the next day it was fine between us and i told N this and she likes him 2 and way before i ever told he i liked D she waz like if one of her friends would ever like D they would be stealign him and the day i told her about everything she was sorta sad.
So i am inviting all the guys 2 my place so we can hang with my mum letting me.
I asked if who D liked and he said me and i really wanna go out with D but i dont want to hurt N.
they are both my good friends.
PLZ HEPL!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. please dont say stuff like chicks before dicks because D is important to me in a friendship way 2 and we are both really close friends so it wouldn't be stuff like chicks before dicks because D is my really close friend as well as N.
It really comes down to whose relationship is more important to you. If you turned down the guy because of your best friend, you friend will be happy and both you and the guy will be miserable. If you accept to date this guy, you will be happy and so will he. The only one who will be unhappy will be your best friend. If she is truly your best friend, she will support your relationship whether she likes the guy or not. You, however, have to make it clear that you are what he truly wants. And maybe you could find her someone else so you guys can do a double dating thing. I think she is mostly afraid that if you guys start dating, she will be the third wheel and not really have anyone. If you find someone for her to date also, she might get over the idea a lot more quickly.
long story short, my boyfriend messed up with me , and we broke up, he came back and wanted a second try and worked hard for it, and i told him i need some time to trust him and all that stuff, so im starting to give into him and everything and then he starts talking about how he wants to be with me but he wants to give it time cause hes going to college and all his friends are failing and hes so scared that he isnt as smart as the and he doesnt wanna go down the same road and a relationship is too much for him to handle and that he feels like hes not gonna show me much attention but we can still love eachother and be eachothers, but not in a relationsip but he thinks its a major responsibility cause he has to take care of me and all that, i dont know you guys.. whats going on? hes always online for me, talking to me all the time, telling me how much he loves me, im being so honest, hes not that kind of player guy, that plays around and does all that bullcrap, hes a man, and im not saying that because im inlove with him im saying this cause i know him, but is it UNDERSTANDABLE, that he said that ? or what do i do please help. thank you.
Sounds like he wants to keep a hold you while hes going through this confusing time. He doesn't seem to know what he wants and he trying to figure that out. I will admit that having a relationship while preparing or attending college is a lot of work. Especially if you are in a new place and don't really know alot of people. He wants to be able to have someone he trusts completely to talk to. I can understand why he needs time to adjust then take on a relationship. I can the sense that he isn't playing you, but he just needs some time to juggle everything that is being thrown his way. I would stick with him, stand by side, and just wait patiently for him. If he were just about messing with your head, he wouldn't go to such lengths to talk to you. He would get what he needed and stop talking to you. The fact that he keeps engaging in conversations is definitely a plus in your favor. He relies and trusts you with everything.
Recently I've lost one of my best friends. After like 10/12 years of being friends things got all sorts of messes up between us; to where we don't even have any kind of communication what so ever anymore. Long story short, I pretty much had to chose between my best friend/lover (my boyfriend/future husband) for 4 years now, and my "so called" best friend for 10 years (prolly longer then that honestly). But anyways they never got along in the beginning because my boyfriend (whom I shall call "my lover" from here on out) didn't want me hanging out with my (ex) best friend without him or not at all at times, because she sleeps with a lot of guys and parties n has cheated on every guy shes ever been with including my brother. But my lover didn't want me to catch her slanggard behavior, so my friend started a bunch of crap about how he was pushing me around and being an ass which is prolly true. But I love him so much n he loves me just as much mayb even more. And I love my best friend to death she was like a sister to me that I never fought with, but now everything is screwed. What should I do about it? I obviously chose my lover, idk what to do about it cause they can't stand eachother. Has anyone ever had a situation like this? Give me advice cause Im going to feel like a shitty friend or girlfriend. :'(
I understand both perspectives. Your boyfriend doesn't want you to be tempted or influenced to follow in your friends foot steps. Also at the same time, if either of them truly loved you, they wouldn't have made you choose. You can fix this by stating to your friend that I am with this guy whether you like it or not. I want us to still be friends and if it will make you comfortable, I will hang out with you when hes not around. Then I would talk to your boyfriend and say, she is my best friend whether you like it or not. She has been there for me every step of the way and I don't want to do anything to mess that up. If you have to trust me when I say that no matter what she does, I will not follow in her footsteps. If he truly loves you, he will listen to you. If it makes him more comfortable, I would suggest hanging out with her during the day like going to the spa or shopping at the mall or even going to a n afternoon movie. It will be much better when you keep them separated because if you keep them in the same room, chaos will continue to invade the party. If something were to happen, you would want your bets friend by your side to pick up the pieces. There are some things guys can't do or say . Sometimes you just need a girls perspective.
