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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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On myspace...I had 119 friends. Now I have 118. Is there any way to tell who deleted me or un-added me?
The onyl way to do that is to memorize all of your friends. Sometimes if you have a virus in your myspace or someone hacked into it they can delete random friends from your list. I would suggest changing your password that way it can't happen again. Change it about every month or so.
okay im a 16/f and there's this really mean girl at my school who won't leave me alone. i had problems with her over the summer and before that. like over the summer she started saying shit to me on myspace and i said shit back to her. and over Christmas break i added her on facebook and on myspace. because well i forgot about what happened between us and i don't hold grudges against people. well on myspace she messaged me and was like don't send me a friend's request because i don't want to be your friend or whatever. and i cussed her out and got mad and then i told her i didn't care if she wanted to be my friend and she needed to leave me alone. and then i blocked her and then after that i sent her another message telling not to ever start shit with me over the internet and if she had something to say to say it to my face. well she said she will at school the nest day and i assumed that she didn't go to my school anymore because she stopped going. well the next day she was at school! and to make things worse she's in my health class 5th period!! and she saw me and when she did she turned to a bunch of other girls and was like omg nikita is in this class ugh i hate her and she and the other girls said a bunch of shit about me.. and now all she does in that class is talk about me and stare at me and give me mean looks. and then she started calling me a bitch in the hallway but i took i as a comliment and then after tht like today after school i walked passed and she was like you better watch youself bitch and i didn't say anything. well i was wondering i man i ignore but she still says mean things to me. and im not sure if i should tell the school what happened since i message her last time.. so what should i do? sorry its really long but please help me!!
Yeah you could have avoided some things but that really isn't the point. A girl like who makes fun of others turns out to a surprise in the real world. She is the girl with the most problems both mental and physical. She is the one who has issues with her families. If you ignore her she will get irritated that you are not paying attention. Girls liek that like to torture those they know they can bother. If you pretend like you don't care then she will get mad and try to find someone knew to pick on. Another solution is to get a friend who is bigger than her. If yu have someone around that is so much bigger than her. She will fear you becasue of that person especially if you get them to defend you.
wow okay so this might be a weird question.
so okay im 14/ f and my boyfriend is 13/m
so we've almost been going out for a year, and we have barely(like 1 month ago) started saying we love eachother, because we wanted to wait for a time when we both actually truly meant it.
and noww..
i dont know. like i can never stop telling him i love him and i looked at him way more then the movie we watched together the other day and.. time seeems to stop when im with him, i know that sounds weird but its so true, when im with him that alll i can see, i want to spend every second with him and nomatter how long we do hang out its never, ever enough. i get in a bad mood when we have to say goodbye. like i get realllllly sad idkk why. its so crazy hahahaha ive never ever ever ever felt this way
its weird to say that im in love with him, because we're still so young, but wow i feel like it. Its so weird, but.. i want this to last forever. and i know he feels the same. we do everything together, and i would drop everything to be with him or be there for him. id do anything for this boy.
so my question is, if im really in love with him. I know its odd to ask this, i mean, we're young, but.. i dont know somone help me
thankss so muchh
It definitely sounds like love to me. Love to me is someone you know will always be there for you and someone who would do anything for you even if means going across the world to get an earring for you. The person has to be all you think about and your excited when you see the person. I know sex may be the first thing that comes to mind when you really love someone. Thats not really the question your should be asking. Are you ready to take on the possibility of getting pregnant. If you have a plan of what would happen if that possibility came about then I think that you are ready as ever. If it something you both want and something your both ready for then it will happen when you are around each other or when you are alone. Its not something you really plan but kind of happens.
i am agirl ilike to have boyfriend but myfamily donnot let me what shoud i do?
If you have strict parents the best thing to do is to prove you are old enough to have one. First ask to bring guy friends over for the parents to meet them. If they get to know the person on a friends level they will more likely let you go out with them. Ask to go to the movies but go in ahuge group so they don't think you just want to be alone with a boy. If you go in a large group they will trust you more. Eventually it will dim done to going on dates alone. Parents have trouble letting their chldren grow up so they set boundries so you never get hurt. But if you show that you are responsible enough they will learn to let go.
how can i sex
I am not sure what your asking but if your wondering how to have sex you need to have someone who you love and want to spend the rest of your lives with. I am not here to tell you that you have to be married but you want to do it with someone you actually love. If you passionately love each your instincts with tell you exactly what to do.
