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Boyfriend and I can't ever go out. He thinks I am bored of HIM, not of sitting at home
We "can't" ever do anything?
My boyfriend and I have been together a year and 3 months now. He's 19, I'm 18. He has a full time job that he's been at for about a year. I have a part time job since I'm in school still. Usually he works until about four, then I work at five until about nine or ten. So we only really get to spend time together a few hours in a day before it's back to bed then work. On the rare days we get off together I try to do something instead of the usual sit at home, relax and watch tv. But he doesn't ever want to do anything because he says his days off are for him to relax.. I get quite bored just doing that but I just try to understand since he does work 9 hours everyday. I just am afraid it's going to stay like that. Maybe it's just because he's still young and got a full time job at 18 and isn't used to it yet. But on our days off together I would like to go out on a date or something fun and simple. I have to say I'll pay or something extra to motivate him to want to do anything.. I wouldn't leave him for this, but I just am bored. I've expressed this to him, but all it does is hurt his feelings thinking I'm completely bored of him and it makes him think that I don't understand how hard he works everyday, which is entirely not what I mean to do.
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That's a tough situation to break, because I know what its like to work everyday and wanting just to lounge on my days off. Why not different things at the house like having a picnic, having a movie night, or having friends over to hang out. I realize you want to get him out of the house and do stuff, but guys are really hard to break when it comes to laziness. Or find something he really likes and would do anything to see them, like maybe a band. Or find someone such as a friend who could motivate him to leave. Most of the time guys can get guys to go out and party. I am not suggesting to go to a party, but having outside help could help with the situation. You could do double dating or something.
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