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what is going on with my "friendship" with my ex?
Right after I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, there was alot of tension between us. The few slight conversations we had were very short and sometimes weird. We have many mutual friends, so we would usually end up near each other but not speak to each other. I know that part of the awkwardness is my fault, but lately we have kind of tried to talk when we pass each other (at band camp). One afternoon, my younger brother to the end of band camp, and I introduced him to some of my friends. In the process, he ended up hugging my ex. The next day, I asked my ex why he hugged my brother, and he said that he seemed really cool. I told him that that wasn't really true, and he told me that at lease my brother hugs better than me. For a second, I was completely confused on how he would know that, but after he walked away, I realized what he meant. I could tell he was trying to make a joke, but it offended me. I'm really confused on how this "friendship" is going.
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Some guys make jokes to try and lighten the mood. They think they are funny and they are really not haha. Sometimes they don't even realize what they are saying until you point it out. There are three stages in mending a broken relationship by turning it into a friendship. You have already endured in stage one of awkward and silence where you see each other but you don't talk at all. The second stage is just small talk and jokes. This is the stage you are currently in. This is the road to help get you where you were before you started dating. I realize that the comment offended you, and I think he was just trying to make things less awkward, but I would just let it go. If you do confront him about what he said and tell him how you really feel about the comment, it will probably make things worse and you will go back to it being silent and awkward again. You want to progress further and the more you guys have small talk, you will find yourself back to being close friends again. The friends who enjoyed each others company and laughed at the most meaningless stuff. It will end up being the way it used to be.
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