about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

15/f
My BF of 3weeks and I were talking about a friend who recently got dumped. And then he said if i dumped him he wouldnt really care. said he's sealed all his emotions off from the world. i'm not sure if he really knows he hurt me when he said that. i dont want to break up with him. im hoping that he will turn into a serious bf. but when he said that it made me feel like he was only going out with me to get some. or just thinking nothing of it. i havent wanted to give up on life in a long time, but now i feel i want to agian cause nothing goes right! what can i do!! i want this relationship to last but i dont want it to be fake. how can i see if its for real?

You'll never know what he really meant unless you really ask him. I dont think he is trying to push you away and Im not trying to be mean or anything but it doesnt seem like he likes you that much. I mean a real boyfriend would care about that. But just ask him about it. Im sure he didnt mean it like that. x0`

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i pierced my belly button yesterday with a sewing needle.. and right now only an earring is in the hole.. i have 2 questions.. 1. what should i clean the piercing with and 2. how can i make the hole bigger so i can fit a belly button ring in?

You shouldnt of got it done perfesionally because it can get affected. Get a belly button ring and try to put it in your belly. It will become wider like that. Clean it with warm watter and a little soap or salt. x0`

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there is this girl and everyone hates her but shes sooooooooooooo anoying and SUCH a poser, i just wanna kick the shit out of her sometimes, what the hell do i do, anything non-violent plz

Haha!! Tell her to shut the hell up!! Let people hate her.. its acually her problem! l0l!! I know that ignoring her defenetly wont work but if she starts getting annoying just yell at her! Thats what I do! x0`

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does anyone know a good breed of dog that is low maintenence and cheap

Yorshire Terrier. They are easier to take care of, they are small dogs but they love attention. They arent that expensive about $300 but they are super adorale and really fun! x0`

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I dont know why, maybe my friend is just an easy target for them, but just the people in my class bully her so much! She lets trhem get to her and she wont participate in anything, and the school wont do anything about it, i dont think the teacher cares much, her parents definitly dont, abd her friends, ( not including me) dont say anything. actually they hang out w/ her cuz she has no1 else. she cant change schools, either. its been hard enough for her just starting her period, and shes failing almost every class. what should i do to help her?!!!

o0 wow! Those people are idiots!! Im not saying they should be extremely nice to her but she defenetly deserves much more respect then what those people are doing to her!! You just need to be there for your friend. When people bully her in class stand up for her and let her know you care about her. Also tell her she needs to do something about it. She shouldnt let them do that to her and she needs to stand up to them. Tell the principal and he has to do something about it!! x0`

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Im still in love with my ex boyfriend, he was the first love of my life. We went out for almost a year, and we loved eachother so much.Well we were really serious about eachother and we had so much fun and it was so crazy, and I knew he loved me. Well until the beginning of this year he went to a different school district and he completely changed...But I know thats not him and thats not how he wants to be because he jsut completely changed the 2nd day he started going to his new school..well we eventually broke up, and then went back out 1 or 2 months after, and he wasnt the same and he hurt me. But I know thats not him and thats why it makes me so upset. And ive tried giving so many guys chances and it jsut doesnt work cause I think about him all the time, and ive waited for a guy that i actually like to come along. And im so confused cause I see my ex every now and then and I see him just looking at me. And my friends tell me he still loves me cause he cant go from loving me one day to completely not loving me and he told them that he loved me cause they are his friends too. And im just so confused cause hes stuborn, and if he does love me why doesnt he tell me? Because I know if I asked him he would be too shy and wouldnt tell me because he hurt me..

Please help me....

I honestly dont really know why your ex wont tell you that he loves you. Just because he wont say it doesnt mean he doesnt. I mean everyone knows he loves you and he really seems like he cares a lot about you. Sometimes people do change when they go to a different school, move or whatever. Maybe he is just trying to fit in with everyone. You need to tell him that you guys need to talk and seriously dont worry about it hes shy. Make him tell you the truth about everything that has been going on. I think he will tho! He obviously cares a lot about you and I know he didnt mean to hurt you. Sometimes guys dont even relize if they hurt someone or not. x0`

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i like lots of guys and i don't know why... i just thnk so many are hot!! ugh it sucks not knowing which one to choose!! please help

No you're not a slut.. and well its fine that you think that cuz boys are sexy! l0l! Just flirt with them. You'll know which one you like. x0`

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Ookay one night i had a wicked weird dream... Here it is but it might be long;
I was at this place(Alton Jones..It's a sleepover camp but for school..) and yeah so i was there and just randomly a older guy pulls me over(we were in the parking lot) and grabbed me adn stuff and I was like "Help this guy is melesting me!!!" And then i dont know how but i forgot about it.. Then the next day(this is still one dream) another guy does the same thing but we were in the main building/cafeteria and we were on a balcony and a guy threw me over the edge but i held on and threw him over. Then the next day i was in a parking lot and the same guy grabbed me again and tried to melest me then i went into someones car and drove him over... and then i finally woke up.. Does anyone know how to interupt dreams or to tell me if this is a sign?.. Thanks.. I RATE HIGH

Hm.. I dont think dreams really mean much but if you ask people to interupt your dreams for you then everyone will say different answers. You wont know what to belive and which one seems more realistic. I think you should try to figure it out. People also dream about thinks so they can understand them> I agree with what the other person said. x0`

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Ok i know im kidna old but I had a babysitter kind of coem ovr after school till my dad comes home. Shews was 21 and really cool, im 13. Last week she left and i was really sad i cried, i know this is wierd but do you guys think im over reacting. She came everyday for 2 years.

