I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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Age: 34
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Hey. I'm 14, and I masturbate once every couple of days. Is this bad? Does this have any effect on my health? (link)
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Hey. No. It's not bad. It's normal. Does it have any effect on your health? No, except that it might help relieve stress and, therefore, help your health. Jerk off to your heart's content and have a healthy fantasy life. Just make sure that no one can walk in on you while you're doing it because it might upset your family. It won't cause any health problems and it won't keep you from wanting a partner when you're ready for that. Good luck.
Sabine
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what happens when you eat about 50 antacids at once? (link)
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If it's something like Tums, that's made of calcium carbonate, it likely won't affect you. You can only absorb a certain amount of calcium at one time due to limitations on Vitamin D. Any amount you can't absorb will be excreted in your stool. Any amount you do absorb that your body can't use will be excreted in your urine. That can cause kidney stones over time. In the short run, you probably won't have any worse effects than possibly rebound heartburn (because of stimulating the calcium channels, which turns on your acid pumps). To be sure, call poison control. 1-800-222-1222.
Good luck.
Sabine
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i use to be VERY sarcastic. I lost a few friends cause of it and relized it annoyed people. So i am tryignt o stop and think im doing a good job at it. but people still dont take me seriously. It making me kinda sad becuase i want to be more serious. Like i can be funny, but not funny in a sarcastic way but people think i am. What can i do. Sorry if it was confusing.
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Try letting people know in general that you're serious and that you're trying to affect a more upbeat attitude. Say things with a genuine smile and friendly body language. Be open and honest. In time, they'll come to know a different side of you.
Sabine
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under my eyes after i get no sleep, it gets a little darker and a little puffier then usual,but not dramitically. i got a cream from Chanel for bags under eyes but it didnt really help, just a little bit and make up near my eyes, the powder doesnt really work and foundation(sp) irrirates it
do you know any ways to cover them/make them go away?
also do you know a good cover up that you wont really be able to see im wearing makeup but that will cover zits/stuff like that?
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I don't know about covering it up, and this sounds crazy, but it's an old fashion model trick. To help reduce bags under the eyes, you can use Preparation H hemorrhoid cream. It's supposed to help greatly. Do not get it in your eyes, though. Good luck.
Sabine
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this might sound gross, so if you get disturbed easily i suggest you not read it...and this is embarrassing for me to ask but anyway
i really want to use tampons ive tired numerous times trying to insert one in i even had a mirror down there to see what i was doing...anway i know where its supposed to go but the problem is deeper inside my...wwell you know... it looks likee htere is an extra muscle i know your hymen is like a thin piece of flesh, but for me there looks like an extra piece of musscle with an extremely tiny hole (bout the size of a penis hole) and its really weird that if it is my hymen that i have not broken it yet cause im very flexible, splits every night, so do you think thats my hymen and if it is...then i want to pop my cherry but it hurts everytime i try to insert a tampon in ( i never wore tampons before but i want to) (link)
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It sounds as if what you're describing might be your cervix. If you can feel it, it's long and tubular and has a very small hole in the end. When I was a little girl, I thought I was deformed and had a penis inside me! :0 (Yeah, my hymen was broken by accident when I was younger than 5.) Anyway, could that be what you're describing? Try the slender tampons and if you need to, you can try using some K-Y gel on a plastic applicator to get it in. Never use Vaseline (petroleum jelly). Good luck.
Sabine
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im really body concious and sometimes it gets to the point where i hurt|harm myself. i used to cut and i was annerexic. i am no longer neither but today my boyfriend asked for nude pics. and im 13 but usually i would be like YEAH BRB I NEED TO TAKE SOME. but lately ive just been more depressed than usual. i dont eat much anymore. ive been wanting to cut i even attempted to cut. i havent wanted to kill myself though. i just dont know whats wrong with me. i dont want my mom or dad to know. and i dont want physcological help anymore either. nothing online or in person. i made up a random excuse not to. but its jsut that i can find more flaws in me than good things. i dont even think i do have good things. my question is. what can i do? (link)
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I know this is not what you want to hear. Sorry. You NEED psychological help, even though you don't want it. You will have to get it eventually and it may as well be now, outpatient, rather than later, when you've dropped 20 lb and your parents find cutting scars and have you hospitalized. Please take care of yourself and ask for the help you need.
