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I am married been mrried 6 years (this September makes 7)
Been in a relationship for 11 years no its not perfect thats why I can give marriage advice
My family is so disfunctional so write me bout that I have lots of advice on that
Pets: I take in abandoned cats have 22 a ferret, a dog and 4 fish and have had lots of others
Cooking: I can cook anything I am from Mississippi near New Orleans so I cook cajun or soul food
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Homosexual thoughts: I am bisexual so I can give advice in this area
Ask me anything I will try to help openly and honestly if I do not know I will try to find an answer for you.
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ok. i really like this guy at my school, and i think he knows it bc my friend, has been like dont you love [my name here]! and he even called me pretty, but idk if he really ment that or just saying that bc my friend pressured him into it. he said that i was his really good friend, even though we havent talked sence like a couple months ago, and we would really flirt it up. but we dont talk anymore. Im sure he knows i like him by now, bc this kid Connor, went up to him and was like you know [my name here] likes you, and the guy i like was like ya i know. so idkkk what to do... i dont really have a question, except for what to do, any advise would be helpful!!! thx soooooooo much (link)
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Ok heres your advice you like him, he knows it, you need to try to talk to him ask him to go out sometime or something most guys don't ask out girls even if they like them. So give it a try you wont know until you ask. If he said you are pretty he probably meant it. Good Luck :-)
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hey guys im 15 years old and on the insides down my legs there are veins or popped blood vessels or something i dont really know but they look ugly i want them to go away but i dont know what it is can anyone help? thank you in advance (link)
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More answers: stretch marks are usually lighter color than your skin color and appear on thighs and ars usually veins will be blur in color and raised on the leg. If it is stretch marks try some cocoa butter lotion if it is veins there is a surgery to strink them it is very inexpensive and be done outpatient try elevating you feet in front of you and staying off of them alot
These veins ar called Vericose or Spider Veins if not taken care of they can get worse and require surgery and they can became painful and irritating later in life. These veins appear for many reasons such as weight issues, too much excercise, too much excercise or standing on legs, and having fair skin. Please tell a parent and have them checked out. An ultrasound can be performed on them this is not painful a cold gel will be applied to your legs and something like an x ray machine will be rubbed on your leg its like rubbing your hand on your leg.It cn be done at the hospital in 15 minutes.If they become bad surgery can shrink them try this sitehttp://www.4woman.gov/faq/varicose.htm#A
Good Luck :-)
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well this kid i liked was 2 years older than me....
but see,he liked me too eh,and we kinda 'hooked up' @ a dance where he then asked me out(we broke up 2 days later)
its been akward between us so we havent talked since.
but i wanna be friends still..... (link)
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In order to be friends agian someone is going to have to break the silence and unfortunately some guys just don't have what it takes to do that so if it is bothering you try talking to him. Strike up the conversation. But if it is friendship you are looking for without hooking up just ask if he'd like to hang out sometime because you miss the friendship and you want to be friends.Make sure you let him know its just a friend thing and nothing more. Good Luck :-)
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Hey. I know you guys hate these questions, I'm so sorry.
So, me and my boyfriend had sex Friday without a condom. Well, he pulled out, and it was a few seconds when he cummed. Well, I'm really worried I may be pregnant. What are the chances? (link)
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chances depend on if any semen went into your vaginal area and if you were fertile (ovulating at the time) this would depend on your cycle. Pulling out is not a good solution because semen can be ejaculted at any time not just during an orgasm. If your cycle is late the next month when it is due you will need to talk to a parent or another adult that you trust or buy a home pregnancy test at you local store or pharmacy. I am not trying to tell you what to do but please next time be more careful and use protection. The best protection from pregnancy is NO sex at all good luck :-)
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I gotta pretend that I'm a soldier form the war writing to his family or wife or mother or girlfriend.
