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ive had 20 boyfriends. does that make a slut. im a 14/f (link)
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No, but it does make you look like a very indecisive individual with terribly bad judgement.
Make up your damn mind, actually get some foresight before you date a person. You're 14, you have no need for that many boyfriends, if you actually looked at personality and such and actually tried to get a stable relationship you wouldn't have this question. Having 20 boyfriends does not by any means make you a slut, but at your age you shouldn't be making those kind of decisions anyway, you've obviously shown you aren't capable of making good ones.
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16/f.
I've been with my bf for nearly 3 months now, I like him alot but I'm starting to think it may just be in a friendship manner... We hang out alot together and with my friends..his friends, we were friends before we took it to the next level and ever since we started going out it's basically the same but we see each other more... I like spending time with my bf but sometimes I feel it's excessive and get tired and just want to go home! We cuddle and hug alot and kiss when the times right (he's not a great kisser lol) but the problem is I'm not physically/sexually attracted to him as a person.. I like the closeness of the relationship but at the same time I feel confined... I don't know what to do because he's such a caring and sensitive guy and I do like him alot and we connect in alot of ways but is the attraction thing going to be a problem? I don't have any intention of breaking up with him anytime soon but I can feel it'll happen eventually, inevitably.. I'm really confused because I'm feeling such mixed emotions towards him! When I'm apart from him for long periods of time I miss the hugs and kisses and general hanging out, but when we're together I can get restless and tired and little things about him can start to annoy me!
Basically... I'm confused... Any help with how I should handle this or anyone who's been in/is in a similiar sitution? That would be very appreciated! xxx (link)
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Theres more to a relationship than sex, and at the age of sixteen, you really should be seeking that more than sex. By the way you are describing it, you have a good relationship, but you just aren't sexually attracted to him...
A romantic relationship is about love, and if you are willing to sacrafice a relationship because you aren't having sex well...
I think that one goes without saying.
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this guy told me he could see me as a potential girlfriend... well how long do you think it would take him to ask me out.. and what could i do to make him like me more, so he would ask me out sooner?? please help (link)
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Just wait for your name to come up on his waiting list, im sure it will be fine. I just want to know how that conversation went, I couldn't forsee anyone just casually walking up to someone and saying "Hey, you look like someone I could love, but not right now. You will go on the potential girlfriend list."
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I have two best friends, one is more in the "popular range" and I love her to death and I have the best of times when I hang out with her and some of her other friends. My other best friend isn't popular, and doesnt realy like popular people. She always listens to depressing music and acts a little like a slut now. She makes me feel guilty when I hang out with my other best friend. I dont wanna be best friends with her anymore but I dont know how to tell her. Any tips? (link)
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I still interact with a lot of people I strongly dislike out of habit. And partially because of this im constantly asked by my other friends "how can you hang out with this kind of person" well, I simply tell them that there is plenty of history between the two of us, and that the person is alright. I let them know that I don't expect the two of them to be friends, and that their prejudices shouldn't have to effect my life.
If they can't accept the fact that you lead a different life than them, well.
What can I say? Just gradually drift away, its better not to literally address the problem, just slowly slip away and let it work itself out.
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What is the difference between being Punk and being Gothic? Is it a style or what? Please explain. (link)
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Well, Punk is generally referring to a person who listens to punk music. Its a form of music, like most people said in this post that started with bands like the ramones, sex pistols and such. Punk is somewhat coming back - except most of the mainstream stuff is turning into a pop/punk hybrid. Generally most people that label themselves as a `punk` truly don't understand the concept of being a `punk`. And basically the premise of belonging to the punk `group` destroys the entire message of non-conformity that it gives.
As far as Goths go. There are really two different kinds.
Current mainstream goth are basically a bunch of self-neglected children that feel they have been dealt a bad hand in life, and therefore result to listening to death metal and just plain out being angry all the time. They generally wear black all the time and read corny poetry about death.
Former goths were those kind of counter-culture kids that sat in coffee shops and read books. Its sad where the future is leading.
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im 16 years old and 8 months pregnant..my boyfriend ..which is the father and is 19..wont have anything to do with me..he wont even touch me anymore yea he comes over every now and then but he doesnt stay long..it breaks my heart because i love him so much..he says he loves me but it definately doesnt feel like it (link)
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I can sympathize in a way, because I have a friend that is several months pregnant and her boyfriend left her almost instantly.
