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does anyone know any good songs that have to do with self injury? preferably cutting.

i already have alot of songs, so if there are any songs that you know that are not so known that would be amazing, or anything you could find would be great.

(i am doing a project on it so anything would help)

thanks!

Cannibal Corpse - Disfigured
The Dresden Dolls - Bad Habit, Girl Anachronism
The Foo Fighters - Razor
Garbage - Bleed Like Me
The Used - Let It Bleed
36 Crazyfists - Slit Wrist Theory
Plumb - Cut "Relief exists I find it when I am cut"
Three Days Grace - Pain
Murderdolls - Slit My Wrist
Goo Goo Dolls - Iris
Jack Off Jill - Strawberry Gashes, When I Am Queen
Panic! at the Disco - I Constantly Thank God for Esteban
Katy Rose - Lemon
Metallica - Lone Man's Lyric ("My eyes seek reality/ my fingers seek my veins.")
Taproot - Poem
Linkin Park - Part of Me
G.G. Allin - Abuse Myself
Nine Inch Nails - Hurt (Also known as a cover by Johnny Cash)
Papa Roach - Last Resort
16 Volt - The Cut Collector
Hawthorne Heights - Ohio Is For Lovers
Smashing Pumpkins - Today "Pink ribbon scars that never forget / I tried so hard to cleanse these regrets"
Eminem - Stan
This Day & Age - Sara, Poor Sara
And Then I Turned Seven - If You Live By The Sword, You Die By The Sword

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can you take back pants to the store if you wash them once? (abercrombie&fitch)

Usually you cannot return clothing items with out the original tags on them. The only way would be if you wore them once and like the zipper broke or the seam came undone, but even then they might only exchange the item. If it is in good condition you could always sell them on Ebay or just give them to goodwill.

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haha this might sound stupid but i needs some guys to answer this, what do you guys like more for kissing, burts bees chapstick or burts bees lip shimmer? thankss

It really depends on the person you are kissing. My boyfriend likes when I wear burt's bees chapstick because it makes his lips all tingly.

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hey, so I'm really interested in film, i'm kind of a movie buff. Anyways, I wanted to start a club at my school but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. Do any of you go to schools with clubs related to film/film critique, anything like that?
What do you think I could have the club do, and what sort of events could it hold that somehow help the community, etc... my school is big on community service.
I really like old movies, foreign films, and others but I'm not sure how to work that in.
thanks

My school has a film club and every year they make a movie. Usually they look really good but they arent really worked on much by the kids. One year some of the students wrote it and did almost all of the work. Now of course my school had a teacher who loved movies and we had the necessary equipment needed to film and edit a movie. Others schools offer a film critque class as an elective, but again you would need to find a teacher who was really passionate about it and willing to do a lot of work to get it done.

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i live in connecticut and am a junior in high school. i want to major in business but i dont know what colleges are the best. my gpa is around 3.3ish or 3.2ish and i havent taken the sats yet. i dont do any extracuricular activities or sports... so what are some good colleges that you would recommend? also i dont really want a small college, more so a bigger one. thanks!

You should use the college search on Collegeboard.com which is the same site you can register for the SATs on. You can put in what you want to major in and what size or location you want it in and they will find the matches for you.

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im thinking about getting a tatoo..
i have a scar from when i got my appendix taken out,
and i want to KIND OF cover it..i only want something small, that i will like for a while..
so far ive thought of:
-a small star on each side
-kind of a magic wand-ish thing?

something small (not like a lizard, or anything "bulky") any ideas??

Thanks:)

PS just curiosity..but if i wanted to get a tatoo removed..how would they do that?
would it hurt?
cost?
leave scars?

Check out this website. It has tons of cool pictures of tattoos so you can find some inspiration for what you want.
http://www.tattoodles.com/

I read in a magazine they now have some type of removable ink, I googled "removable tattoo ink" and got tons of results. So you may want to look into that too.


Kate

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Is that a good college for me if i want to be an astronomer? I'm 14 in 8th grade now but i've never thought about which college i'd wanna go to. if not, where are other really good schools where i could study to be one? and are their sports teams good? like for women's volleyball, soccer, and basketball.

You can use collegeboard.com to find schools with what you want. They have a college search where you can put in what you want at a college and they will find the matches. That is also the site where you register for the SATs. Good Luck!

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Is it ok to chew food than spit it out cause i think your still getting the nutriance right?

No your body gets the nutrients from food while it is digested, not when you are chewing it.

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ok i must ask;

do guys care if a girl has a hairy vagina or not?

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what are their... tastes.

Most guys like it shaved because it causes less friction down there, but if you don't really want to shave down there it would probably be okay if you just trimmed it a little. Most guys don't really care as long as its not a jungle down there.

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14/m/9th grade There is this girl in my grade that always makes me look the other way, because I'm to shy to look at her. I like her and everything she is great but I'm afraid if i ask her out it won't go any where since were both shy. What should i do?

If she is in one of your classes you could always ask her for her screen name in case you have questions about homework. Then you can talk to her online, which isn't as scary as talking face to face. You could also talk to her over myspace too. Then once you've talked online start talking to her more at school. Over time it will become easier to talk to her and then you can ask her out. By that time you should know a lot about each other and maybe your relationship can go somewhere.

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13/f

From your guys's/girl's point of view, how do you tell if its really LOVE you feel or just REALLY REALLY Like?

