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I am going to school to get my social work diploma and will think about going to school part time to get my degree but that is in the future. I just found out that with my diploma I'll be really limited to jobs and am worried. Me and my boyfriend are waiting until i start my career to get married and start a family but we want to start in about 3 yrs tops. I am worried that I am delaying his future and mine because I keep worrying about if I will find a job and if I will enjoy it. I feel like I am putting alot of pressure on myself and when I talk to him about it he is not worries at all. How do I just relAx and not worry about our future so much. (link)
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You guys are thinking way too far ahead.
First, take care of what is in front of you. Finish your schoolwork. Then talk things over and see where you are in your life and move from there. In the meantime, just enjoy each other's company and try to keep things as pressure free as you can.
By the way, please, please, please, wait at least five years after you're married to have a baby. You will both be more mature and you will have gotten over what I call "the fourth year freakout," when people in a marriage begin considering whether or not they really are in for the long haul.
Good luck to you both.
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mmmm...my priod started and i heard dat after periods starts hair starts producing on our under arms but on my underarms there is actually no hair!! IS IT REALLY NORMAL?? (link)
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Just let nature work its magic in its own time. Don't fret over stuff you can't control.
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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. were both 17 we go to the same schoool. He just recently started working alot and i dont get to talk to him and i find my self cryinggg because i hate change and im used to talking to him 24/7 and i dont want to be clingy and i keep crying cuz i feel like he doesnt care and idk what to do anymore. i feel really depressed. please help me. (link)
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Oh my God, get a freaking grip! You are that much of an attention whore?
Sorry to be harsh, but somebody has to say it. The world doesn't revolve around you. Conditions change and you have to adapt.
The guy has a job so he can earn money to spend on you and you are complaining about it. Amazing. What are you going to do when you get married and your husband has to work 8-5 everyday?
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Okay, I'm having an movie night on the 18th and my boyfriend and I have been planning this for about a week. We're really excited to get our gang of friends together again to just hang out, but recently, one of our friends, D, got a new boyfriend after she broke up with her awesome one about two months ago. Unfortunately, the guy she chose is the one that we all hate. He was a complete jerk to her when she chose another guy over him, telling her that she was a heartbreaking bitch! It was unbelievable, and he's like twenty-years-old or something! She's bringing him over, without actually asking my permission either, which she ALWAYS does. And we're all kind of wondering what the heck we're gonna do when he comes over and everyone is just awkwardly glaring at him... How can I tell her 'no'? She'll throw a hissy fit and it'll probably ruin the mood...? (link)
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Dude needs to grow up for sure.
As far as the "awesome guy" she was with before, you don't really know that. Just because he might have presented a pleasant front to you doesn't mean it translated into any kind of real chemistry for your girlfriend. This is why people need to mind their own business.
Okay, here is the deal: you are going to have to tell your girlfriend that he can't come over. It is that simple. Otherwise, you, who is essentially the gatekeeper in all this, is allowing everyone else's good time to be ruined by her and her man.
Besides, to be truthful, the guy doesn't want to be there, anyway because he finds her friends to be pains in the ass for the most part. You don't realize that, but it's true. He is only going because she's there and that's it. He doesn't care about the rest of you. If you realize that, putting up the stop sign on his attendance becomes a lot easier, no?
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Hi I'm Nikita, 17, F, college sophomore, and I'm finding it difficult to find time to work out when I'm always busy with homework and stuff. (We have school right now, where I'm from)
On Mondays, I have class from 8am-4pm.
On Tuesdays, 2pm-6pm.
No school on Wednesdays.
On Thursdays, 8-11am.
On Fridays, 9am-6pm.
I know what you're thinking. Some of my classes are short and I don't even have class on Wednesdays, but still. I'm usually tired by the time I get home from school, regardless of long my classes were because sometimes I have to commute home (and it's a long commute). And when I get home, I usually start doing my homework or whatever.
I have a treadmill at home and probably some of you would suggest I work out on the Tuesday mornings since my classes are in the afternoon, but I think I'll definitely be too tired by the end of the day.
