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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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To put it simply.. my so-called close friend pretty much screwed my guy and lied blatantly to my face about it.
So this girl is what most people would call a 'sexual predator' (my friends' term). She apparently has gone after every single guy i've liked or like since i've known her, which was just this year. At the beginning of the school year, after she found out i like a guy in her trombone section, she started flirting with him nonstop. That ended after a while and i had this whole unofficial relationship with one of my guy friends that i didnt tell her about. Senior Prom came after that and after she saw who i went with, she kept her on him. The week after prom, she started hanging all over him and flirting with him heavily and nonstop. Am i just being paranoid?
Well let's see, two weeks after that.. she FINALLY found out about how i was unofficially dating one of my guy friends. That same week, she started flirting with HIM nonstop and getting all over him. She then decided she liked him and proceeded to tell him so. But to me, she told me that she just told him that she thought she liked him but she really didnt and that they didn't do anything because he didn't care. I already knew she was lying then, but i didn't know to what extent. Then last night, one of my closest guy friends who was also close friends with the guy, told me that she had gotten farther than me with him. wait. what?
So apparently this girl had been acting all normal around me and acting like a 'great' friend (not that i really trusted her anymore) while she was secretly releasing her sexual frustrations on him and same with him on her. I mean, just last night she texted me to hang out. Like hell im going to hang out with her anymore. It makes me cringe just to think about all the lies and crap shes been doing behind my back. What kind of 'good' friend does that to you?
So my final question is.. what do i do? Some of my friends want me to chew her out, confront her with all the horrible things she's done to me (besides trying to take my guys.. also take my friends). Most of my friends already don't like her because truth be told she is a complete b*tch and she knows it but doesnt care. She's violent, shes mean, she's a liar and shes hella easy if you know what i mean. So with graduation approaching in about 5 days, should i just let things go and pretend it never happened once summer starts? Because i will probably end up seeing both her and the guy over the summer. Or should i b*tch her out before leaving because i probably wont see her ever again after i go to college on the other side of the USA? I'm not a very confrontational or loud person, but this girl has seriously made my life a complete mess.. some serious advice please?
She's not a good friend and she never was. Friends aren't supposed to do that to you. She's jelous and she wants everything that you have because she want's to prove that she can. You're not being paranoid. You have every reason to be upset over this. I mean yeah it's just a guy, but your "friend" shouldn't do those things to you behind your back and lie about it. Bitching her out won't change anything. You both are just going to argue back and forth and it won't solve anything or change her ways. Confront her about it. She's most likly going to deny things and lie about it but you don't need that. You don't need her as a friend. Ignore her and don't talk to her. She doesn't deserve friends. Be the mature one about it and let it go. The more that you show her you care about anything she does, the more she will do it and put it in your face. If you see her over the summer, you don't even have to talk to her. Say hey or something but other than that, you shouldn't continue having a friendship with her. I know that you'll make up your mind and you'll make the right decisions but good luck with everything and don't even worry about her anymore.
what are the meanings of the jelly bracelets?
Go on google and type in meaning of jelly bracelets. It'll explain it better than I could.
i just turned 14 years old, im 5'2 and i weigh about 110. is this normal? because truthfully, i feel like all the other girls are a lot skinnier than me.
That is normal. You probablly just have baby fat and you're not big at all. If you want to tone some areas, exercise daily and eat healthy meals. You should make eating healthy your life style but you're normal so don't even worry about it :]
We have like a graduation dance coming up, and me and a couple of friends are getting ready for it, but were not really sure what to do with our hair. Do you have any ideas? Or maybe even websites that have pictures & examples? Thanks :)
I don't really have time to look up any hair styles or websites for you so I'm sorry. If you go to seventeen.com, you can look up some idea there. Also, you guys could just curl your hair. It goes with almost any dress and it's super cute. You can also put a pony tail to the side and curl it. Straigh hair is also cute with dresses as well. You can look up some celeberties that you like and find idea there. That's what me and my friends did for one of our dances. Have fun though and sorry I couldn't help out more.
So, I work at Six Flags, it's my first year working here and I have this crush on my Team Leader, whose been working there for three years!
I really like him. I talked to him last night on the phone for three hours, and we talked about a bunch of stuff and I just felt so comfortable talking to him. I keep putting hints in like, "Let's go watch that movie!" Or stuff like that, and he even said, "Let's go out."
So, he can't drive because he got in a car accident and he doesn't have a car. But, I'm going to be getting my license in a week. I'm thinking maybe like, after work sometime I'll drive him home so we'll get some alone time. But, otherwise I'm not sure what else to do.
Do you think that this would be a bad idea? We're both aware that it's fraternizing. But, we've already talked about favoritism, and how it won't happen. He knows I like him, but how else do I enforce the fact that I want a relationship with him? :]
Thank you.
