Never even met eachother.
My mum kind of told me about this girl, Hannah. She works with her. She is gay (hannah) plays football - like me.
And i have fallen for her so bad and we havent even met. Spoken or anything. Is it lust? I dont think so. I don't think about us doing any sexual stuff. I just think about her sososoo much.
She knows i exsist and has asked to meet me.
I am not even gay - i have a boyfriend.
But i have fallen for her - How?
What do i do? I need to talk to her - but i can't.
Help me?
Well, they say that if you have had a crush on someone for four months or more you're in love with them
So, my advice is after 4 months you should make your feelings clear, because the crush/fantasies with only continue, and you need to be clear in your head.
Also, try writing a note-it's so much easier than talking, yet it's more personal than email/text.
If you don't try, you'll never know!
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How do I interact with people on twitter so that they may add me?
I'm in the same position as you!
You could try:
1) Retweeting what celebrities/magazines say
2) Finding people you already know and follow them eg: off facebook
3) Connect twitter to facebook, so as many people possible can see you have twitter and find you
4) Be interesting, like what I did was follow a fun facts page and retweet stuff
5) Be yourself-there are only so many 'wives of justin bieber' etc that people cope with-you're popular if you're different!
6) In your bio, write 'follow for a follow'
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I'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and it seems like he doesn't like me anymore. He doesn't hang out with me, never calls, doesn't keep his promises, and he never invites me to his house. I really like him and he's told me the same but I don't know anymore.
Hi,
So the first thing to remember is that in every relationship theres always going to be a dip.
The first few months are spent at the 'honeymoon' stage, where both of the couple are getting to know each other, and are progressing futher the relationship-this is when less arguments occur.
Then there gets to be a point when you know each other, and you enter a new phase in the relationship. Strong couples survive it, and alot break up at this point, because they don't understand that arguments are bound to occur at some point, and it's if you can work through them as a couple that makes you closer.
I think this relationship of yours needs a break. However long that may be. Because, absense really does make the heart fonder, so you need to talk to him about it.
Try not to do what alot of girls do and give the guy the driving seat-whether you want to or not this relationship would be better after a break.
Sit him down and explain how you think it's lost it's way, and that you need some time apart to focus on other commitments. That will give you a feel of whether or not you want to get back together. Don't be scared to break it up, because if you don't do something soon he will, except he may do it with the intention of not getting back together because he may not understand the point about all couples becoming slightly distant.
You're only 13, but I can tell your mature for you age compared to other 13 year old on here. If after the break you do want to get back together (likely as 9 months means something) then thats great. If not though, don't worry, you'll have become alot more maturer and experienced in the process.
Good luck hope everything goes ok
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Hi, i'm Meg, i am 13 and LOVE writing. This is a poem i wrote for a loved one,tell me what you think please.
The darkness attacks at the mention of your name
The ache in my heart strikes once again
I remember the times we would sing and dance
Then not saying 'I love you' one last chance
will you think of me wherever you are?
Pillow fights,cuddles,air guitar?
I need you,please come back from our part
Take the pieces and fix my heart.
You went to early we were unprepared
It left us sad,full of sorrow and scared.
He lies here now as cute as a lamb
The grandchild you never met, You'de be proud of him Nan.
RIP Nan. I'll never stop loving you,your the wind beneath my wings. xx
Hey,
Yeh it's such a nice poem!
Good use of adjectives, similies, metaphors and the air guitar/cuddles bit is nice as. a kind of juxstapostion
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have u been in love, and found love?
Hey don't know if this question is one for everyone or just me..but I'll answer it :)
I have loved guys, but looking back I don't think I've ever been in love with them-like unconditionally, because no one as yet has exepted me as I truly am.
I'm 17 if that helps?
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19/f
Do you think being a vet would be depressing, seeing sick animals every day?
I think you have to have certain qualities to be a vet-
Empathy-not just understanding but the ability to put yourself in the shoes of the sick animal
Intelligence-obviously
Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. I guess you have to become emotionally unattached from each animal you see. It's like a psychologist. They empathise with patients, but they remain proffesional because if they worse they're heart on their sleeve I guess they couldn't cope with the amount of sick people they see.
For some personalities aspects of this job could be depressing. But on the most part, I think it's a rewarding job if you love animals.
