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I'm a 19 year old male going to University in Oregon. I very much like traveling, and visiting other countries, and I have put information for other people to contact me by over the internet in the search to meet people around the world. About 3 months ago I got an e-mail from a women that works in Alaska, but is from Poland. I have had a lot of fun talking to her, and over the past month we've grown somewhat close. I've seen pictures of her, and she's seen pictures of me, and we've talked breifly on the phone. The catch is that she's 29 years old. She seems very attracted towards me, but I'm not sure if I should leed her on. I've already let her know that I'm not interested in a long term relationship, and she said she appreciated the honesty, but she still wants a relationship. I'm also attracted towards her, but I feel awkward about the whole situation. I currently don't have a girlfriend. I might visit her over the summer. I could really use some advice on what to do in this situation. What should I do next? Any advice at all would be helpful.
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Internet meeting, age gap, oh no! Don't let any of *that* put you off, really. Just... no. Keep on talking to her. You're both attracted to one another but you dont want a long term relationship... if you were near each other a short term thing would be perfect, right? And see where it leads on from there. Unfortunately this is not possible. I would advise you to stay friendly until you meet in person and if it seems right... go for it. Make sure she knows you're not interested in a long term relationship, and if she isn't prepared to have one that isn't, leave it. Or possibly come to a compromise. This is really something you should discuss with her - any relationship/friendship is better with such communication. Do you want her, though? You have to decide that for yourself and then talk to her about it. Good luck!
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How do you get over a heartache? My boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me today. He was my very first boyfriend, and I fell in love. But he told me he has been seeing a girl for about a week or two now, just hanging out with her behind my back. And he thinks they could go further and he feels more connected to her and has liked her for years and he doesn't want to see me anymore and has pretty much took himself out of my life completely. I'm devastated and I just need some help. (link)
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I'm really sorry... thats not a good thing to happen is it? =[ Unfortunately there's no way for you to just get over it. You should talk to all your friends, I'm sure they will be very supportive of you. Try and find something that can take your mind off him - join a club or take up a new hobby or just... start something. Don't want him back though. He cheated on you really, starting liking another girl and that's not good of him, no matter how much you love him. You might very well still love him, and if you do... let him be happy even though he doesn't deserve it for having broken your heart.
What I can say, and I know this, is that you will have other boyfriends and they will be better and they will love you more and you will have a great time. Hang in there for the moment, and try and concentrate mainly on making yourself feel good again.
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ok dear msz web
Ive been going out with this boy for 6 months already
so i broke up wit him once because we both cheated on eachother
then we went out again
then he broke up with me because of the way i treat him supposebly
then we went out again
now he broke up with me again and he tells everyone something diffrent
and me a bunch of things to
but now he wants me back
i really love him but wat if hes tryna play wit my heart
wat if he really loves me to?
wat do i do?
ps:i heard that hes been saying things about me but im not sure if its true
and i heard he has a new girl
but im not sure if its true
plus two of his "best friends" are tryna get with me
i dont know if its for a bet
and then a boy i liked sonce 2nd grade and he liked me too
and we went out last year
but he cheated on me (yeah ive been threw alot of cheating realationships)
and now he wants me back
he says im the girl of his dream
wat should i do??????????????????????????????????????????????????????
PLEASE HELP ME
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Wow. That's quite complicated.
I think it's safe to say that this boy is going to break up with you again if you go out with him... well, it's happened enough times already. If you are going to go out with him.. be prepared because he seems quite mean. I personally think that you should choose a guy who won't cheat on you and there doesnt seem to be that option for you, does there? Maybe you should even wait until you meet a guy who won't cheat on you.
Just think... if you could be with anyone right now, who would you want to be with? One of these guys? Then go for it and have fun but try not to put your trust in people who aren't worthy of it.
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I went out with this guy months ago. He broke up with me because he thought I liked someone else(not true). He found a new gf but we're still friends. We talk on the phone every night for hours. I have a feeling that he still likes me because when we talk on the phone he always makes really flirty remarks like he'll say "I want a girl here with me to hang out with" Then I'll say "your gf?". Then he says "no, you". He always tells me that he likes his gf, but not as much as he likes me, and that he's going to break up with her. I don't think I ever stopped likeing him and he didn't stop liking me, but I don't want to be the cause of any breakup. He's the perfect guy and I do like him but I don't know what to say when he says he's going to break up with his gf. What should I do? (link)
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Firstly, I'd like to say how nice of a person you are for not wanting to cause a breakup. But this guy's relationship is asking for one anyway, because even if you don't go out with him, he seems like he wants to go out with you even though he has a girlfriend - which means the relationship between him and her is nothing special i'm afraid, so don't feel too bad when they inevitably break up.
