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this is really long but i relly need and answer...♥
i was "friends" with this one girl. weve been friends for the longest time! she always told me her secrets and i always told my secrets to her. we go to the same school and one day before class started i told her a secret that wasn't about me but it was reallly embaressing to even tell her! my "friend" started telling everyone even though i told her not to tell anyone. the people she told asked how my "friend" knew about the secret and my friend told them that I made the whole secret up and that i told her about it and that i was trying to get attention by making up all these wierd secrets about other people. i dumped my "friend" and went with some other girls who didn't relly care about the whole secret thing. but the problem is that this happened at school and its summer and i STILL remember the whole thing. i can't get it out of my head. i still am really mad at my "friend" but dont know what to do!
plz plz plz help me!
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Sorry it took me so long to write back, had gone away for the weekend.. Is it possible to call this ex~friend of yours? It might would help you to get some things off your chest to her. Real friends keep secrets no matter what even if yall get in a fight you still keep your mouth shut about anything told in earlier times. If you don't want to call her maybe you can write her a letter a (non-hostile) one. Other than that, there's not much else to do but just forget about it and that's hard to do, I know. Sorry I couldn't be of much help to you.

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If you have heard the song "think im crazy" by chamillionaire and natalie maybe you can help me. Maybe you can even look up the lyrics and help me out. I don't understand the story. All I know is that this girl is getting a record deal from chamillionaire and she is telling him a story about a boyfriend or something. I don't understand what happened. Someone please explain!

the boyfriend is chamillionaire's ex best friend which is dead and chamillionaire's thinkin that she killed him when actually he's killin her. He died of aids. but not before giving it to her.

"And she pulls a clearer picture, it's my damn ex-best friend
how you know him? she told me she was with him at his house
watching movies on sundays when they be chilling
and that's exactly the day that the hospital came to get him
the feeling was the worst feeling that she could possibly be feeling
stood up and then i yelled out "why in the hell did you kill him?"

To see all the lyrics go to: http://www.lyrics4all.net/c/chamillionaire/the-sound-of-revenge/think-im-crazy.php

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when driving a manual car, is using the 2nd gear for starting a fuel saving act?
how does one save on fuel when driving manual cars?

I drive a manual and love it but I'm not quite sure what you mean by using the 2nd gear for starting a fuel saving act? Stick shift vehicles are already way better on gas that automatic cars anyways. If you talking bout staring off driving in 2nd gear i'd advise against that plus you'd have to get your speed up from 0-10 to be able to pull it off leaving your yard in 2nd gear, otherwise you'd just choke off and also I dont see where that would help you save on gas when reving up causes you to LOSE gas and you'd have to, to get it into 2nd gear however this might not even be what your talking about so drop me sum feedback and I'll edit my answer accordingly.

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I have to go for a breast exam and a pap smear in a couple days and im totally flipping out becuase i just read an article on how and what the doctor does (http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/medical_care/obgyn.html) and this is scaring me becuase its the most private part of my body. or parts. the part im most worried about is me being 15 female and my doctor is a male. I feel uncomfortable now and im really driving myself crazy. If anyone has been in my position please tell me anything to make me feel better. thanks so much.

The trick is, finding a doctor that your most comfortable with...then it won't be so bad. I actually prefer a male doctor, dunno why just do. Of course my 40 year old (looks like he's late 20's) OBGYN is HOT! so that might be why? lol the actually exam is over before you cant count to 50, just that quick!

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Ok, well i have medium length, kinda thin, layeredish,side bang, side parted, brown hair. I never really do anything with my hair. mainly i keep it down or i put it up. is there anything easy i can do? or is there any sites that i can find hairstyles on?

PLEASE HELP!!

kailyn

MESSY BUN: (this one's SUPER cute!*)
1. Slick your hair back into a high ponytail and secure with an elastic.
2. Divide the ponytail hair in half.
3. Twist one half around itself to make a messy bun. Leaving the ends loose, secure the bun with two or three bobby pins.
4. Twist the other half around the bun you just made in the opposite direction. Leaving the ends loose, secure the piece with two or three bobby pins.


