Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
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so i'm going out with this guy and he's so cute but he isn't in like any of my classes. But there is this one girl who is in almost all his classes and she is constantly trying to flirt with him, it annoys me so much! & she doesn't do it because she likes him she does it to piss me off and try and make him like her instead of me because we hate eachother. i can't stand it i tryed egnoreing it and stuff but i really just want to beat her up.
what should i do to make her stop trying to flirt with him?
help please.
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The only real way you're going to get her to stop, is to confront her about it. Not in a mean way, just in a calm way.
Just causually go up to her and ask her if you can talk to her for a second ( even if she doesn't want to, then just talk to her right then and there ) and just be like,"Look, ____, I know we hate eachother or whatever and we have our differences, but I really want you to stop flirting with my boyfriend. Whatever happened to us, happened, and that's that, but you don't need to continue trying to make me mad , because I'm done fighting with you and trying to compete over who can piss off the other more." And just talk to her about it and try to settle it.
Also, just talk to your boyfriend about all of this and let him know what you're feeling and everything, and just ask him that whenever she starts to flirt with him, can he either just ignore her, or just be like,"I have a girlfriend, can you stop flirting with me."
I hope I helped.
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what does it mean when a guy says "i would give it to you good"? (link)
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Whenever a guy says "I would give it to you good", he usually means "If we were to have sex, I would give you really good sex", haha.
I hope I helped.
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My best friend, Katie, has liked a guy named Michael for about three or two months. Finally, he asked her out last Saturday. Before that happened, he was flirting with our other friend, Julie. Everyone including me saw that he was flirting with Julie and we all thought we liked her. When I'm with Julie and Katie isn't there, we sometimes see Michael. He flirts with her quite often and it really seems like he likes her. Julie already has a boyfriend and Katie's going out with Michael. Should I wait until it happens again and then talk to Katie about it or do I just try and ignore it? (link)
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I wouldn't ignore it. Think if you were to be dating this guy and he was flirting with your other friends - wouldn't you want to know about it? I'm sure you would.
Plus, keeping it to yourself isn't going to help her any. If she ever does find out that he's doing this, she's going to feel way more hurt than she would now, because the longer they're dating, the more emotionally involved she's going to become, and the more it's going to hurt her in the end. Plus, it's going to hurt her even MORE if she ever found out that you've seen this happen, knew about it, and just let it all happen.
I would just sit down with her and be like,"Katie, I don't know how to tell you this, and I wish I didn't have to, but, the other day whenever you weren't there and me and (so-and-so) and Michael and Julie were all hanging out together, Michael was sort of flirting with Julie alot. I don't know why Michael's doing that, even if he KNOWS that he's flirting with her ( because sometimes guys tend to just think they're being friendly, whereas others take it as flirtng ), but I think you should just talk to him about it and figure out what's going on."
And then be there for her whenever she calls him or talks to him about it, because she is probably going to need a friend to be there for her and support her, cause I'm sure she's going to feel pretty bad.
I hope I helped.
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OKAY..So im 12 and im in the 7th grade.
There is this boy named aaron..he is in the 6th grade he asked me out but there is also this other boy named Ara.He asked me out too.i like them both but i dont know who i should date.btw Ara is in the 8th grade.
I really like them both but Aaron is younger than me..and i dont know is i should date him or Ara.i need some serious help.
love--Sarah
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I think you should ask one to hang out with you one day, and the other to hang out with you the next.
Just try and talk to them and hang out with them and see which treats you nicer, which is funnier, which makes you feel special, which you have more common with and can share interests with. Basically, whichever has the more qualities of what you're looking for in a guy and you think you'd have the best relationship with and less stressful and everything.
Just think of your feelings for both of them at the end of the night, and see whichever guy you think you'd have the best relationship with.
Just remember, you're only 12 - you're going to oodles and oodles of relationships, so just try to have the best time you can and don't stress yourself over all these guys. :)
I hope I helped.