Sabine
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how do you get rid of hives??? I had a huge red bump on my cheek this morning in school and it was so embaressing!! I was thinking of going to the nurses and have an ice pack and put it on there. But my friends said that would make it redder and bigger. How do you get rid of hives?
Oh yeah and theres a red bump on my head that itches like crazy! (link)
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Okay, well, hives are an allergic reaction. If this is really an allergic reaction, you remove the allergen (makeup, soap, or whatever is causing it), and you can take Benadryl (will make you sleepy) or Claritin. It could also be a boil or a pimple (apply heat, keep it clean, and don't squeeze). Or it could be the start of something like Chicken Pox. It's hard to diagnose over the internet, but your parent or school nurse could probably help.
Sabine
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when someone says "how do you drive a stick?" what does that mean? i know it's related to cars lol but what kind? (link)
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'Stick' means a car with a manual transmission. There's a little stick on either the floor or the steering column and you have to put it in first, second, third, gears, etc. You have to coordinate that with the clutch, which disengages the gears to allow them to safely go to the next higher set. Most cars are automatic trasmissions, which don't need to be shifted manually. So driving a stick is somewhat of a specialized skill.
Sabine
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Lately i've been really ill and i know it's not just a commen cold.
- Feeling dizzy
- Sore throat
- Headaches
- Sneezing
- Tired
- Confused
I just feel really bad. Does anyone know what this is?? (link)
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Could be anything from a sinus infection to leukemia (probably not that, though). You need to see a doctor, since I can't do electronic bloodwork, exams, or x-rays, and since I haven't yet finished (or even started) medical school.
Sabine
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15/f
so i'm a virgin...but i've gotten blisters on my chest and back and not on my genitals, but like on my thighs.
could this be herpes? and i really don't want to ask my mom to take me to the doctor. (link)
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It doesn't sound like herpes, but it could be a million other things. If you don't want to go to the doctor, could you go to the school nurse? There's no way for anyone to tell you what the rash is unless without seeing it.
Sabine
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is there anything that you can do to make your vagina tighter? (link)
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Kegel exercises will help:
ttp://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html
It may not make your vagina tighter (that's usually a matter of how small or large the opening, or introitus is), but the strengthening of the muscles will help you to 'grip' the penis, as it were, and will help with the rhythmic contractions of orgasm. It's shown to help both partners with sexual satisfaction.
Sabine
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My mom won't let me work out anymore. I'm only allowed to work out one hour every OTHER day, which is ridiculous, but she says thats the way its going to be because "I go through too many pairs of clothes." Now I feel that I have nothing to live for. I feel that its hopeless now to even try, so I'm starting to eat alot. I should say goodbye to my thin body and my mind, because working out is all I have in my life. I live for it, it gives me confidence and its a hobby to me. (I have and use an exercise bike.) A good day for me revolves around the fact if I've worked out or not. Should I just give up? Do you think I should explore other work out options? In a few days, should I say something to my mom? She's pretty mad at me right now for no legitimate reason, so do you think in a few days I should sugguest that I do my own laundry so she doesnt have to wash my workout clothes? Or would that make her even madder? I'm falling apart here, I just need some help. (link)
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I suggest that, in a few days, you ask her whether you can talk about the new restrictions on working out. If she says it's not up for discussion or not negotiable, then you have your answer. It's very mature of you to consider helping her with the laundry. Perhaps you could do that anyway, since you seem to be bored and without purpose and your mom seems as though she may be overwhelmed. Can you wear your workout clothes for more than one workout?