3-PART PULL BACK:
1. Part your hair from ear to ear across the top of your head to create an upside-down U.
2, Divide the the top section of hair into three more sections and secure each with an elastic.
3. Divide the center ponytail hair into two halves.
4. Combine the left section of the center ponytail with the left ponytail and secure them together with an elastic about three inches down from the first elastics.
5. Do the same with the right section of the center ponytail and the right ponytail.

HIGH PONY:
1. Curl your hair with a medium-barrel curling iron. Lightly spray your whole head with hairspray.
2. Hold the top third of your hair up in the air by its ends and lightly back-comb the roots to add volume.
3. Preserving the volume you just created at the front of your hair, pull all of your hair into a high ponytail and secure with an elastic.

Good luck, & Have fun!!**

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My hair tends to get very frizzy and puffy after being wet, I was wondering if there's any shampoo's, conditioners, or styling product that will prevent this.

Your hair is getting frizzy and puffy because it is damaged. The main thing is to treat the problem. Buying some anti-frizz shampoo isnt going to help... it's kind of like having a stinky room and spraying airfreshner, then all of a sudden you cant figure out why your room smells like tropical melon and dirty socks, your only covering up the problem not eliminating it. first step is to get your split ends cut off that's the major source of your frizziness. After that pick you up a bottle of Pantene Pro-v hair serum.

http://www.pantene.com/en_US/products/collection/smooth/anti_frizz_serum.jsp

Apply to wet or damp hair. Dispense 2-4 pumps of product into palm. Rub hands together and smooth through wet hair from root to tip. What it is doing is coating every strand against breakge and frizziness.

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ok....this is hard to talk about but im going to try to get it out best i can.im in college, and i really like this guy( ill call him rob) for a while. we never hooked up or anything, but talked dont the phone here and there.sometimes he use to joke around about things he wanted to do with me sexually,but i always just thought he was kidding because we were kinda friends.so this one day, i was really drunk and he called me to come over to his apartment. i was so excite because i really like him and he alwasy told me what a great girl i was and how he liked me alot. i thought one day he was really gunna get serious with me. Anyway, i went there and he told me he wanted me to listen to some song in his room, i went in and when i did his roomate was in ther and i kind aheard him tell him to leave, then he left rob locked the door. i started to get nervous because i wasnt really expeting to hook up with im or have sex, but i just went with it because i was so drunk. we end up starting to hook up and then it just got bad. we started to have sex, which was ok with me because i thought he really like me and it was going to be so great.it ended up be the most hurtful thing i have ever gone through, pyshcially and emotionally. he was having sex with me really rough, and it hurt really bad, i was very drunk but i managed to say your hurting me, so he would stop, but then he would just do the same thing again. he was throwing me around the bed like a rag doll, and i was crying inside.i said stop it hurts, but he took that as "stop for a sec then start again" this went on for a good 20 mintues till i fianlly made up some excuse to leave.when i left i cried the entire way home. i got home and i had bruises bewtween my legs already.i was so hurt because i though he like me and he treated me so terribly....but what i always wanted to know was...is that considered rape or something close to it???sorry so long, i just pushed it out of my mind for song long becauseit really screwed me up in the head to the point i cant trust guys anymore and talk of sex with a guy totally scares me...advice please what do you think??im i blowing this out of poportion? because i didnt exactly say or scream stop like i was being raped....i dunno please advice

Reading this at first, I was like NOOO that aint rape, she was willing...BUT when you told him to stop, it hurts and he kept on, that is considered rape to me. You having bruises between your legs is awful, that just let's us know exactly how much force he was using on you. Alchol & sex are never 2 things that should be mixed together, if for no other reason than the simple fact that what happened to you that nite could be chalked up to, well she was drunk ya know. I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems trusting men, I know first hand where you are coming from...It took me a long time to learn this and I still have to keep it in mind... "NEVER BLAME A NEW LOVE FOR THINGS AN OLD ONE DID." Now I'm fully aware that this guy wasn't a "love" but it's just a simple reminder that not every guy you meet is wanting to hurt you.