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Hi !
So I am a currently finishing up my last year in high school and I am now in the process of signing up for universities. I've already signed up for a university near my house, but I am also starting to consider applying to universities outside of my hometown . I've already brought up this topic to my mom, but from what I can already tell, she's not that very fond of the idea. I don't know what to do .. Because the thing is, whats holding me back is that I'd be leaving my only mom at home, my family the place that I grew up in ,and plus the fact that I could be leaving my old ways and comfort of my moms support is really hard to let go. but then there also a part of me that wants to experience the world and try to live and grow independently as well. Should I apply for schools outside of my hometown or not ? Do u think its a good idea ?
Should I just do my undergraduates at a far university and then come back to do my graduate /proffesional school and residency at home ? Vice versa ? Or should I just go full out and do all of university away from home and then go back home for my actual career ? Cause I think I still want to live in my hometown in the future ! Please help !
Hey!
I'm from England and am applying to uni myself.
My mum has always 'wrapped me in cotton wool', so I really want to use university as the opportunity to become independant, so my advice is you should aswell. Also, I have a twin sister so want to have a seperate life from her.
I plan on being a train journey of an hour to two hours away-so like I can still see my mum at weekends, but I'm far enough to start afresh and live by my own rules.
And about the career bit, nowadays it depends where you can get a job-if you can get a job you want near where you live currently then that's great, though I'm sure your mum will understand (like mine) that to get a job you're qualified to do, you may have to travel. Theres nothing to stop you living where you live now later on, but personally you should put career before that kind of thing for now-focus on getting that job and then where you'd like to live!
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I am indian i am 16 my cousin sister is 22 i want to fuck her or touchher body
Well what do you want people on here to do about it?
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how can i die fast, easy, and painless?
The truth is you don't need to be proffesional to know that what your thinking isn't normal-whoever you actually are. Go see your doctor
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Why shouldnt I put my name on a babysitting flyer?
I guess it could be down to security. If you're a girl-as most babysitters are then obviously perverted men may (disgusting though it is) prey on willing people like you, and decieve you.
Other than that I don't know what advice to give not knowing anything about you :)
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Hi everyone, im 20 years old guy, I was pretty busy with my life minding my own business and I never had a girl friend. I,m a good nice guy, help others and good friend but never made a girl friend. Now I feel alone and need support but it seems to me that no girl likes me in that sense. I feel they don,t want me to be their boy friend. I,m really isolated how can I make a girl friend ant suggestion and please don,t advice to use dating sites they are useless.
I want a real girl in my life.
Thanks.
You could try interest clubs, singles holidays or just go to clubs with friends.
But the main place you meet a potential partner is when you're not even looking. Try an achieve something you always wanted to.
Unfortunatly, being isolated makes the dating game a little harder, but their are also many introverted girls in the world who are equally having a hard time of it. You have to put yourself out their-both parties do. No one will spot you if you hide away!
My advice though would be to not talk to a girl with the sole view that she will be your girlfriend. Not only is this the wrong approach-you've got to be friends first, but girls can see right through it. So approach it like this. 'I could do with a few more friends in my life that are girls' rather than 'I need a girlfriend'
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I met my husband 8 years ago, we've been married 7. He was in a car accident years before we met which left him disabled and with schizophernic like episodes. His only family is his mother and younger brother. Ever since I've known the brother he has been making excuses not to see my husband- money, his girlfriend(now wife),work. And my husband just wants to spend any amount of time with him. His mother always made excuses too& in the end said the brother couldnt deal with everything as he misses his "old" brother.I tried to keep the brother out of our lives as I feel he keeps rejecting my husband,but his mother keeps nagging that we buy them presents,treat their children,phone constantly etc. And no, this doesnt improve anything. She keeps insisting we show them love. Why? At times I succeed in distancing us, but at times-like now-she is just on my case 24/7. And no, no discussion with either the brother or his wife has helped. How do I handle this? I feel my mother in law is deeply insensitive to my husband being constantly rejected and it seems like nothing I say sinks in.
Hey,
Fistly I admire the fact you're obviously very supportive of your husband, he's lucky.
Lets talk about the main issue in all of this-the schizophrenia. Although I'm not a doctor I have studyed this illness in detail.
