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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion.

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Hey. Well, I'm 13/f and I go to middle school, 7th grade. I know, please believe me, that labels are the stupidest thing on the Earth, but I have to use them just for this particular question.
Okay, well, I used to be 'prep' but now I find myself likeing things the 'emo's' were and at my dad's house, in his neighborhood, I hang out with the 'emo' people. I really like all the things they do, like, the eye makeup, the styles[kind of], and stuff like that.
Problem is, if I just, one day 'become' 'emo' then everyone will call me a poser. What do I do?

And, I have blonde hair and blue eyes, and I love cheerleading. I know, that's kind of 'preppy' but I like being 'emo' more than being 'prep'.

don't just come to school one day then the next day change absolutely everything about yourself. instead, take it one day at a time. like the first week start wearing eyeliner (if you don't already wear it) then next week you can mix in some more "emo" make-up. and the next week maybe get like a band t-shirt or something. you get what im saying? still like cheerleading and don't change your personality on the inside (or if you want to don't do it right away wait awhile while people adjust to your style changes) then after awhile just slowly fade, if you get what i'm saying. sorry this was a little confusing.

good luck :]

k, well i kinda guess i need someone whos already been in middle school to answer this..

when you were in middle school, were all the major slutty kids the most popular? like girl wise? & does that mostly change in highschool? because, i mean some of them are my friends & are actually cool, but some are just annoying & guys tottaly use them. but like, i once joined into that, & then for the most part regretted it. but like you always will here these stories about who made out with who & who did what. & then i dont know it makes me feel out of the group. but like i dont know..

im just wondering does it get better?

in my middle school there were alot more ty people now than in my highschool. i guess you would call them "popular" when they were in middle school but they were only popular with the ty people at that time.

now we're all in high school and most of the s got more mature and now i'm friends with some of them and they're definetly not s anymore and they regret acting that way in middle school. now there's fewer s and they have hardly any friends except the rest of the "slut group" and the guys that use them.

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Umm ok soo I need a new swimming suit... I like 2 pieces

My budget is around 30 to 40 dollars only(all together)

I also need some shorts....like billabong or something like that

If u know any examples plese put a link for me..

Thanks

your best bet would be bob's stores. i personally love their bathing suits and they have like alot of the bathing suits in pac sun, only way cheaper. if you don't have a bob's near you, there's also walmart, target, or k-mart which i know are always cheap but in my opinion they're not really the best bathing suits.

you're looking for shorts, preferably board shorts? well if you want billabong that's usually going to be expensive but they just might have them at bob's also with the bathing suits. if you really want to spend money on billabong shorts and they're not at bob's, you can go to pac sun (which is in the mall if you didn't know) and they'll pretty much definetly have them there, only they'll be like $40.

http://www.bobstores.com/activewear.asp

goodluck:]

what are some good ab work outs? i wanna loose a little stomach fat before the first of april(thats when we are going to a water part)...any one have any ideas or tips?

do 150 crunches. 50 on your back, then 50 on each side. if you do that every day for about a month of 2 you'll have nice abs :] also sit-ups are good too you can do like 20-30 of those everyday. if you can lay on your back and lift your feet up about 2 inches off the ground and just hold it there for 60 seconds (that helps the bottom on your stomach)

good luck :]

Hi ladies, I'm really curious to get the perspective of women on penis size. I measured mine hard and found that it was 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick with a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal, small or big. Also I have major right curve in my penis that's shaped like a u-turn. I mean it curves directly to the right and points at my right arm, not straight at all. Is that normal and if I jerk off with the left hand will that straighten it. My last 3 girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they would get more pleasure from a toothpick. I assume that means that I'm skinny, but I don't know. Please write back with answers as I would love to know where I stand with other men. One more thing. Does anyone else have trouble with regular condoms. Every package i buy seems to be too big. I put them on hard and they just slide right off. They feel like there about 3 inches too long and way to big around. I don't even need to stretch them out to put my penis in them erect. I'm not buying the magnums either. I'm just getting the regular average ones. I'm open to suggestions.

um. whoah. if your serious. leave me a message in my inbox and i'll help you :]

