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Q: I really like this guy. But he's too shy to ask me out and I have to ask him if I was this to work. How do I ask him out? What should I say?

just start out slow and ask him if he wants to go see a movie sometime or go out for a casual dinner
good luck-

Q: I get embarressed so easily! i cant help it! if something just a little bit bad happens to me i get so embarresed! are there any ways i can help this bad habbit? thanx! i rate high!

always smile and laugh it off like it didn't bother you at all...that way people will be like o okay shes okay with it and they wont feel sorry for you

Q: OMG. I know this girl who smokes weed and I try to tell her to stop but she totally keeps on doing it. The only reason she does it though is to be cool but when I try to tell her that it's not cool, she hits me with a soda can! HELP!!

wow- i think youve done just about all you can do to help her.. she doesnt sound like a very nice person so i would just ignore her and let her be (it was nice of you to try to help her, but its not ur fault that you couldn't get through to her)
good luck-

Q: I'm a 19/f and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend 22/f of 1 year. He himself is not a virgin and has had I think it was 3 partners in the past. There have been recent reported cases of HVI infections in our area. Well, I was always taught to treat everyone as if they had the virus because you never know who might actually have it. They probably don't even know. So, as a precaution I want to ask him to get tested. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't lose my virginity to him. I'm just afraid that he'll take it as if I don't trust him. I know it's a smart decision but I just don't know how to approach the subject. And, if he agrees to it then I will go with him and get tested also. Any opinions/advice is appreciated.

I think your being very smart and responsible to get him tested and get tested yourself. It would be a shame if you ended up getting the virus- don't chance it, it's really not worth it. Hopefully he'll understand where you're coming from
good luck-

Q: I was looking at a website and they said to make your skin look better to exfoliate your skin. What exactly is exfoliating and how do I do that?

its to remove the top, dry layer of your skin-
you can do it by buying just a regular exfoliator (feels like sand against ur skin) at any super-market..a popular teenage brand is clean & clear and it works really well
good luck-

Q: Hey guyz! I REALLY NEED HELP BAD
i really NEED to shave my legs but i dont know how to ask my mom! I really NEED HELP
plz help me

-Needin Help B A D

just be like "hey mom i really wanna start shaving my legs, can you help me out" im sure she'll understand and respect you for coming to her first and not just starting with out consulting her first
(if you're over 12-she should be okay with it, if not all you can do is wait)
good luck-

Q: Okay, I'm just a bit curious. Everybody thinks cutting is so freakishly horrible and everything. Well in all honesty, I don't see the harm in it unless you're making cuts deep enough for stitches or something. Otherwise, you may have a mark or a scar - but no real damage done..? When I get extremely upset - it usually helps calm me down, in a BIG way. What is all the hype about..?

umm... Your HURTING YOURSELF!!! you really need to stop this habbit...if it wasnt that bad then why would everybody be saying it is?
please get some help
on degrassi- ellie started wearing a rubber band around her wrist and just snapped it to her wrist? maybe that would be a better way of relieving your stress
GOOD LUCK- (seriously)

Q: Sometimes my friends treat me badly and i think they are talking behind my back. The thing is that i've told them they leave me out all the time but all they say is sorry. Sometimes they can be soooooo nice. other times they can be not so nice. What should i do???

doesn't sound like theyre really your friends-sorry
try joining a club so you can find new friends who are interested in the same things you are
good luck-

Q: I like this guy and he used to always look at me when i wasn't looking. When I turned we gazed into each other's eyes for a milisec. But now he doesn't really do that anymore. He knows that I like him because his sister told him. My friend likes him too, but he doesn't like her (thank god) lol. She doesn't really like him anymore, but whatever. I just want to get to know him and stuff like that, but I get a vibe thats like weird. I can talk to him, but I'm afraid of his reaction. He is also "talking" to another girl (I overheard him talking on the bus) Should I even bother liking him, but i still want to get to know him. I don't know what to do? Please help, I rate high.
~Linda

If he already knows you like him, then thats about all YOU can do...HE must make the next move
I'm sorry to say- but if he hasnt responded to you liking him and returned those feelings then it doesn't look so good
good luck-

Q: About a year ago when i was 14 my best friend and i were kinda role playing when she would sleep over and i just felt so comfortable touching eachother and i enjoyed it sooo much! But now she thinks it's gross and i don't know how to approch any other gurl because it's really fun. It's like girls know what feels good to them so they do it to their partner. i don't think i'm lez because i like guys and have a bf but i enjoy doing sexual things wit girls and i can't take my eyes off their bodies in the locker rooms and stuff. what should i do?

having a b/f doesnt mean your straight.. if you are lesbian then thats fine if you accept yourself..it sounds like your confused right now so think things out
Not knowing from personal experience, I would wait to do anything with another girl, you might regret it if your feelings change
good luck-