Does he know that he broke up with you for a reason that wasnt true? You should tell him this and sort of let him know you like him but don't start any proper 'flirting' until he's out of his relationship. Because his girlfriend might find out and hate you, it's not nice to be hated, right? And imagine how you'd feel if you were her? So, put things on pause for a bit until he breaks up.
When he tells you he's going to break up with his girlfriend, you should say something along the lines of "well if youre not happy then go ahead" or "good luck" and if he then asks if you'd be his girlfriend instead, say "Okay, but dont break up with me until you know for sure im disloyal this time! Oh and dont be disloyal yourself, break up with this girl first." Good luck to you!
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you must`ve saw some questions i posted up.. but this time.. me & my boyfriend broke up. :[[ we were havin` problems already in one month.. and yannoe how a boyfriend shouldnt let anybody cuss out his girlfriend.. cause we were on the phone, and he said to his friend and i "talk shit to eachother" so we were basically cussin` eachother out... my sister didn't like him anymore after he had did that to me. i didn't bring up anything about breaking up, he did.. he called me and we broke up right there. my sister says hes doin` all of that because his friend is there, "all guys try to act tough". and she said that he was gonna crawl back to me later. and it did work. he said he was sorry, and he had to let me go. he said it was the best thing to do. so then me & my sister started to make him feel bad and stuff, and he asked me if i cried. i told him not to worry about me and he said "i will... cause i still love you =(" he usually says that he doesn't take his ex girlfriends back or go back out with them. but he said i was his best girlfriend he ever had. how can i make him want me back? cause i still like him alot. :[ even when i thought i didn't. there was something else .. my sister was the one texting him and stuff about the cussing out things and stuff.. even when i knew it was a joke... she wouldnt give me my cell phone, so it was basically him breaking up w/ me because my sister was texting him and stuff when he thought it was me, please tell me how to make him want me back.. i know i have to be super nice now... cause he still loves me and stuff. help? (link)
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Are you *sure* you want him back? You broke up over a pretty small thing I think and you might just end up doing that again. But if you've made up your mind, you should contact him and tell him that some of it was your sister and that you don't appreciate being spoken to like that. Tell him you want him back, but won't stand for being spoken to badly. If he said he still loves you, then he does want you back! Good luck!
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To put it simply.. my so-called close friend pretty much screwed my guy and lied blatantly to my face about it.
So this girl is what most people would call a 'sexual predator' (my friends' term). She apparently has gone after every single guy i've liked or like since i've known her, which was just this year. At the beginning of the school year, after she found out i like a guy in her trombone section, she started flirting with him nonstop. That ended after a while and i had this whole unofficial relationship with one of my guy friends that i didnt tell her about. Senior Prom came after that and after she saw who i went with, she kept her on him. The week after prom, she started hanging all over him and flirting with him heavily and nonstop. Am i just being paranoid?
Well let's see, two weeks after that.. she FINALLY found out about how i was unofficially dating one of my guy friends. That same week, she started flirting with HIM nonstop and getting all over him. She then decided she liked him and proceeded to tell him so. But to me, she told me that she just told him that she thought she liked him but she really didnt and that they didn't do anything because he didn't care. I already knew she was lying then, but i didn't know to what extent. Then last night, one of my closest guy friends who was also close friends with the guy, told me that she had gotten farther than me with him. wait. what?
So apparently this girl had been acting all normal around me and acting like a 'great' friend (not that i really trusted her anymore) while she was secretly releasing her sexual frustrations on him and same with him on her. I mean, just last night she texted me to hang out. Like hell im going to hang out with her anymore. It makes me cringe just to think about all the lies and crap shes been doing behind my back. What kind of 'good' friend does that to you?