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I've never liked more than one person before. It's always been that way. About 4 weeks ago I broke up with my bf because I knew he liked someone else. So we stayed friends because we were better off friends, and i'm fine with that because I stopped liking him anyway. But now, I started liking this one boy, John, and he's so awesome. Anyway everytime I look at my ex I get the same feeling of liking him, and when I look at John I feel the same thing. It's not like love because love feels better. I've been telling myself I don't like my ex, and I've convinced everyone else that I don't like my ex. The only person I haven't convinced is myself. I'm not sure who I like John, or my ex. Who does it sound like I like? Is John just my rebound boy? HELP! (link)
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John could possibly be just a rebound boy.
Getting over your ex is extremely hard to do, I know, I've been there, and it is really hard to get over them and get all your feelings out of the way. You just really need to think about if it's your ex that you're actually liking here, or just all those good past memories. Cause I remember whenever I was trying to get over my ex, all I could think about was the good times, which kept me liking him.
So I suggest just taking a break from both of the guys ( I mean, still talk to them and everything but just a little less ) and focus on yourself some and just have a good time and find a new hobby maybe or just get into a current interest you have and hang out with your friends. Then after a week or so, whenever, just re-evalute on your feelings. Are your feeling for either guy still really strong not that you've focused on them less?
If you're still really liking your ex, wait it out and see if he still likes that other person you broke up with him for, and maybe let him know you're still having alot of feelings for him, and want to know if he wants to give your relationship another shot. But like I said, it might just sound to me like you like the memories of your ex, because you even said so yourself you stopped liking him anyway, and you're both better off as friends, so that might not even become a good relationship anyways, since you're better friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. So think really hard about your feelings and where you'd want to go with that.
But if you're still feeling things for John, you might just honestly like the guy, and give it a shot, I say. It could be a really great relationship, and it'd help you get your mind of your ex-boyfriend even more, probably. Breaking up is a part of life, and that's why people move on, learn from it, and meet other new people, and this could be the perfect opportunity to do so. Even if John IS a rebound guy, I think you should take a chance with him other than your ex, because like I said you could really later on develop feelings for this guy, and compeltely forget about your ex-boyfriend.
I hope I helped.
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My boyfriend just invited me to a themed party. The theme is "Time Warp" and you have to dress up from a certain time period.
Here's the problem... I have a grand total of 4 hours tomorrow to get together a costume, and I have no clothes other than jeans and t-shirts.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I could dress up that will be easy and relatively inexpensive to find at a mall?
My boyfriend is dressing up 50s style, by the way. (link)
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Some two good, inexpensive ideas are:
Be a hippie. Just grab some flared out jeans, a pair of sandals, and some sunglasses ( not those big kind, though, maybe some of those rounded ones ). Since halloween's so close, so many stores'll probably have wigs ( or you could just wave your hair yourself ) and peace medallions and all sorts of stuff and you could find a tie-dye t-shirt anywhere. And just do your makeup really cute and maybe draw a flower or a peace symbol on your cheek.
Or even be a 50's girl with your boyfriend, to be a matched couple thing. Just find a blouse laying around your house or a normal, plain colored t-shirt, and then find a skirt you can wear that's semi-longish to your knees that can flare out ( you know, you can spin in and everything ), and then just find a scarf that you can tie up in your hair, or around your neck. And if you have these kind of shoes laying around in your attic that your mom saved:
http://i8.ebayimg.com/01/i/02/17/c1/b8_2.JPG
You can wear those, or even current day plain colored flats would do just fine.
I hope I helped!
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ok well my friends house burned down and i was wondering how i could raise money for him or something. anything helps. thanks
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You could have a bucket or something and walk around with it and talk to people, or make an announcement about it on the morning announcements letting them know about the "Friends Fighting Fire" ( I don't know, whatever you want to call it haha ), and that you're trying to raise as much money as possible to help him out, and if they could please come to you and give you money, it'd be greatly appreciated.
You could also have car washes, walk people's dogs, just do any chores you can around the house, and maybe talk to his other friends too to try and get them in on it. The more hands, the better, right?
And you guys could all each have your own area in your own neighborhoods to take care of all the baby sitting or duties you have to fulfill so you'll get alot more people, and alot more cash for him.