Alot of people are feel very wary with those who have a mental illness-and don't wish to involve themselves simply because of fear and not understanding the illness.
Schizophrenia in this case is acute (has occured suddenly) It affects 1% of the population and research suggests it affects intelligent, creative people the most.
I think it sounds to me like your brother is refusing to accept your husband for who he is. He perhaps doesn't understand that schizophrenia is in no way brought on by the person themselves, and also common sympotoms like hallucinations and voices are very real to the sufferer.
I think if you want your husband to not be rejected by his family, they first need to understand alot more about the condition, so that they can let him in rather than block him out against a door or fear and confusion.
You said that no talking or discussion has helped. After reading your story I think it's best you give them an ultimatum by a written letter. Something like 'if you can't accept your brother/son for the person they are inside despite the schizophrenia which they can't help, and support a man who feels alone then he's better off without you'
I think your mother in law may want you to keep showing love because she too misses how things used to be. And, for now you should do because it's just a case of acceptence. Accepting things are different, and working round it.
Of course, the main thing I can advise is that you're husband needs all the support he can get. Over the summer, I suffered for a month with a bout of anxiety, so much so I didn't sleep for days and developed bulimia.
I'm better now, but my message would be to support him. Listen to him and get others to listen to him. Most of all, don't give up on him. I didn't speak to anyone for ages with my illness, and I could tell my twin sisters inner annoyance at what I had. But they lived with the notion that i'd get better, or at least learn to control it. And thanks to their support, i did.
Incidently, if you're husband is taking steps to get better, drugs are the most effective though they can have side effects. CBT also helps.
Take care-I really hope even some of this helps
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Thank You In Advance For Reading My Story, Giving Me Advice, etc. I apologize if it sounds like I'm whining but I really want to know why I am the way I am and how to better myself.
Hi , I'm a 16 yr old girl. I never kissed a guy, been on a date , hung out alone with a guy or been in a relationship. I don't go to parties, sneak out or hang out late. I don't feel like I do normal teenager things and even my mom complains that I'm being antisocial. I have been to three different high schools and in my current high school, unlike the previous two, I have almost no friends. I hide during lunch because sitting at a lunch table alone as a Senior is just too unbearable. I talk to no one in class unless I am forced to. (I do clubs and activities outside of school and I get along with the other teens there great so why not at school?) I can't figure out what has gone wrong with my life. Guys try to talk to me on the street and I ignore them, even if I think they are cute. If guys try to make eye contact, I look the other way. If I see guys approaching me , I try to take a detour , going into a store until they pass or crossing the street. Guys who I've like at one point and even gotten the courage to talk to, I always chicken out of plans or tell them I am too busy for a relationship. This one guy who liked me tried to kiss me repeatedly and even though I wanted nothing more than to kiss him, I would always back away and make excuses. My friend wanted to hang out but I've only hung out with her in group settings so I lied and told her I was busy. I mean what if we hung out and guys approached us, and I couldnt handle the situation? I see my younger cousins running around with really good looking guys, asking me for relationship advice and I would always have to lie. What do I know? I can't pin point my fears . I want to be social, and hang out with people. I want to have a relationship. I want to kiss and get my heart broken and call someone baby. But I just can't . I'm afraid. I panic sometimes.I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. At this rate it's possible. What do I do?
Thanks again, my fears are ruining my life. Ps I have no money for a therapist.
Hi, I'm 17/f
Firstly, if you're looking for someone equally as nervous about guys then I'm your girl.
I'm very shy you see, and for this reason I don't talk to guys at my college.
I used to think they'd never be anyone for me, but then I learnt that if I spent my teenage years hovering over this fact, I'll never look back on them as happy times, and I didn't want that.
So I pinpointed why I'm scared to talk to guys-because I'm not like other girls-so they probs wouldn't be interested in me. This is the mindset of many teenage girls, and results in a lack of confidence, which is a catch 22 situation, becasue tehn no guy would be interested in that.
However, theres this western view that guy prefer extroverts and thats it, if you're the quiet one that'd prefer to read in stead of party, with 5 friends instead of 50 then boom you'll never have a love/social life.
This isn't true. The minete you can accept yourself for who you are then thats a good start. If you'd rather be alone, like thats just you're personality, you can't help that, and also many guys may prefer this in a girl.
