Hello, my name is Sam. There's a lot that I can say about myself, but if you'd like that then you could always message me and we can have a nice cup of tea together :D
I am not very old, so I might not have too much life experience, but I do like to help people. I know that life often throws unexpected blows at people, but I am so extremely optimistic. Hopefully some of my optimism will rub off on the people to whom I am giving advice. I am happy to help with anything! :)
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Location: California
Age: 17
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I am absolutly serious about this. Is there any way what-so-ever, to get my period for the first time earlier? I just want to get it over with, and I want it to come. Only serious answers please, I really want/need this. (link)
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well depending on how old you are, and how physically mature you are then you might be getting it soon anyways. i wanted to get mine before to and when i finally did, it was stupid. periods are not fun, the longer it takes to get it the better in my opinion. [cant tell you how many underwear i have had to throw away becuse of stains.] i honestly dont think there is any way to get it sooner, and if there is a way it is most likely unhealthy. i suggest waiting. if you are like 12 or up then i guess you will get it soon. i got it a week before my 13th birthday. hope this answer your question...
SAM
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Okay I have this guy that I truely love and he knows that i love him but at the same time he has a girlfriend and it doesnt look like they are going to break up at any point in time but he also seems to flirt with me continuly on and on everyday! When Im walking in the halls at school he will automatically give me a hug and speak to me no matter who sees! What should I do because I pray every night that they would break up and I could have him all to myself! So what should I do? (link)
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i think you should talk to him about it. because if he "does" like you then maybe it would be able to work. but there is the possibility that he doesnt like you, (some guys are just big flirts when they find out a girl likes them). and if he doesnt like you then you will just need to move on, as hard as it may sound its not impossible. hope i helped
SAM
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Well...my friend has this really cute boyfriend and whenever I see him and her together I get a little jealous.He talks to me but he just talks to me a little.What do I do?? (link)
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ok well you need to get over him..FAST!! if your friend finds out about this then she might gewt mad at you or something. OR you can continut to like him, talk to him, just making sure that you do not become "too" close. Because if he cheats on her with you then that would be bad. if they break up, wait for hewr to get over him and then tell her you like him. if shes not okay with you liking him or potentially dating him, then you would need to get over him. decide is he more important than your friendship with this girl??? hope i helped some...
SAM
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Im Moving far away from my friends Real far away...and I have to go to a new school...where I dont know anybody and I really dont like being the "new" student im really shy and what if i dont make friends because Its HIGH SCHOOl and im so scared to go to a new school, I told my mom that im going to drop out but then i thought abput it and I dont want to and the school that im going to is so big it has 27 uildings and what if i get lost?
What should I do? (link)
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ok first calm down.
now i know its hard moving to a new skool. it mite be confusing at first but dont worry you WILL get friends. i suggest joining a club or team or something like that. its always a great way to meet new ppl. and there are a lot of clubs you can join im sure. it might take time, i am kinda shy to sometimes around new people but you will adjust after a few weeks. hope i helped....
SAM
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Is it possible to fall in love when you are thirteen?
Im asking because its been 7 mounths since my ex bf broke up with me and now we are good friends and everytime i see him I cry because I know he'll never like me so do you think its puppy love? (link)
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i know the feeling. i wish i could say yes or no but this is something you will have to decide. i used to think i was in love but when i look back i realize i wasnt really. if you are really good friends and you dont think it will mess up your friendship then you should tell him you like him and see what he says. if you tell him be prepared to hear him say he only likes you "as a friend", dont get your hopes up otherwise you might become very depressed. another possibility: you might be obsessed. if you cry about him, and dream about him, or ALWAYS think about him then you are obsessed. and this would not be healthy. so if he says he doesnt like you then you should get over him ASAP, and just try to see him as a friend. i myself am trying to get over a guy, but yea its tough. I think puppy love might be the right way to describe what you are feeling for him. but hun, dont cry over him please....i remember i used to cry, and it was not pretty~being sad about a guy really sux. so i hope i helped. anything you need just ask me and ill gladly help.
SAM
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One of my friends has a paper due this Friday. She's done ALL of the research and the two of us watched the two movies that relate to it. She asked me for help writing it and I said sure. She's a year older than me, but I'm pretty good at writing papers minus the mechanics. So if she were to write it, I were to rewrite what she writes and make it sound smarter (possibly cutting out a lot of stuff she writes and adding it stuff that I think would be better), and then she were to fix my mechanical errors, would that be wrong? I know it wouldn't neccessarily be cheating, but in the long run would it be wrong.
