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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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Im a girl, i dont have a girlfriend or a boyfriend and as i said before, im not 100% sure im gay. The problem is, everytime my parents or anyone else mentions guys or me dating, i start to feel realy sick and feel like im lying to them. What should i do coz' i don't want to say nothing but how can i maybe make myself feel better?

It makes you feel uncomfortable talking to your parents about things like that. I don't feel confortable talkign to my parents baout anyhting really unless it is school or something. I used to get nervous all the time to. The best way to know what kind of people you want to date is to find someone you like and hang out with them. If you feel uncomfortable around guys and like to hang out with more girls. And if you don't really think about guys in a way then you will know. Sometimes it helps to take a couple of days off and go on vacation or to a place where you can think and you will figuare out what you really what. People who don't know what they want need to get away form all the distractions to figuare it out and whatever you decide i am sure your family will understand. You have to feel that communication and when you do then it is the time to tell them what is going on.

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if i go to a cheap nail place, how much does it usually cost to get fake nails put on? and also around how long do they stay on?

It costs between 25-30 ddollars to put them on then it is 15 after that to get them filled. They usualy last 2 months if you dont break any in the process. I had nails down for homecoming and they lasted til prom. I had to get them done a different color but they were still on.

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i had an MRI done & it turns out i have a chronic ankle sprain. i looked it up on google but it did not give me much information. i don't meet with my doctor until november. has anyone ever had this?? what did you do about it?? i've had it since june & it hurts a lot. i can't go out for more than an hour or two without it being tired. it feels like its hanging on by a string & is really weak. i've started therapy, but it didn't help too much. that's when i went & got the MRI done. anyone have any ideas??

thanks!!

This typically occurs when the ankle is suddenly "twisted" in a sports activity or by stepping off an uneven surface. The pain is initially severe and can be associated with a "popping" sensation. Immediate swelling over the area of injury often occurs as the injured blood vessels leak fluid into the local tissue. Partial tears retain some ankle stability, whereas complete tears lose stability because the strapping ligaments no longer brace the ankle joint.

Initial treatment is with ice, rest, and limiting the amount of walking and weight bearing on the injured ankle. The leg can be elevated to reduce swelling,

It just measn that you hurt a little and the best way to treat it is with cool stuff or the list above. It isn't anything to worry about.

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Can a 7-11 sell a minor (15 to be exact) the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition?

They can if you get consent from your parents, if not then no.

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I'm going camping next weekend, and my brothers best friend is coming home from college for a visit as well. Well i've always had quite a crush on him, and I've missed him a lot over the time he's been at college, and i'm just wondering... should I tell him how I feel? I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, and everybody in my family thinks he likes me, but I don't know. I'm 14 by the way, and he's 18. I don't want to hear about the age difference thing, just about if I should tell him how I feel, and how.

You guys seem like you guys like each other. The best thing is to just tell him how you feel because if you don't it will eat you up inside and you will just wonder what would have happened if I would have told him I liked him. You will feel so much better if you tell him.

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Ok so theres this guy i like. We talk all the time at school. I want to ask him to hang out without sounding too desperate or clingy. We have none of the same friends. Any advice? :)

Find something you have in common with him. Find a moment to tell him something interesting about that hobby and ask him if he wants to go. Maybe like a concert or a specific movie that you both would like. That way you sound like you just want to hang out and not sound like your clinging or anything.

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Okay, I know that every guy is different and it's difficult to tell whether they really like you or are just like that naturally. But I really need to know about this guy because I'm so confused on them and I'm afraid that he may break my heart later on.

Anywhos:
This guy who is a senior(i'm a junior)is really nice, funny, and friendly. I somtimes see him looking at me across the lunch table, but then I'm not sure if he was looking at me. Then at a little school thing (it's where some bands from the school come and perform and people come to watch and socialize and whatever) he came and I automatically began flirting with him although I don't mean to(I just act like myself and I guess my friends consider that flirting?) and he has this flirt radar on him so he probably knew. He picked me up once although he dropped me (but than I wasn't holding on as he started spinning) and he denied that I was heavy (although I think I am but then he told me not to say that) and we arm wrestled, played the hand game slide, and some other hand game and he (i think jokingly) looked at me like a boy with a crush on a girl when we were just sitting across the table and it was kind of akward so I think I looked away (I dont know why or if I even did). Anywhos and before he left, he gave me a hug and picked me up a little and left...does it sound like he likes me or not?