So my final question is.. what do i do? Some of my friends want me to chew her out, confront her with all the horrible things she's done to me (besides trying to take my guys.. also take my friends). Most of my friends already don't like her because truth be told she is a complete b*tch and she knows it but doesnt care. She's violent, shes mean, she's a liar and shes hella easy if you know what i mean. So with graduation approaching in about 5 days, should i just let things go and pretend it never happened once summer starts? Because i will probably end up seeing both her and the guy over the summer. Or should i b*tch her out before leaving because i probably wont see her ever again after i go to college on the other side of the USA? I'm not a very confrontational or loud person, but this girl has seriously made my life a complete mess.. some serious advice please? (link)
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Well this girl sounds like a terrible friend. But why do you think she's doing this? Is she jealous? Does she want to prove to herself that she can 'get' guys that you've got, or is she just being.. well, mean?
I think the only one who can answer those questions is her. And you don't have to 'confront' her exactly - when you see her next, say something like "we seem to have pretty similar taste in guys. I mean, you just start flirting with all the guys I like. is that a coincidence or what?" and... just see what she says. It's probably not a good idea to tell her exactly what you think of her, because full-blown arguments are generally not a good thing. Just make sure she's clear on the fact that you dont really like her trying to take your guys. And one day you'll find a guy who would just laugh in her face if she tried to steal him behind your back, which she won't do once you move away. Leave her behind on a good note, though, and then never think of her again. Good luck!
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my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and i just started smoking a couple of weeks ago and my cousin found out my cousin is 36 by the way if that helps any but anywas we use to be really close kind of like sisters but ever since she found out i started smoking she thinks i did it becouse i want to be like her becouse she smokes and now she thinks she's a bad influence on me becouse iam smoking but she has nothing to do with me smoking except that she did let me try it the first time if i promised never to do it again just to see what it was like so i promised her i wouldn't do it again but i kept on doing it and she found out so now she won't let me come over to her house anymore becouse she's afraid i'll sneak ciggerates and become addicted so she's stopping me from coming over alltogether and i want her to trust me again how can i get her to trust me if i can't even come over? (link)
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Well your cousin is just looking out for you and she obviously sees that smoking is bad for you and doesn't want you to do it. In fact it wouldn't surprise me if she wanted to stop herself. You need to talk with her and tell her you're sorry that you broke your promise to her and you regret losing her trust. Hopefully she will then see you're too mature to copy everything she does. If she still won't let you go to her house, you should try and talk on the phone or on the computer.
Also, I'd reccommend that you try and stop smoking too. I know you probably hear it a lot, but it's really bad for you, seriously. If you did that then that would really show her how mature you are. In the end, don't worry, youre family and one day she will grow to trust you again.
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so there's this guy that i've liked for forever!!! and he used to like me... we did "things" and then on our next 3 dates he made up some excuse not to come, or stood me up. ever since then things have been kinda... weird between us (b.t.w. the standing up thing was a really long time ago) (and we were friends before and after things got phsical) anywho, now i'm reaching out to him and he's flirting just like he used to... i still really really really like him... but i don't know what to do... help? anyone? THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!!!! (link)
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I would say go for it. That is, if you think you can trust him not to start standing you up again. Maybe you need to have a bit of a chat with him, tell him that this time you don't want him to get too distant. But make sure you don't sound as if you're asking for a permanent relationship, he might get scared and run away (!) So go for it. But if things go wrong again... be prepared and make sure he knows that this is you giving him another chance. Good luck!
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I am going over this guys house that I like. We are going to watch movies and stuff like that. What do I do. Should i kiss him? What do I wear how do i do my hair and make up. I want to catch his eye.
Please help! (link)
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If he's invited you over, it seems you've already caught his eye. Or it's just a friends thing which it doesn't seem like. Firstly, I know guys can be very shallow and you think it would impress him if you looked really really great, but... Please be yourself. Please don't try and be anyone you're not and don't concentrate on 'seducing' him and looking good or whatever, because in the end he'll be most impressed if you can enjoy yourself properly with him. Don't dress up too much but it's probably not a good thing to look *too* casual.
Don't do your hair too much, make sure it's comfortable and easy to re-do if it gets ruined or something. As for the kissing... well only you can decide if the atmosphere is right. Just use your own judgement, and rest assured, it's not "expected" of you - nothing like that would be "expected" of you. Good luck, and have fun!
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how weird... his myspace name at first had said his name and then he added " (link)
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Okay, well I'm not inside his head and his head sounds a bit messed up right now. Let me get this straight. So there's this one girl right? She is your ex-best friend, and she is your boyfriend's ex too. And he was telling you he doesn't like this girl anymore, neither do you, that's good.
