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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I'm 15 and since I got my braces off a year and a month ago, I would really like white teeth! I don't smoke and I've tried soooo many whitening toothpastes. Nothing worked. Whenever another girl smiles and she has white teeth I just think 'why can't I have teeth like that?' My uncle is a dentist and he says that I'm still too young to do any professional bleaching. He was over yesterday and my mom asked about whitening strips and he said that since my teeth are very sensitive that using gel is better than strips and that I can give it a try but he prefers if I wait. ugh! I don't want to do anything to harm my teeth but I would die for white teeth! So my mom bought the 5 Minute Bleach Whitening Gel, I don't remember if it's the one for sensitive teeth or not. But I don't know what to do! Should I try it and see how my teeth like it? Will I know that my teeth are sensitive to the gel easily the first time? I'm afraid that my tooth will like fall out or something if it irritates it that much lol ahh now getting paraniod, please, any advice?
i have that gel and i'm 3 years older than you and it works fine for me. you only put it on your teeth for a few minutes so it shouldnt' do that much damage.. the only thing you have to be careful about is that you dont put any on your gums. just the teeth. my teeth are perfectly fine and i use it. also, don't over use it. i only use it like 2 times a week. so i wouldn't make it a big habit because that way they can get damaged. just use it once in a while and brush your teeth 3 times a day with a whitening toothpaste. dont forget to floss and rinse with mouthwash!
Hiya well I need your help again... So I really like this guy let's say his name is dan but I know e doesn't like me anymore and I know he use to and I'm a freshman and he's a sophmore but some how we ended up in the same health and math class and it drives me crazy like he talk to this girl in math like he use to talk to me and it makes me so jealous so far like some days like out of random I'll start crying because I wish I took more chances with him and now it's awkward between me and him and it kills me every day I see him and I can't jet talk to him like I use to I miss it so much like I have flashbacks of the time we spent toghther and we weren't like bf and gf but we spent the most amazing time together I just can't seem to get over it it kills me each day what should I do please tell me I need your good advice I can't be crying like this anymore it's gone to far
Have you tried talking to him casually? Doesn't need to be anything major. Just say- hey Dan how's it going?. Smile. Then walk away. He won't think it's weird if you do it enough times. If he says anything, just say "I'm just being nice.. I say this kind of stuff to everyone. Even strangers." if it helps, you can even say "hey" to a few people around him, and then say hey to him, that way it doesn't seem like it was directed at him, it was directed at other people too.
Key tip is to take baby steps. I know you want to dive right in and be friends with him already. But it takes time and patience. Also trust is another thing.
Every few weeks, try to step it up a notch and say something else like- do you know what the homework was? Or I like your shoes. Or i saw you the other day.
Once you get the nerve to talk to him, I promise you it will just get easier from then on. If you want, you can try writing him a note saying your bored and want to talk to someone. Or write an email or text. You can even try this if you're up for it- talk to him and say "hey I really need advice or I need someone to talk to. I'm not having a good day and I am
In a bad mood. Can you cheer me up?" something like that. That way, he will know that you trust him and go to him for help. It could even be homework help. Make him know that you're considering him as an option for help.
If you guys start talking more, try saying something like- hey I was looking at pictures and saw one of us back in the old days. Do you remember when we had so much fun? We
Should hang out again soon! I miss you!
Good luck :) be brave and strong :) inbox again if you have more questions!
Im 18 yrs old and i started smoking wen i was about 14 yrs old from my cousin peer pressuring me and i wanted to be jus like her because i stood up to her. i liked smoking because everyone else was doing it. but now i hate it! i want to quit so badly! i dont feel like myself , i feel like i get weaker and weaker each day, i get really bad headaches, and out of no where i feel like im going to pass out and i lose my breath and i feel like i cant breathe. if any one has ever had this experience and has had these feelings like i have and they have quit smoking can yuu please take some time out and help me with some advice you have? i would really appreciate it. thank you
tell someone you trust really well.. if you tell someone, they are more likely garunteed to help better than you by yourself. ask them to take your lighter and cigarrettes and hide them somewhere. that way you won't be tempted. also, maybe give them your wallet in case you don't go to a store and buy some.
there are also patches to make you stop. just search online 'ways to stop smoking' and there will be tons of results.
also, i suggest living a healthier lifestyle. drink a lot of water, brush your teeth a lot, eat healthy food (not crappy junk food that will make you feel miserable) get up and excersize, even if its sit ups and push ups during tv commercial or go running on treadmill or even walking or biking or swimming.
hope i helped a little bit
What does "Don't lose someone you love over pride" mean?
Let's say you get in a fight/disagreement with someone.. You are pretty convinced that you're right and the other person is wrong. But the other person believes that they are right and you are wrong (thus the disagreement). You KNOW you're wrong but you don't want to admit it.. So you keep saying you're right. Then eventually you'll lose that person. Thus the saying "don't lose someone you love over pride". In other words, if you know you're wrong about something, admit your mistakes. Say sorry even if you don't think you should be the one saying it. If you try to prove your point and don't admit your mistakes, you can end up losing someone because of your pride of "knowledge" even though you were wrong.
Make sense?
so im going out with this guy and he's super amazing!!!!! but then theres this other guy who im best friends with but we've been a little bit more then just friendly lately...i dont know what to do should i break up with my bf for my best friend or just stop being as friendly? im 15 and female
Pro con lists never fail me. What does your heart want? What feels the best to you? Who would you miss the most? Who can you see yourself being the happiest with?