I personally don't think that this would be a bad idea. If you're both into each other, go for it. Get to know each other better, hang out and keep talking. If you guys do decide to date, don't make it so public around your co workers or when you're doing your job. But like I said, just hang out as friends for now. I don't see why it wouldn't work out.
all right, so i have a boyfriend of 1 yr (on the 29th) and he is the most amazing boyfriend you could ever possibly imagine. I know he loves me. The other day a girl went over his house (he's known her since preschool) so he could help her with a project they both have in english (he's a genius, really.) and they got to talking and then she randomly moved down her pants to show him a bruise she got from her and her bf having sex (...uhh, yea.. she's known to be kind of.. you know.) so my question is, should i be worried or threatened at all? I mean, that was my initial reaction, but, i know he loves me but sometimes i can just get really mad easily. so anyone out there, could you tell me what you'd do in this situation?
I don't think that you should be worried. He seems like a great boyfriend and cares about you. You trust him and you know he wouldn't do anyhing to hurt you. Some gilr's are just like that. She was probablly a bit of a flirt but it's normal for you to be a little mad. He can't control what she does so it's not his fault. If she continues to do random things like that and if he starts to act a bit strange, confront him about it. All though, I doubt that he'll let it get that way. You know he loves you and only wants you so no worries :]
i'll keep this short,
i'm fourteen years old.
i weigh about ninty nine pounds.
i'm about four feet and eleven inches.
from my perspective, i've got a 'muffin top', and it's not from my clothing.
i'm flipping out, because i'd love to lose about ten pounds.
help, please?
I don't know what a "muffin top" is but you deff. do not need to lose ten pounds. You're weight is normal and if you have trouble areas, work out daily and eat healthy and it'll tone it. Don't do anything drastic because your weight is fine and you don't need to lose any more.
Im moving to the Korea next week and my close friend is avoiding me or we barely talk now and i dont want her to avoid me any idea why shes not talking to me that much? but when we talk sometimes she gives me a big bear hug like im leaving tommorow what is she trying to tell me?
The reason that she's acting like that is because she's upset and doesn't want to deal with the fact that you're moving. It's very hard to have a close friend move away and I'm sure you know how she feels. Talk to her and explain to her that you both need to spend as much time together as you can. You'll remain good friends and that you'll keep in touch. Also tell her that pushing you away won't change the fact that you're leaving. She'll miss you and don't take her behavior too personaly. I'm sure her intentions aren't to hurt your feelings or anything. Just talk to her and confront her about the situation.
what do you go on when u go on lunapic.com where do u click to edit the picture like yours?
I don't edit my pictures on there, but to make a rounded border you click on draw and then click on rounded border.
i have a friend and she always gets jelaous when i talk about guys and she doesnt want me to like them.....she never liked anyone and i dont know if shes lesbian... she kids around by saying stuff
what do i do???????????
Just because she gets jelous and doesn't want you to like them does not mean she's lesbian. There could be a number of reasons why she doesn't want you to like them. She might think they're bad guys, doesn't want to be left out and things like that. I'm pretty sure she liked guys before but it might be hard for her to get interested in guys. If it really bothers you, I suggest that you comfront her about it.
how did make your picture like that? meaning the corners?
I already answered a question like this.
lunapic.com
im a 14 yr old boy and my friend died this year and my girlfriend dumped me for a jerk. all i need is a hand to hold and a kiss on the cheek once and a while. is this too much to ask.
p.s. i like to take my relationships slowly for any of you girls out there. call me 615-830-9104
You're not crazy and things like that happen. You just have to learn how to deal with it and move on. Putting your number on here makes you seem desparate and that's a big turnoff. You'll find someone that's right for you one day but just let it happen on it's own.
what does it mean when someone says to you "hey sex"
It's just an expression. It doesn't really mean anything.
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okayy sooooo, actually a lot of people say i'm really skinny, not annorexic like disgusting looking, but skinny. and i just don't feel like i am. maybe to other people but i think i give an illusion that i'm skinny... and i'm really not.
sometimes i want to be bullemic but i can't make myself throw up, do you know how to make yourself?
i can't be annorexic. i always eat.. but
how do you make yourself throw up?
i mean i ran track over spring.. and that ended 1 week ago. and this week i started soccer practice.. which is every day. so i mean i do run bbbuuuuuuuuutttt
the major problems i have are my love handles
and the inner thigh area...
anyone have any good exercises i can do to help me lose that little bit extra?
I'm not going to tell you how to make yourself throw up and I hope no one else does. I think that it's really pathetic how you would even think about doing that. You need to accept your body for what it is. If you don't like it, change it in a HEALTHY way. Eat healthy, exercise, drink plenty of water and you'll achive your goals. Since you play sports you probablly gain a lot of muscle so it's not even fat. Bulimia is a very serious thing and it can cause major consiquences. Think about what you want before you do anything. Continue running, also try cardio, side crunches. Go to seventeen.com and you can look up some exercises there. Good luck.
