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Q: ok i do about 300 sit ups a night and im not feeling "the burn" lol that sounds kinda weird

i was just wondering if there is any other way i can work my abs...
i kno they're machine for doing sit ups...but i dont have any of them and i dont really feel like buying them...i just wanna do something i can do right in my room...on the floor...in minutes....

i just wanna work my abs more

If you dont feel "the burn" lol, then try increasing the ammount of situps you do, weekly. Untill you reach that point where you actually feel it. Then dont go over that ammount untill your body is able to do that many for a period of time.

Q: I want to lose about 20 lbs. Does any one have any tips on how to do this? I've tried dieting, excercise, and having smaller portions but none of them have worked for me.

This sort of isnt healthy.. but its a desperate measures kind of thing. I eat about 400 calories a day, and jump rope two hours each day which burns off about double the calories i intake. At this rate you'll lose about 5 lbs a week. Which makes it 20 pounds in a month.

Q: ok well i was looking at ppls xangas and i come to this one xanga and these two guys were like we are looking for two girls to fuck and eat out. they were saying how they want stuff. well i thought it would be funny to leave a comment so i did, but then i relized that they could look at my xanga when they click my comment!!! and my pic is in there!!! im afraid they might look at my xanga and talk to me about that shit, im really scared, i dont wanna talk to them idk what to do HELP I WILL RATE SOOOOOO HIGH

If they IM you or comment you and tlak about those things, block their username from commenting your side, or block their AIM Sn. If they keep persisting on IMing you - put your AIM sn on privacy or change your sn or xanga username.

Q: This is my second time posting here on Advicenators. Well, I could really use some good advice here. I am 14 years old, never been kissed, hugged, dated..etc. I like older boys better because I know they tend to make the first moves and spoil you more, but I never thought I would end up like my best friends older brother. He's just two years older, not even. He's cute and he's funny, but he's really shallow. He's making me want to just die with the harsh things he says. He's always telling my friend Marissa* you should hang out with hot friends because all your friends are ugly. Right when I am sitting there. Now I can't stop hating myself.

Okay doll. Im sure your beautiful just the way you are, and you dont need any shallow guy to think your hot. Why would you want someone shallow to even think that. Just dont let it get you down. Guys can be shallow and insensitive but it isnt worth gettin your pride or feelings hurt over. If all they want is someone hot, then their not worth your time. =) and untill then, love yourself for who you are - not for what you want guys to think you are.

Q: i've had boobs for five years now and vaginal discharge and hair in all those places but i still haven't gotten "it" yet and two years ago the doctor said it woul be within the month. i know i won't want it once i get it but i just want it so i know i'm normal. oh yeah (14/f)also my mom got hers when she was 15.

kate

Well everyone is different. If you dont get yours when your 14/15/ or even 16 that doesnt mean that your not normal. Sure you can inherit your moms genes in that area, but not necessarily. My mom started when s he was 14 and me when I was 11. Just because you havent started yet doesnt mean anything, enjoy not having it, trusttt me, lol =)

Q: When I am about to do a backflip I get nervous and fear falling on my back or head... do you know of a good place to practice... is grass sutible.. please repond..
Thank you

I think grass would be alright but it would still sort of hurt. Practice on anything soft. Preferable mats, blankets, pillows, trampolines. Just enough times to get yourself comfortable with it.

Q: ok well im totally freaking out...my bf was over today and we started kissing and my younger sister (10) walks in and sees us,so she told my mom and dad and now they are mad and wont let me see him, im soo sad and i cant stop crying, what should i do?

You should talk to them. Wait for a calm moment and ask them nicely why they wont let you see him and explain to them how much it hurts you, and hope that they understand. Thats the best you can do. Dont go sneaking around to see him though because that would make things worse.

Q: ok heres the situation..my parents said i can only get a cat if i can find a place for the litter box so my puppy wont get into it when nobodys home. i cant think of anyplace to put it, any suggestions?

Basement ? If you have one. Utility room [ laundry room ]. & if you go away have you considered puttin your puppy in a cage ?

Q: Okay so I'm 14 (girl btw) ...5'0 and I'm about 85 pounds. I obviously have a high metabolism and I have to gain 95ish pounds before xmas or... I'm going to the hospital because my mom thinks I have an eating disorder (i dont) How do I gain weight and actually "keep it up" ?

Wow. First off thats not fair because you cant help it that you have a high metabolism. Dont go eating fatty foods though just to gain weight. That will give you health problems. Just eat right and still maintain to exercise, and if you do end up getting admitted into the hospital they will check your health and blood pressure and things of that nature, and if you had an eating disorder they would be all off and messed up, but since you dont it will show that your in good health and totally average for a 5 foot 14 year old girl.

Q: well...okay. One time i talked to this guy that i had never met b4, and he was pretty cool. and the more we started talking the more i liked him. And one of the things we talked about was his GF had broken up with him. And i thought well...maybe we could online date...after we get to know each other...and now i talked to him agian yesterday and he said hes found a new gf. and shes awesome and tall and stuff. And my ? is...should i still try to flirt with him and stuff to get him to like me? or stay there as a friend? or what??i REALLY like him too!!! HELP!

If you havent met him in person, honestly, I wouldnt even waste your time. I dont mean to sound harsh but it almost seems like your going to set yourself up for a heartbreak, about 90% of online relationships dont work out. =(

Q: I'm going to high school as a freshman.. and I was just wondering, what will the first day be like? Please help, I'm so nervous!