Like, how do I know the difference coz i'm curious.. and curious when and how to say "i love you" and how do I/you know that i MEAN it?

Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. Don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.

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Okay so we have this project in my 8th grade literacy class about teen social issues. so like everyone took my topics since my teacher called our names alphabetically and we can only have 1 topic per each class so no repeats.. and my name was at the end of the alphabet. next time i'll say to start from the end.. anyways so ideas i had before were to do: abortion, vegetarianism, perfectionism, and yeah etc. dont say like animal rights or something either. im not interested in that. and the problems have to have some kind of resolution since its a research project. and a bounty of info. so give me a lot of ideas of things you know are teen issues i can look up and write a paper on n stuff. thanks a bunch!!! :)

Teen pregnancy, depression, suicide, self-injury (cutting), body image, how the media portrays women, domestic violence, abstinence only sex education, abstinence pledges, substance abuse, rape, drinking and driving, underage drinking, stress of getting into college, teasing, eating disorders.

I hope that helps

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i have to write a paper about cutting and i really need help! i have been looking it up and stuff but i still need information. If anyone has anything about it (why they do it, what they use, when do they) it would be greatly appreciated. please anything will help! if you are/used to be a cutter i would love to hear some personal stories! thank you so much!

I used to.You can email me any questions you have, I would rather talk privately than posting it on the internet or everyone to see. My email is pvbandfreak@yahoo.com

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okay, well i have pretty dark brown hair. not black but dark brown. for some reason i reallllly want to dye it blonde, like not bleach but light yellowy blonde. but i also don't want to spend 45 $ to get it professionally done. i've dyed my hair myself before, but it was just like brown and stuff. for this, should i buy two boxes of the same color and then dye it once one night, and then the next night use the other one and dye it again? or should i just get like a reaalllllly light blonde and hope that it cancells out and comes out not as light? hellllp

Whatever you do, do not bleach your hair and then dye it. bleaching your hair will completely damage it. If you are going to do it at home I would suggest you only go a few shades lighter than your hair or get a highlight kit. If you try to go from dark brown to light blond your hair will turn an orange-y color. Believe me I know from experience. You could go to a cosmetology school or to a vo-tech school and get it done by the students for cheaper.

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So im 15. and i have this friend named well lets call him alex. Me and alex are best friends we talk everygiht on the phone for three hours. and we used to date for two months. i still like him kinda. and i am the type of person who is very dependant i need somone. And i cant loose them. When i break up or loose someone it takes me a while to get over them. So back to this friend he treats me like shit. I have to bribe him to talk to me by sending him pictures but i need him. I really want to get away from him because hes just makiing me more sad but i cant. How am i suppos to let go of him and walk away before he hurts me even more? any advice would be great thanks so much.

If he treats you like crap, then he isn't worth your time. I know it is hard to just walk away from someone you care about, but you need to focus on other things right now. Try hanging out with other friends, or getting more involved with school activities to meet some new friends. It will be hard at first but after a while you will go a whole day without even thinking about him!

Kate

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16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).

i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.

is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
thanx

You sound like you already know what you want to do. You said you wanted your first time to be with someone you can trust so you can remember it as being special. I think that is the right idea to have.

Don't worry about your friends. I'm sure some of them regret just doing it with someone random to get it over with. I know I couldn't have just had sex with anyone, and I was glad that I waited until I knew my boyfriend was the right person.

Sex should be something special between two people, I think you should wait until you have someone you really truly feel a connection with, so you can experience it together.

Kate

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me and my boyfriend landon really like each other. we have those little fights about whos cuter or who loves each other more. and at school, WE ARE SERIOUSLY ALL OVER EACH OTHER! we tell each other that we love each other. hes all i can think about. and he tells his friends, that he loves me and that all he can think about is me. i really miss him alot, and im going to see him tomorrow. so, does it sound like were in love, or...are we just really close in our relationship?

-shelby/13/f

Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. Don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.

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Last night my boyfriend drove me home, before I left we started making out and then he stopped and said he thought we needed to be more open about "this" and so I asked him what he meant and he just said nevermind. I can't help but wonder what he was talking about. Anyone have any ideas?

Well, If you have only made out with him, he probably just wants to know what you are comfortable with. He most likely doesn't want to make you uncomfortable or upset with him. Talk with him about what you are comfortable with doing and what you aren't. He should respect your feelings and if you don't want to move on to the next step then he shouldn't push you too.

Kate

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is it illegal to download free music onto your ipod?if so what would happen if you were caught and your, lets say 14 years old?also how would you get caught if you did?

Companies randomly track people who download things illegally online. Your chances of being selected are pretty slim, but if you are caught there is a pretty hefty fine involved depending on how much you have downloaded.

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Ever since Thanksgiving, when I visited relatives in a cold/windy climate, my lips have been very chapped- especially after I returned home. Now, it looks like it's in the healing process, but my lips are extremely dry/flaky. I tried using cocoa butter, which works for a while...and I've tried vasaline, which also works, but when i wake up, my lips are still dry and flaky. Is there anything else I could do to make my chapped lips better... something that'll actually take care of it? There's lots of dry skin, I think mainly since it's beginning to heal, but it's taking forever to get better.

I think Bert's Bees works the best, I do not like blistex because burns when you put it on.

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