I know that it was really long but can you please help me out? And please don't say "Just ask him then you'll know" or any direct confrontation ooorr getting together alone since my mom thinks I'll get stoned or something. So whatever you guys say, remember that I will not do any direct confrontation & if you guys will say something about getting together alone, I can't and will have to have friends with me

Most guys that go to extremes to be noticed like you described means he likes you. Usually when a guy hugs you and picks you up is a good sign that he likes you. I am thinking he is one of those types that think about the girl they like all the time and look at them constantly so they are reminded of what they like. The best thing is if you like him go for him before it is to late.

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okay so, i just got back from vacation almost 3 week tomorrow. So when i got back i weighed myself. 125.5. During my presence back at home i've been eating less just a fruit for breakfast but then i've eaten alot of lunch and dinner. a little bit less then normal. Last night i weighed myself i weighed 119.5, i've lost about 6 pounds in 3 weeks, non-diet. is that normal? also there are little bumps around my armpits area like pimples sort. please tell me whats happening. i've also been having diahhrea.

Well eating alot of fruit makes you have the diahrea. It is completely normal to lose weight when you eat less. Everyone gets those pimple like things under their arms. They are hairs but if you go into walmart and buy what looks like a soap holder that have spiky things on them you use that to get rid of them. Most people if there is something seriously wrong they lose up to 10 to 15 pounds per week. So you have nothing to worry about.

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This is something I've been wondering about...

My parents don't allow me to date until I'm well over the age of 16, and don't allow boys to call, or anything like that.

The only place I am safe from their constant watching is at school.

What is a good way to keep a relationship, in highschool, on the DL?

I was thinking "bathroom breaks", or taking a different way to class, etc etc.

15, female.

Well usually when you want to keep a relationship a secret you tell your friends you are talking to a friend. Or have one of your friends call and then your fmaily thinks you are talking to your friend. So hurry up and hang up and call the guy. They assume that you are talking to your friend so they don't seem to concerned. You can hang out with the guy at school. As for going out in public just say you are going to movies or something with a friend. Or double date and have only your friend waiting outside the theater, that way they don't see the two guys.

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Okay me & my boydfriend have been going out since 9/22. The relationship is great, we both love each other and everything.

But, when we makeout .. He moves his tongue way y too fast. I just want to tell him to slow down! I don't actually want to tell him verbally, how do I give him a sign to slow down while we kiss?

There isn't an exact way you can hint something like that without actually telling him. Why not try and slowly kissing him and maybe he will get the hint by doing that. When his tongue goes to fast you just go with the flow but if you slow down he may catch on to it.

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There is a Taking back Sunday song that i wanna know what it is...
Here are some of the lyrics...

the truth is that you could slit my throat and with my last gasping breath id apologize for bleeding on your shirt

I found this website that shows all of their songs and the lyrics that go with them. I couldn't find the lyrics that you wrote down but if you look at the website maybe you will have better luck than me. http://www.azlyrics.com/t/taking.html

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there is this guy who i am pretty sure likes me he tried to convince me to go to homecoming but i decided not to go because i chickened out and i don't know what to do on monday when i have to face him because i said i would go and now i am not. also i think i like him to. please help!!!

Just simply tell him that you decided you didn't want to go but maybe you guys can do something else. Why not invite him to go somewhere else. If you like him then you should go for him. If he truly likes you he won't be mad but he will convince you to go to other things. Just talk to him and get to know him so you won't chicken out the next time he wants you to go to a dance. If you continue to talk to him more and more it will come naturally to you to say yes when he asks again or tries to convince you to go to a dance.

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My mate Janelle is a tad annoying in the fact that she always has to have all the guys and flirt with all the guys even if they like someone else she will try to get them to like her. And so then when we're together hanging with our other mates and there are guys there she always has to be all over them and not let anyone else get them. What should I do

The only way to get her to stop is to beat her at her own game. She only flirts with them because she knows it annoys you. So do what she does and flirt with them also. Get them to like you and she will back off. Or have one of the guys reject her. If a girl like that is rejected they learn fast.

