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I'm really into my gay guyfriend O:
i just met Nico this summer at a theater academy and from the first time i saw him, i thought he was cute :) then when we actually started talking and getting to know each other more, we became like, best friends. Even though thats true, i also noticed from the beginning that he could be gay. Two weeks after meeting him, he tells me and a few other friends about his coming out story, and i was fine with it, i didnt intend to actually like him more than a friend. it wasnt til after he told me about a girl that recently really liked him, and pretty much asked him to "switch sides" for her, that i found myself liking him as well. I mean, how cant i when we're always holding hands, touching each other, and talking about flirty, sexual things with each other lol. and whats worse, i find him being gay, kind of a turn on x) when we both talk about a hot guy at camp, i image him being with him, and how cute that could be xD but i still cant shake the feeling of liking him more than a friend. what should i dooo?
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If he says that he is gay, you need to take that as him saying that you do not have a chance. I have plenty of female friends that I hold hands with, flirt with, talk sexually with, and the works. I have had so many people think me and whichever female friend I am with at the time are a couple.
The best thing you can do to resolve the situation, is to talk to Nico about it. None of my female friends ever would, but I know a lot of them had a crush on me at one point in time, because I had some of our mutual friends tell me. I actually lost a couple of friends because they had really bad crushes on me and couldn't handle being my friend anymore. And I know of gay guys who get with girls, and it usually leads to the girl getting burnt pretty badly. So do not go into this with the mindset that you can change him, because you cannot. It isn't a choice, I promise.
And it is not abnormal for you to be attracted to him knowing that he is gay - one of the rules of humanity is that we want what we cannot have. But I can almost promise you it won't happen. And who knows, maybe he also does like girls some, I cannot judge the situation without having met Nico before. But like I said, the best thing for you to do would be to talk to him about it so that you and Nico can resolve whatever is going on. Hope this helps!
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For some individuals, it is quite permanent to be gay and there isn't really anything you can do to change that. In some cases, it is possible that he may be able to love both a person from the same sex and also someone from the opposite sex, and doesn't really even know it. There are very rare cases where being gay is just a phase that eventually just dies out. They realize that it was just something they want to experience and not something they wanted forever. They virtually tried it just to try it. I don't know how bold of a person you are, but there is a test to see. I did this on a friend of mine a couple of years ago. I spontaneously kissed him out of the blue, and he kissed back. He was surprised to find that he was indeed attracted to me and didn't even realize it. If you are not quite that bold of a person, then I would advise just waiting it out. It may reveal itself sooner than you think.
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