Hello I wanted to ask you a qucik question, I am so scared to get my wisdom teeth pulled, I am crying about it right now just thinking about it, I'm not scared for the segery I am scared for them to put me asleep. Also do they have to put an iv in you and if they do why? I hate needles is there a way around that? any advice would be great thank you so much
Going to sleep is quick and pinless. There is nothin at all to fear. They don't put an iv in you but they do put a needle in you. it is so you dont feel the pain of him pulling your teeth. And he needs you asleep so you are not moving every which way. After you wake it does hurt like a toothache and won't be able to eat anyhing but maybe jello or pudding. About a week you will be fine. Nothing about it should make you scared. I would be more scared if you didn't get the operation done.
this weekend i was with my brother and some of his friends and we were all driving around in my new car a 2007 escalade. I was driving adn it was raining and late at night and i have only had my license for about 3 months. we were coming around the corner and hit another car totaling mine and theirs. right away my brother took the blame for it and told me not to worry about it since he has been driving for a few eyars now and wouldnt get in as much trouble as i would. since the other car didnt see i was driving it worked out fine but now i feel awful that he took the blame for this but i know that if i came forward my parents would kill me. what should i do?
You should know that secrets have a way of coming out. The truth is you are going to feel worse by not telling them. If you tell them the truth you will get in a little trouble but they will forgive and forget. That is something that is far more better than holding a secret that will completely tear you apart. Tell them the truth and you will feel like a giant weight has been lifted off your chest. Keeping the secret to yourself will only hurt you even more.
I love your guitar. What kind is it? Where'd you get it?
I got it five years ago in Moores Music Emporium. But they have that guitar in the magazine Musicians Friend all the time. It is a Washburn bass guitar. It came with a package with everything for a low price. It was about 200 or 300 I am pretty sure.
okay. today, i had voice lessons, like every sunday. my friends and i just enjoyed, sang, dance in the room. but then everybody else in the room got affected, and they left just to hint to us that we were too noisy. but then we probably still made noise. and some of my friends went outside, and a classmate pushed them out and shut the door. my friend then slapped him in the arm due to anger. then my other friend cried, and the teachers arrived. we all had to reconcile. we heard from both parties. and my group apologized and i even cried. this is the first time i ever got into this kind of trouble, i said to them, and that i wanted the feeling of being accepted in a clique. after class, some people were comforting me, telling me that it's not entirely my fault, that they're not mad at me, that they think i'm influenced by the group. i can't believe this all happened because i'm a quiet girl, who is in a noisy clique.
but now, i dunno what to do. i don't wanna leave the group, because, i don't have any closer friends than them. and if i do stay, i just want to avoid trouble.
what do i do?
katie 13/f
I know being accepted may seem like the most important thing but there are ways of making them both happy. You have to do what you think is right. If you don't you won't be only hurting yourself but others as well. If they are truly your friends they will accept you no matter what choices you make as a person. A good way to avoiud trouble is if they are doing something that you don't believe don't od it. Take a stand and tell them. If you stand up for yourself then they will understand as well. All of friends drink and smoke while I am the only one who doesn't do it. They pressure me to do it to but I don't believe in it. I took a stand and they understand my beliefs. They know now I won't break them so they just accept me for who I am.
okay here's the prob. there's this boy i like and i really dont know him but i see him most of the time and he knows me a lil bit. i dont know if he likes me because i dont talk 2 him because im shy towards boys. anyways wat do u think i should do?
The best thing is to flirt with him. Throw hints at him so he sees that you are interested in dating. If he sees that you are he will make the first move but if he doesn't you are going to have to be bold and do it yourself. If you continue to hang out with him and get to know him, he will eventually make a move. You have to be patient and wait. And sometimes it takes awhile but it is worth the wait.
my boyfriend whos really nice and i have been dating for three years were both seniors and we have sec occasionaly and i got pregnant and hes like well its not mine and he wont talk to me what should i do?