Latelyy, ive felt really like... sadd. Like i feel like i just want to cry or something. But reallyy, there is no reason. Ive been havin a really good weekend and have had a lottt of funn, theres nothing wrong.. I seem to get this way a lott, like theres periods i just feel really sad for no given reason, I was diagnosed with mild to medium depression, but i thought i got past that. This summer was rough, the one person i look up to, my dad, i actually saw him wackin off to another women over the comp and we lost our whole relationship throughout the wholee summmerr.. didnt talk or look at each other, and i was scared of him.and everynight i would remind myself of my dad cheatin on my mom, and i was the only one who knew but i couldnt say anything or they would get a divorce that would be even more hard. My best friend who is older than me, was extreme suicidal, i delt with calls every other day of him sayin I OD'd and im gonna die i love you.. me and this kid spent day and night together the whole summer. At the beginging of the year i started high school, lost alll of my best friends because of this girl who turned them against me... My neighbor died, we were so close.. i lost my first boyfriend i was actually in love with. My best friend talked to a FAKE guy over long distance relationship.. come to find its a girl we know that is one of our friends cousins, she went out with him for 9 monthss! We got calls every now and then sayin he killed himself, we were really close... then we realized that he was fake...

Ive been better, ive gotten myfriends back,my dads relationship with me has been better, hes stopped--atleast i think. We never talked to that fake person again.. my friends still suicidal, but much better... im over that guy, found another not together but talkingg. My neighbor is gone, and yess i miss her. but Things have gotten better and as of 2007 startin ive decided to put it behind me.. But theres this moments when i flash back, remember all that shit.. whenever i get like thiss.. and it makes me sooo anxious and scared..

I cried myself to sleep everynight of 2006 almost.. sounds weird but i just cant cry anymore, i just feel really sad sometimess, and it puts me down.
any clue or advice to whats going on, im sick of feeling this way

i'm so sorry :[

well obviously many horrible things have happened to you and i'm sure many people would be depressed for awhile. as for the flashbacks your having, well i can definetly relate to your problem, although my problems aren't as bad as yours i still have those times where i get really sad. you need to talk to someone and let all of this out. thats what i did and it really helped me alot. if you don't have anyone to talk to you are welcome to talk to me because i have a similar idea to what this feels like (if you want my email/AIM send me a message in my inbox) school counselors are a second choice too. although they can be hard to talk to because usually for me i like to talk to someone around my age.

hope everything goes well.

Well I don't know. You see, i'm 13. This boy has been my best friend for about two years and we've been together for a year. It's nice and everything. We are real close and know almost everything about eachother and everything. He's different from the rest of the guys i've gone out with. Don't think I am a slut or anything but we are both comfortable being naked around eachother. He trusts me and I trust him. No, this is not my first relationship. Anyhow, he's always there when i need him. Well, he's actually a nice boy and won't take advantage of me or anything like that or trying to get me to have sex with him. I know i'm young and yes i am still a virgin. Most of you are probably thinking "teen love dont have sex with him" Of course i'll be on birth control and have a condem and everything but i'm not sure if i should give up my virginity so young. So what do you people out there think about the whole situation?

you asked for my opinion on this situation so i honestly think you should wait. i understand that you guys and really close and are probably truly in love, but you a lot more time to be doing that or not. if something happens like the may slip off and you get pregnant your life is going to go down the drain, not because you're boyfriend will ditch you cause i'm sure he won't, but you guys will need to support that baby or get an abortion which i am completely against, because if your not ready to take the chance of having the baby, then you shouldn't be ually active. remember, you're only 13, you have your whole life ahead of you :]

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My eyes water a lot.

If theres wind outside, my eyes will water.
If I cough, sneeze, laugh, or yawn my eyes water.
If I look in the sun/light my eyes water....
its soo weird! many of my friends think i'm crying or something but really its just my eyes.
How do I make them stop?

i have this exact same problem and my friends come up to me and they say "what's wrong??" and i'm like umm..nothing? ok well sorry i had to say that but what i do to stop them from watering is i went to my eye doctor and he gave me prescription eye drops that make them less watery. or if you don't have an eye doctor you can just get non-presciption ones at like any drug store and if you don't know which ones to get ask a pharmacist or somebody who works there. if you really don't want to put in eye drops you can try closing your eyes for like 20-30 seconds and the water will be mostly gone!