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kay me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now..we have been talking about gettin a place of our own and really settle down with eachother..the thing is he wants me to be more AGGRESSIVE but i dont know how because im a soft person that gets hurt very easily and i am a big baby..he also wants me to WOMAN up but i dont know how or what he means by that...and i need help on how i can do these things so we can work out and last..so if u could please help me out..were together everyday..stay at eachothers houses..in love..families want us to be together..just this little bump keeping us alittle apart..ill rate high!

How old are yall? I am the same way as you, a soft person that gets hurt easily...He shouldn't want that to change about you, to an extent because thats parts of what makes you....well you. Is it possible that you let people walk all over you beacuse of you being so passive & soft hearted...if that's the case then I can see why he might want you to change. Not to sure what he means about tellin you to "woman up" what, get tougher? also, be more aggressive about what? And to what extent do you act like a baby? It's a lil hard to answer your question without having these details... In order for me to give you the best advice, I need more on the situation... Thankies :)

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My girl friend, Trish, is so beautiful and I love her so much.
The problem is people say that she is ugly, & I don't think that at all.
I was just wondering if I could get all of your honest opinions. Do ya'll think she is ugly?

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c54/TriciaxxxAnn/newhair.jpg

I'll rate 5s for all answers.

She looks like Jessica Alba and we all know how hot she is! Tell the people that are sayin she is ugly to **** off there just haitin'

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Okay. This might sound weird, but im freaked out.

I have a rash by my vaginal area. like on the sides. im not sexually active. nor have i ever been, im only 13. i told my mom about the rash and she has no idea what it could be and she doesnt have time to take me to the doctors. im scared to put something on it cause idk if it will like. hurt the vaginal tissue......


help..please?

Don't be freaked out, I assure you everything is ok. Your having 1 of 2 problems and it is easily fixable. 1) your pants or panites are to tight causing chafing. 2) your sweating down there (very common, when you sweat, you sweat everywhere so dont think ur weird) and you've gotten a rash from it. In either way the treatment is the same. Don't wear pants that are to tight in the vaginal area and at night when your sleeping dont wear any panties just put on a loose pair of shorts or a long nightie, it will give your "rash" time to breathe and will get better ALOT faster.

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Whats the fascination girls have over 6-packs? When my gf starts talking about celebrities, athletes, or other guys that have them, she drools over them and I feel miserable about myself and left out, I mean what am I supposed to say to that? I don't know if thats her way of telling me I should have one or what. It kind of bothers me, but I don't know if telling my gf that would do any good. All her other friends think the same thing, I just don't see whats so great about it...so what is it and what do you think I should do?

Most girls like 6-packs and think it make a already hot celebrity look even hotter...there's plenty of R-E-A-L people that have 6-packs so if it ment that much to her she would go get that which she hasn't...she feels comfortable enough in yall's relationship to be able to say he's hot about a guy on t.v. but if it really bother's you...try talking to her about it if she keeps on then the best thing I can tell you is to give her a dose of her own medicine, write on a piece of paper..."I'm just doing this to show you how it feels." and put it in your pocket...sit down with her to watch some tube and when a hot girl comes across the screen be like, damn her legs look good as hell, or whoa what a rack! and when she looks at you like wtf! give her the paper. That will stop her dead in her tracks and the oh look at his 6-pack comments will come to a dead-halt. good luck

P.S. I tell you to write it on the paper ahead of time because, being a girl myself, when she gets butt hurt that you said something about a hot girl and you try to tell her that you were just trying to prove a point she might think your bull-shittin her to get out of the dog house...so yea lol write it downnnnn