My best friend is pregnant and went through the exact thing. Proving he is the father is a start. Once that happens then everything will fall into place. He is scared and that was his first reaction. Once he realizes it is a real baby and it is his, he will come back around. It might be better not to talk him directly but maybe his parents if they don't know already. He is in denial and the only way to get through to him is to go above him. Just remeber you have friends and family to support you. He doesn't have to be there in order to raise a great kid.
i have to convince my mom to let me get my ears guaged.
any suggestions?
i can't do it behind her back, she'll see them.
do the holes heal after a while if you take them out?
thank you!
Well proving to her that you are responsible can do the trick. Maybe prove you are doing well in school or at least try, do the things she asks.
They will close up if you take them out for a certain amount of time. They will shrink as soon as you take them out and slowly go down until it is normal again. The only way they won't shrink is if you go to a size 0 or even less than that.
ok. i'm 14/f. i have light strech marks on my back, very noticable ones on my stomach, and a few (like 6) on the front of my legs. is that bad?? i think, actually i'm pretty sure, that i'm overweight, but i just need to know if having that many strech marks is bad. thanks!
No stretch marks are not bad.
It just means your body is growing faster than it can handle it is nothing to worry about. If you want to get rid of them then using cocoa butter cream will get rid of them. You cna find that in the faily dollar stores or even walmart really cheap.
ok i am 14 year old and i am over weight! i wanna know how can i lose weight very quickly. i know that diet and exercise is the best way but i want something faster. are there any pills that i can get from the store or what?? i need help because i really want to lose weight but i want it to be done fast!!!
Pills only make it worse and especially diet plans. This gets the weight off but you will gain it back the second you eat. Starvation makes you gain even more weight. The best thing is go bike riding for 20 minutes a day. The fat cells will go to the muscles cells in the other parts of your body and those muscle cells will turn your fat cells into muscle cells also. It is the fasteest and most efficient way to keep the weight off and lose it fast.
like stuff we're not allowed to eat.. like i end up eating the whole thing. like ever since i was little.. like we cant eat candy.. id take 1 and soon the whole thing will be gone. the same thing happened with gum my mom got in a big pack, and now she bought honey and i've basically just licked almost half of the bottle. and before i ate some sweet tasting like milk mix with lots of sugar.. and today she was looking for it and i had to lie.. ugh i dont know whats happening to me. its so annoying becase if i dont improve on my behavior and blah, then my mom wont sign me up for spring soccer!
tomorrow im scared.. cuz my mom's comming home and she'll probably yell at me for licking the honey.. and i'll be more steps away from being able to join soccer.. and registration is due in a little less than a month!!! i dont know why.. like when its something bad, i feel like i cant stop eating it, especially if its sweet or tastes good. and i usually have meals before i sleep with is why my stomach probably hasnt been shrinking. ive noticed quite a difference with my weight.. ive gained some pounds and im like 10-20 pounds over average! well.. im 5'3 and a half, and weigh about 155 pounds (and that was the last time i checked.. at the doctors office because our scale at home doesnt work. i hope hose numbers have been decreasing.. though i doubt it.) anyways.. like these topics are closely linked. how can i stop this habit of excessively eating? like usually im not hungry when i eat stuff like that.. or sometimes i'll eat something healthy like an apple.. then like 2 apples just because they taste good. my parents cook pretty healthy foods but we also have a little bit of unhealthy stuff, so how do i deal with the fact that they are there? i mean its technically stealing even if its in the same house. i hate that.. like after trying some snack or whatever once, i think i'll just take one more, then that really increases..
13/f
The best thing is to make yourself a bag with a certina amunt of the stuff you eat. If you eat five small measl a day you will convince your body you are eating more than you really are. If you eat and then exercise it off you won't have to worry about.
If you ride a bike for 20 minutes a day and continue to do that it will turn all that fat into muscle and flatten your stomach. If you use pills or diet programs they won't work becasue the moment you eat something your weight will be up again.
Controlling the amount you eat is the first thing you need to do. So get plastic baggies and put only i serving in each and that will control you from eating the whole thing. Just make sure you put them in baggies. If you are not sure about the sering they tell you how much one serving is. Riding a bike will keep you mind off of the food and it will help you lose weight fast.
I have very oily skin. I use liquid foundation and powder. It stays on when I put it on in the morning but usually when it hits around noon my face is oily, and you can see all the foundation that I put on. I have to re-touch my make-up all day. Does anyone know a kind of really good make-up to use that can stay on all day without me having to do touchups?