I hope I helped, and good luck!
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well i started to get over my girlfriend but me and her jus cant stop flirtin and starin into each other's eyes. i love her soo much still and i kno that she loves me too but she still wont get back with me bcuz she said she doesnt wanna go thru all tha arguin. wat can i do to get back wit her? (link)
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Just sit down with her, call her, whatever makes you feel most comfortable and easiest to talk to her with, and just explain to her that you really like her alot ( or even use the word love ), and that you've changed and whatever happened between the two of you is in the past, and now you want to focus on the future with her.
And just let her know that you're going to work on arguments, and if she makes enough of an effort not to argue, you'll do the same. You both just need to take deep breaths whenever you feel yourselves getting upset and ready to say something you know you'll regret later. And instead of yelling it to eachother, just talk in calm tones and let eachother say what they have to say and get their feelings out, and then just try your best and resolve it. If you guys love eachother enough ( and I'm sure you both do ) you'll give your relationship other chances and want to fix it.
I hope I helped.
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well my b/f and i have been going out for a week or two and all we have done is hugged. i want it to move a little faster. what should i do? (link)
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Well it is only been a week since you two have been dating, so he might just be nervous to take it a step further, and even if he did, he might be afraid you wouldn't want to do that, and that he made a mistake in trying.
Maybe slowly just ease into it. During school, whenever you guys are going to seperate classes, just maybe give him a peck on the cheek every now and then too before you leave.
And then the next time you two are hanging out, just go over and give him a peck on the lips! :) And once he knows that you're ready to kiss him, then everything should just fall into place. You don't always want to rush too fast. Also, guys like it sometimes whenever the girl makes the first move instead. :]
I hope I helped.
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what exactly is Photobucket? (link)
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Photobucket is a site where people can just create an account, and upload as many pictures as they want for their use.
Like for me, I love to take photography, so I have a photobucket account just for my photography pictures.
You can make several albums for friends, icons, whichever to make it more organized, and you can also choose if you want to keep your album private, so nobody can look at it, or public so all your friends and everybody can look at it.
It's sort of like one big photo album that provides links for you to send the pictures to people and post them on myspace or whatever website you want.
I hope I helped.
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my friends say that i look like a guy that they could take home to meet there family is that a good thing or a bad thing (link)
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That's a good thing. They're basically just saying you're a good guy, and they wouldn't be embarassed or worried of you meet their family or anything, like they might be with some of their other friends. So believe me, be happy that you're a guy people could take home to meet the family. :) I hope I helped.
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i love doin lil romantic stuff for my girl. i give her notes, got her a necklice, gave her my jacket, kiss her on the cheek when she doesnt expect it, whats some more romantic stuff i can do for her. I love doin it, it makes me so happy to make her smile and laugh so if you got any good ideas id love it (link)
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Awww.
Just compliment her alot, tell her she's beautiful and everything, hold her hand alot, and just hug her and cuddle with her and do at that cute stuff.
Another thing that might be cute is give her a rose during school whenever she's least expecting it.
Another thing I read in a magazine that some guy did for his girlfriend was he had her come over to his house and whenever she got there there was a balloon and a letter attached inside saying to follow all the balloons and every balloon had a little note on what he likes about her and everything wether it be her personality or her eyes or her laugh, her smile, whatever. And then as she kept walking towards the basement ( where he was ) she kept finding more and more until she was right outside the basement door and all along the wall were like 20 letters at once and each thing about her was on the outside of the envelopes like one would say "eyes", another "smile", another "jokes", another "kisses", everything. And then she opened the door to him and he was sitting there, playing a song he wrote for her on guitar ( but if you don't play that, you standing there with roses I'm sure would do ).
Or maybe if you know her homeroom or something, just leave a teddy bear sitting on her desk in homeroom ( cause believe me, I'm sure she's not in a great mood cause she's tired and everything ) so I'm sure that'd really brighten up her morning and everything.
:)
I think it's so sweet of you to want to do stuff like that for her.
I hope I helped.
