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hey im gonna start 8th grade in august, and i still havent gotten my period. is this normal??

Hey..yes its totally normal dont have any worries! In fact..you should enjoy your time without your period because once you get it (sometime between now and 11th or 12th grade max) you will have it every month until you go through menopause ( when your in your 40's/50's/60's !) So dont worry..i had a friend who didnt get hers until she was 16. Everyone is different. they say if you still dont have it when you are 18 to see a doctor but i am sure you will be fine!

Im 17. My mom keeps pushing me to get a job. I want a job, because I want to get a car. But I realise that once I get a car, Ill have to pay for insurance and gas, so basically once I start working, I wont stop until Im like 60. That makes me sad because Im not ready to grow up yet. In one year Ill be an adult and Im just not ready for bills, work, college, and other big responsibilities.

Any suggestions? =[

I know exactly how you feel! Im 17 and going through the same thing..being 17 is hard because we arent in the real world yet..but we are pretty damn close..and our parents are putting more on us.
My advice is to get a job and work a few hours a week..you dont need a full time job at this point of your life. if you truly want a car and if you have to pay for gas and insurance..it will take hard work to pay for it all. dont worry about the future. make this year awesome because its the last year before you are on your own! think about college and what you want to be. my future was scary to me too until i started thinkign about the future. i want to be a landlord and i want to go into real estate. im pretty excited about it so that helped me out with my nervous feelings. dont let things overwhelm you..take it one step at a time!

Ok, so I have been best friends with this boy since kindergarten. I recently switched schools and asked him out. I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt about him. He ended up saying no, and I was crushed. I haven't talked to him since. What should I do?

I know how it feels to be turned down by a guy friend. I have totally been in your exact same spot and got turned down. My advice is to suck it up and try to go back to being best friends. It might be weird but once you hang out a couple of times you will put this past you. Try a group thing for a little while..movies out with a group or something. Dont let this ruin the friendship.
In my situation the guy ended up asking me out a couple months later..but it ended up we were better off as friends and through everything...through me telling him how i liked him and getting turned down and through the breakup we went through we are still good friends. We are definately better off as friends. So what im saying is who knows how it will work out but definately dont let the friendship slip away.
i hope i helped out?

Ok so heres whats happening,
a little while ago my uncle lost his job, went in to depression and said he was going to commit sucide and then my friend started to slit her wrists and i'm getting scared. It's makeing me sad and i don't want to have to deal with her of even be around her cause i can't take the stress but at the same time i don't want to loose my friends.
If i don't hang out with them they will tell me i'm becomeing antisocial and thats not what i want i'm only 14 and this is way to much for me to deal with please dose anyone know what i should do? Or a way to relax

thanks,
becca

First off..immagine this:
you find out your friend and/or uncle commited suicice..and you told NOBODY about this. Wouldnt you feel terrible? For me, the guilt would be overwhelming. Number 1 is to tell someone about both your friend and your uncle. Tell a relative about your uncle..if they dont show signs of getting him immediate help, tell someone else..another trusted adult who wil get him help. As for your friend, tell a counselor,teacher,or parent about your friend

you said you dont want to be around her..she needs you most right now though! bake her a cake,get pictures together of you two and make a little album, make a card listing all the things you love about her, something little like that can cheer her up!

what you should do is get them help, but dont let this overwhelm you to the point where YOU are depressed also. I think once you get them help, the pressure will be off of you and you can concentrate on your social life again.

for now here are some really relaxing activities:
1) Walking
2) Swimming
3) Listening to music
4)writing

here is a stress article
http://www.rd.com/content/openContent.do?contentId=14565

i hope all this helped a little?

If I want to become a physical therapist, do I major in kinesiology? If not, then what do I major in? I'm only a sophomore in high school, but I figured getting to know what I want to do early is better than waiting until the last minute.

my knowledge of this field is this: it is VERY COMPETITIVE.
so if your school offers something like a health accademy, definately join! my school offered a health accademy program. It took up about 2 hours of my day and basically the class learned about the health field,the different departments, and got HANDS ON time at the hospital! it was pretty cool that we traveled around the hospital or nursing home and followed around the nurse or doctor and saw actual stuf and worked with real patients! colleges would have loved me if the health field is something i want (i figured out i dont) and if my grades where better (lol)
What im trying to say is..get hands on experience..clinical experience. colleges will love you! ask a physical therapist if you can observe them for 5 days a week for one month lets say. and maybe even get to help out. document your hours so you have proof to show this to a college.

its a great field but very competitve according to my health accademy teacher
hope i helped and have fun! :)

Does anyone know any good COUNTRY songs that are son to mother.