While honesty may not be the best way here, my position obligates me to take that path.
You are more than likely never going to get into anything but a sub-par relationship with that person again. Odds are they are beating themself up right now over what they have done, and praying that you are not going to call the police.
And the only reason he says that he loves you is to keep you from doing so. He may end up pursuing a relationship, but only to avoid future problems.
I don't know if you want to raise the child or you are considering adoption. But thats definitely a decision you are going to want to make soon. Hopefully it all works well, and when its all over, spread the message of your troubles with teenage relationships. Thats part of my goal is to stop the plague.
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So I was babysitting my sister's little boy. Well at some point in time, I was on LSD, I decided that I was going to find out if my sister was raising him jewish or if I was going to have to slap a bitch pretty damn soon. So I check and sure enough it's clipped. However my sister's child is a black/nigger/monkey and well he had a huge cock. So I did what I knew had to be done. I tied that little coon to the back of my truck and drug him around for nineteen miles. How am I going to explain the dead nigger to my sister? (link)
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First of all, don't bring him anywhere unless you see a sign that says `Dead nigger storage`.
Second of all, since your sister isn't raising him jewish, you may want to go off the "forgiveness" ordeal. Otherwise try to justify your morality by abusing your religious principals.
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So I live in Texas. I'm a jewish italian boy and a student of the "Science Academy of South Texas" However there is a big problem. Our school has a lot of different ethnic groups and well I was on the basketball team and one day in the showers, I saw this black kid who was needless to say well hung. That same night I had a dream about his extremely large throbbing member. The next morning I walked up to him and planted so crystal meth on his black ass. The cops tackled him but he put up a fight and he was eventually shot about 47 times. However since then, I regret it so much. I think I was in love with a nigger. (link)
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This is perfectly normal for children of your faith. Remember the words of kubrick - `the only things that come from texas are steers and queers` - and with that, I suggest you go out and buy some horns.
Hope it all works out for the best.
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today my brother held my arm so tight i have a bruise, yesterday he hit me over the head with a phone, and the day before he repeaditly hit me with a key board. other times he punches and hits me, i tell my parents and they never do anything. yet when i do something to him i get in trouble immediatly. it isnt fair and it hurts me that he practically abuses me and that my parents dont care. what should i do?
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We will get you a Hunter S. Thompson answer. Please hold.
Get your brother a blow up doll (not necescarily a sexual one) then just let him beat the hell out of that.
Otherwise you may want to consider learning to prevent him from injuring you. Don't get angry, just learn how to stop him from attacking you, he swings, grab his arm and contort it to a position where it is about to break, and where he can tell its about to break. Restrain him. You don't have to hit him or anything, and you certainly don't need to get government officials involved. Just do enough to defend yourself. If you can't do this, then you may want to start considering dealing it back to him. It should only take one effective shot and he should get the picture.
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I can never make up my mind about things. Like once I was asked to make out with someone but I couldnt decide. Does any one know a good way to make up your mind? (link)
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Thats easy.
Just do what all the cool kids are doing.
God.
Learn a life lesson for gods sake, you shouldn't have to ask ignorant questions like this. Stop watching the television and interact with people for once.
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wow i dont even know where to begin. i'm 15m, my name is jake. just like at every school, theres that group of people who are popular and stuff right? well i was new to this school, and i kinda just joined this group. the thing is, in that group, theres guys and girls and they all have their own love triangles, but when i got in there all the girls liked me. and well at my friends party, rachel, kelly, may, sarah and i were having a little fun in a room, if you know what i mean. and well a some my friend walked in. before i could say anything he just left, and when we got done putting on our cloth he was gone. so i just went home form the party, cuz i was embrassed. so wow, this is bound to be extremely ackward to explain to the group, since all the guys in that group like one of the girls that i uh.. had fun with. what should i do? should i just find new friends? (link)
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Hmm... Maybe you should be asking yourself "what the hell am I doing at the age of 15 having sex with 4 girls". If I were one of those guys that were in "that group" I wouldn't care at all. For your grave insolence has only proven to them that,
A) You are a complete jerk, and you would have sex with their girlfriends. And in this situation they will probably just exclude you from everything, and frankly you deserve it.