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okay im not like fat fat or anything
but sometimes i cant control how much i eat, ill eat sooo much just because i feel bored and i just do it.
like ill eat 3 small bowls of cereal and then ill eat like 5 granola bars , and on nights when im in a good mood , ill just pig out like ALL night!
help!
but usually i eat very very healthy during the week and i try and control my portions
but the weekends are like always splurges!
help please!!

If you watch what you eat during the week then it is ok to pig out on the weekends. Cereal and granola bars are really good for you and its completely healthy to eat them. They are not fating so you don't have to worry. The only solution for that is self-control. Its ok to eat when your bored. If you want to stop just try and not eat so much for just one weekend. And then gradually increase another weekend and another until you have it completely under control. The key is to have confidence. When you have that you can do anything.

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13/f. is it totally weird i get "urges" a lot. i'm only 13 but i always feel kinda "sexual". like, this might weird but i have this little stress ball and sometimes i use it as a sex toy. is this really bad? i'm gonna wait till i get married of course. but sometimes i feel bad cause i do that, or think about sex. i need some advice guys! thanks!

Everyone thinks about it. It is completely normal to think about it. You don't have to feel out of place because everyone goes through the same thing even if they are 13. The best thing is to find something in your spare time that you love to keep your mind off of it for a while. But it is normal to think about it and have urges.Don't feel bad that you do because it is normal for a woman to feel that way.

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My friends dont know me anymore. I've changed so much and I don't know what to do. I'm always the "good girl" that would never do anything bad or wrong. I've been labeled that for the past 2 years and I hate it. Everyone know's me as the "always happy, preppy, good girl". But I'm not like that anymore. I love doing crazy things that are shocking. I want a tattoo and my belly button pierced. I want to drink & try new things (haha not drugs though!) I wanna have fun.

See this all started happening when I became close to this one girl. Her name is Erica. She is a senoir and i'm a freshmen. She's really cool and laid back. She's one of my best friends. We hang out all weekend and talk almost everyday on the week days. She is the complete opposite of me though. I'm way preppy and always smile and laugh. She's dresses down and doesn't care about what she looks like. I guess she's a good influence in some way, because she made me learn not to care so much about what other people think (but i still do!!).

My whole life I always knew I was being someone I wasn't. I wasn't this always happy good girl barbie that I was labeled and been labeled. Towards the end of last school year and this school year, I got more into the "f*ck life and have fun" attitude. I wanted to do pot and drink. I wanted to always do something that was crazy and unexpected of me. I fell in love with the old rock classics (60s-70s)and if people hear me listening to that music... they're like "eww chelsey.. you're becoming a druggy?!". (since when did the music you listen to label you as a druggy or non-user?).

But ANYWAY... I've finally opened my eyes and notcied that erica is a bad influence in my life. She's the one who introduced me to all of this. Smoking, drinking, pot, music, & my attitude. I don't know if this is who I've always been and it was just covered up with hollister clothes and california hair or what, but i'm so confused now. I don't know how to say this, but I like this new person way better then the old. I'm so much more opened and dareing (?).

Now the hard part is, my friends refuse to believe this. If I even curse, there like "OMG! chels you cutie, thats mega bad... when did you start using those words!?!!". AHHH im like stfu. And then I think to myself, what if they knew i wanted to drink or try pot... they would like sign me up for therapy. I don't know what to do?!?! I want people to realize that I've changed, and accept that fact that people change, and wanna do different things. Whats your adivce? What should I do about my life? I don't even know where to begin with all my feelings. Thank-you for answering HONESTLY... I really respect your opinion.

One more thing... I kinda started seeing this kid this year and me and him really hit it off. He's mr. popular and stuff so when he first started talking to me I was soo excited! But now that were haning out more often we almost created like a relationship. A couple nights ago, I found out that he drinks and gets high often. When me and him went over to our one friends house (they were having a party). He took me back in their yard to the bon-fire. A couple of my best friends were down there so I started talking to them, but then they went up and i followed them half way and then went back to the bon-fire. When I came down they were smoking and getting high. Now it just wasn't the kid i liked... it was some of my other guy friends too. They offered it to me.. and I reacted quickly by taking the blunt and throwing it in the fire. (hahaha i know right). So now is it that my friends can smoke but i cant? and i get yelled at if i even curse? WTF?!