There is this foundation that is the shape of a toilet seat. It would be blue and you can find it in walmart stores. This stuff is kind of like a powder and a liquid mixed. It is the best when it comes to oily skin. It doesn't wear off and you can't tell if you are wearing which is the point lol. It is a cover girl product. It should clear up any problems you have.
Hello my name is Natalie, I am 15 years old and I have a boyfriend named Don and I am really confused about him right now. He always says he loves me but he doesn't show it. I know most people would say that this is stupid but he hasn't even changed his status on myspace yet it still says single. It means alot to me because when we first went out he was so happy to say that I was his girlfriend but now it's like he just don't care. I try to talk to him but he wouldn't listen and I just have a feeling that he's just using me till he can find the next best thing.Sorry that this is long I have alot to say but what should I do.
Thanks xoxo,
Natalie F
Sometimes when people pull away something drmatic has happened to them. The best thing is to try anf find out why he is behaving like this and if he knows that you are willing to help he will open up to you. Alot of people seem like the type that they will tell you everything but the truth is if it is a family matter or something of that sort they will shut people. Find out why he is pulling away and he will show that affection again. If not he will continue to do it. If he knows you will stand by him he will tell you what he is feeling or what has happened.
I am getting my wisdom teeth pulled in a couple of days and I am really scared! If you have had yours out...
-does it hurt
-is going under weird, what does it feel like
-should i be scared
Thanks
Hal
You don't feel a thing. They give you drugs to make you go to sleep and when you wake up they are out. When the drugs wear off you might pain kind of like a headache. They give you painkillers so you are always sleeping an ddn't really feel a thing. You may not be able to eat a while so I would stock up on water and things like jello or pudding. Things that will be easy to digest. Other than that there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of.
Even though this is long will someone read this especially and adult and give your opinion.
I got into the college of my dreams my senior year but was unable to go because of the cost. But now i got readmitted and i feel i am still gonna be a little short on money so i feel i can go and commute see i know a girl that was looking for a roommate who attends spelman college and she put it up on the college campus website i had access to it because i was supposed to attend and i kept her as one of my facebook buddies and everything so i was thinking i could go up there and pay for the house with her and commute but i know my parents wouldn't go for that but if i were to do it any way would i be wrong. I will be 19 then and although i'm not grown to them i want to grow up and i want to go to atlanta i only have one life. I just don't want it to blow up in my face because everything i do goes down the drain. What do you think.
The best thing is to carefully look at your situation. Now if you move out and live with this girl you will then be able to afford to go becasue you will be under a grant based on the new income. This is your life and you have to make the decision on how to live it. This will not blow up in your face as long as you think about it carefully and slowly plan your moves. If you jump ahead to fast it won't work out. Usually finacial aide people are not that helpful so you shoudl talk to the distrct person. Someone higher upa nd they wil be able to help in any way to make the situation work.
As for your parents they can't control becasue you are an adult and you can make whatever choice you want. Just take it one day at a time and going higher than finacial aide by going to the deen or even the district person will help. I had the exact problem and I had to go over their heads in order to get my questions answered.
After reading this you'll be thinking 'Lame teenage problem' but this is a big deal to me. As of last week I was known as the nice girl you can trust and will never bitch about you behind your back. But now that's down the drain. I'm now known as a bitch who says heaps of crap behind people's backs. What happened was that one of my 'friends' and I drifted away (No fights, nothing) and I haven't been to school in about a week due to being sick so now was the best time to tell everyone I have been bitching behind their backs to her (Even though I haven't) so now everyone is angry with me and I'm not even there to defend myself. I have no idea what bought this on. I was still friends with her, just not as close and if anyone should be angry it's me because she's been ditching me for her new friends (Her new friends have nothing to do with this don't worry)
It is hard to come back to something like what you described. The only way it will be solved is to prove your trust again. In high school the truth always comes out so give it time and everyone will be apoligizing to you personally. If you want that trust back you have prove that you never said anything. Sometimes with this you may lose this friend but you will gain more trust from others in its place. Maybe go straight to this girl and get her to admit the truth. Maybe record so you have proof. If you don't try nothing will be accomplished.