I do pilates for an hour on Saturdays though (and sometimes Wednesdays) so I'm partly covered.
So, tips? Should I just deal with the fact that I'm going to get tired no matter what, or do you have any suggestions for what time is appropriate for me to work out on the weekdays and weekends and still balance my schoolwork?, etc.
I'd really appreciate your responses!
Thank you in advanced! (link)
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I worked fulltime while going to college, so someone your age really has no excuses. You didn't mention having a job, so you have enough time to exercise. Besides, it will not only keep weight off, but you will sleep a lot better at night, which, in turn, will help your test results. So get to it!
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i am a male from pakistani want to fuck my mom she is really very sexy having large boobs (link)
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Troll-a-rama!
Dude, slow night at the trailer park?
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one of my good friends told me he likes me. he's liked me before and I used to like him, he knew that. but then he thought I liked someone else cause I did but I don't anymore I like the boy that likes me and I just wanna talk to him and be with him but he doesn't know I like him. should I tell him?
I'm a 13 yearold girl and he's 12 maybe but we are in the same grade. so there isn't an age difference. I wanna tell him but I'm not sure if i should or not. (link)
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If you don't ask you don't get. Go for it, girl! Ask him out yourself!
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She has a few nicknames but they don't really describe her personality. she is the definition of a bad *** party girl. crazy sexy, thick, really fun, very independent. she also has a mature, caring, loving, side to her. she is a very honest person and I have a lot of respect for her. I was thinking along the lines of 'savage' or 'lady v' but I want more options. I don't want anything like "other half" or "bestie" i want something everyone could call her. thanks :) (link)
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She reminds me of a song by L7, "Fast and Frightening."
Her glance hits me like lightning
I heard that girl is fast and frightening
Dirty hair and a laugh that's mean
Her neighbors call her an evil machine
She's fast, she's lean
She's frightening
She's fast, she's lean
She's frightening
Popping wheelies on her motorbike
Straight girls wish they were dykes
She'll do anything on a dare
Mom and daddy?s worst nightmare
Down at the creek smoking pot
She eats the roach so she don't get caught
Throws her mini off in the halls
Got so much clit she don't need no balls
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I'm 18f and my boyfriend is 17m we have been together for almost 7 months; we have had our problems like most couples do, and we have got through it. He has a real bad problem with his anger, although he has never layed a hand on me before, or even came close; he just raises his voice at me often, and sometime curses. Well, there is this guy named Jesse. He's 17/m and he works with me, and went to the same school me and my boyfriend went to before we graduated this year; for the last three months, Jesse has had the biggest crush on me. He says he's in love with me and he's not going to stop waiting for me, and he doesn't want me to rush me and my boyfriend relationship; so he is going to wait patiently. I didn't believe him at first; I figured I'd give him a couple of weeks and he'd stop waiting and find someone else; NOPE. 3 months and he is still waiting; we having touched, or anything; so I don't see how he is in love with me; he tells everyone how he feels for me; and he seems very serious about it. He's a total sweetheart; which my boyfriend really isn't the type to have a way with words; and he doesn't really say sweet things to me as much as he should; (being a girl; we like to hear it!) I told him I was going to take my time with my boyfriend; and work out everything we can work through until we come across something that can't be worked through and I wasn't going to do anything to rush us breaking up. He understood and told me to take as long as I needed cause he'd still be there. We both agree if we are meant together we will end up together; The last month I have caught myself thinking about Jesse alot, and I think I have allowed myself to gain feelings for him; but I think its wrong, so I'm telling myself no. My life is about to really start. I graduated high school this May; and now I'm starting college for Medical. I have a car and a job; and I'm trying to figure out whats going to be best for my future. My boyfriend doesn't have a job or a car; and jesse had a job but no car; Riley wants to go to college but he doubts he will because he just wants to work; and Jesse wants to go to college for Culniary Arts;
I love my boyfriend dearly; and I've talked to him about this whole situation and he's hurt by it; and I completely understand; Ive thought about it for the last month and I'm torn. Do I stay with my boyfriend who we fight a little more than most; or try this new guy without knowing if it'll only bee a couple of month thing? Please help me out; I truely don't know what to do; at all. (link)
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Girl, it is your life and you cannot allow anyone to stand in the way of your future. That includes your boyfriend and the wannabe boyfriend. You need to dump the bf and devote yourself to college, date around, maybe live overseas after graduation and just allow yourself to evolve. By the time you're 25, your sensibilities are going to change a lot and you probably won't want either of the two contestants for your affections in your life. It happens. It isn't anyone's fault.
