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How to come out of the closet?
Im a married man with children. For a living I am a personal trainer. Lately, I have been finding it harder and harder to keep my urges hidden. During work when I see a big buff man I get an erection instantly. So yes I am not doubting the fact that Im gay. But how can I tell my wife and kids? Im 28 years old by the way.
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First, this isn't THAT unusual. Society has repressed gay people so long that in order to try to get along many gay guys try to act normally to the extent of even getting married. You can thank religion and the Republican Party for this.
Anyway, you have to tell your wife and kids. This is going to be pretty devastating, though, and will probably result in divorce. But your wife deserves to know, especially since you want to act on your impulses. So at this point, I would recommend that you plan things out before springing this on your wife in order to be prepared for leaving her, making alternate living arrangements, dealing with child visitation, how you will introduce your boyfriend to your kids, etc.
There is nothing shameful about being gay. I just wish society would recognize that by getting past the religious ooga booga and minding its own business.
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I think you have two choices here. You can have several affrairs with different men, stay married and hope your wife doesn't fins out. Or, you can be open and honest with her about your sexual preferences. If you still love her, you can see if she will let you live out your fantasies but continue to stay married. My husband is very understanding and when I get the urge, he allows me to sleep with another woman. Whatever happens, you should let her decide how she wants to handle things and you should support her decision. I really hope this helps and good luck.
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It is never easy to come out of the closet, The best way to tell them is either to have a sit down with your wife or write her a long letter and put it somewhere you know she'll read it. Reality is, You deserve to be happy. If you want to be with men you are entitled to do so.
Your wife will not take this news lightly and that is just something you will have to except, It is not your fault, You shouldn't feel guilty it is just the way it sometimes goes. My best advise, Try having a sit down in my personal opinion I think your wife deserves the respect to be told in person. However, Whatever is easier for you. If you keep your sexuality hidden you may find yourself living in misery because you are living a life where you are unhappy.
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