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This 'friend'.
Well, a rumor got spread about me at school last year that was completely untrue, and someone who was one of my absolute best friends believed it. He's a boy, and I'm a girl, and I guess it was just very dissapointing to have him believe it..I wouldn't have expected it out of him. (and the rumor didnt have anything to do with another guy, or him, or anything) Well, after he heard about it he stopped talking to me. Just completely ignored me, etc, so I did the same back. And it was hard, because we were very good friends, but hey, I didn't want to be friends with someone who would think I'd sink that low.
Anyway, two nights ago he called me and just out of the blue asked ME why I stopped talking to him. I explained the whole situation & he sounded very sorry. He told me if I ever have a problem to come to him about it. He said he hated when we weren't talking, hanging out, etc.
My problem is, I just don't know if I can believe it. He is a VERY sincere person, that's why I was so shocked when he just believed the rumor about me, and wouldn't come to ME to ask me about it. But idk, we talked for an hour on the phone and he said he hated that I didn't talk to him, etc, and that we basically weren't friends. I think I'm just confused, and wondering if I should believe that he didn't talk behind my back and stuff the whole time he believed the rumor?
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Hello well i think you should tell him that and you should tell him everything you are thinking and maybe he will understand or just start over and put everything behind you <3
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Ok heres the thing he shouldnt have bailed
on u when he huird the roomer but you should have talked to him. I kno i sound a lil mean but take it from some one whos had the sam problem ask him why he believed the roomer and then asked why did you stop talking to me then last but not least ask why you were not friends. You were always friends REAL friends dont go away also real friends stay by your side. Stay real with your friends and dont stop talking to each other. Ask him to ask you when he heres things and if there not tru ask him not to beleive it.
signed Speedy0301 stay awsome and good luck !!***
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i truly believe hes sory and means what he says.deff. be friends again give it a try. he seems so sweet. even if he might have aid stuff bout you he is wiling to forget it and im not saying you should forget about it cuz its hurtful when people talk about you. but if thatsbothering you talk to him about it.
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i think you should give him a chance and believe him and if this ever happens again and he doesnt have your back...(isnt by your side) then dont believe or talk to him again you wouldnt need friends like that
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i think you should believe him beacuse he wouldt havejust called you out of the blue i had friends that did the same to me we didnt talk for over 6 months it was really hard and you only lost 1 friend i lost 3. then one day my friend said she was sorry and i believed them and things worked out great!!!
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I would expect that he has talked about you behind your back. How could he hear and believe a rumor if there wasn't some sort of verbal exchange. What you have to do is decide if you want to forgive him for not coming to you and talking to you about what he heard before making a decision about what may or may not have happened. What I think you should consider when you are making this decision is that everyone makes errors in judgment. He's young and trying to learn how to interact w/others as well as discern what is real and not real. If you stop being friends w/everyone who makes an error in judgment than you will end up w/no friends. Think of it this way. How would it be if every time you made an error in judgment your family wouldn't have anything more to do w/you. Yes, you have every right to be mad at him. Yes, you should share your anger and disappointment in his behavior w/him. He needs to know how thoughtless his behavior was and how hurtful it was to your friendship. Let him know that you are hesitant to be his friend again if he could so easily believe something w/o talking to you first. You deserve to be able to do this, but don't eliminate him from your life. If he's proven to you in the past to be a solid friend, than he deserves a second chance. Good luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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when something like that happens you need to talk it out it is very hard at first but he is your friend you don't want to lose him.and explain everything so that he will understand the situation more clearly if you need anymore advice you can come to my column and I will be there...hope this helps. :)
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I think you should go with your gut. You said he was sincere.. do you trust that? If you do, if you honestly think hes a good guy, rekindle your friendship. Personally, I believe in second chances, no matter how coldhearted someone acts toward me, I cant help myself but give them another chance is they make the first move. So, if your not so sure about the situation, and you know what bad/good things could be in store, take the chance. Hope I helped?
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