Any descriptive words I could include? (link)
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try this site
http://www.u.arizona.edu/~rstaley/wwlettr1.htm
or try searching letters home from the war
some of the best war letters in my opinion are the old ones from world war 1
Good luck :-)
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I have a confusing problem, I don't know if I'm Gay or now. When ever I masturbate, I have sexual fantasies of other guys (I am a guy) but when I look at guys in real life, I just don't have any, emotional feelings for them, like a guy does when he has a crush on a girl. So I have sexual feelings for guys, but when i look at girls, I get the butterflies and goose bumps, and I always have these day dreams of asking this one girl I really like out. But I've never had any sexual fantasies about them. So now I'm just confused as to why I have sexual feelings about guys, but the average crush like feelings for girls, but not the sexual feelings that I sometimes have for guys. (link)
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Hi I hope coming from a BI female this will help. I was a young girl at 1 time lol and I looked at girls but looked at guys too then I found something out, there is a 4th sexuality to go along with Bi, Straight, and Gay it is Bicurious. This is just being plain curious and figuring out your sexuality which is new to us all at 1 point. It could be a phase and it could mean anything just see where it goes. Sometimes fantasies are just that plain fantasies you will know which path you choose when you act on one or the other.(women or men) until then I would you are bicurious and just exploring your options.
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i really like this one guy, but he probably doesn't even know i'm alive. how do i talk to him? (link)
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well if he is someone that go to school with or have hung out with in the past, believe me he knows you're alive. Try just going straight forward when you see hime and saying hi A few of my friends and I are going out this weekend I thought maybe you would like to go or ask him if he would like to hang out sometime that's always a good ice breaker plus having a couple other friends there will make it a lot easier to talk because its not 1 on 1 so you won't be at a loss for conversation then the next time maybe you could go out with him without inviting a couple friends. Just be yourself and get the courage up to talk to him before its too late Good Luck :-)
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Ryt well..i have liked this lad (andy) for about a year..i use to be with him but only for a bit and the we finished..but ever since we finished i still liked him..even thought i loved him. I had other bfs after him, one called arron. I was whith him for a while and then we broke up and about 2 weeks after we finished he text me saying he misses me and he me loves ect. But at the time i didnt want to get back with him, so nothing happened. Then about a week ago i got back with andy, which at firt i was really chuffed about but know i just dont seem to want to be with him :S which is confusing considering i liked him for so long! All i can think about now though is arron! i really miss him! i dont know what made me start feeling like this i just did :S What do i do ? tell arron how i feel ? do i finish with andy and risk missing him aswell :S? Please help :(! x x (link)
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why don't you try taking a few days maybe a week off from both of them and decided who you want to be with. Perhaps its a case of having your cake and eating it too. You get one and you think about the other. This is normal. Make a list of pros and cons on both get two sheets of paper write andy on 1 write Arron on the other write everything you like and dislike about each on their sheet of paper maybe that will help good luck :-)
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what does it exactly mean wen a woman i guess says the man popped their cherry?? (link)
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it means she lost her virginity to the guy. When you have sex for the 1st time the hymen is broken it is a small piece of skin that is ripped during your 1st time and you may bleed a little like spotting before your period. Tis means your cherry is popped and you are no longer a virgin.
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have you ever been cheated on or anything to do with cheating?
I just have a small situation. My friend Sam cheated on her bf Allan with my bf's best friend and his brother. She made out with both of the guys and gave on of them head. Her bf allan is good friends with me and my bf and we decided we should tell him-- so we did the next day.
Sam and I weren't completely good friends but we were close somewhat. But if he did this to her, I would probably tell her too. So she's pissed and she has all my friends against me. Even my bffl. But i know i did the rite thing. All this time, past 2 weeks I've been there for Allan; even pickig him up at midnite because he was so depressed and taking him 2 parties to help him get his mind off her. And she does everything she can like for example- she cuts hereself- for attention. Allan and her are supposed to talk 2morrow and i want to kick her ass so bad but I'm not going to be there.
there's only one lil thing that i messed up on. at the party i told her to go for--to cheat. and when i told my bffl the story i admitted i told her to go for it.....and allan doesnt kno that. i told him i never said that and he believes me. but now sam and kayla my best friend have this against but my bf was there but will tell alan that it never happened, but im still afraid he'll beloieve her. he want to be with her but knows he shouldn't.
what do u think i should do now? kayla keeps telling me to back off when sam from the beggining said she was gonna break up with him.kayla and sam never even liked each other? everyone feels sorry for her because all she does it cry and they give me stuff like "you have no idea how much she has been thru" blah blah when this is all for attention and i'm not stupid.
now i really don't know what do or even say?
