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A zillion love triangles
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This is going to get complicated. Read carefully. Lydia was married to Kyle for 5 years. Billy and I were engaged, but never got married because I found out we're actually cousins. (He doesn't know that & I'm afraid to tell him.) Well, Lydia was already thinking about divorcing Kyle so when she met Billy she jumped all over him. Kyle was mad and divorced her. Billy dated Lydia to make me jealous. I dated Kyle to make Lydia mad and jealous. At first I only wanted to get Kyle and Lydia back together, but now I've fallen in love with Kyle. Billy is still in love with me, but got engaged to Lydia anyway. I think Kyle and Lydia still have feelings for each other but I need help bringing those feelings out again. Kyle says he's in love with me but I know he & I can never get serious because, even though I love him, he's got to much baggage. Example: I'm still a virgin and he's got 3 kids. Actually, that's the problem. I WAS a virgin, until Billy and I got caught up in a moment. I think Billy's going to break up with Lydia because he thinks now that we made love, I'm going to change my mind and be with him. I still can't! What on earth do I do to get Kyle & Lydia back together and convince Billy that he & I are over for good all without hurting anyone too badly? HELP! I'm in way over my head!
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Wheww this is quite the situation! Well first thing is first: If you want to get kyle and lydia back together..you can try, but they have to WANT to get back together. Look at it from this point of view..if lydia wanted to get you and billy back together, you would probably hold your ground and say no. Its worth a try though.
-Maybe you can talk to Kyle and Lydia in private and try to get them to remember each other and their good times..kind of remind them of the past, you know?
-second step is you have to obviously break up with kyle. the truth always works. dont lie, dont make up excuses..just tell him exactttly how you are feeling. if you are having trouble wording it, write down all the points you want to say on paper and just think to yourself how you want to word it until your comfortable with saying it to him. It really helps..i write stuff down to jog my brain if im having trouble thinking of what to say to someone.
- third..talk to each of them in private. maybe remind kyle and lydia of the old days and how cute they were..maybe there was something special lydia gave to him or vice versa..maybe something cute they would call each other..perhaps a picture of them both together you can show them.
Hopefully your efforts will pay off and they will get back together..but always remember you cant FORCE two people together..they have to want to be together.
Now as far as Billy goes..if i found out my current bf was my cousin, i would DEFINATELY want to know. And once i discovered this, i would want out of the relationship on my own. so if you tell billy this, i think it will be a whooole lot easier to get over you because your cousins! breakups hurt..but im damn sure that if my bf came to me and told me we have to break up because we are cousins..i know thats the right thing and it has to be done
Let me know how it all goes..always remember..telling it like it is is always the best answer!
<33 melissa
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ok for starters you have to tell billy that your cousins...you should have told him from the star and if you really love kyle you shouldnt let three kids stop you from seriously loving him and if you wanna get kyle and lydia back together just set them up do as if your meeting lydia and kyle there dont let them know they will be there and when they both come sit them down and tell them to talk and express their real feelings none of that jealously i dont love him i dont love her fake feelings tell them to tell the truth or they will spend most of their lives regreting that they didnt say their true feelings and then after a little while just split out and leave them to be alone well i hope that'll work
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Wow. Interesting situation.
I see this in two different ways. One:
Tell Billy that you and him are in fact, cousins. That way, he can get over you and on with his life. Now, if you really do love Kyle and you think he loves you as well, see if it can work out. Yeah, that does seem like a lot of baggage, but who says it can't work? So you get the guy you love and if Lydia and Billy love each other (which won't be a problem for Billy now since he'll know your situation with him) then they get each other.
But if you're absolutely sure you cannot be with Kyle here's number two:
Tell Billy that you and him are in fact, cousins. That way, he can get over you and on with his life. Sit down and talk to him about it, as uncomfortable as it may be. Ask him if he's only with Lydia to get back at you. If he is, tell him that it's just so unfair to her.
After Billy is taken care of, tell Kyle how you really feel. You can't be with a man that already has 3 children because you're just nto ready for it.
At this point, all else you can do is tell Kyle and Lydia to think about what they want and who they want. They have 3 children together (I'm guessing?) and they've been married for 5 years. If they still have feelings for each other, it might be worth giving that another shot. Telling them that, might get them thinking.
Other than that, you can't MAKE then get back together. They have to figure that out for themselves. All you can do is fix things with Billy and Kyle. Good luck.
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