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Ok so I'm a freshamn and there's a kid in my gym class. He's cute and he always stares at me. Like a lot!. I think he likes me nd he's a really shy person. How can I get him 2 talk to me without looking stupid. Please don't say to ask him for what time it is...I don't think he carries a watch lol help (link)
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The best thing I could probably think of doing is just talking to him about whatever's going on in gym. Try to get on the team he's playing, and maybe just ask him how to do this thing, or where do you go after you kick the ball and whatnot, just to get the conversation flowing.
And then after he "helps" you out, just be like,"Haha, thanks. This game is alot of fun, but I'm always forgetting what to do. Do you like it?" And then just carry on a conversation as best as you can about gym and then maybe carry on to other subject such as school in general and what teachers does he have, are any the same as yours, did he take that test on monday, etc.
I hope I helped.
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Hey my question is about my boyfriend. weve been goin out for 4 months and ive met his parents but he hasnt introduced me to his friends. should i be worried about this? i dunno. I always thought friends were a big part of a guys life. (link)
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Yes, friendds are a big part of a guys life, but there could be tons of reasons why he might not want you meeting them.
Sometimes, guys just like to keep some things seperate. He might be worried if his guy friends meet you, one of them might wind up liking you, and that'd obviously make things bad. He also just might be worried that if you become friends with them, you'll always be hanging out, and guys need their "guy time", you know? Just like girls need their girl time.
He also just might be plain embarassed. His friends might talk dirty, or be gross, or.. be guys, lol. And he just might be afraid you're not going to like them at all, and you'll not want him hanging out with them anymore.
Or he might be afraid they won't like you. Do you have anyone you're not currently fond of, that has similiar feelings? It may be one of his friends, and he might be worried the two of you will cause conflict, and want him to choose between the two of you or something.
Like I said, there's a million reasons why he might not. He also just might not find you meeting his guy friends such a big deal and not that important. Girls tend to find these things of great importance and really special when in a relationship, but most guys don't think that way.
I mean, he did have you meet his parents, so that's obviously showing really great signs of your relationship and that he's really digging you alot which is great!
If you really want to know, try asking him about it and talk to him about it, but I really don't think it's that big of a deal. Maybe just suggest to him,"Hey, I want to meet these guys you're always talking about and hanging out with, they sound like really cool guys. :)" Or something like that.
I hope I helped.
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Okay here's the thing, I hate my "best friend". hate her. I blame her for almost all my misery (even though i know it's wrong, so you don't have to tell me that.. because it wont make a difference, i still need to get her out of my life!) the more I hang out with her, the more I become her..and I hate myself now. I stuck with her cause I felt sorry for her, she's kinda pathetic.. (wow i know how bad that sounds, i know im a terrible friend.. but i just.. i dont know) anyways, i stuck with her, even started in her class, and because of that (no one really likes her) ive become one of those poeple who arent really in the class, its like me and her are our own little group and the rest of the class is a group.. now im used to being popular, having friends etc because that's what makes me happy! im sick of being just me and her! and she kinda pisses me off, everything she says annoys me.. but since it's been going on for 2 years. I can't stop. I'm stuck.. like, it's been me and her for two years, so i cant just stop hanging out with her, and start being with the rest of my class, that will look so weird!! and we've beend oing all class projects and everything together, so it's ALWAYS me and her.. ugghhh i HAAATE IT! its easy for me to make friends, i could easily become a part of the class if she would just leave, burt with her, im stuck. it just won't work! like you dont understand, its gotten to the point were ive been skipping school for weeks now because i dont wanna be with her, she makes me miserablee.. but i have no choice, i cant even change schools, trust me ive looked in to it.. so what do i do?? PLEASE HELP. im becoming more and more like it, i can tell, and i hate it.. (link)
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Well you're right, just suddenly breaking off from her would seem strange and it'd hurt her feelings alot, I'm sure, so just slowly over time start to inch away from her more and more.
During class projects, tell her you're sorry, but you already promised someone else you'd be their partner for this project, maybe another time.
And just whenever the two of you are hanging out, start trying to get her to meet new people herself so maybe she will too start to drift off and meet other people.