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I'm doing this for my friend!!!
Name :: Toria
Age :: 14
Prep? Goth? Athletic? Etc.. :: Prep/gangster.
Any Nicknames :: no
Words you like :: rawr and any others
Do you want your name in your SN :: sure
Love sn? (ex : iiTHiiNKY0URMiiNE) :: sure
Words like BABii - SWEETiiE - etc / yes or no :: i prefer not.
Hair color :: brunette
Eye Color :: blue
Single / Taken :: single
Fav. Singer/Band :: panic! at the disco
Type of Music :: rap
Fav. Song :: i have a lot
Fav. Color :: pink and green
Anything else?? :: i mostly like love screen names and ones with my name in it!

sweetest_sin
lovn_toria
brunettes_r_better
blue_eyed_gangsta (personal fav lol)

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How long dose it take for a girl to show signs of pregnancy?

Pregnancy signs often mimic those of pms. The reason being that there is a high level of progesterone in your body either way in the 2nd half of your cycle. When we are trying to conceive..those symptoms often play games with our heads.

Once your body starts producing high enough HCG (pregnancy hormones), then other symptoms "might" kick in. It all depends on how fast your HCG is produced.

Some people can start having symptoms as early as 2 weeks, while others can go up to 7 weeks and not notice a thing... Nausea, swollen sore breats, cramping, bloating, sensitivity to smell, headaches, thick cervical mucus, feeling sleepy.....


Good luck to you!

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In all honestly..can some precum get you pregnant? My bf have sex and we like to not use a condem for like 30 seconds at first. then he puts one on..and we go for 5-7 minutes usually (sometimes less sometimes a minute or so more) and he finishes. the likliness of me getting pregnant isnt all that high right?
second question...my bf only lasts for 3-7 minutes. is this normal? i have heard of guys going for 15 mins,30 mins, etc. is there any way to increase how long he lasts?
third question..i was dumb and made a horrible mistake thinking i would be ok if we had sex on the 4th and 5th day of my period (which was light at the time because 5th day is my last day) unprotected. my health teacher told me it was unlikely but still possible. i took a pregnancy test today..and im due for my period right around now or within the next 3 days about. .it came out negative. should i still be concerned?
PLEASE HELP! if you only know the answer to 1 of my questions..please answer! 5's for anyone who is nice! :) thank you so much

1) Yes, there is precum and it is possible for you to get pregnant if the precum is put into the vagina. Precum may not have very much sperm in it, but any amount of sperm can fertilize the egg. If a male urinates a few minutes before he has intercourse, the sperm is less likely to be present. But precum is designed to clean out the urethra (the tube within the penis) and bring any sperm that may be left over from prior ejaculations out. That is why sperm can be in precum.
2) Your boyfriend only lasting such a short amount of time is normal for them butttttt it's only because he can't "hold his load" meaning he could most defiantely go longer if he wanted to, but it feels to good for him so he just keeps going till he cums. Try talkin to him about this. The next time he gets close to cumming tell him to pull out & take a breather or flip into a different position that will give him just enough time to "calm down" so he don't nut so quickly.
3) Yes, you can get pregnant at ANY time, here is a website I want you to go to: http://www.babycenter.com/calculators/ovulation/?_requestid=927531
It's a ovulation predictor. Find out when you're likely to ovulate -- this will give you some guideline for future refrence on days to steer clear of having sex. Remember, these are good educated guesses but in no way does it mean that you couldn't be ovulating at other times, so always use protection. The pull out method does NOT work. My 5 year old god-daughter says so...lol Good luck & hope I helped you...drop me sum feedback. :)

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Ever since we met, my boyfriend always had this thing about grabbing my upper arm to pull me closer to him when he wants to talk to me or something.


Sometimes it's like he isn't aware of his own strength or something because it'll hurt. And I always tell him not to do it because of that. He apologizes and tells me that he doesn't realize he does it that hard and says he'll try to stop.


Well, of course, he doesn't stop. He just did it last night and that time it left marks on my arms. I didn't even notice until my mom said something about it this morning and I had to sit that and explain to her why the guy I'm seeing left marks on my arm! NOT EASY.


I haven't showed him the marks yet but what should I say to him when I do? I mean, I know what to say but how do I make it clear to him that he NEEDS to STOP?