I want to have a baby with my boyfriend, we've been together for four years already and were both ready. How do I get pregnant? We've tries a few times but it didn't work, is their a certain way to do it or I'm I just gonna have to adopte or something. I'd appreciate some good feedback.
There are many options. First you make sure that when you are conceiving that you are ovulating. This will with pregnancy. There are things you can buy to see when you are ovulating. If this does not work because there may something wrong such as scarred tissue or something, you can have your boyfriend donate sperm to be implanted in you. A lot of couples do this when they are having trouble conceiving.
I'm M/16, from the US. I've been hearing a lot about the US debt lately. I want to know what's going on and what might happen. I don't want to hear about how it works, but how it can possibly affect me. Will anything impact the way I live?
No, the debt they are referring to mostly affects middle aged individuals and older. The rise in gas prices could affect you now and in the future. Also medicare and people are losing their homes because of layoffs. Education is very important and going to college will help you more than you know. If you set yourself a goal for the future, you shouldn't have to worry about any of that stuff. The US buys goods and services from other countries to sell in the US, that is the biggest contributor of the US debt.
iam 28 year girl i want to know that when i am getting married
I am not sure what you are asking. Do you want to know what it is like to be married, or the exact date of when you are getting married? You can send an inbox if you like or update your question to be more specific.
So about 2 years ago I donated blood. A week or two later I got something in the mail telling me my blood type and it also came with like a little card. The thing is, I lost that, & am not completely sure I remember what my blood type is. I tried going on to the website to see if I could type in my information or something & it would have it stored or something...? I kind of need to know. Rather than going to get my blood tested or something does anyone know if there's another way to find this out based on my previous blood donation? (I'm not doing it again anytime soon... bad experience)
If you know the place that did the extraction then they should have your information on file. You would have to call them. Also if you had blood taken out from a family doctor within the last ten years, they would have the information on record as well. If you have any records of your birth, such as a certificate or picture they took when you were born, it might say on it what you blood type is.
Hi, 18/f, I am going to a concert on 9/10 and i want to lose weight.. Right now I am 5'5" and i weigh about 150 lbs. I would like to weigh 135-140 by the concert. & I would like to get rid of my love handles. I need an intense workout plan and diet. Any help at all is appreciated!
The easiest way to lose weight is by riding a bike or walking. What these two things do is even out your body by transferring the fat elsewhere and turns it into muscle. Jumping rope is fantastic, or even punching a bag like for boxing. If you are looking for something that is more useful and effective, you may want to consider martial arts. They ahve plenty of videos on youtube on different techniques and a website giving a variety of things to do. http://www.neokarate.net/lingo/. What I do is pick a name, and if the description doesn't make any sense, I go to youtube and see a video of it being done. With the amount of calories you would burn doing martial arts, you won't really need a diet plan. It's important to eat three meals a day because when you skip meals, it causes you to actually gain weight. If you have any more questions just send me an inbox.
Right after I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, there was alot of tension between us. The few slight conversations we had were very short and sometimes weird. We have many mutual friends, so we would usually end up near each other but not speak to each other. I know that part of the awkwardness is my fault, but lately we have kind of tried to talk when we pass each other (at band camp). One afternoon, my younger brother to the end of band camp, and I introduced him to some of my friends. In the process, he ended up hugging my ex. The next day, I asked my ex why he hugged my brother, and he said that he seemed really cool. I told him that that wasn't really true, and he told me that at lease my brother hugs better than me. For a second, I was completely confused on how he would know that, but after he walked away, I realized what he meant. I could tell he was trying to make a joke, but it offended me. I'm really confused on how this "friendship" is going.