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I know that 12 in the afternoon is noon but what time is morning and evening?

morning is usually 12 AM-11:59 AM and evening is usually 6PM-11:59PM. if thats what your looking for :]

i ahve a rope bracelet its gettin kinda nasty lookin how can i clean it ?

i put mine in the wash and it comes out really clean :] oh yeah and don't put it in the dryer, just let it air dry and in like an hour you can wear it again :]

I just bought/rented a lot of clothes and equipment to go skiing within the next few weeks. I've never gone before. I'm pretty excited but I wanted to also try snowboarding. Would learning to ski first be a better idea? I heard it would be easier to learn that but I wanted some more opinions... could I do both in one day or should I wait till next time to snowboard?

i tried both and thought that skiing was easier to learn. now i'm a snowboarder because once you can ski, it's easier to learn to snowboard. i thought snowboarding was way more fun but if you don't have very good balance i suggest you stick with skiing, because with snowboarding you need to lean back on your heels to stop and if you don't have very good balance whenever you go to stop you'll just fall. you should probably just take a ski day then go some other time to go snowboarding. it will help you get used to it and it will also give you more time to pick which one you like better :]

have fun :]

Hey... my name is amanda... and my hair.. is naturally red but now is bronzed brown... My iar is jus tlike below the shoulders and I have side swept bangs... I was wondering what changes I should make for when my bf gets home.. wanna look goood.. acctually I wanna look greattt..... I would like if you could help me with a style.. k thank you

well...i could honestly say i can't answer this very well because i'm not really sure what you mean by "great" but i understand that you wanna make him amazed, so i'll try my best to help you. i would let your hair grow long if you want to keep it bronzed brown because in my opinion, that hair color looks really good when its long. you also have an option of getting rid of the bangs, like pull them back in a pin so it looks like you don't have any. or you can curl your hair and the bangs if it's not curly already. orr you can do something cute like french braids or normal braids.

good luck :]

I've had several chances to have relationship, one with a girl that probably would have been good for me and one that probably wouldn't have, but I dismissed any thought of their being more than friends from their minds before anything could develop, as usual. I've always been looking and reserved myself for that one amazing girl that will make having a serious realationship worth it, you know? but just when I think I've found her, she turns out to be interested in some other guy, who's interested in her, and I cant be selfish enough to not be happy whe she tells me about how their relationship is finally working out, despite all the obstacles that have been in her way, and how happy she is, because I have to be happy for her, she's too wonderful for me to be selfish enough to want her for myself, because I know I probably cant make her as happy as this guy can, and this guy is really great, I can tell, just by the sheer amount of work he's put into getting their relationship started, and I cant tell her I have feelings for her because I know if I tell her, things will be weird between us, and I really dont want that to happen because I really want her to have a person she can always talk to about anything, and if she knows I have feelings for her, she'll feel like she has to hold things back, and I dont want her to have to feel like that when she's talking to me, I just want her to be comfortable and honest with me, so I'm in a bad place, but I dont complain, except now of course, but I dont like people who burden other people with their personal problems, so I try not to be one of those people, so sorry if I am burdening you, I just wanted to let it all out in a burst of emotion like right now. sorry this was so long and I understand if you dont answer

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you obviously love this . you want her to be happy, even if she's not with you, which is real love. you should really tell her because if you don't you'll spend the rest of your life thinking about what would have happened if you had told her. i'm saying this from a s point of view that sometimes we pretend to be interested in other guys because we think we're not good enough for the guy we truly love or we think he's interested in someone else so we try to hold it back and just pretend to like someone else so it doesn't hurt us. if you tell her your feelings for her you should tell her that you don't want to ruin the friendship and that you're happy for her if she really loves the other guy. then she'll think of you as a amazing friend because you actually care about her and it's not just you being selfish.

good luck :]

that i like and i dont know how to talk to her can anyone help me with convos and short talk and long term talk. Im not one of those guys who can think of anything to talk and then talk about it. So can anyone help me.

you can find out some things that she's interested in like sports, clubs, activities, or anything really and then say something like "so i hear you like...." and she'll say yeah. then you can say all the things you like about that subject. say something to make her laugh. most s love guys that make them laugh, and once you make them laugh they'll open up to you more and start a conversation.

