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I've never liked more than one person before. It's always been that way. About 4 weeks ago I broke up with my bf because I knew he liked someone else. So we stayed friends because we were better off friends, and i'm fine with that because I stopped liking him anyway. But now, I started liking this one boy, John, and he's so awesome. Anyway everytime I look at my ex I get the same feeling of liking him, and when I look at John I feel the same thing. It's not like love because love feels better. I've been telling myself I don't like my ex, and I've convinced everyone else that I don't like my ex. The only person I haven't convinced is myself. I'm not sure who I like John, or my ex. Who does it sound like I like? Is John just my rebound boy? HELP!
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okay so you broke up with your b/f b/c you found out he liked someone else. and you did the right thing b/c your boyfriend should like you and only you. it sounds like you & your b/f have been together are a while then?. if so, then its gonna be hard to get over him right away...but you are gonna see the day when you know for a fact you are over him and you DONT like him more then a friend one bit. give yourself time. and dont rush things with john. talk to him and stuff still..but dont make an effort to go out right away if you know you need to get over someone else. so relax and take your time. you'll get over him.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
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John could possibly be just a rebound boy.
Getting over your ex is extremely hard to do, I know, I've been there, and it is really hard to get over them and get all your feelings out of the way. You just really need to think about if it's your ex that you're actually liking here, or just all those good past memories. Cause I remember whenever I was trying to get over my ex, all I could think about was the good times, which kept me liking him.
So I suggest just taking a break from both of the guys ( I mean, still talk to them and everything but just a little less ) and focus on yourself some and just have a good time and find a new hobby maybe or just get into a current interest you have and hang out with your friends. Then after a week or so, whenever, just re-evalute on your feelings. Are your feeling for either guy still really strong not that you've focused on them less?
If you're still really liking your ex, wait it out and see if he still likes that other person you broke up with him for, and maybe let him know you're still having alot of feelings for him, and want to know if he wants to give your relationship another shot. But like I said, it might just sound to me like you like the memories of your ex, because you even said so yourself you stopped liking him anyway, and you're both better off as friends, so that might not even become a good relationship anyways, since you're better friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. So think really hard about your feelings and where you'd want to go with that.
But if you're still feeling things for John, you might just honestly like the guy, and give it a shot, I say. It could be a really great relationship, and it'd help you get your mind of your ex-boyfriend even more, probably. Breaking up is a part of life, and that's why people move on, learn from it, and meet other new people, and this could be the perfect opportunity to do so. Even if John IS a rebound guy, I think you should take a chance with him other than your ex, because like I said you could really later on develop feelings for this guy, and compeltely forget about your ex-boyfriend.
I hope I helped.
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Getting over someone is one of the hardest things in the world to do, especially if it was a serious relationship. If you want to persue a relationship again with your ex, you should wait it out, and John is probably a rebound. If not, you are probably recovering, and honestly do like this boy. I would advise you to wait it out a bit longer.
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