But then he started thinking about the past and put Ex-Girl at the top of his myspace and took the 'takened' thing off. It seems he still has feelings for this Ex-Girl. It does, I'm sorry. Good news is that it looks like he likes you more. You have to ask him about this though. Tell him to choose between you two, and I hope he picks you. Good luck!
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Ive knew my best friend my whole life, for 13 years. We used to be so close then it went to us both loving each other so we always flirted and were always talking. Now we never ever talk we haven’t over a month and we always see each other but never say a word. We pretty much just ignore each other now. I can’t help it I just think how could he do that to me. The thing is I’m not really sure what but there has been a few times while we liked each other that we just messed up bad I guess. So I seriously hate him but then I love him? How? We were best friends we could and would talk about everything. I just can’t talk to him and I don’t know what to say now. What do I say? I’ve always had better guy friends then girl friends I get along better with guys. I still do, I think, but I can’t trust any guys except the only other guys I can trust are years older. But they’re not as good of friends. Im loosing friends I just get so mad at guys now and most of them didn’t even do anything. I don’t know what to do I’m loosing my friends and all the love I have. now he told my friend hes scared of me! now im loosing it! i scared everyone and everything away by how i dress and act and just what i do. how do i stop it??? i need help im loosing it. (link)
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Well, you really are going through a hard time at the moment, at your age sometimes you feel stuff you don't understand. First of all, it sounds like you need someone to understand you and someone you can trust. If there's anyone near you who you could rely on, be close friends with, do it. You need to talk to your guy friend again and try and patch things up, because it's clear you need him.
You say you've scared everyone away by how you dress/act. Why is that? Are you being yourself? Are you acting in an unnatural way? If so, you need to be comfortable being completely yourself and it seems the real you isnt scary, so... stop being scary! This is a hard time for you like I said, and you just need to get through with the support of everyone around you. Good luck!
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I just beat the games "The Longest Journey" and "Dreamfall: The Longest Journey."
I heard that there's going to be a third game. Does anyone know when it comes out?
Also, are there any other games similar to those? I'm sure I'd enjoy any game similar to them. (link)
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http://tljwiki.com/The_Longest_Journey_3
The third game. Its release date has not been confirmed. Nothing really is known about them. Personally I haven't played the games, but I can advise a few - Star Wars: Knights Of the Old Republic 1 and 2. I loved those games, highly recommended. It also focuses on fantasy and science. Although if that's not your thing, I'm sure the internet holds many ideas for you.
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i like a guy who is 17..and i'm 14. he will turn 18 3 days before i turn 15..is it like not illegal with parents permission (link)
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Well this is a tricky situation. What are you asking exactly - what do you mean by 'it'? The relationship? No, the relationship itself isn't illegal, but anything sexual that goes on is, as you're under 16. That is, if you live in the UK. Check out the 'Age of Consent' where you live.
Even with your parents' permission, you're not allowed to do that kind of sexual thing if you're under the age of consent where you live. However if you two really care about each other you should wait until it's legal and try to have a relationship without any sexual interaction, until you are old enough to give consent.
Don't be put off by the age gap, anyway. You can still have a relationship. Good luck and don't do anything illegal!
Edit with Additional Information: Keep it platonic. Completely. Nothing sexual at all because that is the *only* way you can be together properly. Now this requires a lot of trust and love but it can be done. And if you do manage it then it means... yay! You have a great relationship and it'll last for a long time. If you dont manage it it means one of two things: You did something sexual or you broke up. I would advise you, if it looks like its going to fail, to break up and not have sex because it could ruin this guy's life forever. A terrible prospect right? But don't lose heart! You can do this and you dont have to suffer during it, you can have lots of fun still and have a great time but only if you're committed to the future and serious about each other.
Believe me, I know what I'm talking about here. I have experience.
So my advice, in conclusion, is this: Act like friends. Close friends. Love each other, say it even. Compliment each other. None of that's illegal. But you even have to regulate the kind of hugs you have. Theres a line. THE LINE. THE LINE OF DOOM. You must not cross it or police will come crashing from the sky and ruin both of your lives and your dreams. Seriously. Be aware of the line. But have fun, have a great time, and enjoy yourself!
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