Btw, you like your current boyfriend because he treats you like crap. And you will never go out with Jessie because he is a nice guy and kinda desperate and clingy. You got to get past this nonsense and get a clue, which is why a break up here is what the doctor ordered.
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If a friend ( a person who claims to be a friend) is terrible about returning phone calls or email. How often should one contact them until they do? Actually for fear that they may never call at all. Would it be proper to avoid them completely and just let them do the contacting and risk the friendship? (link)
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If this is a pattern you need to adopt a one and done policy. Stop being so needy that you panic if you can't reach someone who is that rude. He will only learn if he someday finds himself in isolation due to his own inconsiderateness.
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I am in a tricky situation where I'm trying to get with this girl. I'm not saying I haven't had my first, I'm saying I have never had a kiss with feeling. I get close to her, but can't find the opening, Im worried if I try she'll think I'm pushy. Please help (link)
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Dude, grow a pair. Guys who don't show the confidence to just go for what they want are less likely to get chicks, who admire confidence above all else. At least if she rejects you that means you can go after other girls with no pangs of guilt.
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My best friend and I have been friends since 2nd grade (we are now 21). We stayed friends through the years, even when I moved to a different state for 6 years. I moved back to the same state as her in August. We are still best friends but I have noticed a lot is different. Since I moved back, she has had 2 different boyfriends. The first one, she would always blow me off for him. Now the second one is a bigger issue. Although I am not the one dating him I dont understand what she wants with him anymore. At first, I was all for her dating this guy. He treated her right. The twist comes in when my friend had a pregnancy scare. The boyfriend told her that if she were pregnant he would leave her and how its her fault if shes pregnant. She wasnt pregnant but they "took a break". Thats when I lost all respect for this guy. And now, they are back together. I told the guy what he did was wrong and now she will make excuses for him (such as"I care about you both i just dont want drama blah blah blah"). Even still she will pick this guy over me. In fact she would pick any guy over me. I dont understand why, I have been there for her through thick and thin. I would do anything for her. And i get thrown on the back burner. I am debating if I should confront her on this? I feel like it's pointless because she will just agree with me but still pick her boyfriend. My feelings are really hurt. (link)
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Dude, you have been exiled to the dreaded "friend list." That means that you are more like a brother to her than any possible object of future adult affection, as it were. And you will never, ever get off that list in the same way she will not ever want to have sex with her brother. Capiche?
Oh, also, girls love guys who treat them like crap. When guys play up to girls, it is like they are begging her to be with them, which is really weak in any female's eyes.
Guys who continue to pine away for women who have consigned them to the friend list are not just wasting their time, but they look needy and desperate.
So find other girls to date. At this point, your only hope is to start shining her on in hopes that she will re-evaluate your position in her life. But even that is a longshot at best. Do not spend any more major time on her, okay? You could be using that time to chase other chicks. Life is short and she is a time vampire.
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Wat is a cute nickname for my boyfriend?! (link)
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My favorite nickname couples call each other is in Korea, where a husband and wife call each other, "yeobo," which means, "hey you!" *lol
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16/F A few days ago I had sex with a family friend. It was my first time ever having sex- not that that matters. He has been a family friend since was like 4. I know it's not exactly right but we both like each other so much and have good chemistry. He really cares about him hurting me during sex and also regrets not waiting till I'm 18, but now that we've done it, we don't want to stop. The other night was amazing and we both want to keep this up but without anyone finding out. I don't want to end this one bit but in the back of my mind I'm afraid of getting caught. But all I can think about is enjoying myself. What should I do? (link)
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The first thing you need to do is get on birth control. Condoms can break and so aren't 100%. If you don't want to talk to your parents or your doctor about it, call Planned Parenthood and see if they can help you.