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I have two best friends and now everything is changing between us. We all three have boyfriends. Amy is always like her boyfriend and I never get to hang out with her anymore and when we actually do get to talk it's always about her boyfriend. Andrea, my other best friend is not as bad its just I dont want to lose them. My boyfriend seems to be not interested in me or something. He never calls me to hang out and then always has an excuse. He would rather play videeo games, or cheat on me I guess. (he is known for cheating). But I dont know what to do because if I break up with him then I will be by myself at school with no one to talk to because my friends will be with there boyfriends.

well, if your boyfriend is cheating on you the best thing for you would definetly to break up with him, especially for a reason like this. if your friends are good friends then when they hear about your break-up they'll feel bad for you and they'll spend more time with you. if they don't you should talk to them about it. say something like "hey well i was just wondering if you wanna hang out more because ever since we broke-up i've been all by myself." if they're the best friends you say they are they will hang out and comfort you.

good luck :]

earlier people on here were telling me that if you mix baking soda and water together then put it on your face is will dry up your pimples. Does this really work?

and someone also said putting alcohol on them will make them go away.

do not put any kind of alcohol on pimples. it dries up your skin and ruins your skin, BIG TIME. if anything it will make the pimples worse. my skin doctors tell me this all of the time. about the baking soda and water, it will dry up your pimples but it will just cause you more pimples so there's really no point. if you want to get rid of pimples try proactiv. it works like magic. i used to have pimples all over and now i have none :]

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Ok so i'm really bad at doing my homework because i usualy dont because when i dont do i get yelled at and when i do i get yelled at so i dont know what to do because i want to do good at school but i'm really cofused and stressed and i'm starting high school next year well if i pass and i really need to do better but everytime i go to do my homework i get yelled at by a teacher and even my parents so i need help anyone please

ok i didn't really understand your question because you said if you DON'T do your homework you get yelled at (i'm guessing by parents/teacher) and you also said when you DO do your homework you get yelled at also. ok so i'm going to try to understand and answer this question the best i can. you really shouldn't get yelled at for actually doing your homework, even if you didn't get that much right, you still tried. well anyway getting to the point, you can just think of homework as class work or a quiz. if you think it's hard you should talk to your teacher and ask for extra help sometime before or after school. or you can get a tutor to help you with your homework by talking to your guidance counselor. another option is to ask a friend to help you. i am a freshman in high school and pretty much in every high school you really need to do your homework every night to pass. what i do is schedule a time when you start your homework and keep it at that same time every day so at that time you will always remember to do your homework.

good luck :]

I have noticed a lot of people ask questions about weight loss. Would anyone like to form a support group/challenge? I am captain of one right now and as a group we lost 103 lbs. last week. It would be strictly based on healthy diet and exercise. So let me know!

i'd love to. i don't really need it that much but 10-20 pounds sounds perfect :]

I LOVE leg warmers like these from Hollister:

http://i10.tinypic.com/2d0gvp2.jpg

But I have no idea what to wear with them, besides Uggs! Are uggs basically the only thing that looks good with them? Every kind of shoe I think of look stupid to me, like heels or flip flops. Any ideas of how people wear leg warmers thats cute and IN STYLE? Id love pictures/stores. Thanks :]

when i wear legwarmers i wear clogs (especially winter ones) and lots of people said it looked cute [: if you were wondering you can get good clogs from american eagle.

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?rcid=womens&scid=cat90122&sscid=cat380153&navroot=womens&productId=1411_3606_brown

I have little bumps on my forhead
all over and at first it started out
with just a couple but now I have a lot.
I think they are black heads.
I tried using black head stuff from neutrogena
but it didn't help.
Does anyoen have any ideas how to get rid of
these bumps?

ah aren't those so annoying? i used to have them all of the time last year. what works really good is the "Acne Free" stuff . it has 3 steps to it (it also comes with blackhead toner). it might be a little more expensive than neutrogena but it works soo much better and for me it was definetly worth the $20 i paid for it. it has directions on the box so you should be all set once you get it.

good luck [:

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