Question Posted Thursday December 13 2012, 8:06 pm
Hi !
So I am a currently finishing up my last year in high school and I am now in the process of signing up for universities. I've already signed up for a university near my house, but I am also starting to consider applying to universities outside of my hometown . I've already brought up this topic to my mom, but from what I can already tell, she's not that very fond of the idea. I don't know what to do .. Because the thing is, whats holding me back is that I'd be leaving my only mom at home, my family the place that I grew up in ,and plus the fact that I could be leaving my old ways and comfort of my moms support is really hard to let go. but then there also a part of me that wants to experience the world and try to live and grow independently as well. Should I apply for schools outside of my hometown or not ? Do u think its a good idea ?
Should I just do my undergraduates at a far university and then come back to do my graduate /proffesional school and residency at home ? Vice versa ? Or should I just go full out and do all of university away from home and then go back home for my actual career ? Cause I think I still want to live in my hometown in the future ! Please help !
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Work & School category? Maybe give some free advice about: Colleges & Universities? gr8fruit answered Wednesday December 26 2012, 5:40 am: Hi,
I think you should apply to whatever school is best for what you wish to go into, whether it be outside of your hometown or not. I think it is a good idea to experience new things and be able to figure out what you like better by actually expiriencing the new and not assuming what one or the other is going to be like. I know what it is like to leave the comfort of your Mom, but truth is - one day you're going to have to do it whether you like it or not. So you can choose to now, or wait til you just have to. Currently I haven't lived with my parents for almost 2 years and although I don't see them a lot, I go back every now and then to visit which is working for me. If you would like to do your undergraduate at a far university then come back, cuz that's what makes you comfortable.. then do that. Both your choices at the end there sound like a good idea. Since you still want to live in your hometown, you could definitely go full out and do all your university away from home then move back in the future.
In the end, it's all up to you and what you wish to do. Just remember: the new can be scary or exciting, it all depends on what you make of it. If you choose to move away you will learn a ton, meet new people, become sociable to the outside world and gain independence. If you choose to stay in your comfort zone, you will only be comfortable to what you've been exposed to so far in your life. Something to think about... [ gr8fruit's advice column | Ask gr8fruit A Question ]
Jasmine23 answered Wednesday December 19 2012, 12:13 am: Moving away from your mom is a difficult choice. it is one i have feared for many years as i am getting older(22) i still live with my parents and i fear that day for moving out is coming soon. No matter what your mother will always be in your life. and even if you do not live with her, you will miss her. it is a fact i can tell you will not change.
As for universities. I'm not too sure how they work on being accepted or what not. But i would take a look at what classes each place offers. what classes interest you. You want to go into something that interests you. I personally didn't go to university because i am a strong believer in not wasting money/time on classes i will never use.
Whether or not to leave out of town for school or stay in your home town i simply can not make that decision for you. It will take thinking and researching and discovering inside you where you want your life to go. Its not a easy decision. and you will meet bumps and mistakes on your journey of life. But where ever you end up. will be a great place!
~Jasmine* [ Jasmine23's advice column | Ask Jasmine23 A Question ]
mercury answered Tuesday December 18 2012, 6:34 pm: Hi! Look,I'll try to be as straightforward as possible. Do apply to a university far away from your hometown. This'll guarantee a better and more mature relationship with your mum and other members of your family. Even though she might not like the idea,I do believe that you need to start to be independent. So,I recommend that you just 'let it go'. Don't feel conditioned by your home,family,etc when deciding what to do,because I'm sure they'll always stand by you,no matter what you decide. If you can make it at home,so be it. On the contrary,if you feel like experiencing a new and independent way of life,away from your house and relatives,then go for it! Hope this helps you,at least a little:) [ mercury's advice column | Ask mercury A Question ]
kittenlover2000 answered Tuesday December 18 2012, 4:17 pm: Hey!
I'm from England and am applying to uni myself.
My mum has always 'wrapped me in cotton wool', so I really want to use university as the opportunity to become independant, so my advice is you should aswell. Also, I have a twin sister so want to have a seperate life from her.
I plan on being a train journey of an hour to two hours away-so like I can still see my mum at weekends, but I'm far enough to start afresh and live by my own rules.
And about the career bit, nowadays it depends where you can get a job-if you can get a job you want near where you live currently then that's great, though I'm sure your mum will understand (like mine) that to get a job you're qualified to do, you may have to travel. Theres nothing to stop you living where you live now later on, but personally you should put career before that kind of thing for now-focus on getting that job and then where you'd like to live! [ kittenlover2000's advice column | Ask kittenlover2000 A Question ]
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