Okay, having said that, you aren't related to the family friend you are now having a relationship with. So not a big deal. The guy sounds considerate.
Now you might get caught, but it would be delusional on the part of your parents to not think the friend might not be interested in you at some point. I mean, come on, let's get real. You guys aren't doing anything ethically wrong. The only problem that may arise out of this is if he is an adult, then the police could get involved, depending on what the laws of the state you reside in are. This isn't your fault or your boyfriend's (as long as he isn't an adult), but that of a crazy little thing called love, as the song says.
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My father is catholic, and very controlling of every step i take. I still have to call him all the time, where i am, who im with, and i have a curfew. Or more of a limit of 2 hours after my work to see friends. I fell in love with my boyfriend, and we plan on moving out together next month. I dont know how to tell my dad that im leaving and not going back to europe with him. (link)
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Here is what you tell him:
Dsd, I'm an adult now. It is not healthy for me to still live with my parents at this age. It is time for me to stake out my independence and to explore life and find myself. So I'm not going back to Europe with you. But I will keep in touch with you by email."
That is all you can say.
I personally don't think you should be tying yourself down to someone (your boyfriend) at your age, though. You need to go through that exploratory phase and date around, do some traveling, graduate college, etc. If you don't have that exploratory time you will always regret it.
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Hi Im Gracie and Im 13. How do people know that God is real? I think I believe in God, but Im not sure. I pray sometimes, but when I do, I dnt feel anything. Its like Im talking to myself, and sometimes I feel a little weird. My dad says he believes in God but he's not really religous. he only goes to church because his girlfriend Katie makes him (shes SUPER religuous). Anyways I guess what I want to kno is, If you cant see him or hear him, how do you know he's there. If there is a God, will I go to hell because I wasnt sure that he was real? If God's real, do all the people that belive in other religions go to hell?? Its really confusing! (link)
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Sorry Gracie, there is no God. Let me tell you how this whole religious nonsense got started:
Man is basically a fearful, insecure creature whose primarily afraid of death. So man devised religion as a way to feel in some kind of control by having a series of beliefs that seem to explain the world around them, nature and their reason for being. It also usually tells people that if they follow certain precepts they will attain everlasting life in paradise after their days on earth are numbered.
Then religion gets co-opted by authoritarian elements in society in order to try to justify the political leaders' positions (go to Google and look up, "divine right of kings" as an example). Religion has always been imposed at the point of a sword or gun. History is clear on that. For example, Christianity wasn't chosen freely by europeans back in the fourth or fifth century, but rather, the likes of the Roman Emperor Constantine and the Holy Roman Emperor Charlemagne imposed it on the locals at the pain of death. Then from there the religion makes its way into the cultural orthodoxy of society.
So the sum of this is that religion is a happy bullshit story to allay people's fears about death, give them some kind of hope that one day the murderous and criminal in society will indeed be given some kind of retribution and that there is nothing they can do about who rules them because God ordained it so.
So when you get no response or feel nothing when you pray it is because there is nothing there. Your prayer is merely a wish for something to happen (or not happen) and little more. If you want to express your wishes in the form of a prayer, hey, go for it, do what makes you happy.
But all religions are hustles and are more about wealth and power than anything else. Religion has been on the wrong side of just about every major historical, philosophical and scientific question throughout the existence of mankind and the bureaucracies of those religions have usually been filled by little more than scoundrels.
When you get into college, read a book called, "Escape from Freedom" by Erich Fromme. Then you will understand more of what I am talking about here.