I don't think it's necessairly that you hate her either ; I mean she's been your best friend for two years, like the others said, you're probably just getting annoyed by her. Being around someone all the time can get quiet annoying, believe me. That's why sometimes I take "me" time myself and tell my friends no cause I want a break from people myself.
Maybe even try takling to her about it. Best friends should be able to talk about anything with eachother and understand, right? Just mention to her that in your classes together, you've noticed that she sort of doesn't socialize with the other people, and why is that? They're lots of nice people in that class to hang out with and talk to, and it's always great to meet new people and make new friends! And just show her how fun it is, and maybe she'll follow your advice, and start doing so.
So like I said, just slowly start to hang out with your other friends more, and she'll start to catch on and hopefully do the same with her. That's the problem with best friends sometimes is they get too "clingy", I guess you'd call it and it gets majorly annoying. But also, think of it as a compliment in some sort of way. Obviously she likes you alot and thinks you're fun to hang out with and everything, so that says alot for you!
I hope I helped.
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my boyfriend and i had a fight last night- i was mad at him and this morning i got a text asking: is this it? is this over? wat should i say? i dunno if he wants to im so confuzed plz help! (link)
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Well, I don't think he wants it to be over, if he's asking. If he wanted to end it with you, he would've already done it. I think he just wants to know if YOU want it to be over or not.
If you really don't, just text him back and be like,"Of course not! I don't want it to be over at all, fights happen between couples, but they grow closer from them when they make up. :)" Or something like that, and just let him know you don't want it to at all.
Trust me ; all relationships have their feuds, they're never perfect, but little fights should never result in breaking up! If you two like eachother enough, just try and talk it out rather than fighting and give other second chances and whatnot. :)
I hope I helped.
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Is it wrong to go for my ex-boyfriends cousin? They're actually step cousins but also very close. My boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago (it was a serious relationship) and he always thought I liked his cousin. I admit I had an innocent crush but now, I've started to have major feelings. What should I do, because I don't want my ex to think I'm easy or I lied to him about it. (18/f) (link)
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Well the point of breaking up is for two people to move on, meet other people, and see what's other there, and that's exactly what you're doing. There's nothing you're doing that's making you seem "easy" you're just going after a guy you're interested in, that's all.
I would just talk to your ex-boyfriend about it just to make sure he's fully okay with it and see his feelings on it ( even though he really has no say in the matter ). Just explain to him,"Remember how I admitted to you I had slight feelings for your cousin? Well, lately, they've seem to develop into stronger feelings, and I was just wondering if it you're alright with me asking him out on a date."
Or even just let him know of your feelings for his cousin and let him know you're going to ask him out. Like I said, he can't really stop you or anything and you're not lying to him ( you're telling the truth ) and, you're not being easy, so nothing's wrong with it. But it's just best to be nice and polite about it and talk to your ex-boyfriend about it first.
I hope I helped.
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I'm sorry this is so long, but it's a pretty complicated situation.
Okay, so when my boyfriend and I first starting dating...there was this girl that really liked him and wanted to be with him. My boyfriend told her that he wasn't interested because he was with me and that they just needed to be friends. Well I called him one night and he was somewhere with her 'talking about it in person.' I didn't really think anything of it, and I just forgot about it. Well then he said that they didn't really talk anymore, but she was still texting him and stuff. Well one night my boyfriend and I were together and she kept calling him...still. So I started worrying about it again and I checked his text messages and apparently they had been hanging out still. He had texts from her saying 'Will you drive tonight?' blah blah. I didn't say anything about it because I was ashamed that I had looked through his text messages. Well last night I called him and she was at his house at 11 PM. I didn't overreact at first until I found out that they were in his room. I was mad because he knew I wouldn't be comfortable with that and he still let her come over.
He said that she came over at 11 PM to wish him a happy late birthday and that they were in his room because she was checking her myspace, but it turns out she doesn't even have one.
I'm especially upset because his story doesn't make sense and I know if the tables were turned, he'd be pissed off at me. I don't know what to do. I know we need to talk about it, but I need to know a calm way to do it because I'm very tempermental. What do I say?