Hey..i searched for you and found a pretty good website. Its not an ALL country website,but there are lots of mother/son songs on there and some of them have to be country:

http://www.wedalert.com/songs/motherson/index.asp

http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/load/wedding/msg0705481222095.html?25

Through the Years, Kenny Rogers and What a Difference You Made in My Life, Ronnie Milsap.

if you dont like anything else,continue to google father/mother country songs

hope i helped!

Ok so I was wondering what turns a guy on?

Hey i found a bunch of really helpful websites and articles! If you want to read more just search male turn ons or something along that line on google or ask.com
enjoy! hope it helps :)

the following are things said by males in different articles or message boards:

"when the chick sucks on my balls, makes me cum hard. "

"Boobies."

"during sex= I love noises that she makes
not during sex= I cant stand most people when they are drunk, huge turn off. But if someone is comfortable enough to burp/fart around me (as long as it's not excessive) I'm fine with that. although I like fairly classy people. "

"I'm a breast man. I like nipples, sucking, feeling and grabbing. "

the following are websites/articles i found for you

http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060705110744AAJBIoZ

http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_top_ten_100/118_dating_list.html

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6182&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=8134

As you can see..men are turned on by different things. What turns one guy on, may not turn the other guy on. You can try the tips you have read, and see how your guy reacts to it..here are some of my own suggestions: (my bf loves these)
-run your fingers through his hair
-back scratches along with some massage
-rub the inside of his leg if you want to get him in the mood to mess around ;)
-Grabbing/rubbing his butt

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This is going to get complicated. Read carefully. Lydia was married to Kyle for 5 years. Billy and I were engaged, but never got married because I found out we're actually cousins. (He doesn't know that & I'm afraid to tell him.) Well, Lydia was already thinking about divorcing Kyle so when she met Billy she jumped all over him. Kyle was mad and divorced her. Billy dated Lydia to make me jealous. I dated Kyle to make Lydia mad and jealous. At first I only wanted to get Kyle and Lydia back together, but now I've fallen in love with Kyle. Billy is still in love with me, but got engaged to Lydia anyway. I think Kyle and Lydia still have feelings for each other but I need help bringing those feelings out again. Kyle says he's in love with me but I know he & I can never get serious because, even though I love him, he's got to much baggage. Example: I'm still a virgin and he's got 3 kids. Actually, that's the problem. I WAS a virgin, until Billy and I got caught up in a moment. I think Billy's going to break up with Lydia because he thinks now that we made love, I'm going to change my mind and be with him. I still can't! What on earth do I do to get Kyle & Lydia back together and convince Billy that he & I are over for good all without hurting anyone too badly? HELP! I'm in way over my head!

Wheww this is quite the situation! Well first thing is first: If you want to get kyle and lydia back together..you can try, but they have to WANT to get back together. Look at it from this point of view..if lydia wanted to get you and billy back together, you would probably hold your ground and say no. Its worth a try though.

-Maybe you can talk to Kyle and Lydia in private and try to get them to remember each other and their good times..kind of remind them of the past, you know?

-second step is you have to obviously break up with kyle. the truth always works. dont lie, dont make up excuses..just tell him exactttly how you are feeling. if you are having trouble wording it, write down all the points you want to say on paper and just think to yourself how you want to word it until your comfortable with saying it to him. It really helps..i write stuff down to jog my brain if im having trouble thinking of what to say to someone.

- third..talk to each of them in private. maybe remind kyle and lydia of the old days and how cute they were..maybe there was something special lydia gave to him or vice versa..maybe something cute they would call each other..perhaps a picture of them both together you can show them.

Hopefully your efforts will pay off and they will get back together..but always remember you cant FORCE two people together..they have to want to be together.

