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(lack of?) Attraction
16/f.
I've been with my bf for nearly 3 months now, I like him alot but I'm starting to think it may just be in a friendship manner... We hang out alot together and with my friends..his friends, we were friends before we took it to the next level and ever since we started going out it's basically the same but we see each other more... I like spending time with my bf but sometimes I feel it's excessive and get tired and just want to go home! We cuddle and hug alot and kiss when the times right (he's not a great kisser lol) but the problem is I'm not physically/sexually attracted to him as a person.. I like the closeness of the relationship but at the same time I feel confined... I don't know what to do because he's such a caring and sensitive guy and I do like him alot and we connect in alot of ways but is the attraction thing going to be a problem? I don't have any intention of breaking up with him anytime soon but I can feel it'll happen eventually, inevitably.. I'm really confused because I'm feeling such mixed emotions towards him! When I'm apart from him for long periods of time I miss the hugs and kisses and general hanging out, but when we're together I can get restless and tired and little things about him can start to annoy me!
Basically... I'm confused... Any help with how I should handle this or anyone who's been in/is in a similiar sitution? That would be very appreciated! xxx
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Theres more to a relationship than sex, and at the age of sixteen, you really should be seeking that more than sex. By the way you are describing it, you have a good relationship, but you just aren't sexually attracted to him...
A romantic relationship is about love, and if you are willing to sacrafice a relationship because you aren't having sex well...
I think that one goes without saying.
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Sweetheart, I think you answered your own question in a way. First of, you said it yourself, that you will inevitably break up with him. Well, all I can say is that if you know for sure that it isnt going to work in the long run, it isnt fair to keep it going. You should break up with him soon if you know it is going to happen. It will just hurt him more the longer that you wait. When you do leave him, since he is a sensitive guy, be as gentle as possible and HONEST. Let him know exactly how you feel. Thats the best way. If he cares, then he will have no problem with staying friends. Hope I helped hun! Let me know if you need anything else! XOXOXO
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It sounds like you do have a very good relationship. I would tell him how you feel but make sure this is actually what you feel first. It does sound like it would be better if you were just friends. You can still hug and occasionally kiss if you keep a really close friendship. I would definetly talk to him though hope i helped
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...hmm. you should probably talk to him about this and since he's a sensitive guy, he should understand. if it doesnt work, leave a message in my inbox and i'll try to help.
*hope i helped*
~*Julie*~
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Whoa that was loOong ..
Well you know if your having mixed emotions about him and you don't know .. Then you should just be friends. Because.. one day you could just flip out and end up getting into a fight because of this happening or that happening.
really when you guys are "just" friends it's easier that way.
I'm not saying you "have" to break-up with him but you should just break up with him and tell him why.. talk to him
n hopefully he is a good listener.. cuz from the looks of this message your gonna have a lo0o0ong talk. and thats good cuz you care. and he cares so he should understand.
xoxo Soraya x3
I'll pray for you.
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