18/f. We've only been together for 4 months. (link)
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I don't think you're overreacting at all. If I were you in this situation, I'd probably be feeling all the feelings you have right now.
I would just take deep calm breaths and sit down with him privately where you guys can talk. I'd would just be like,"____, I know you might get upset at this, but I think we need to talk about it and clear this whole situation up. I went through your text messages the other day, which is wrong, I know and I feel horrible about it, but I've been noticing you're still talking to ______ and hanging out with her. Why feel the need to talk to her and hang out with her behind my back? I don't care if you too hang out together or anything, but it just hurts that you've been lying to me all this time and you know how uncomfortable I am with you and her being alone together in your room at around midnight. This is really worrying me, and I really want to know what's going on. It sounds to me like you two could be doing more than just hanging out, because it seems suspicious, but I'm just getting really worried and upset about this all."
And like I said, he might get upset over the fact that you went through his text messages and everything, but you have the right to be upset also. He went behind your back, hung out with this girl that you're uncomfortable with, and lied.
And just everytime you feel yourself starting to get more and more upset, just take a pause, take really deep breaths, maybe even bring a tissue with you ( so you can rip it up as your talking to release your anger in SOME way so it's not all bottled up ).
I hope I helped.
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Hey whats up.
ok well see's there's this boy and ive liked him for eight years now and he's my BEST LIKE SISTER BEST FRIEND's older brother. yeh so about three years ago we got into a fight. and he has bi polar so its reall hard to communicate with him. but anyways now were all fine and stuff but ive liked him sooooooooooooooooo muchhh for eight years like i was there when the kid lost his virginty so yeh i know alot about him and ive waited soo long like the kid has like freaking has turning points of when he wants to like me or not so yeh idno wat to do .. wait for him longer or give up.
PLEASE HELP!
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I know you don't want to probably, but I suggest trying your best to give up. I don't want to sound discouraging or anything, but I'm just thinking of what'd it'd be like for you two to be in a relationship together.
Like you said, he gets all these turning points of when he'll like you or not, one minute he's in a good mood, the next he's not. I think the relationship between the two of you would probably become very stressful and sad on your part, because of the times when he wouldn't like you, and some things you might say might randomly upset him. It'd be very stressing, I'm sure, and that's not a healthy relationship at all.
Unless, does he take medication to help his disorder? Some people with bipolar disorder go and take medicine ; some people called "mood stabilizers", and it helps them control their moods a little better, and it just helps them. If he is taking some medicine though, I think you could try and give it a shot then, because you never know ; it could be a great relationship, and it'd probably be less stressful and worrying for you.
But I assume from the way you've said he has turning points and freaks out and everything that he's not using medication, so I might want to try your best and let him go.
I hope I helped.
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my mum is really annoying!! like shes ALWAYS make little sarcastic comments, like i do use sarcasm but not ones that get people really annoyed like look at this wot she said on msn (bcoz we have our own computers we talk on msn):
me:
when r u going out?
my mum:
in a bit
me:
how long?
my mum:
bout 12inches
my mum:
LOL
me:
seriously how long
my mum:
in a bit
me:
how long is a bit?
my mum:
hang on ill get a ruler
my mum:
LOL
me:
how long??!??
my mum:
bout 10 minz
nd it really gets on my nerves!! bcoz its every since she met her boyfriend nd he's even worse so im up in my room nearly all day 2 try nd aviod it coz i get it all day long!! (link)
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Haha wow, I've never had my mom say that to ME. I'd be avoiding her too if I was you. Anyways.
I think you should just sit down with your mom and explain to her how it's starting to just get on your nerves whenever she makes these type of sarcastic comments to you. It's not that you have a problem with them dating or anything, you're glad they are, but it's just uncomfortable for a daughter to hear her mother making these kinds of jokes with her, and could she please be on a somewhat more serious level whenever the three of you are all together.
I mean she IS your mother, I'm sure she'll understand. If she once thinks back to whenever she was your age, I doubt she'd want her mother making types of sarcastic comments like these.
I hope I helped.
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