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Will I have a gd future?
I am going to school to get my social work diploma and will think about going to school part time to get my degree but that is in the future. I just found out that with my diploma I'll be really limited to jobs and am worried. Me and my boyfriend are waiting until i start my career to get married and start a family but we want to start in about 3 yrs tops. I am worried that I am delaying his future and mine because I keep worrying about if I will find a job and if I will enjoy it. I feel like I am putting alot of pressure on myself and when I talk to him about it he is not worries at all. How do I just relAx and not worry about our future so much.
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You guys are thinking way too far ahead.
First, take care of what is in front of you. Finish your schoolwork. Then talk things over and see where you are in your life and move from there. In the meantime, just enjoy each other's company and try to keep things as pressure free as you can.
By the way, please, please, please, wait at least five years after you're married to have a baby. You will both be more mature and you will have gotten over what I call "the fourth year freakout," when people in a marriage begin considering whether or not they really are in for the long haul.
Good luck to you both.
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There is and old saying that goes something like this: "You can plan for the future, you can control only what is happening today and you take responsibility for what happened yesterday."
What this means is you can only control what is happening today, right know. You can try and repair what may have gone wrong yesterday, but really you are still just controlling today. As for the future you can plan for it and prepare for it you cannot control it until it becomes the here and know.
What it means in answer to your question is that you should not let the unknowns of the future control what you are doing or want to do in the present. Which from what you write is more of what your BF's thinking is. The future is going to come, their is nothing you can do to stop it. In the present you can plan for it by doing the things you want to achieve and plan for in your life. Then work to control the future when it becomes the present.
Plan the life you want for yourself and live the lie you plan for the best you can. Relax and enjoy your life for life i for ever changing and you will always have to adapt to it in the present. If you adopted a little of your BF's attitude you may find thing more enjoyable and less worrisome.
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First of all,. you sound like you have a plan of a perfect life. You have to beleive that you will find a good job,. that you will enjoy,. and only you can do that. If you and your boyfriend want to get married it shouldn't have to work around your careers,. it should work around your like at this moment and if you are ready for that commitement,. Same with having kids,. its about you being ready and stable in your life,. because your still going to school and trying to earn your diploma then maybe right now is not the time to be having kids,. But just remember your only where you try to put your self at in your stage of life accomplishments.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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