Are you being honest with yourself? Is this about laundry and clothes or is it about more than 1 hour of working out per day being considered by your mother to be excessive? Does she think you are too thin or are spending too much time working out? 1 hour every other day seems reasonable to me. Even maybe a on the high side. Plus, don't you get P.E. in school? I think 1 hour three times per week is good. If you need to work out more than that, it sounds like you'll have to fight for it. Tell her it builds your bones, helps you to focus in life, and has been shown to treat and prevent depression and stave off diabetes, heart disease, (add your family history here). If you can justify your requests calmly, most parents will listen.
Good luck.
Sabine
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i used to pluck my eyebrows all the time!!
i havent for about 5 months now.
my eyebrows dont exactly grow along my head, but kinda up upward, like off my head.
PLEASE HELP!!!
if you know anything products or tricks it'd really help! (link)
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queenharts had some good advice. I just thought I'd add that I've seen some stuff that looks like clear mascara that's supposed to be used on eyebrows. I think you can get it at Walgreen's or somewhere like that. It's like gel and can be used on eyebrows. Careful with products that are not meant to go near your eyes, though. They could be irritants. If, for example, you sweat and it drips from your forehead to your eyebrows and into your eyes you could have a problem.
Sabine
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I have been in a relationship this guy for about 9 months. For now he dosent like to use condoms and i dont either. To be honest we only used condoms a couple of times. I just dont like using condoms,however I am on the depo shot, even though we dont use condoms he nutted in me is it still possible that i can get pregnant. I do think he has low sperm count because his sperm is not completely white, its a little clear/white looking but not white, and he doesnt have any kids. However this other dude that i was messing with before he has a baby and his cum is white, so how come his cum is white and my boyfriends cum is clear looking does that mean he cant have children, because i dont have any childen right now. I am a college student, but i want kids in the future probably with him, but i dont know if he can have kids. he has had alot of girlfriends and doesnt have any kids. (link)
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The Depo Provera shot is greater than 99% effective, but that's only if you follow the doctor's instructions and get it on time every time. It doesn't protect you against sexually transmitted diseases, however, and if your man has had a lot of girlfriends, I would suggest that you use condoms. If you won't do that, at least both of you should get tested for STDs. You should not have sex with him at all without a condom unless you are sure that he is 100% exclusive with you. It's not because I'm a prude - it's because STDs can be hidden for years while they make you infertile and predispose you to cancer. You can damage your health in the long-term without feeling any symptoms in the short-term. The other question you had is about his sperm. Sperm color does not indicate a man's fertility. I found this easily on Google:
http://health.ivillage.com/infertility/infertmen/0,,5kwp,00.html
Good luck.
Sabine
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how do i get glue off skin
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It depends on the kind of glue. Usually you can peel it off when it's dry. Super glue is one where you usually just have to wait. If you have questions, the best thing to do would be to call the manufacturer or check out their website.
Sabine
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STORY: My friend Tricia has direct deposit for her paycheck into her bank account. Every month she gets a statement (that tells her what she has taken out as cash, what checks she wrote and the deposits) which is mailed to her home every month. Instead of taking out money for the week she takes out $20 to $25 a day. Yesterday when the statement came Tricias mother helped Tricia reconcile her bank statement and saw that Tricia wasnt taking out for the week but taking out $20 $25 every day. Her mother said; Tricia you have to budget. You really should take out for the week. You are spending more than you make; They argued about it a little bit. Later on Tricia said; mom are you telling me not to buy the jewelry I buy; Her mother replied: no I am not saying that. I am telling you to take out for the week; She told her friends the story and her friends said: Tricia your mother is not saying she doesnt want you to buy the jewelry she just doesnt want you to take out $20 - $25 a day, she wants you to take out for the entire week. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH HER FRIENDS? (link)
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Tricia/Tracy/Daniela and whomever. You have a distinctive way of asking questions with a pattern of introducing a character, telling a story, and then saying that the character asks her friends and 'her friends say ___. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH HER FRIENDS?'