In our eyes it just seems like me proofreading and telling her what to fix, but it also kind of seems like I'm screwing her over by not letting her do it all herself. The only reason it feels wrong though is because she offered to pay me - it makes me feel as if I'm writing it even though I'd just be 'smarting it up'. Now I don't plan on accepting the money, so it's not wrong, is it? (link)
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hey, this isnt cheating because you are proofreading. ive done thins before. if you have a friend read it over and make suggestions of wat to add in its not cheating, trust me. dont feel like you are doing anything wrong. maybe it wouldnt feel wrong if you dont accept the money. that way you are not helping for the money but because you are a good friend. =)
SAM
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ok i really like this one guy i mean i really like him i went out with another guy but then broke up with him when i realized i still liked this other guy so what do ido to get this other guy who is scared of commitment and also he likes me and i kissed him when i went to a dance with him a few weeks ago.please help (link)
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wow, i have the same problem. i know its sooo weird when you like a guy thats scared to commit(ugh!!). it can be really tough. i think the best is to talk to him and tell him how you feel. tell him that it will work out, and convince him that its a good idea. and if he still doesnt want to,just listen to what he has to say. i really hope this works out. if you take my advice i would like to know what he says. good luck!!
SAM
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okay i like this boy jeremy one day in class i decided 2 tell his friend timothy that i liked him so timothy told Z and the next day was like timothy told me u like jeremy and i was like sooooo and then i said what did you tell jeremy and he was like i told him that you liked him and i said why did you do that and he said he likes you i was like no he doesnt so z said i swear to god he said that and i was like you still lying because he told me he doesent want a girlfriend right now when i asked him did he like this other girl then z said he lying because he be telling me and hakim to hook him up with girls and i said other girls ?like who?and he saisd none of your business !!! but do u want to go with him and i did not respond (link)
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well if you like him and he likes you then i think you should date him. i dont know if he likes these "other girls". i think you should talk to jeremy and see what happens. i think its kinda weird to talk to his friends because they dont know everything about him. so better if you talk to jeremy in person. hope this helps and if you have any other questions, feel free to ask....
SAM
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okay i already wrote a question about this but never got an answer so please answer and HELP i wont write a novel this time....
i dated this guy we were in love and dated for month and half broke up because of 4 year age difference and we didnt talk at all for 7 months till he left me a message saying happybirthday! and the messeages went back and forth and we started talking again on the phone every night and i automatically fell in love with him all over again and we hooked up and hung out a lot and he told me he didnt want a gf cause it was too much drama and i accepted that and then i got worried and asked if he was using me and we got into a fight and decided friends was better so then we basically stopped talking and now he has a girlfriend and i want him back and still love him and am basically waiting for him to break up with her and i have dreams of him breaking up with her and telling me he loves ME EVERY NIGHT.... PLEASE HELP i have no idea what to do!!!! (link)
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look, you and i are not so different, i can totally relate....
but if you havent been talking in a long time and he has a gf i think honestly....hes probably moved on. i know this can hurt, its happened to me and it sux but i think you need to get over him. i have day (and night) dreams of this one guy telling me he likes me too. but he and i are just friends and i have to accept that. i know how you're feeling i get the same feeling everytime i talk to this guy and i wish he would like me too but he doesnt. its the worst pain i can feel but everyone tells me the best thing is to move on. Hun, if we dont move on we're only hurting ourselves. i LOVE him and i wish he felt the same, but i cant change how he feels. maybe its better that you guys arent talking rite now. try looking for other guys, life will go on and slowly the thoughts and the dreams will go away. i really hope i helped, even though i know that no matter how much someone tells you to move on it seems so impossible. i want to but i cant as hard as i try. but together we'll both get over them, k? i promise you'll find a guy for you.
ASK me a question if you need anything else.
SAM
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my boyfriend and i are good together, and not much can come between us... except for my best friend. my best friend is a guy. and my boyfriends quite and is kinda emo. he gets upset easliy, and when he does he just listens to music. and then when he does that durring lunch. i lean towards my best friend, and we arent touchie, like we joke around, like try to pick each others noses (yes we are 9th graders) and my boyfriend always gets pissed. and is like you were all over him. im kinda temped to break up with him, but i love him. and i dont know. would you like to give some adivce.. ? please (link)
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Okay i think your bf is jealous and he has the rite to be. although to you it might just be the way you and your best friend play around, you probably shouldn't in front of your bf. guys get jealous of this type of thing, (ive been in a similar situation). i think the best solution is if you love your bf then you shouldn't dump him. its not his fault he's jealous. you should talk to your best friend and explain that you shouldnt be so jokey around eachother, even though its not touchy some guys see this as flirting. hope i helped
SAM
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I straighten my hair almost every day, because it is like just a little wavy, but its usually not even waves if that makes any sense haha. anyways, i straighten in really good in the mornings, and by the time i get to school its all a little wavy again. it isnt the straightener, its like just my hair or something. any ideas on what to do to make it stay straight the whole day (or atleast through like 1st period!) thanks! (link)
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i think u might have to use hair spray or something thats what i do because the humidity makes my hair fuzz up again and i have wierd wavy hair too! haha hoped i helped
SAM
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How can I show a guy that I like him without being too obvious?? Because I think he may like me, but I don't want to get turned down incase he doesn't (link)
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From: SAM
guys arre very strange because i told this one guy that i like him and he basically said he didnt want a gf so i was ok with it. but then he started being too nice....as in "i like you nice" so i thought that he mite like me. later i found out he didnt because he told me. and then it really hurt. after things got all flirty again and again he said he didnt like me...but i am so confused as to whether he does or doesnt. its like he canges his mind or something..idk...my best advice would be to find out if he likes you before you start liking him too much...have a friend ask him or something (or better yet if you r friends with one of his friends then that person could ask him "so do you like anyone??" or "it seems like you kinda like ______" and that would be not so obvious..hope i helped =)
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You know when some girl's skirt is too short they wear this like thin but pretty pant material that seems like its for dancing but goes like to the knees under the skirt?