Some guys make jokes to try and lighten the mood. They think they are funny and they are really not haha. Sometimes they don't even realize what they are saying until you point it out. There are three stages in mending a broken relationship by turning it into a friendship. You have already endured in stage one of awkward and silence where you see each other but you don't talk at all. The second stage is just small talk and jokes. This is the stage you are currently in. This is the road to help get you where you were before you started dating. I realize that the comment offended you, and I think he was just trying to make things less awkward, but I would just let it go. If you do confront him about what he said and tell him how you really feel about the comment, it will probably make things worse and you will go back to it being silent and awkward again. You want to progress further and the more you guys have small talk, you will find yourself back to being close friends again. The friends who enjoyed each others company and laughed at the most meaningless stuff. It will end up being the way it used to be.
im looking for running shoes and i fell in love with a comfy pair of neon pink and green onitsuka tiger shoes. the sales person said they are great running shoes, but they will say anything for you to buy it. i looked online and i cant figure out if they are running shoes and i dont want to hurt my feet if they arent. i run cross country and generally 3 or 4 miles a day. are they running shoes? i realllly dont want to return them haha i love it
http://www.zappos.com/onitsuka-tiger-by-asics
This site gives a little background information on the company of onitsuka tiger shoes. Basically what it says is the company makes a brand of "sports shoes" and clothing. I would assume that since running is considered a sport in modern day culture that what the guy said is true. You won't have to return them afterall.
i just met Nico this summer at a theater academy and from the first time i saw him, i thought he was cute :) then when we actually started talking and getting to know each other more, we became like, best friends. Even though thats true, i also noticed from the beginning that he could be gay. Two weeks after meeting him, he tells me and a few other friends about his coming out story, and i was fine with it, i didnt intend to actually like him more than a friend. it wasnt til after he told me about a girl that recently really liked him, and pretty much asked him to "switch sides" for her, that i found myself liking him as well. I mean, how cant i when we're always holding hands, touching each other, and talking about flirty, sexual things with each other lol. and whats worse, i find him being gay, kind of a turn on x) when we both talk about a hot guy at camp, i image him being with him, and how cute that could be xD but i still cant shake the feeling of liking him more than a friend. what should i dooo?
For some individuals, it is quite permanent to be gay and there isn't really anything you can do to change that. In some cases, it is possible that he may be able to love both a person from the same sex and also someone from the opposite sex, and doesn't really even know it. There are very rare cases where being gay is just a phase that eventually just dies out. They realize that it was just something they want to experience and not something they wanted forever. They virtually tried it just to try it. I don't know how bold of a person you are, but there is a test to see. I did this on a friend of mine a couple of years ago. I spontaneously kissed him out of the blue, and he kissed back. He was surprised to find that he was indeed attracted to me and didn't even realize it. If you are not quite that bold of a person, then I would advise just waiting it out. It may reveal itself sooner than you think.
Hello!
So I'm 16, and I'm not planning on publishing a book anytime soon..but I have this great idea for a book in my mind, and I want to write it, but I always get discouraged because I believe there's no use.. because what will become of it?
I can post it on the writing site I know..but barely any people comment.
Could anyone tell me how books get published and tips?.. I read up on some.. But I'd like to know from real expirenece ..
Thank you so very much! :)
Publishing a book is one hundred percent possible for anyone. When you are starting out, I would suggest going through self-publish places. These are very slow, but it helps get your writing out there and your name established. The more you write, I would up your game on publishing companies. The writing process is the worst part, and getting published it much more easier. A place to check out that are self-publishing places is lulu.com. At this site you have control over everything, the money you make, the front cover design, what goes on the back cover, and even how much editing you want yourself. I would suggest if you go with this site that you have someone read over your stories such as a teacher or a friend. As an author, I can honestly say that having a friend read over what you have written because you will know your work so well, you will miss a lot of basic grammatical errors. I would definitely make a list of ideas for books. When you feel you are ready to go full force on a publishing company after you established your name, there are steps you want to take in choosing one. First you want to identify the genre you wrote about. If you look my name up on amazon, you will see that my genre is a variety going from romance to horror to vampire. Pick a book that you have with the same genre and check out the publishing company they are through. For example, my sixth book is a christian novel so I decided to send my manuscript to the same publishing company that published the notebook and the last song. The websites will identify what they are looking for such as query letters. If you want an example of a query letter just send me an inbox and I can email it to you. A query letter is what you send a top notch publishing company before your manuscript. Sometimes they will want this letter and the first two chapter of your book. Sometimes they want just the letter before reading your story. The letter consists of how long your book is, what it is about, what kind of genre it is, and what kind of audience it will drawn in. Its only about a page long and it also contains contact information for them to get a hold of you. If you have any questions just send me an inbox message.