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You were a great friend to tell now you are suffering the consequences for telling.If Allan appreciates it you did a good thing. Now about that little white lie you told you could either come clean and possibly have Allan mad at you or you could sit back and hope he doesn't find out but if he does he might be more upset because you lied. Think before you react. And please no kicking her a** I am sure you want to but what will this really solve besides a nasty fight and possibly more hurt feelings and lost friends. As far as Sam goes I hope she gets help cutting herself is not healthy mentally or physically. Sit back, count to ten, and think before you make any sudden decisions the consequences could be worst than the ones you already are facing. Good Luck :-)
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ok my cats are weird. They drink from the toliet. Even when I have given them a fresh bowl of water, they would rather drink out of the toilet. Is there something wrong with them? should I stop them from doing it? If so how? (link)
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I have lots of pets and there is nothing wrong with your cat it is just clean water just make sure that you use no chemicals in your toilet that are released with each flush like that blue toilet bowl cleaner etc... this can mke your cat very ill. I live on the bayou and my cats always drink the nasty ditch water even though they always have clean water they are going to do it anyway just because we wouldn't drink out of the toilet doesn't mean the water is not clean for them if it really bothers you try keeping the lid down Good Luck :-)
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my friend has feelings for her female teacher, it is definately not me. but my friend has been coming to me for advice and i dont really know what to say to her. her teacher is more like a close friend. she gives her lifts home and they talk outside of school hours. my friend recently tried to commit suicide and the teacher was there for her then. but she still feels low and confused because of the age difference and the whole situation. any ideas what i can say to her? thanks (link)
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From an adult point of view noting will ever come of this relationship and if it does the teacher would be very very wrong and it will end up being a really big mess. The best thing for your friend would be to seek some professional help perhaps a school guidance counselor or another adult that she feels comfortable with. I really hope she does because trying suicide is not good. Perhaps she is looking for an adult role model and that is where the attraction for the teacher is coming from.
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My friend is going through a tough time for hie relationship. He was telling me how difficult the situation is the other day, and all the sudden, he said, "on the top of that, something else happened to me..........." but he doen't want to tell me what the "something" is, and asked me not to ask him either......
Now, all I can think about is what the "something" is!! What should I do? he asked me not to ask him, but why he told me "something" happened to him, but don't want me to ask?? (link)
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if he ever decides to share this thought with you it will have to be on his terms and when he is ready if you pressure him he will not tell you any sooner Good Luck
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I know i've seen a few other girls with this.. but right in between my boobs it's a little brown.. I HATE it! I have no idea how to get rid of it.. any ideas? (link)
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it is most probably a skin discoloration or skin blemish maybe try a skin lightening cream from the local drugstore or ask your mom or another adult that you feel comfortable with.If it gets bigger or itchy or uncomfortable in anyway please see a dermatologist good luck
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Well, I really like this girl. I'm 16 and shes 15. We've been hanging out after school for like 5 months, and I've been trying to ask her out for at least half that time. But everytime I'm about to, I freeze up. I'm pretty sure she likes me back. This is especially annoying for me because I've never had a problem like this before, I've always been perfectly smooth with the ladies. I really like this girl, and I dont want her to get bored and move on. She's been amazing to wait this long for me. What's wrong with me!? (link)
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You have a bad case of nerves as silly as it sounds practice in front of a mirror don't expect the worst go for it. Are you worried she may say no? Theres only 2 answers yes or no you'll get one of them and if you have been hanging out this long it will probably be yes so good luck to you.The reason your nervous too could be because you like her so much :-)