Now as far as Billy goes..if i found out my current bf was my cousin, i would DEFINATELY want to know. And once i discovered this, i would want out of the relationship on my own. so if you tell billy this, i think it will be a whooole lot easier to get over you because your cousins! breakups hurt..but im damn sure that if my bf came to me and told me we have to break up because we are cousins..i know thats the right thing and it has to be done

Let me know how it all goes..always remember..telling it like it is is always the best answer!

Ok well i'm inlove with this guy forreal and i have done everything with him accept oral and actual sex well the thing is that he thinks im not a virgin...but when we are thinking about having sex hes takes it really slow and like ever 5 minutes he's like are you ok you dont have to do this which i really nice and i love him for it. But the thing is that im really comfortable with him and i trust him. I have no problem doing it...like ppl say there not ready and blah blah blah but anyway so i want to but i'm not really sure like...ya know what to do because one time we almost had sex and he wanted me on top ...cuz he thought ya know i knew what to do...but anyway what do you think of this?

I think if you are ready then definately go for it! Just be sure to use protection and all that. I also think for your first time..on top is not a good idea. Its a better idea for him to be on top and go gGENTLY when he pops your cherry. Thenn once things get going, maybe next time try on top. ;) Good luck and have lots of fun disovery new positions and stuff like that..it is lots of fun :)

I have been married for almost 20 yrs and we have 2 teenagers. I was 21 when we married, at 22 I was a mom(this may sound crazy but I know he got me pregnant on purpose). He is very affectionate to me especial in front of people. My husband is an alcoholic and that has always been the source of our arguments and my anger towards him. Of course the next day he would always apologize and say he loves me more than anything. Around 13yrs ago I believe he had been unfaithful but he adamantly denies it. About 3 yrs. ago I was suspicious of his activity on the internet(always clicking off pages when I walked into the room). I got a program to track this activity and found that he was sending intimate pictures of me to porn sites and exchanging them with others. This for me was the ultimate betrayal,disgust and I was totally embarrassed. At the time I didn't confront him with what I knew, but I did tell him our kids were getting porn pop ups. I destroyed the photos and the program.After that, I promised myself that if he ever screwed up again that I would leave him. 1 1/2 yrs ago we sold our home and he moved out of state to start a new business, I followed with children when they finished school yr. The busin. was not going as expected, I think it was more work than he thought it would be. With me pressuring him to get a job, he went searching only to find mediocre jobs. A family member got him a great paying job back home and off he went. I went to visit him with children and dog for the holidays and had a great time, when I left to drive back (15 hr.drive) I would call every few hrs just to let him know we were ok. After 10pm I didn't call until I got home (4am) called his cell and it was turned off, called my mom told her were got back safely. I asked "how could you turn your phone off knowing your wife and children were driving thru the night" and he just said "sorry I always turn my phone off at night"....Well he screwed up again! So now I'm angry, I was now responsible for selling off everything from the busin.,which I ran some great sales and fortunately brought in a lot of money because even though he was making a lot of money he was also spending it(at bars). I started thinking about how unhappy I was in our marriage. I struggled with the idea of divorce because of the children and the rest of our families. I finally confronted him with everything and the fact that I wasn't happy and I didn't think I loved him anymore. With that, he flew down and begged for forgiveness, promised he would change and do anything I wanted him to do. Our families were shocked at what I said to him, everyone thought we had the perfect marriage. Of course they ran to his side feeling sorry for him, not knowing the whole story( cheating, porn site,mental abuse). During all this, my brother died suddenly from cancer...Because I have been so distraught over losing my brother, losing over $100,000. in a failed busin. and the strain of living apart from my husband for months a a time, I agreed to take him back and try to save our marriage. We took a vow almost 20 yrs. ago and morally feel that I should try. Its been over 4 mons. and I'm very depressed, still very angry with him, feeling like I again gave up on myself for everyone else's sake and out of fear of being on my own financially.
I am I disrespecting myself or being dramatic?
Mz.R.

