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warning: sexual predator on the move. Help please?
To put it simply.. my so-called close friend pretty much screwed my guy and lied blatantly to my face about it.
So this girl is what most people would call a 'sexual predator' (my friends' term). She apparently has gone after every single guy i've liked or like since i've known her, which was just this year. At the beginning of the school year, after she found out i like a guy in her trombone section, she started flirting with him nonstop. That ended after a while and i had this whole unofficial relationship with one of my guy friends that i didnt tell her about. Senior Prom came after that and after she saw who i went with, she kept her on him. The week after prom, she started hanging all over him and flirting with him heavily and nonstop. Am i just being paranoid?
Well let's see, two weeks after that.. she FINALLY found out about how i was unofficially dating one of my guy friends. That same week, she started flirting with HIM nonstop and getting all over him. She then decided she liked him and proceeded to tell him so. But to me, she told me that she just told him that she thought she liked him but she really didnt and that they didn't do anything because he didn't care. I already knew she was lying then, but i didn't know to what extent. Then last night, one of my closest guy friends who was also close friends with the guy, told me that she had gotten farther than me with him. wait. what?
So apparently this girl had been acting all normal around me and acting like a 'great' friend (not that i really trusted her anymore) while she was secretly releasing her sexual frustrations on him and same with him on her. I mean, just last night she texted me to hang out. Like hell im going to hang out with her anymore. It makes me cringe just to think about all the lies and crap shes been doing behind my back. What kind of 'good' friend does that to you?
So my final question is.. what do i do? Some of my friends want me to chew her out, confront her with all the horrible things she's done to me (besides trying to take my guys.. also take my friends). Most of my friends already don't like her because truth be told she is a complete b*tch and she knows it but doesnt care. She's violent, shes mean, she's a liar and shes hella easy if you know what i mean. So with graduation approaching in about 5 days, should i just let things go and pretend it never happened once summer starts? Because i will probably end up seeing both her and the guy over the summer. Or should i b*tch her out before leaving because i probably wont see her ever again after i go to college on the other side of the USA? I'm not a very confrontational or loud person, but this girl has seriously made my life a complete mess.. some serious advice please?
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I'm afraid I agree with your friends on this one you can't let her get away with this behavoiur. You can't honestly believe that she is your friend if she keeps tryin to take your boyfriend but to be honest if these boys fall for her tricks then they are not worth the time.
I no its hard not being a loud person i no lots of people like that but you need to say to yourself that you are not goin to suffer in silence! its better to have an arguement and have everything out on the table than to just let the stress build.
Good Luck hope i helped.
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ok long questions get long answers, so here goes nothing.
if i were in your situation, i would have confronted her quite some time ago, but i'm a very open person about the way i feel about things and i can tell (and you also said that) you're not.
at this point, there's not too much you can do. she definitely needs to be confronted about it. what she's doing isn't right, and no one deserves to have to deal with that. honestly, i don't know a lot of guys who, if they knew all of this, would do anything with her, because they would think she would ditch them immediately.
let other people know about this situation. tell your friends. tell guys you know. don't make it seem like you're obsessed, but let them know what she did to you.
don't do anything too drastic though. don't go telling everyone she's a slut or anything. now i'm not saying she isn't, especially after reading all of this, but doing that is almost as bad as what she's doing to you. it's slandering her reputation, and that's terrible.
i hope this helps
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This girl is not a sexual predator. She is a full on slut/bitch.
She is not even worth your time sweetie. If you don't want her bothering you over the summer, all you have to do is tell her not to call you because you're done with her crap. She doesn't need an explanation. I'm sure the little scum knows what she did.
Like you said, you won't ever have to see her again. DON'T bitch her out because that will just make her feel good about what she did.
As for the guy, he's not worth your time either. He knew damn well what he was doing when she came on to him. Any excuse he gives you is worthless. Ignore him.
You'll meet way cooler people in college. I say don't even think about these two. They'll wind up alone someday anyway. :)
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Well this girl sounds like a terrible friend. But why do you think she's doing this? Is she jealous? Does she want to prove to herself that she can 'get' guys that you've got, or is she just being.. well, mean?
I think the only one who can answer those questions is her. And you don't have to 'confront' her exactly - when you see her next, say something like "we seem to have pretty similar taste in guys. I mean, you just start flirting with all the guys I like. is that a coincidence or what?" and... just see what she says. It's probably not a good idea to tell her exactly what you think of her, because full-blown arguments are generally not a good thing. Just make sure she's clear on the fact that you dont really like her trying to take your guys. And one day you'll find a guy who would just laugh in her face if she tried to steal him behind your back, which she won't do once you move away. Leave her behind on a good note, though, and then never think of her again. Good luck!
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She's not a good friend and she never was. Friends aren't supposed to do that to you. She's jelous and she wants everything that you have because she want's to prove that she can. You're not being paranoid. You have every reason to be upset over this. I mean yeah it's just a guy, but your "friend" shouldn't do those things to you behind your back and lie about it. Bitching her out won't change anything. You both are just going to argue back and forth and it won't solve anything or change her ways. Confront her about it. She's most likly going to deny things and lie about it but you don't need that. You don't need her as a friend. Ignore her and don't talk to her. She doesn't deserve friends. Be the mature one about it and let it go. The more that you show her you care about anything she does, the more she will do it and put it in your face. If you see her over the summer, you don't even have to talk to her. Say hey or something but other than that, you shouldn't continue having a friendship with her. I know that you'll make up your mind and you'll make the right decisions but good luck with everything and don't even worry about her anymore.
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