B) They will probably have learned that those women are whores, and if they have a lick of sense among the group of them, they will try to position themselves away from them. Of course in todays society they will probably be lured in by the little sirens and end up with a case of syphilis.
C) You can't deal with your own follies and therefore can never make it up to those people. For with the help of the people on this site anything you do will be for the most part meaningless.
I sincerely hope you enjoyed having relations with 4 women. Because your friends are more than likely going to mangle your manhood to the point where you will be lucky if you can still use it to urinate with.
Enjoy the catheters.
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Im in love with this guy, and he always tells me he loves me. Well I just found out from a friend that he had feelings for a short time on another girl. He never knew that I knew, and he always told my friend it was just a short time, and he doesnt like her anymore, and he hates himself for thinking like that about another girl. Well its been a couple weeks since that happend, but I still cant help but feel hurt and to feel like he'll do it agian. Im only 14 and I dont want to be hurt so badly so young, but I dont want to break up with him..what should I do? please help I'll Rate High! (link)
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I think it can be all summed up from your own post.
"Im only 14"
Why are you even bothering with meaningless relationships? You "don't want to he hurt at such a young age"; so don't set yourself up for it then. Too many damned kids your age feel they need to find some kind of relationship and end up puting themselves through such mental anguish to try and keep them up.
95% of the time, romantic relationships involving people around your age will end up gone by the time high school ends. In a day and age where women are gaining more place in the workforce and where they are actually continuing school to get decent jobs, you would think that the average dating age would go up instead of down, that way people didn't have to make large life decisions based on what may be a childhood fantasy made real by poor judgement. Somehow it goes down, who knows why. I don't mean to sound harsh, im just trying to dish out some reality. You're 14 for gods sake, don't sit and kill yourself in the quest for pre-pubescent prince charming.
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Ok theres this guy i like. We hung out this one weekend with one of my friends and like 2 of his friends and he was there. Well the whole night he acted like..he liked me..he was directing everything towards me and all his friends think that he likes me. Well i go over to my friends house all the time..and we always invite him over to do something or just go out and do something and hes always.."gone somewhere". Either his mom wont let him or hes really gone. Well his friends always jokes around that he lieks me and i was wondering. Do you think he doesnt wanna hang out because of me? (link)
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Well, the other responses may be true, but this is just one of the possibilities coming from my own past experience.
Guy sees a girl at a party and makes conversation or whatever, hits on her, tries to make her laugh. Yeah.
Well, she either reads into it too much, or the guy is actually sending her the message. And sends those signals back.
And i'd say 9/10 times, the guy eventually realizes what hes doing, or realizes hes getting in to deep and tries to cut it off forcefully. The girl calls, and he makes up excuses to get out of it.
I could be completely wrong, however this is a scenario that happened to me quite a bit, and generally I only cut it off because I realized that she was dating someone.
If you want to try to catch him. Try having one of your friends call, don't have them mention that you are there at all.
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My boy friend's best friend is my ex...and he is always over there and I get so mad because duering school he was always at hme on weekends and stuff so that we could spend time together...I mean just us...and now he is always over there nd when I won't to do somenthing with him or when he asked me to do soemntihg his little friend (my ex) has to come along!Uggghh! It makes me so mad! What do i do about it? (link)
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You obviously ended the relationship on bad terms. Try selecting some activities that the person won't be involved with, or just subtly bring it up to your boyfriend. Don't go straight out and say that you never want this guy to be around, because if you try to become controlling then you probably will end this relationship on bad terms too. Love isn't always about sacrafice but sometimes it is, if you feel you love your boyfriend enough then either try and talk to him about it, or just deal with it. If you are getting so flustered that you are considering cutting off relations with this man because of his friend. Well, then you probably shouldn't be in the relationship at all in the first place.
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is it normal for a guy to be exhausted after having sex for the first time? (link)
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In the book - Brave New World - Huxley had everyone having sex because after a person was done having sex, they really don't want to do anything. It creates a more `peaceful` world. The Slogan `Make Love, Not War` somewhat derives from the same theory.
Its natural. And if you actually think about it, its logical. So just smoke a cigarette, lay back and go to sleep, pay the woman, whatever.
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