Sure, it's harder to find a bf if you're not in their faces, but, as I found out if you're yourself someone will appriciate it. About the nervous thing aswell, just remember that if you can accept who you are, then the guy also accept you for who you are. SO you're equal. If he didn't like you then he wouldn't want to kiss you.
Most kisses arn't like the movies you just have to get what you're given. But I guess my main advice here is to not stress about having a love life like most teenagers do these days. You're young, enjoy youth! And when you're enjoying friendships, careers and hobbies, the right person will then have to fit into your life rather than you shaping yourself to fit into theirs.
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Title says it all. I dont wanna know comments like ''Too Young''. Please answer. I need to know.
Yeh, this is a, attention seeking statement not a question hun
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how do you know if your ex still loves you even after ending 3/4 months after a year relationship?
Or even knowing if he still cares...
1) He'll text you alot and its always him who initiates the conversation
2) He'll look at you alot-in the same way as he did when he first fancied you
3) He'll tell you!
4) He hasn't moved on/has just come out of a rebound relationship-particularlly if he has alot of girlfriends
5) You'll just know! (I'm guessing you're a girl) Girls have a natural instinct-if you think he loves you still (and you had suspicions to ask this on here) then he probably does.
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i think i have been suffering from GAD for awhile but at the moment, 15/f i dont have healthy insurance and we dont really have the money to get a screening test or something. bu for right not a lot of traumatic things have happended in my life that have emotionally fucked me up. depression was one of them, but slowly now i am feeling better due to huge changes i made,i am not on medicationa and never was and really dont want to be. i perfer working out, yoga, eating healhty and socializing the best i can. i am usually, or what i am trying to get back is that i am a really funny, unfiltered, spontaneous, talktive person but when this all happend 3 years ago everything about me changed including the way i interacted with people and my thoughts and emotions. like i said its getting better, my dpression but my anxiety is kinda bad. i dont really get anixety attacks anymore but i have to present something for school in front of my class at achool and usually i would get an A on it becasue its so easy for my to just keep talking about what the topic is, even if i didnt totally know what it was about. but this time we have to have notecards and do a powerpoint and the powerpoint is just supposed to have pictures on it and the notecards are supposed to have the info on it and your supposed to "present" to the class from the notecards and elaborate on it. im scared becasue out of no where i cant concentrate i start almost sweating and i cant breathe and i feel like im going to faint, or my knees start shaking, i cant even breathe to the point where i cant catch my breath and theres just this long pause and its so awkward. one time i actually had to physcially stop and go up to the teacher and make some exscuse. so by my doing really good this could really help my self confidence but if do really bad this could be bad. what could i do to help my anxiety? its not even that im nervous of presenting, it comes naturally to me but this happens and i dont know why?? thankyouu
Hi,
I'm 17/f and earlier this year I suffered from anxiety and bulimia and insomnia came with this-I basically had a breakdown for a month, but you can get better-just get help!
Okay, so as doctors will tell you, anxiety is mostly genetic, so it's in your personality. Anxiety will never go away, you just gotta learn how to deal with it.
I was like you, and used to be very shy person and things, but I'm telling you now to do something about it. Anxiety builds up and up and gets to a point where you can't control it.
I use a technique called 'mindfulnes' and if you look this up on the web, theres loads of stuff about it. Make sure you meditate like this every day-make time for it.
About the presentation, I'd suggest a few things. You could take a natural remedy tablet before hand to make you less nervous. You could keep practicing it to a friend/relative untill its perfect.
The thing is, you wont feel more confident after it, well maybe for a few minetes but the next time you may be back to your nervous state again. To overcome this truly you need to start with your mind. What are you scared of? Is this realistic?
Also, recognise that the wobbly legs, dificulty breathing is all in your mind. The doctors told me that no matter how bad it feels being anxious, it is in no way harmful. Also, learn to acknoweldge that thoughts such as 'I'll screw this presentation up' are just thoughts. You can't control them, so be aware they're there but don't listen to them nesessarily.