Are Tricia, Tracy, and Daniela all really the author or do you collect your friends' stories of living with their mothers, having problems with budgets, etc., to post? Really, it's no big deal. I'm just pointing out a pattern.
I believe that Tricia's mother told her that she should take out her spending money for the week at one time. She didn't say anything about buying jewelry, according to the transcribed conversation above, until Tricia brought it up. So NO, I don't think Tricia's mom is telling her not to buy jewelry. She is likely *thinking* it, but Tricia seems paranoid and prone to overanalysis and jumping to conclusions. She is reading too much into the conversation and ignoring her mother's main message, which is that Tricia needs to have a budget within her means and to stick to that budget, even if it means not shopping for a day or two if she blows her spending money at the beginning of the week.
When she was directly asked whether she was commenting on the spending on jewelry and the mother said no, this leads me to believe that she was not saying that. Tricia's mother seems to be willing to help with her finances and is telling her about budgeting. If she were concerned about the jewelry purchases in specific, why would she conceal her true message? Take her at face value.
Sabine
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Ok so, I'm starting a debate club at school, I think I have like sixteen people interested, but that number will probably increase by five to ten people. We've never had a debate club at school before, and though I know how a debate is set up, kind of, I have no idea how the teams are made, like will there be 8 people on each side or what? :/
I want people who have been in a debate club to tell me how they did things at school, just so I can get a general idea.
Any tips and advice are nice, but tell me how I set up the teams. Do I have different teams debating different things in groups of four con and four pro, or what?
Oh, and what are any topics you've debated that turned out to be really interesting and informative? (link)
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Hey. Here's a tip. Go to this website:
http://www.nflonline.org/Main/HomePage
The National Forensics League is a formal organization of forensics teams which include debate, acting, speech, poetry reading, dramatic interpretations, etc. It also includes extemporaneous speaking, parliment, and the traditional two-on-two debating style tournaments.
The NFL [not the football league ;)] generally has subjects which are researched by the teams to make arguments both pro and con. There is a formal system as to which team goes first and which arguments are given (introductory or rebuttal, etc).
Some of the best topics of my day OH so long ago, in the 90's, if I remember were bilingual education, immigration control, welfare reform, abortion rights, de-regulation of industries (such as the airline industry or utilities), and education in general. One might, for example, argue the merits of performance-based bonuses given to teachers.
Good luck,
Sabine
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i am an athlete at college and i am bulimic...i also just found out i have a heart murmur...i think its caused by my bulimia...is it pssibl that i might have a heart condtion? (link)
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Bulemia usually causes electrolyte imbalances which lead to arrhythmias and weight loss can weaken the heart muscle. Neither of those causes murmurs. A murmur is a valve problem and MANY, MANY people have them and live their whole lives normally with a murmur. Just get it checked out.
Sabine
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i really want my period how do i get it? (link)
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Physicians have a little saying. In order to make certain things happen, they prescribe 'tincture of time.' What that means is that for some things, the only thing that helps is waiting until it happens. How old are you, honey? I didn't get mine until I was 14. Some people were getting theirs at 10, and I felt so odd being the only girl who hadn't had hers. There are two things you can do to ensure that your period comes when your body is ready. The first is that you can make sure you are not too thin. If you are underweight, your body won't be able to start your period. The other thing you can do is take care of yourself. You should get enough rest and very good nutrition, including plenty of iron, calcium, and protein. Other than that, all you can do is wait. If you reach your 16th birthday and you still haven't had it, you should speak with your doctor. I wish I had the magic words. If I did, I'd turn my own period off. :) I hope it comes for you soon.
Sabine
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i noticed in someone elses questions that you pee and bleed out of a different hole. Im guessing when you have sex its not the blood hole its the pee hole is there anyway it could accidently go in the blood hole. (link)
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Actually, it's the 'blood hole.' The vagina is part of the reproductive system and it's where you have sex and where your uterus is. That's why it's where you bleed, because your period is a function of reproduction. I don't think there's any way the penis could get inside the urethra or pee hole. It's WAY too small.
Sabine
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