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Okay before I start please don’t lecture me about having unprotected sex. I know that I am grown and responsible for the decisions I make. I am fully aware of the consequences of unprotected sex.
My boyfriend and I recently had sex unprotected where he fully ejaculated inside of me. I was on birth control the purposes of cycle regulation. I started taking it in February 2011 and at that time I was taking it religiously same time every day… when I noticed that my cycles started to regulate, that I started becoming lazy often forgetting to take the pill for several days at time and then would take it here and there. That was in April 2011. My cycle at this point is still regulated. I have been diagnosed with PCOS therefore making it more difficult for me to get pregnant due to the fact that I’m overweight. Him on the other hand has had a past of heavy drug use when he was younger (13-20 yrs) old. He’s 26 now, but thinks that his chances of me getting pregnant are low due his past actions. We are not intentionally trying to have a kid but we know that we do run the risk of getting pregnant and are more than willing to take full responsibility of our child. We actually had sex the day my period was stopping unprotected but I think he used the pull out method that day, but I know he pre-cums A LOT. Then the next day when my period completely stopped, he came inside of me. So I don’t know if that affects our chances or not because I’ve read many articles on the 3 days before and after period, but then there’s also the week after the period that girls can get pregnant, so I’m confused as to when girls have a higher chance of getting pregnant. My theory is that we can get pregnant at any given time.
I would like to start back on my birth control (even though it can possibly be too late) but I don’t know when would be a good time to start it. I just got off my period so I’m thinking two weeks take a test? I can’t go off the “wait till a missed period” theory cause I’d have to wait another month.
So I was wondering, what are the chances of me getting pregnant given our pasts and current situations?
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Get back on birth control. It can't hurt. Just make sure you take it at the same time everyday, even if it means you have to bring an alarm clock with you.
And the rule is, anytime you have sex you can get pregnant. Remember, what you heard from your doctor is a "probability" of getting knocked up. It's like how everytime you play the lottery you could win it, but the probability is very low. Given the profound life implications of pregnancy, and let's face it, you're only asking this because you don't really want to have a kid right now, don't take any more risks.
If you finally decide that you never want to have children, have him get a vasectomy.
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i am a 17 year old girl and want to date a 20 year old. i have fallen in love with him but the age is whats getting me, he will be 21 in august. should i go with him and is it completely wrong. i'm stuck, dont know wat to do. any advice will help (link)
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I personally don't have a problem with your relationship.
The main thing you need to be concerned with is how the law sees it. You might want to look into not just the age of consent of your state, but there are also laws dealing with the disparity of age between a minor and an adult that can have major life changing repercussions for the adult. You guys can casually date and wait until you are 18 before having sex. That would be the safe thing to do. And definitely don't do more in public than kiss. Keep the groping indoors so that no cop will see him feeling up a minor.
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i am looking for a pet name for my husband. his name is Parfait like Perfect (link)
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His name is Parfait? Call him the "ice cream man" like the blues song that Van Halen covered.
"I'm your ice cream man
Stop me when I'm passing by
I'm your ice cream man
Stop me when I'm passing by
All my flavors are guaranteed to satisfy."
*lol
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Im a married man with children. For a living I am a personal trainer. Lately, I have been finding it harder and harder to keep my urges hidden. During work when I see a big buff man I get an erection instantly. So yes I am not doubting the fact that Im gay. But how can I tell my wife and kids? Im 28 years old by the way. (link)
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First, this isn't THAT unusual. Society has repressed gay people so long that in order to try to get along many gay guys try to act normally to the extent of even getting married. You can thank religion and the Republican Party for this.
Anyway, you have to tell your wife and kids. This is going to be pretty devastating, though, and will probably result in divorce. But your wife deserves to know, especially since you want to act on your impulses. So at this point, I would recommend that you plan things out before springing this on your wife in order to be prepared for leaving her, making alternate living arrangements, dealing with child visitation, how you will introduce your boyfriend to your kids, etc.
There is nothing shameful about being gay. I just wish society would recognize that by getting past the religious ooga booga and minding its own business.
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