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Long distance relationship
I'm a 19 year old male going to University in Oregon. I very much like traveling, and visiting other countries, and I have put information for other people to contact me by over the internet in the search to meet people around the world. About 3 months ago I got an e-mail from a women that works in Alaska, but is from Poland. I have had a lot of fun talking to her, and over the past month we've grown somewhat close. I've seen pictures of her, and she's seen pictures of me, and we've talked breifly on the phone. The catch is that she's 29 years old. She seems very attracted towards me, but I'm not sure if I should leed her on. I've already let her know that I'm not interested in a long term relationship, and she said she appreciated the honesty, but she still wants a relationship. I'm also attracted towards her, but I feel awkward about the whole situation. I currently don't have a girlfriend. I might visit her over the summer. I could really use some advice on what to do in this situation. What should I do next? Any advice at all would be helpful.
Thanks a lot
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Internet meeting, age gap, oh no! Don't let any of *that* put you off, really. Just... no. Keep on talking to her. You're both attracted to one another but you dont want a long term relationship... if you were near each other a short term thing would be perfect, right? And see where it leads on from there. Unfortunately this is not possible. I would advise you to stay friendly until you meet in person and if it seems right... go for it. Make sure she knows you're not interested in a long term relationship, and if she isn't prepared to have one that isn't, leave it. Or possibly come to a compromise. This is really something you should discuss with her - any relationship/friendship is better with such communication. Do you want her, though? You have to decide that for yourself and then talk to her about it. Good luck!
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I don't think you are leading her on. You have told her you aren't interested in a long term relationship. Just make sure you keep mentioning that!
If you visit her over the summer try and keep it friends only. I'm sure you already know this, but if you do meet her make it in a public place. You guys need to be careful too! If it goes further, just keep on mentioning your not looking for a long term love relationship. At 29 she should know what that means. Though women sometimes hold out hope anyway, you have told her how it is. :)
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Well I would just keep saying "I'm only interested in meeting friends" and leave it at that. If/When you visit her let things unfold. If you feel attracted to her then see what happends, if not then you will know that you just told her you wanted to be friends. You can't lead someone on if you repeatdly tell them you just want to be friends. And don't think by visiting her you are leading her on, you are just going to see her as a friend. Now I'm not saying to show your feelings towards her, but I would wait and see how you feel once you meet her. It could be completely different once you see her. And age is just a number. Good luck!
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