Q: Hey there! Im 13 and i kno i have a HUGE weight problem and i admit it!!! I live in such a small town with nothing to do!!! I skate to skool and bak (And becuz my house is out of my skool boundarie it is pretty far, i skate pretty far) but im still over weight and i try to watch what i eat and only drink diet soda and water but i sit on the computer alot and i need help!!!
Thanx in advance!!!

well it sounds like your dedicated so i have faith in you :)
keep up your 'diet' and be aware of what you are eating
for exercise- since just skating is not working, try doing more at home..swimming really helps tone your body overall, or just make a promise to do 20 sit-ups every morning and every night before you go to bed
good luck-

Q: theres this kid in my school (one year older) that last year asked me out..at the moment i didnt "truley" like him..but i kind of did. but i still said no. then this year came by and we became really close friends, and now im starting to like him..but he doesnt feel the same way? did i already lose my chance? waht should i do?

I RATE WELL=)

yes, unfortunately he has moved on..and now the only thing you can do is move on too
just try to keep up the good friendship in the meantime
good luck-

Q: as a 14 year old girl are you suppose to shave your pubes?

i think that would be a personal decision..

Q: I am a 34 C cup size. Im really skinny though. I actually wear one of the smallest pant size like size 1. I dont know what do do about a bathing suit. Their all to small.

are the bottoms just too small?
just get your top in a bigger size than your bottoms if your getting a bikini
good luck-

Q: 14/m
what are ways that i can pull my girlfriend aside from all our friends and get our first kiss? like what are ideas that i can do? what are things that i can bring up the romantic event once i pull her aside?
Background: she has been getting annoyed with me for absolutly no apparent reason, sometimes just because im around-we go to the same school, and are in the same classes, and hang around the same group of friends. sometimes i get the impression that she gets annoyed whenever i pull her aside for a while just to cuddle with her, or talk by ourselves, its like she thinks i am hogging her from everyone, when really its just some of our friends are so obsessive with her (they are almost all girls, we have like 2 or 3 other guy friends) and they (a few girls) like obessess with her and shit. so how can i pull her aside without her thinking im trying to hog her to myself?? thanks for the help!

well obviously she doesn't like when you pull her away when shes with her friends...so learn from that and dont do it again

go to the movies with JUST her or something else fun where yall can be alone and there wont be any other friends there
^then you wont have to PULL her aside yall will already be alone ;)
good luck-

Q: i have these excessive sweating problems under the armpits. i've heard this person say that you should apply babypowder over your antipersperant but that doesn't work for me at all and it makes that part look nasty cuz the stuff bunches up. anyway i just went to main drug mart *i'm canadian* and i only brought about 20 bucks with me and told them and they recommended drysol but they were all really expensive so i could only afford to get the mild one which says "aluminum chloride hesahydrate 6.25% w/v in anhydrous ethanol" and i don't know what that means. i sweat alot alot even if i'm not doing anything that usually makes you sweat so do you think mild would be okay to stop the sweating or should i get the stronger one? sry for the length i really need help on this.thanks in advanice

well first try the mild and if it works great!
then- i would try the stronger one
if that doesn't work, there are surgeries you can get done
good luck-

Q: Hey i'm a 16/f and tomorrow's my last day of school. Soo i was wondering what are some things my friends and I can go out and do over the summer? Any advice is greatly appreciated! And thANKS!

one word- ROADTRIP!! its a really good way to bond and go on an adventure together
have fun!

Q: What is the biggest beauty secret?

confidence

Q: For my Spanish class we have to write a 28 page book (with pictures of course) Kindergarten-6th grade, we have to choose. So, which age group do you think would be best for the project, and what do you think would be fun and interesting to read if you were a kid? Thanks..

definitely lower than 2nd grade because all other grades will just laugh and not pay attention to you..but 2nd and lower love having visitors

look at all the other stories they read (fairy tales) make a book similar to those
good luck-

Q: My boyfriend and I gave our virginity to eachother ( im 14 he 16) and the way we slept together was we snuck out of the house. I got caught and now I am grounded until June 18 now we got caught on April 25 and ever since then he was acting really weird like he didnt like me anymore and everything else but before april 25 we did it 4 times before that. and he acted fine but the thing is he didnt even get in trouble for sneaking out and hes acting really really really weird. like I talked to him about how he's changing and he said he doesnt know whats going on. so i asked him if he's still interested and he said "i guess so" then the next day i asked him do you want to be with me and he didnt answer then we almost broke up but we didnt and then i said to him i need you to be more affectionate and he said no. and hes not going to change or even try to.

This is very confusing but for people who understand me tell me. Should I break up with him? and what is wrong with him!!

I WILL RATE 5'S!! JUST PLEASE HELP ME!!

I know it will be hard because you lost something very dear to you for him...but it doesnt sound like your really that important to him... it sounds like he'll only be okay if yall are having sex..which shouldn't be what the relationship is about
good luck-