Swweetie, I may only be 17, but it doesnt take an adult to see the pain and struggles you have overcome. You are one of the strongest women out there..you have been through amazing things that i dont think iwould have been able to handle. Your husband says he wants to make it work..but there seems to be no effort on his end of the table. It takes TWO to make a relationship work whether its marriage or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
You are a STRONG woman. Right now i want you to make a goal in your head. Make an amount of time you will give him before it is all over. Maximum of 2 0or 3 months maybe? Have a SERIOUS talk with your husband ASAP. He is your HUSBAND..tell him your feelings of depression once again and suggest this :
1) Alcohol counseling
2) Marriage Counseling (my parents went during a rough time and it worked wonders)

If he refuses..then you need to leave him. Dont just stay together for the kids. Whether you are married or divorced i know you will love your children and together you will adjust. You have been patient long enough. Draw the line! Give him a maximum of 2 or 3 months TOPS (If he is unrepsonsive in the serious talk i told you to give him..its time to leave him now) I know this will be hard for you to do..but you are STRONG you can overcoem this and get out of your depression. Dont let your life spiral down hill. Cherish every moment of it! Life is too short to live it unhappy..and if this unhappiness continues..you need to break free. It takes TWO to make a relationship works. He says and begs to you it will be better. Well..he needs to SHOW you this. Actions speak louder than words.
Please update me. I dont know if you have AIM but my sn is eatapasty. I hope i helped you

okay my friends mom called me a slut and everything one day because my thong was showing . i dont get it . my friend sleeps around with guys all the time and pretty much wears nothiong to school && we are in 9th grade . hello!!! i dont know what her problem is and she lets her daughter dress like that . she buys her like push up bras , water bras and all that but im the slut who shows off my boobs? wow well yeah

Hey there. I would be outraged as well..but look at it from her point of view:
-she is in denial right now. she knows how her daughter dresses and she probably has an idea about what her daughter does sexually..so i would ignore her unless she makes several of these comments

- i think a comment like that is out of line coming from another parent, but once again..laugh about it in her head because its HER daughter who sleeps around and dresses inappropriately.

How can you tell if the person you're kissing and/or making out with is truthfully enjoying it and not just faking satisfaction in order to continue getting more lip action?

well if they are truly enjoying kissing YOU and not just enjoying it because they are getting lip action, they will do certain things ..

here are some signs that the person is actually enjoying kissing YOU and really likes YOU and not just the lip action

-they run their hands through your hair
-gently brush your cheek
-hold your hand
-look into your eyes before or after the kiss

little sweet things like that tells me the guy is actually into kissing me and not just the lip action. other signs will tell you if the guy likes you..and this doesnt involve the kissing
signs like him wanting to call you,be with you,help you when you need it,hang out with you even if he knows you wont be able to get any lip action because parents are aaround..if he seems to genuinly enjoy your company, then he doesnt just want you for lip action.
i hope i helped? :)

my friend went to the public pool today
and while she was swimming her purse got stolen
it had her makeup, notes, and her house key.
what should she do since it has her house key
and if they know where she lives they could get it!!
help!

Wow that is pretty scary. Im going to be honest with you..i dont think the police will be able to do anything about it. there is no way the person could be tracked..and think about how many people were at the pool..its impossible to catch the person.the best thing your friend can do is to tell her parents and get them to change the lock on the door. Its unlikely the person knows who your friend is and where she lives..but just in case it is a good idea to change the locks. the world is a messed up place so from now on you and your friends should definately get a locker,keep things in the car or with an adult or non swimmer, or just bring the basics to the pool like a beach towel. Im assuming nobody would steal a beach towel but i guess you never know in the world we live in. well tell your friend im very sorry and its a good thing she didnt have a large amount of money in there!

I am 14 years old and wondering if you could give me any advice on high school and how it will change from jr high school to high school

Hey so I am assuming you are going to be a freshman this year? Thats awesome..this is an exciting time in your life! In Jr High there are some differences and changes you go through in high school

SOCIAL ASPECT: a lot of people arent that social. They have their classmates they talk with but a lot of times kids in jr high keep to themselves and dont hang out with others outside of school. In high school social life really comes alive. you will meet new people and as you get older you will earn privilages to be able to go out with friends..even friends who drive if your parents depend on it, movie nights,parties,sleepovers,bonfires..all those kinds of social events really kick in when you are in high school. im not saying thats the case for everyone. a lot of times kids in jr high are just as social as those in high school.