Well, I would love to help but eveyrone has different opinions, some people think its scary, exciting, nerve racking, fun, depressing, sad, happy .. and all sorts of things. It just depends on what you make of it, and thats how it will go. Just embrace it, dont be scared. Have fun, its the best years of your life =)!

Q: I really love to sing and my friends say I'm good. I don't think I am all that good though and I want to know some good ways to get better without taking voice lessons because I don't have a lot of money. My goal isn't to be a proffesional singer but I just want to be a source of entertainment to my friends because singing is a huge part of my life. Please answer I'll rate 5's

Id say look up some things online like voice exercises and such. & just practice singing songs on the radio, or go through your Cds and sing every song and try to hit the notes they do. Just keep practicing and look up those voice exercise things, and hopefully you'll be more confident in the future =)

Q: 15/f *Ohhkay, so i have this amazing guy..but we're just reallly good friends."with benifits" I love him and i know he loves me and we've been talking about "doing it" i know we are both ready, and we will def use protection. But my question is..do you think if we actaully do it..we wil end up going out? I mean,I would love to go out with him, and ive always wanted to.
So do you guys think if we do it that theres a possibility that he may like me more than a friend?!

Thanks so much guys/I'll rate HIGH!! ;)

-kristen

First off sweetie, dont have sex with him just so you will be able to be with him, because you'd be doing it for the total wrong reasons. There is a possiblity that you may end up going out, but I dont think so. In some cases sex draws people closer, but in others they just think that since they;ve already done everything with someone, why bother being with them. I think you should be in a relationship with someone first before going to that step. Because then your going it to bring you closer than you already are, not to just make you close.

Q: I'm doing Community Service at my church helping out for Vaction Bible School and I'm the teacher of 4-year-olds. I need some ideas on what kid of things to do with them. There are 5 boys and ever so often a girl.

Crafts. Kids love crafts. Have them do something to do with coloring or drawing, but base it along the lines of God / Jesus .=) Remember: Something to keep their interest, but to also get the point across.

Q: OK i've never worn eyeshadow that much but i sorta wanna now..is it true that a brown or tan shadow goes with hazel eyes? if not, then what color goes with hazel?? thanks!!

Actually I think that it all depends on your skin tone. If you have light skin wear colors such as blue - if you have darker skin wear colors such as pink or bronze. =)

Q: Why when your on the phone with a guy and he's playing Madden 2006 or any kind of Football game on X Box or Playstation 2 or what ever. That it sounds like he's masturbating?

-ShanN*

HAHA. Probably because he is lol .. just kidding, guys get really into their games doll, sometimes so much that its scary. =\ eek.

Q: Hey hun! I noticed you were new to the site && I love your xanga layout! Its so cute. I was jus wondering if you made it yourself && if you did, how did you make it?

PS - Welcome to Advicenators =]

-ADViCEx4xY0U =]

Thanks dollie! Yes I did make it. I took a basic xanga stylesheet and found some codes, added them - and added some more html codes to make it look cute. picked some colors and thats about it, lol =)

Q: PLEASE HELP ME!!!! I've been invited to a pool party, but the problem is that i've got to wear a bikini and i've noticed some fairly noticable hair on my chest and stomach and it's on ym back aswell. You can see it in the light and when it gets wet, it's REALLY noticable. Does anyone know what to do????? I will rate 5s for good advice.

P.S. I can't wear a costume, i haven't got one and it's too late to go and buy one now!!!!

If its really a problem, then you should shave it before the pool party. If its really making you feel inscure about yourself than thats the only thing I can think of doing.

Q: i love to sing and i have a pretty nice voice but i dont know were to start and wut kind of songs to sing i can sing high but im not that good at singing low.how do i start out

PLEASE i need your help

Start out searching through songs that are in your voice range. Dont go trying to sing Mariah carey or anything, lol. If your really interested in pursuing a music career. Look around for a place that provides voice lessons and have them evaluate you and tell you what range you sing in, and choose music to sing that way. Just sing along to the radio, and dont try to hit any notes that will strain your voice. just try and get a feel of what artists you can or cant sing.

Q: Alright well Just a fiew minutes ago this guy asked meh out. And a fiew weeks ago I really wanted to go out with him till I did stuff with him ( i sorta reegret it ) and I felt like he used meh. But he was pestering meh and all this stuff. and he was like we can hang out Ill bring you to movies and take you out to eat and all that stuff.. So I finaly just said yes. But I have a feeling he is still using me and I dont want that. I want a real relationship. Im suposed to hang out with him tomorrow but i dont know what to do cause i know he is gona ask me to do stuff and he is gona be like well we are going out now. so he will use that as an excuse. And I dont want to do stuff cause I know it will be because he is using me and doesnt really like me! What do I do. HOw do I know if he really likes me at all or if its ALL just for sexual stuff?
Love maddie
Ps im 14/f

You dont really know for sure if he just wants sexual stuff. but if you really dont feel comfortable doing things with him, dont just do it because hes pestering you, do it because you really want too. and by thhe sounds of things you seem like you dont. so if i were you i would tell him "I dont feel comfortable going out with you, or doing things with you, and I dont like being used". You have to be straight forward and not let people walk all over you sweetie.