EDIT- I didn't call you pathetic. I said the fact that you would think about doing that is.
Well I wasn't sure what topic to put this under so I am sorry if it is in the wrong topic.
Well its been like 3-4 days -whenever i eat anything, my stomach hurts really bad in the upper stomach also kind of twoards to the middle [like abdominal pain] the first couple days this happend i started getting alot of diarreah, now i want to throw up. Do you know what these are the symptoms of? and what is happening to me?
Oh and one question, I know it is way off topic but I really want to know, is it okay to kiss on the first date?
Thank you.
I'm not a doctor or anything so I can't really tell you what's wrong. I deffenetly know what you mean though because I also have stomach problems. After I ate, my stomach would hurt REALLY bad and eventually I thew up and it made me feel better. I didn't do anything about it but it happened a lot. You need to go to the doctor and get it checked out. They will prescribe you pills to relive your stomach pain and it should work. I had to take them but it still didn't help me. My stomach problem has gotten a lot worse I have to go see a GI [ special doctor for stomachs ] and to see what's really wrong. Just don't wait too long and make sure you go see your doctor. Another thing I suggest is not to eat spices, hot food, or heavy foods. That may also start to hurt your stomach.
I think that it is okay to kiss on the first date. If you both are having a good time and you're into one another, go for it.
How do I get my AIM to not kick me off becuase I just got a new computer and after a while ( only when my away is up ) it will automatically just kick me off and restart and it won't put up my away. How can I fix that?
BTW. iloveu - skittle (:
When I had a virus, it used to kick me off AIM but try deleting your current AIM and install a new one. It worked for me so it'll probablly work for you. Ly2 :]
hey teza i feel like i havent talked to you in forever! guess what, i still kind of think about him...but not as much! ive been pretty busy!! thanks for the amazing advice!!
Hi! It's normal that you still think about him but you'll find someone better & you're welcome :]
any newww songs only thanks !!
Wipe Me Down- Lil Boosie
Get it Shawty- LLoyd
I'm Throwed- Paul Wall
Ay Bay Bay- Hurricane
El Impacto- Daddy Yankee ft. Fergie
Beat it Up- Big Tymers
If you want more just go on mtv.com and look through the new songs and videos.
I have regular fights with my best friend and she really annoys me most of the time. She's just not really me if you know what i men anyway she was typing some mean thing in an im box and she wasn't gonna send it but i sent it and now that guy got mad at her, and DUH she's mad at me. But secretly like I said I've been wanting to do something so bad to her alot worse than that and wat she was doing then was fine its just payback for every single time she hurt me or made me hate her. I really wish she just wouldn't be my friend.
But the problem is called spheres of influence. She's one of those really popular girls and I already have rumors (fake rumors) and fake gossip about me with her as an enemy she will spread more stuff and honestly i would have no friends. none. and although for me it's fine i don't like anyone thats in her group, but her group is basically the school. and it will be a problem when im back just walking from class to class no talking. Im sorry this is long my life is just messed up right now and I need to start making right decisions on stuff andif u read this hope fully you can help me.
First of all, you're not being fair. You guys don't even seem to be "best friends" because that is no example of a true best friend. I'm not trying to be rude or anything but honestly I think you're just using her for friendships. If she was really your best friend, you wouldn't be hating her or wishing bad things to her. Of course friends can get a little annoying when you're always with them, but you both are nothing but fake. The only reason that you're "friends" with her is to KEEP your friends and from preventing people from hating you. It's really shallow and you may not think I'm right, but that's the way you make it seem. If this continues, you really need to sit down and talk with her or better yet, take some time apart from each other. Think about what you really want and what kind of friends you want in your life. Stop worrying about who likes you and proving people wrong.
theres this guy who i've liked since the beggining of the school year. we've hung out with eachother and kind of got physical.
Then we kind of just stopped talking and he went out with this other girl.
okay, so when they broke up me and him started flirting again over the internet and i went over his house and we made out, held hands, all of that. The thing is, i like him STILL and i don't know if he likes me. He even bragged about having tons of girls in his room. But it was so sweet, he walked me home and he once walked in a blizzard for me. But hes a big time flirt and who knows when the last time he made out with another girl is.
i don't really know what my question is but does this sound like a stupid place to put myself in?
I get hurt easily. and i had feelings for a LONG time.
It's hard to tell if this guy likes you. He just got out of a relationship so of course he's going to flirt and such but make sure you're careful. Talk and hang out a lot. That way it'll be easier to tell if he's really into you or what. I know that you still have feelings for him, but don't fall for him again that quickly. A lot of guys love bragging about how many girls they have been with and such, but he could be doing that to make you jelous.