No! You just really liked this babysitter. But dont feel weird at all. People get attached to other people and are upset when they leave. x0`

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ok thanks! do you have aim .. if so you can im me whenever you find the myspace layouts sites... my aim is Ox b3aCh baBe xO and if you dont, then you can just write back on here! thnxz sooo much

I do have AIM.. I had about 2 websites saved but now I cant find it. I dont know if they deleted or what!! I`ll defenetly keep searching. x0`

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i saw you answered someone elses queation about Aimutation. where can i download that at? and i was wondering if you knew anywhere i could get cute myspace layouts?

Go to www.aimutation.com and I have a few websites but I will try to find them. x0`

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14/f- Okay, well I have a new boyfriend...and he seems really shy around me. He acts all tough, and im always the one to grab his hand so we hold hands...and I told him I loved him online and he totally ignored it and started talking about something else. I really like him it's just i'm no so sure about him. how can i get him to ease up? Do you know what I mean? Tell him it's okay to grab my hand? Will he change? please help me! thanks

Well how long have you guys been going out? If its not for a really long time then give him a little time to get comftrable around you. Again, if you guys have been going out for a short period of time dont rush into saying I love you too soon. But anyways... The next time you talk to him just let him know that he can grab your hand. You need to make him feel comftrable and get used to everything. He will change so dont worry about it. Maybe he hasnt had much experience with other girlfriends so he doesnt really know what to say or do. x0`

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my friend has this thing that allows you to be on as many screen names as you want all at once and how she does it is she picks my AIM and then she picks clone AIM but when i go go my AIM there isnt a option to choose clone AIM i thought it may have been that she upgraded AIM and got it from there but my AIM is all upgraded and i dont have it .. does anyone know if you have to download it if so please tell me where i rate high

The other people are telling you AIM+ but it isnt. Well that is to go on more screen names but now it seems to cause viruses. The way you can clone AIM is if you download Aimutation. You can do sooo much more things and get on as many screen names as you want!! If you need help on downloading is just leave it in my inbox. X0`

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this is my dress:
http://www.torrid.com/store/product.asp?LS=0&RN=206&ITEM=592810

this is my picture:
http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=toXic%20x%20baBii%20x3

What make up would look good with that? I need eyeliner, eye shadow, lipstick/gloss, and other things.

I'll rate 5's for anyone that gives me the name of the make up, and where i can get it. I will also definately rate you a 5 if you also give me links to cute jewelry.

Ill rate 1's for jerks.

Your dress is cute! Use black eyeliner and for the brand use MAC, black mascera you can get Revlon or what ever kind you like best. For the eyeshadow.. you could eather do a smokey eye or just something light like shimmery. Clear lipgloss! You will look hot! X0`

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I'm graduating high school in 2 weeks. My friends and I are planning a summer trip together. We are debating on weather to go to the Bahamas or touring around Eurpoe. Which would y'all do?

Europe!

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can you have unprotected sex with a guy who is sterile???

Yea you can but that doesnt mean you cant catch STD. I think you should have protected sex rather then unprotected. x0`

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Is there any way to make your eyebrows grow faster?

No there isnt but they do grow fast. Im not sure if vasaline make them grow faster. I dont think so. x0`

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I need a website to look up Channel things. Like sunglasses , purses. Anyone know the website. Please dont say look on google. Thanks! i rate

www.chanel.com then go to eye wear click on it but it doesnt say the price! x0`

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If someone gets reported, how long does it take for something to get banned or something of that nature?

It really depends. Theres a Level 2 and 3 moderator and if its an abuse report it could be about a day or so. But it really depends! x0`

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theres this guy in my drama class who is really fat and is like 350 pounds and has a billion pimples all over his face that is not able to be cured. hes telling ppl that i'm his girlfriend and i'm not. plus he stalks me becasue he knows where my house is. today he went to my house and tried attacking me becuase i don't want to be with him. lately hes attacked 3 of my friends cuz hes really violent. one of them that hes had a crush on he stalked her by breaking into her house by breaking her window and bringing flowers and a boom box so he can sing to her. he tried kissing my other friend but then she refused and then he bruised her. he also ruined the birthday present that i spent alot of my time making for my best friend and so it got destroyed. he also started moving over on where i was sitting and tried to touch me and put his arm around me but then thank god before he was able to do that my friend susana yelled move outta my way!!! and i don't know what do becuse today i have to meet up with the drama group to finish a project and hes in my group and itz too late to kick him out of the group because the project is due tomorrow. and i'm just scared on what he'll do to me. hes nasty and doesn't even have a good personality.

Eww! l0l! Tell your teacher. Hes really gross and who knows what he might do to you. If its do tomoro, you will only have one more day that hes in your group and you can get through it. But seriously, tell your teacher. She can get him away from you! x0`

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