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Friends don't trust me anymore
After reading this you'll be thinking 'Lame teenage problem' but this is a big deal to me. As of last week I was known as the nice girl you can trust and will never bitch about you behind your back. But now that's down the drain. I'm now known as a bitch who says heaps of crap behind people's backs. What happened was that one of my 'friends' and I drifted away (No fights, nothing) and I haven't been to school in about a week due to being sick so now was the best time to tell everyone I have been bitching behind their backs to her (Even though I haven't) so now everyone is angry with me and I'm not even there to defend myself. I have no idea what bought this on. I was still friends with her, just not as close and if anyone should be angry it's me because she's been ditching me for her new friends (Her new friends have nothing to do with this don't worry)
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When you get back to school, confront her in a very, very calm manner in front of the "friends" she's been telling these things to.
Putting her in this position forces her to do one of two things: Tell you that you're lying to your face or backtrack and expose herself in front of everyone as a liar. If she calls you a liar to your face just to save her image, I suggest finding new "friends". If your old ones are so eager to turn their backs on you, this situation could (and probably will) happen again.
However, during this confrontation, I suggest you not yell, and walk away if it begins to escalate into a fight. That way, you have dignity and, bonus, you don't get kicked out of school!
You can always find people who will be your friend and stick by you. This girl is not one of them.
I say, either way, you get out of this volatile group of "friends".
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It is hard to come back to something like what you described. The only way it will be solved is to prove your trust again. In high school the truth always comes out so give it time and everyone will be apoligizing to you personally. If you want that trust back you have prove that you never said anything. Sometimes with this you may lose this friend but you will gain more trust from others in its place. Maybe go straight to this girl and get her to admit the truth. Maybe record so you have proof. If you don't try nothing will be accomplished.
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Just confront her about it.
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What your 'friend' did was wrong, but there really isn't anything you can do about it. You don't need to apologize to anyone if you didn't do anything. Just let it blow over or let your friends realize that it's stupid to be angry at you because you didn't do anything. Just give it time; things like this usually just blow over in the end.
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