I'm 16 and next week I'll be back in school ;//
I'd like to know..how many of you graduates from high school..got THREW high school? How was it for you?.. I'm shy and I'm a self concious person.
I get nervous before every new year, ;// This will be my Sophmore year so I have a couple more years left.
My boyfriend done with school and so is my brother.. I wish I was.
I'm also nervous because I'm not good in math..and I'm taking an advanced English class..and I don't want to be surrounded by "know it all people"..all my classes last year (but 3) I had no one to talk to ..so ;//
Anyone know what I mean? Please give me some tips!
Thanks!
You could say that high school was the worst experience of my life. But I wasn't willing to do anything to change that. You have the opportunity make a difference, join some clubs, or sports and make some friends. You need to find commonality with these people and then try to be-friend them. As for the subjects you are having trouble with, it may not be the subject itself, maybe it was just the teacher. High School teachers are very lenient and willing to work with you. Nervousness about school is perfectly normal, I always got that way. Some creative things you could to draw people in, maybe learn an instrument, start writing, or do some kind of art. The key is find something you love that makes you feel confident about yourself. Without my classical guitar, I would be a nervous wreck with no confidence. But while playing it, I feel like I can take on the world. And I feel absolutely gorgeous playing it. You just have to find the hobby that makes you essentially you. If you have any more questions you can just send me an inbox.
So, I previously asked a question about this... but I said that they were 0.04mm. I made a mistake. They are actually 1.2mm in diameter around the part that goes in your ear. Again, I pierced my cartilage on my ear. I pierced it with a saftey pin. Now I have an earring in it. A stud earring.... so would a gauge that big fit in my piercing hole without trying to force it through??
You will feel a slight discomfort because it is a fragment bigger than what you have. You won't stretch it much, but you will have to if you want to wear them.
Hi, so I recently bought gaugs for my cartilage piercing.... they are the gauges that some peoPle use in their lip... they kinda twist so they are called twister gauges.... so for my cartilage piercing.. I have a normal stud in it, like a stud earring... I was wondering if they would fit in the holes I made?? Plus, when i did the piercing I used a saftey pin.. on the description of the earrings I bought they said thAt the part that goes through your ear in 0.04 mm thick... and I was wondering if thy would fit without stretching it out???
You won't have to stretch much, but you will feel a slight discomfort when doing it. It is only a fragment bigger than a normal one.
17/F
So, most of my life, I've always been a very angry person. I can't help it, it's just the smallest things set me off. If a teacher tells me that I'm screwing around, and I know I am, I get ticked off. I mean, I don't throw things or get violent. With teachers anyway. I used to be very violent when it came to my family and my sister and I used to get into violent fights, enough so that we hurt each other badly. It doesn't happen anymore, thank God. Shortly after middle school, I decided that I needed to force myself to calm down and stop getting angry.
So whenever something made me angry, I held it in and brushed it off. If someone made fun of me or tried to hurt me or whatever, I just held it all in. It's been working very well. Up until the beginning of this summer. I can't hold it in anymore and I just explode at everything and it's driving me nuts because I don't want to be an angry person. I want to be a laidback person, but it's hard when my temper flares up. Basically, I'm wondering why I'm so angry. Could it be herediary or maybe it's some of the weird habits I have?
(Habits meaning that I'm relatively introverted, I don't get much sleep, I've been watching horror movies since I was 4, etc.)
First off, holding it in is why you immediately explode. It is best to get your anger out in a healthy way. Horror movies have nothing to do with the behavior because I watch them all the time too, even as a kid and it has not made me angry. Sometimes when not dealt with properly, anger can be uncontrollable. Have you ever thought of taking up a sport, or maybe even getting a punching bag? I have one in the basement and it does wonders for my brother. He took all of his anger and focused it at that bag, then when it came to people being rude or telling him off, it didn't bother him. Releasing the anger is very important. There are other tactics as well such as writing in a journal, picking up an instrument such as guitar or drums, writing lyrics to express your anger, focusing on a project such as painting or something. if you have any more questions, just send me an inbox message.