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field hockey
i always get so paranoid at field hockey. like i feel like i'm the worst player on the team. and sometimes the coach puts me in a position that i don't know how to play to well and i feel like the other team members on the bench are talking about how bad i am. but then i know i can't suck because there were cuts for the team and i made them.
what can i do to stop being so paranoid about what others are thinking about me?
oh and if it matters i'm 15/f. THANKS!
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well like you said, if you made the cut then you cant be bad. if it seems like the people on the bench are making fun of you, then just think, your not the one sitting on the bench. and the coach probley puts you in different positions that you know much about because he wants to teach you so you are good all over the feild.
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The best thing to do is to learn all the positions. If you practice and learn all of them you will be better than them all. There is no cure for being paranoid. Take it from someone who is paranoid twenty-four seven. But what you can do is take it one day at a time. Try to not think of what people are saying for just one day. If you can get through that one day then you can do it anyday. The only way to get them to stop even though they probably are not saying anything but the only way to get them to stop is to make sure there is nothing to talk about it. People make mistakes and thats how we grow. We are not perfect no one is but people can't accept it. Do your best and that should be good enough. If you weren't good enough he wouldn't have let you be on the team.
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Trust that the coach knows what he/she is doing and that you are good enough. Has anyone told you or have you actually overheard anyone speaking about you as not good enough? Do you worry about not being good enough in general. You will allow yourself to become more confident if you focus on your goal and not on your fears. The fear of being judged was probably always with you, or put on you in a dramatic way, for you to be worrying so much. We choose how to filter information and how to process what we know about ourselves and the world. You can choose to be okay with yourself no matter what anyone else may say, and that includes the good and the bad. We were never meant to please everyone and no one can please us all the time either. Decide to do your best and be happy with the results. If we constantly seek anyone else's approval, we put ourselves in a vulnerable position when they approve or disapprove, because either way, we have given up our power. Claim back the power to be happy for yourself and be your own judge.
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