Please, I need advice soo badly! : ( Thank-you

You choose what person you want to be. There are ways of showing people your a good girl but willing to have fun to. You should know that doing drugs and stuff isn't the answer. Maybe just become more open have a good time while out. Don't lower yourself just so you can fit in. Why not get your belly button pierced, it isn't really bad but it will show them in a healthy way that your not the same person. People do change but you should be the person that makes you feel comfortable. You could have easily smoked and got high but you chose not to. Its not that you can't its just you chose not to. Think about what you really want and decide on that. Maybe change your wardrobe a little or maybe even get your nose pierced or belly button or something. You should know that tattoos hurt really bad. lol. Belly buttons and tongue rings hurt to but nose rings don't hurt at all.

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My best guy friend has recently unloaded all his problems; I found out his dad's cheating on his mom, his grandpa died (his grandpa was like his excape from his parents) his parents continuesly fight, his grades are slipping, and he's been coming to school with alot of bruises latley.

I don't know how to handle this. I really like him and I want to help, but what should I say to him? What should I do?

You should say something to anyone. If you don't say anything the situation will just get worse. If you don't say anything he may not come to school alive. He needs a friend in this situation. He needs someone to know he can express himself and tell you anything. If you just let him know your here and if he wants to talk about it then you will wait for him. Some people just need to know their friends are there. They just want to hear the words so they know for sure. You just need to take a deep breath and say everything is going to be ok. You just need to say something, anything or you will never get his attention.

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i always get so paranoid at field hockey. like i feel like i'm the worst player on the team. and sometimes the coach puts me in a position that i don't know how to play to well and i feel like the other team members on the bench are talking about how bad i am. but then i know i can't suck because there were cuts for the team and i made them.

what can i do to stop being so paranoid about what others are thinking about me?

oh and if it matters i'm 15/f. THANKS!

The best thing to do is to learn all the positions. If you practice and learn all of them you will be better than them all. There is no cure for being paranoid. Take it from someone who is paranoid twenty-four seven. But what you can do is take it one day at a time. Try to not think of what people are saying for just one day. If you can get through that one day then you can do it anyday. The only way to get them to stop even though they probably are not saying anything but the only way to get them to stop is to make sure there is nothing to talk about it. People make mistakes and thats how we grow. We are not perfect no one is but people can't accept it. Do your best and that should be good enough. If you weren't good enough he wouldn't have let you be on the team.

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Ok, my friends and i have a pretty big group, a group of 9 people, plus some others that sometimes hang out with us. Usually Me, Jennifer and Hanna are kind of like the leaders of our group, although me and jennifer are really really close. Well, not really but we are the closest to eachother. Well, for about 2 weeks hanna would not let me and jennifer ever say 2 words to eachother without her being in the conversation too, which we thought was kind of annoying. (oh and by the wayI have 2 classes with Jennifer and Hanna and they have all their classes together) Lately all they want to do is be together and i feel really left out. Like they go over to eachothers houses and stuff and go on the computers at school and make shopping lists for when they go shopping together.
It really hurts because i dont know what i am doing wrong.
They will also have little eye conversations when i say something.
I really want it to be back the way it was. They are truly my best friends and i love them to peices, but the last weeek i have been so mad at them! I tried talking to Jennifer but she put all the blame on hanna, saying that she's the one who always brings things up and doesn't want her talking to me. I dont know what to do.

You are not doing anything wrong you just need to believe that. They are not your real best friends if they treat you like that. A way to get them back if you want is to find someone else to be your friend. If you get close with them and your friends see that, they will get jealous and come back to you. The key is to try and show that you don't care and you can live without them. Just you doing that will make them realize they need you.

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13/f

k well i'm going to a halloween party and this is what i'm wearing : http://partycity.com/cgi-bin/parties/costumes.cgi?parties=Halloween&productstype=Teen-Female&products=96378&&zoom=1

what shoes should i wear with it? heels are not an option. they annot me and ill feel too trashy lol.
thankks

For the color I would go with light blue to match the outfit. I suggest wearing flip-flops or flat shoes so you are comfortable and look cute at the same time. The best place to look for shoes like that would match would be walmart.

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