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SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!im 14 and when i was born my mom put me into a foster home(couldnt take care of me)(i have 9 blood brothers/sisters) and when i was 4 i was adopted and given to a great family.the problem is the adoption people said that they lost the photo album with my mom/grandma/and me in it.my foster mom had baby pictures of me but when i left she wouldnt give me any of them because she was mad that she couldnt keep me(leagal reasons).the youngest pict i have of myself is when i was 4 right before i was adopted(school pict) but i really want to see baby pict of me and also pict of my mom/grandma.for some reason my parents get mail from the adoption adency(its like a bill)and i was curious so i took one.i have the name of the agency(also a guy that i think might have helped with the adoption) and the adress but i tried to look it up on the internet and couldnt find anything.i dont live any where near the agency because i moved.i just really want my baby pict! you dont know how it feels not to know what your blood mom looked like or what you looked like when you where a baby.it hurts when i have school projests that requre me to bring in baby pict and im the only one without any!please help if you can! (link)
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I feel for you I do not know how this feels but perhaps I can help maybe a letter saying exactly what you said here to the foster parents would break the ice let them know how it feels like you said with your school projects etc... ask them if they would do you the favor of perhaps making copies on their computer or the locl walmart and just mailing you copies even email them to you. Make sure you let them know your feelings dnt get rude or anything that wont help. my thougts will be with you hope it helps. Good Luck
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I'm a teenage girl, and I'm pretty active I guess because I work out a lot (but when i'm not exercising i'm just sitting) and I'm a ballerina and I take other dance classes, and i'm amazingly careful about what/how much I eat and I examine every calorie I consume.
I eat between 1200-1700 cals per day (but usually around 1350, 1700 would be unusual) but everyone else my age goes way above that, and they don't watch what they eat and they don't even KNOW what calories are! And they are sticks.
I'm about 20 pounds overweight, but I used to be obese (like 45 over) and recently I didn't watch what I ate for 4 days- just 4 DAYS and I gained 5 pounds.
My anorexic friend and I were at the beach together (she doesn't even work out) and I just ate what I wanted, but she was eating more than I was, and she didn't gain anything.
Why is it that I'm the only person in the world who has to be extremely careful about calories/what i eat???
and why am i fat? Is it just that I have a crappy metabolism that only burns like 1 calorie per day? I even drink green tea which is supposed to boost it! (link)
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Please read this reply and do not jump defensive I am sure that you are a healthy young lady and not overweight If you start obsessing over weight it will become just that AN OBSCESSION and that can be bad. everyones body is different we all have different metabolisms and burn calories different that is why people come in all shapes and sizes. Please just have fun and eat. We do not all have to look like Barbie Dolls and who says that is the proper weight as you get older you will see just that. If you feel you are overweight and must lose a couple pounds do it the healthy way a little excercise dont overdo it, cutting back on sweets or cold drinks but dont deprive yourself completely, instead of sweets have some fruit , grapefruit is good too. Good Luck stay healthy and let me know if this helps
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I bought a new shirt last week and wore it the day after I bought it. Well that night I noticed this weird pattern of bumps the upper part of my inner arm. It's been over 2 days and it's still there!
It itches really bad and looks like an oval of mosquito bites or pimples, but that's not what it is. On the shirt there was a similar pattern of jewels right there, so I'm thinking I had an allergic reaction to the jewels or something. But wouldn't it be gone by now?
Does anyone know what it could be or how I could get rid of it quicker? I've been putting my niece's eczema cream on it and it hasn't helped at all. Any help would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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try calamine lotion on skin, triple antibiotic ointment on skin or benydryl if you are not allergic to it. Sounds like an allergic reaction perhaps the studs or jewels they used on the shirt have like a gold or silver backing that attaches them from the inside to the outside if this material is cheap (like fake earrings or rings etc..) it can make you alleric like when people wear fake gold. If it does not go away go to te emergency room, or a dermatologist, or take the shirt back to the store while the rash is still there or write the manufacter.maybe even take pics and send them.also last but not least te last person to try it on in the store could have had a contageous rash. Good Luck stop in my column again and let me know if this helps Hope you feel better
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Ok.. where to start. This could relate to a lot of categories so please just bare with me.
I'm in a bit of a situation. I'm 19 years old, female. I have a boyfriend of two years. He's nearly 21 and I live with my grandparents.
First of all my grandmother is extremely strict on me. Curfews and things like that stopped when I turned 18 last year. Curfews aren't the problem though.