SCHOOL: Obviosly you are getting into the higher grades so depending on what courses you choose to take, you could be looking at a lottt of work..especially if you are in honors classes. as you get into 11th and 12th grade you will be worrying about SATs and college applications. In high school kids try and think about what they are good at and what they would like to do with their life (if your not sure dont worry! i am going to be a senior and i am not sure!)
I dont know what kind of school you go to..but usually high school is a lot biggger tha middle school..and you will definately be hearing and seeing thins you would not hear or see in middle school. you will face more pressures with drugs,sex,and drinking.. (dont get too scared about that though..just stay with the good crowd)

Other than that, they are alike in many ways. I am sure you have had your share of middle school drama. well the drama continues in high school. usually relationships are more serious in high school than in middle school. new doors open up to you : good and bad. you are surrounded by new freedoms and choices. hopefully you will make good choices and make your high school career fun in the social department and beneficial in the education aspect of it.

have an awesome time in high school..because wow it really does go by wayy to quick. i remember being a freshman like it was yesterday. seriously..have an awesome time because these are the best years of your life :)

my boyfriend told me hes in love with me. he looked into my eyes and said it and i think im in love with him too.his friends always tell me that im all he talks about and when im with him he kisses my hand and does the sweetest things and he always says never to let go of him.also he invites me to all his lacrosse games and he ditches his friends just to see me even if its only for 30 minutes...thats a pretty big deal right?when guys are the first ones to say it..they mean it right? or could he have said that because hes afaid of losing me??

It sounds to me like this guy really loves you! He sounds extremely sweet and sincere. I would trust your guy when he says i love you..because wow he really sounds like he means it! You are a lucky gal!

ok well i want to know if im going out with this guy or not?! well to start he was my ex and when i got a new boyfriend well we talked alot about him about us and what would happen if i did this and that. Well i broke up with my bf b.c i was over him didnt like him and the next day i iwanted to kiss the guy and i did and it felt so rite like i didnt think it would i thought i loved him before but he was also my first bf ever so who doesnt the guy broke up with me first b.c well we onl talked online and we saw eachother ever once a week so i understood it was like a month thing so i was super sad! Well the day i kissed him we were talking on the phone and the subject came up that are we goiing out? and i was like omg i dont want to go through that stupid mopy stage when we break up and the feeling that i HAVE to see him so you know we are like tight so we like read eachothers mind and he brought it up first(thank goD) and he said lets just like not go through that again but we can see eachother and cant go out with any other person so we sorta are going out but we say no we arnt but see that was a long time ago so i dont know what he thinks now about it so its been like i think 2 months!! and i can like tell him any thing and everything and we kid with eachother somethimes its not funny but well so i talk to him now everyday on the phone and IM and its great i think i really love him i mean hes not sexsual like most guys hes sensitive and hes everything i wanted in a guy. my brothers and sisters say that hes ugly and how do i like him and they make fun of him and i well i just dont care i like him that much so am i in love? or is it nothing just a huge crush? and today we had this carnivile thing and he never had a canoli before and i was like what itallian never had a canoli so i bought him one and he liked so he said and then he won me somethig so next time i see him ill get to know what i got but my other ex got me a tiger and he said he didnt get me a tiget because of my ex i think hes so sweet and he doesnt wan to go far like rite away i mean like he wants to wait!!! kissing iss great for him and when we are older we will get all the way hopefully so do you think ill stay with him long? and how do i tell him how i really feel cuz i tried once and i couldnt explain why i really like him! and should i say that i love him or do i even love him and if i do should i tell him because we usually say on line (lyl) things like that or i heart you but i iwant to tell him in person eye to eye contact what if he doesnt say it back what do i do?

Hey! :)

to your first question if you really love him or not:
- Dont let anyone in the world tell you if you are in love or not. Only you know if you are in love. If you feel it in your heart and you know you love him..then you are in love. Dont listen to the people who say you are too young

to your next question asking if i think you will stay together that long:
- Its definately possible! It sounds like you two have awesome chemistry. I wish i could see the future for you but i cant lol..but it definately sounds like you guys could be together for awhile! :)

to the question asking him how to explain how you feel:
I know how you feel! You tried explaining it before but you couldnt..so my advice is to maybe explain it in another way. Maybe by writing a poem or love letter. You can give it to him in person and say to him everything how i feel about you is in here.
OR you can express it in words. One night write down on paper all the things that drives you wild about him. This will help you organize your thoughts about him. Then the next day you will know how to word it.