And by the way, he is in NO WAY abusive, if he came off that way. I'm 18/f -- He's 21/m

I know you said he is in no way abusive but, I just have a quick question. When he grabs your arm, is he mad or is he trying to make a point about something and your ignoring him or something like that? In either way, It probably is just the simple fact that it's just a habit to him, like smokin ciggarettes. It's his way of getting your attention. I'm sure that if you show him the bruises on your arm and he see's that, he'll stop. Alot of times, guys just don't realize how strong they are. I have a big bruise on my arm lol me and my husband were play fighting (I was winnin' btw lol) anyways I didn't even notice it till the next mornin' and he was like im sooo sorry and i was like shut up i didnt even feel nothin, we were playin! yea so I understand where your comin from...just tell him, Baby, your alot stronger than you realize so take it easy, I'm a princess, I bruise easily.....play it off so that your not making him feel like he's a wife beater, ya know. Good Luck

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when me and my boyfriend are on the phone we can never think of anything to talk about. can anyone give me some things that would start a conversation with me and him? thank you ill rate and comment

God, I hate when this happens...You wait all day for the phone to ring and then....... Hellooo? You still there? There's plenty to always talk about but you have to be able to steer the conversation in the right direction like if he says school sucked today, you shouldn't go, well im hungry lol get my point? your stopping the conversation before it even starts. Talk about the up-coming weekend, like say I want us to go do something...-or- Saw2 is at the theaters, we should go see it whatcha think? Another tip, don't gossip guys hate that! So save your juicy info for your girlfriends! It might would help to know about how old you are, because if your about 16-17, there's so much yall could be going out and doing, so that means being on the phone making plans...Give him something to look forward to. Hmmm DO NOT let him be the first one to say I gotta go on the phone...if you sense he's about to do it, you jump in and say welp, I gotta go, Call me later...Always leave them wanting more.

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13/f
well i used to masterbate but i dont anymore... i haven't started my period yet
could this of affeceted it? please help

You masturbating has nothign at all to do with your period...Normal age range for your period to start is at the ages of 13-16 so don't stress if you haven't got yours yet, cherish the days that you dont have to worry about tampons and cramps lol....Also, ask your mom how old she was when she started her's...that will give you a better idea as to when you will. Also, I'd just like to add, Masturbation is a normal and healthy thing....

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If a guy is really tall, does he have a big penis?

I've heard this one before, or if he has big feet, or big ears...all that is complety false the only way to tell is to drop em' & look lol

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im really short witch makes me have a small pussy and wen i have sex the guys dick wont fit in and ive done it a few times now, what can i do to have it finally fit in so i can be happy and have sex all the way!! because im dieing without it

Your height has nothing to do with it... Every vagina is equipped to "handle" all men's dick's...extra long, short & wide, long & wide, short and thin, doesn't matter...The only way you physically couldn't is if you were born with some sort of vaginal deformity...my guess with your problem is there is not enough lube which can make it hurt more, and cause it to where the guy can't get it all the way in...tell him to lube it up or buy some KY...

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Okay .. I shave "down there", and I have done so for the past three years. I know how to do it so that I won't irritate my skin and I'm more comfortable with it shaved.

I try to keep it cleanly shaved but it grows back fast and then shaving it is difficult - the hair is very short and blunt, and it's painful to try to shave. I was wondering if anyone had any tips for keeping that area smooth as much as possible. I hate waiting for it all to grow out and then shave it because it's very uncomfortable.

Thank you very much.

I know what ya' mean....So here's the simple solution to your problem...A shaving cream that is designed to be used JUST down there. It makes the hair softer and alot easier to shave, 100% PAINLESS and also, you wouldn't believe how smooooooooth it is after your done. Go to http://www.universalgrp.com/main/face.php?C=women#bikinraz and scroll down to the 2nd and 3rd product by Noxzema. The SOOTHE & SMOOTH, & CLEAR SHAVE GEL....You can pick em' up at Wal~mart for like less than $5.00

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