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Returning Calls

Question Posted Tuesday June 14 2011, 12:49 am

If a friend ( a person who claims to be a friend) is terrible about returning phone calls or email. How often should one contact them until they do? Actually for fear that they may never call at all. Would it be proper to avoid them completely and just let them do the contacting and risk the friendship?

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Never2bAlone answered Wednesday June 29 2011, 11:12 pm:
The only people you need in your life are those that prove they need you in theirs.

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OzGirl answered Wednesday June 29 2011, 7:49 am:
This "friend", I am guessing they have other friends and family. Is there anyone in particular they call off their own back regularly?

My guess is that there probably is.

If you are someones friend, and a close friend you call or catch up or email...You are close so you want to feel the presence of that person.

I feel that this persons priorities are else where.

I would stop chasing and see if they chase you. If they dont call, move on...Find people who reciprocate the effort you give them...

You deserve more than a one-way friendship!

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VoiceofReason answered Sunday June 19 2011, 6:36 am:
If this is a pattern you need to adopt a one and done policy. Stop being so needy that you panic if you can't reach someone who is that rude. He will only learn if he someday finds himself in isolation due to his own inconsiderateness.

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Sherry answered Tuesday June 14 2011, 3:32 pm:
A friend who will not return your phone calls, emails, or text messages in a timely manner - is not a friend at all. It requires little effort to respond to someone with technology the way it is these days. I have someone that does this to me a lot and when confronted, he comes up with every excuse in the book. I don't buy it for one second.

It hurts A LOT and I understand how you must be feeling.

You could avoid them completely until they are willing to initiate a conversation. The problem with that, however, is you have to ask yourself "why all of a sudden does she want to talk to me?" Is she bored? Lonely? Does she have nobody else to hang out with? "

If you don't feel you're being treated the way you should, you should end the friendship. I always tell myself I rather have one amazing friend than a dozen fake ones.

Ditch her! She doesn't deserve you, not the other way around.

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