Tell him how you feel! If you read my column there was a recent question about a girl who didnt love her bf the way he loved her, but she still liked him a lot! If he doesnt feel the same way its ok! He OBVIOUSLY likes you a lot though! (i bet he will say i love you back though sweetie!) So i hope all this helped..please let me know how it goes! IM me anytime on eatapasty

okay me and my boyfreind have been going out for about 4 months and i really like him.at around the second month i told him i was a little uncomfortable with him telling me he loves because i know he didnt meen it because where to young to know what love is.(where both 13).well last night he told me he needed to tell me something and i was like ok and he started off by saying do you remember that time you told me i was to young to know the meaning of love is and i was like yes and then he said well i love you and ive never felt this feeling befor and i love you with all my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.and then he asked me is my heart beating really fast and i was like no and then he said because mine is beacause i was afraid to tell you that i love you. at this point to tell you the truth i was a little scared because i think he was really telling the truth.dont get me wrong i like him alot but i dont think i love especially not as much as he seems to love me.im just so confused on what to do.i really dont want to brake his heart and tell him that i dont feel the same way.should i just end it befor it gets way to serious?please help me.i badly need some advice,

Although you feel uncomfortable when he tells you he loves you, I would stay with him. He sounds like a really sweet guy and if he truly loves you the way he sounds like he does, he will understand if you dont love him back right now. If he is truly in love with you he will be happy with the fact that he is dating the woman he loves. Continue in the relationship and continue making it grow..who knows..it might grow into something serious and you may love him one day.
A friend of mine was 16 before she got into her first real relationship. In the beginning of it she would tell me how he is taking it real serious talking about spending their life together and she doesnt see it that way. She doesnt see them going out after high school. The update? They are together for almost 10 months and wow she is really in love!
So dont set limits on yourself or your relationship is my advice sweetie. Its definately fine that you dont love him yet because you are really young still! Stay with him because he sounds awesome and its not like you dont like him..you like him a lot you said. So it sounds like you got yourself an awesome bf who is treating you great. Thats a thing many many people wish they have. So stick with him and who knows whats in store for the future! :)

Tomorrow I'm going to SixFlags with my friend. For weeks she's been talking about the new big roller coaster, and I really wanna ride it with her, but I'm really afraid of heights. Help?

Going on that huge rollercoaster might not be a good idea if you are that afraid of heights. Immagine how upset you would be once you are locked onto the ride, no way out..going up the huge hill. If you have your mind made up, then go for it! The hardest part is getting on the ride. Rollercoasters really are fun, the challenging part is getting on one. If you are that afraid, tell your friend! She will be disappointed but understand. I went to Dorny Park with a good friend and she didnt like any kind of rollercoaster rides, but we had an awesome time going on other rides.

my boyfriend is on crutches now and i really want to do something sweet for him. we have only been together for a couple weeks so i've never been inside his house yet and i haven't met his parents, so i can't do something to out of place, you know? any ideas?

My opinion is this is the perfect time to meet them! Maybe pop over with a sandwhich,soup,or brownies..somethin somewhat easy..and when his parents answer the door introduce yourself and let them know you brought the food over for your bf. I bet they would love it and it would be an awesome first impression!

another idea is to do the same thing but ask your bf is you feel to weird about coming over. (just keep the food part as a suprise)

You could make it a picnic in his yard maybe so it involves little or no walking for him.

Coming over with a get well card and some movies wouild be really sweet. (or bring him to your house if you feel weird about going to his.) At your house have a nice little dinner you prepared waiting and eat that and watch a movie together. That wiould be really sweet too!whatever you do..he will love it!

there is this guy that i like. he likes me also. but he is sexual more experienced then i am. i havent had sex yet, he has. i feel like if i tell him that i havent had sex that he wont like me. guys. is this true. are you turned off by girls who havent had sex yet?

Something very important when you are talking to a guy you like..be yourself! You want him to be into you because he likes how youu are right? So if the subject of sex comes up, just let him know you are a virgin. If he makes a big deal out of that or seems turned off by that..then hes a jerk and you dont want to be involved with him..it means he just wants sex from girls.
hopefully hes a good guy though!

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