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How to get a shy girl to open up?
Hey everyone. I'm currently talking to a girl on the plenty of fish dating site. She's 20 years old and I'm about to be 27. Now she lives about an hour away and neither of us drive and we are still unsure of what we want to do with our lives. The problem is she's very shy. It does take a long time for her to respond to my messages and when she does, her answers are very short or she seems confused. She states in her profile that once she gets to know someone a bit, her shyness voes down a bit. I need help. How can I get this girl to open up to me more? We may only be friends because of how far away she lives and the fact that neither of us drive, but its still possible that we could become more then just friends.
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Hi,
I'm younger than this girl, but I thoughht I'd answer because I'm a shy girl aswell!
Firstly I'm glad you understand she is shy and that she's not being a snob-this is what most people think.
Okay, what someone once did to me was tell jokes. Alot. I find humour tends to break the ice abit, because when you find something funny, you warm to the person as they triggered a nice feeling inside you.
Also, try not to talk about broad things. Like typical small talk things such as the weather, telly, blah blah blah. For some reason, I know shy girls may see this as just small talk, so will be unlikley to open up. Shy girls are reserved either because of something previously or because thats just the way they're made up genetically! So to get more out of her, I'd advise you to talk about deeper stuff-we like that-like family/friend situations,a current news story etc.
Also, compliments may but are unlikely to work as they'll be brushed off with 'no I'm not' or something. I find (as I'm doing right now) that shy girls like solving other peoples problems and they're good listeners. So if you ask for some advice, she'll probably open up.
I think the key is patience, and if you've got that you'll get the girl! Good luck :)
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