I have been with my boyfriend for two years as I said and she wont let me sleep with him. I have been sleeping with him for the last 12 months. He was my first and is the only guy I have ever been with sexually. I did everything right. I am on the pill and we always use protection.
Recently I had enough of her ways and told her how I felt and told her that I have been sleeping with my boyfriend. She completly hit the roof and went off at me and called me a slut.
I honestly don't think I deserved to be spoken to like that. I have spoken to my Aunty a number of times about this so she knows of everything that had been going on between my boyfriend and myself.
I have tried to speak to my grandmother about this and the last time ended up in tears like every other time. She even told me to pack my f*cking bags and leave if I wasn't happy.
The problem is that I don't do anything wrong and she still seems to think I need all these strict rules. I don't. Just because I can think and do things for myself doesn't mean I don't need her anymore. I told her this.
I asked her what do I do that is so wrong.. She couldn't give me an answer. She's only hurting herself because she is pushing me away.
I did well in school, I use to work for a lawyer now I work for a doctor. I don't drink alcohol except for christmas and things like that. I don't go to the pubs every weekend like most 19 year old girls do.
My boyfriend and I love each other very much and just want to be together. We shouldn't have anyone stand in the way of that. We have in the last few months decided that we want to live together and start our life together. We are good people so why does this happen?
What is she protecting me from?!? She tells me that she loves my boyfriend and he is a lovely person. I can't win. I am on the verge of just moving out. I don't know how to deal with the stress anymore. It hurts.
Am I just being selfish or is she just too over protective? I don't want to feel miserbale anymore!
Thank you for taking the time to read this. (link)
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I am 27 and I may sound a bit old fasioned but I was 9 not long ago and I still remember it quite clearly I moved out at 19 with my 28 years old b-friend my mom grandmother and uncle whom I lived with objected and I didn't see wy I had a good joband all used protection just like you 8 years later I know why if I would have stayed home I could have finished school, it is really hard in te world, don't jump defensive when tere rent lights water insurance medical bills groceries they add up and they add up quick how about sitting down and saying granma I don't want to argue but we need to talk why dont you want me moving in with my b-friend let her explain and listen grandma probably has a lil bit wisdom to match her age maybe she moved in young got married had kids I dont know but she probably wants whats best for you and you know that too thats why you still live there explain you know the consequences of sex but you are careful. If all this fails and you move in don't burn your bridges you may have to go back home at some point leave on good terms if you need more advice write me back and Good Luck
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Ok Ive put this under mental health, cos thats what Im supposing it is..
Well where do I start... Since I can remember, Ive noticed Ive been doing some really strange things, mostly which are coming out now..if Im walking along the street, I tend to roleplay something over and over in my head, and sometimes Ill end up speaking it out loud.
If see a car, ill imagine a whole crash, and sometimes if I pass a car park, Ill pick whichever car I would have if I could have any.
Theres lots of strange things like that, sometimes Ill breath ot the beat of a tune, or Ill just imagine some really strange stuff. Its hard to explain.
I told a friend for the first time last night, he suggested it being that Im intelligent and my mind is under worked, so now its over active?
But Im more worried about it being serious. I suffer from panic attacks aswell, just incase that helps.
If you could just give me an idea of what you think, dont diagnose me with everything under the sun, with panic attacks, Ill diagnose myself with whatever you tell me Ive got, I dont want that :)
Thanks! (link)
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and the number one answer is: BOREDOM
don't freak out I do the same thing I will imagine all sorts of stuff one thing will trigger a whole scene like a movie in my mind The brain never sleeps you know we as people have great imaginations and some people have none :-) if it gets really bad you can get something from the doctor to help you relax a little perhaps take up a obby I sew in my spare time. I bet you only do this when you are daydreaming it doesnt happen wile watching a really good movie that has your interests. Consider yourself lucky that you have a vivid imagination perhaps those are short stories tht you should write that you are imagining after all for all the movies we have somene imagined a car crash, someone imagined snakes being on the plane while they were flying, someone imagined torchering people like saw
take my word for it relax have fun You Are Normal lots of people do it they just don't have the guts to admit it
please stop in again I love giving advice
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