I'm sorry-I've gone on abit, but I hope you find this useful. Good luck :)
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I can have a orgasm just by looking at my partner or hearing him on the telephone or thinking about him. We can have sex (constantly) for 2- 3 hours and I orgasm the whole time. It is GREAT! (I am 70 female and my partner is 10 years my junior). I am very sensual no matter where you touch me. I really lose a lot of fluid since it is constant. SO how can my body manufacture that much fluid time after time the whole course of our sexual desire encounter. It never stops. I can soak 4 bath towels through each time we have sex. Where does it all come from? This is NO JOKE. He can attest to it. QUESTION IS? What makes me so sensual and where does all the orgasm fluid come from since there is so much each time? He is elated that I can give so much but I told him he is the contributor. Is this a showing of true-love? I do not get tired.
Well...
Love isn't just about sex it's about trust, communication,respecting each other for who you are and things.
So if you feel those things for him then I guess it is :)
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My boyfriend told me I dont act like a girlfriend.
How could I act like a girlfriend?
I am 16 years old
I am a female
I'm abit confused-because he could be saying this because he wants you to get more intimate or because he likes that you're like one of his friends?
I'm guessing its the first one.
The thing is to be yourself, so carry on as you are.
The difference I guess about being a friend and then being a girlfriend is the intimate stuff-the previous advice said to be there for him, but if you're like most people (friends anyway) then I guess you already are?
It depends on what he means by acting like a girlfriend. If he means kissing etc then thats what you may want to work on. If he means doing cutsie stuff like he sees in the movies then forget it!
This guy seems to have preconcieved ideas how his girl should and shouldn't act, which suggests he may want the 'status' and the 'girl' bit but not the 'friend' bit.
Sure, give him hugs and buy nice things for each other, but don't feel pressured to be someone you're not. If he can't accept you for who you are then theres defo someone out there who will. Good luck :)
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Hey everyone. I'm currently talking to a girl on the plenty of fish dating site. She's 20 years old and I'm about to be 27. Now she lives about an hour away and neither of us drive and we are still unsure of what we want to do with our lives. The problem is she's very shy. It does take a long time for her to respond to my messages and when she does, her answers are very short or she seems confused. She states in her profile that once she gets to know someone a bit, her shyness voes down a bit. I need help. How can I get this girl to open up to me more? We may only be friends because of how far away she lives and the fact that neither of us drive, but its still possible that we could become more then just friends.
Hi,
I'm younger than this girl, but I thoughht I'd answer because I'm a shy girl aswell!
Firstly I'm glad you understand she is shy and that she's not being a snob-this is what most people think.
Okay, what someone once did to me was tell jokes. Alot. I find humour tends to break the ice abit, because when you find something funny, you warm to the person as they triggered a nice feeling inside you.
Also, try not to talk about broad things. Like typical small talk things such as the weather, telly, blah blah blah. For some reason, I know shy girls may see this as just small talk, so will be unlikley to open up. Shy girls are reserved either because of something previously or because thats just the way they're made up genetically! So to get more out of her, I'd advise you to talk about deeper stuff-we like that-like family/friend situations,a current news story etc.
Also, compliments may but are unlikely to work as they'll be brushed off with 'no I'm not' or something. I find (as I'm doing right now) that shy girls like solving other peoples problems and they're good listeners. So if you ask for some advice, she'll probably open up.
I think the key is patience, and if you've got that you'll get the girl! Good luck :)
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I've been noticing a trend in the way people treat me. I've realized it has everything to do with how I act. I'm really nice and I think people feel that because of that, they can push me aside when they don't feel like dealing with me and they know there won't be consequences. Like at work, this one guy talks down to me as if I'm a teenager, but I'm 21. I know that I'm naive and I ask my co-workers a lot of questions pertaining to my job, but at least I'm polite. I don't want to change who I am to receive better treatment, so are there any other options? I'm even receiving the same treatment at a place I internship at, so I realize I'm the problem.
Hey,
I think the main thing to remember here is for people to be nice to you they have to respect you.
So sure, be nice but don't be a pushover or don't agree to everything-no one in reality is like this so you may come across as fake-and so not win peoples respect.
If I were you, I'd come across at first as keeping yourself to yourself until people warm to you, so it's like they've had to earn you're respect so they'll be nicer to you. Think about it-you're nice to people who don't want to know, so why should you be nice to everyone when they're in the driving seat?
You need to put yourself in the driving seat! Hold opinions, don't warm to people who you genuinly don't like and be true to yourself. if you feel rubbish don't fak it all the time!
Good luck :)
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