What's the name of it?
I heard the word legging a couple of times but i'm not sure because I want to find some. (link)
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yea these are called leggings =)
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What are ways to test that your crush likes you?
cause theres this guy who sits next to me and hes in a different grade level. we talk during that period. But there are some days where we don't say Anything to each other. and I don't know if he sorta kinda likes me or not. I dont think he likes me majorly, but he might a little bit.
and i was wodnering if there are ways i can test that!
THANKS SO MUCh. (link)
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i find that guys usually flirt unless their the shy type then they might just act especially nice around you. when he talks to you pay attention to his body language that usually means something. some guys get twitchy or do weird things like that.... and well maybe you could tell him you like him or ask him if he likes anyone. i usually just tell a guy strait out. but other than that you could just be friends for a while until you know him better. i hope i helped. SAM
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okay, this might be a stupid question but i just have to say something.
there's this guy i really like, i actually talk to him so i know a bit about him and stuff.
i see him in school and at the ice skating rink on fridays.
last friday i went to the rink with my friend. we were together for practically the whole time.
anyway, the guy i like, he kinda sorta flirted with us [i'm not sure if it was with my friend or me] and since i'm a flirt myself i most likely flirted back.
its just any guy i've liked has never liked me back. is it possible this time its different?
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i get how u feel i myself have been through similar dilemas...i would tell him because thats just usually wat i do. and if he doesnt like you it'll be okay..cuz theres someone out there for everyone....but it seems like he likes you so i would go for it. and your flirting technigue is gonna come in handy...good luk! ~SAM
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ok well this is the story of my recent realationship.
well earlier this year in january, my friends got me together with a friend of theirs, max, (they go a different school to me} and they gave him my email, and we started taking heaps over the net.. then on my birthday, 24th of january, me and my friends went to the movies and we invited him, and i met him for the first time.
we had a great time and he told me he would like to be in a realiationship with me, he told me i was perfect and beautiful and i was just so happy :) so then we met up again the following week and we went to the movies again and he officialy asked me out and of course i said yes.
so we were dating and we were both so happy i was so inlove , he would message me all the time.. wwe went to different schools so he would call me everynight. and then i got into his school the following week so i was going to be starting at his school in a week. we were both so excited, and i knew heaps of people there so i wasnt nervous.
so now i go to his school, we would sit with eachother at lunch and recces and sit with eachother in classes. i was so inlove with him and still am .. we were like the happiest couple going around.. then we went out last saturday together and it was basically the best day of my life , i just felt so happy he made me feel so loved. then the next day [sunday] we got into a fight basically over nothing and he was really angry at me and then i tried to sort things out but it was really hard becuase he didnt come to school on monday or tuesday and we didnt speak for 2 days [thats the longest amount of time that we hadnt spoken to eachother] so i sent him an sms on tuesday afternoon telling him that i wanted to sort things out and that i loved him and i asked if he was ok because he hadnt been at school. he then wrote back that he was not well and that he wanted to sort things out aswell, then i told him to call me that night so we could sort it out and his reply was that he had lost his voice and couoldnt talk. so i was left no choice but to sort it out through sms because it was killing me and i just wanted to fix things.
so we just started talking about things and how out realtionship was changing then he told me that he didnt love me anymore and that he was sorry. those words hit me like a ton of bricks and i am heart broken. i didnt understand how he had just fallen out of love with me when the 2 days earlier we were the happiest people walking around.. i am so confused.. he didnt come to school all last week..
and i talked to himn last night for the first time since the break up [a week] and he said he was really sorry and that he is really confused at the moment.. he also said he wasnt over me yet.
i really dont know what to do.. i know that there is still hope for our small little twisted realtionship and everyday i still think to myself.. he will want me back i know he will.. but nothing so far.. i havtn seen him since we were a happy couple so im hoping that when i see him at school next week that he will realise he did the wrong thing..
but could someone help me out i dunno wehter i should just try and move on or try and get him back..
im thinking about him all the time and no matter where i am or what i'm doing or who im talking to; he's the one thats on my mind.
i went out with this guy for a month.. and it was the best month of my life.
i dunno what kind of advice i need but i just need something .. some sort of direction..
thankyou for reading this it means alot to me. (link)
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him im SAM and i know exactly how you feel and i know its tough...well i really like this guy and whenever im with him im just so happy because he hugs me and flirts and is sooo nice.but then one day he says that he doesnt like me and that REALLY hurt because no one understands how much i thought he did...and now i hes confused bout it and i dont know wat to do...my best advise is just be urself around him, try to act normal and just laugh and whatever else it is you normally do. i dont wanna tell u to get over him....as hard as i try it doesnt work. so i think it might work for u but be prepared in case it doesnt. hope i helped
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is it Jenkins' or Jenkins's (link)
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Jenkins'
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