Well I love the sport basketball but I gave up because conditioning killed me and my ankle hurt every time I went to basketball so I gave up now it's softball signups and I'm not sure if i Want to signup because ever since bball conditioning I feel sick to my stomach like I get scared that I can't do it and I eventually give up I like softball but I hasn't played in 2 years and my hfhschool team is suppose to be really good so that means intense conditioning:( I'm just scared to signup because I'm afraid I'm going to want to quit and my parents said if I signup I can't quit this time what now?
Hey what is this negative attitude..?
If someone offered you a job to work for the president of the united states, would you take it? Yes it would be hard.. But it's worth it right?? Why would you let something so small stand in the way of you having a blast?
In your case, why are you letting conditioning rule your decisions? YOU have to control your life. You can't have fears control your life. YOU control your fears.
First thing, you need to erase that negative attitude and say I CAN DO THIS! have self esteem. Have courage. Don't be a scary cat. If you don't sign up, you could be missing out on a great opportunity to make new friends and have a great time!
What if someone came up to you and said- do you like softball? And you say- yes. They say- why don't you play it as a sport? What are you gonna say? Because I am too scared to injure myself??? NO! stand up and be mature and have the courage.
Also, you have to realize that you can't live in a bubble forever. You're gonna end up getting hurt in life, whether it's rejection, physical hurting, emotional hurting etc, you can't protect yourself all the time. Yes i understand that you don't want to harm your body, but how are you expected to go through a challenge without taking some risks and giving effort and sacrificing something like your health?
What's the worst that can happen? Sprain ankle? Torn ACL? maybe a broken bone? Idk about you but people in my school love to show off bruises and injuries because it makes them look tougher and more bad ass. Do you really want to be known as the scary cat girl who is too scared to join a sport because she is too scared to get a little rough and banged up? Or do you want to be known as the girl who can withstand any challenge and will give effort 100 percent of the time and will sacrifice herself for her team and who is really tough and won't deny a challenge?
Remember- positive attitude! You CAN do this!
This guy thats really nice to me says he wants to teach me about life. I dont know if he likes me or anything but hes relly nice. We are both 16 and i'm not sure what he means, Is he trying to call me dumb?
Nah I don't think he's insulting you and calling you dumb. I think he's just trying to tell you that if you spend more time with him, you'll get more experience in life. As in- he can show you bigger and better things in life as opposed to another guy who couldn't.
If you're unsure, why don't you just ask him what he means by that and that you're confused.
Hi! anybody know some examples of Persuasive Speech? if you guys know please let me know..Thanks :)
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back"
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” -Charles R. Swindoll
Hope this helps!
So I'm 14 and I haven't had my first kiss... And I really want to it's just at the moment I can't get this. Guy to like me so what now??
Hey don't stress out about it. I didn't get my first kiss until I was 16. My best friend got hers when she was 17. A kiss is a kiss. At your age, it seems like the most important thing.. But in all honesty, its not a big deal.. Nobody is going to judge you. And if they do, so what? Why do you care what other people think?
Just give it time. Find the right guy. Don't rush into it. So many people rush into it and it's supposed to be special but if you rush into it, it won't be special and cute and nice.
PS: guys actually think it's cute when a girl doesn't have much experience because it shows the guys that they can give you a good time and that they will be remembered as the first guy.
I'm changing my style to become more classic and preppy. What are the key items for a preppy look? Also, what outfits can you wear with Sperry Top-Siders?
(I'm talking about the true preppy, not fake, Abercrombie public school preppy.)
Well see.. Haha I'm from a preppy public stuck up rich high school.. Soo i don't know if I'll be much help.. But try some sweaters, vests, collared t shirts, ties, nice work clothes like a blazer and slacks. Maybe some nice jewels like diamonds?
Haha not sure what your preppy style is..
Hi,19/m. im currently taking a couple years out before going to university. my aim is to save money, as well as to get some work experience etc.
I've got some money saved up, and am willing to save more for travelling.
Im unsure about whether to travel in Europe, or China? I live in the UK, so 2 weeks in Europe would be convenient, as its quite close. I would probably spent a few days in France, a few days in Italy, a few in Spain.
China however would be a once in a life time opportunity. I don't have much of a preference, i would generally love to spend time in Europe and China.
However, I will be going on my own (most probably). I have one friend who will have the finances to come with me, but the problem is that he only wants to spend his time in one place i.e. all the time in France. I'm also learning mandarin Chinese, so china would be a good way to develop my knowledge. But i also speak Italian, and SOME French and German?
Any idea's to help me make up my mind? Thanks folks! Much appreciated :)
Make a pro/con list. Which culture don't you have much knowledge of? Which culture would you like to learn the most about? Which experience do you think will give you an advantage in your life?
Do some background research and see which place intrigues you the most. Which one are you more curious to learn about?
hello, i have a question, i have the last few weeks a bad smell down there, and i do not feel good having sex with my boyfriend because of thet. i was by the Dr. and i know i do not have a infection. what can i do about it?
It's normal for girls vaginas to smell bad down there because the vagina secretes a lot of things like discharge and it is slightly acidic. So don't freak out. It's supposed to smell weird, also, there's a product out there (don't know the name) but Always (the brand) makes it and it's basically a scented wipe for your vagina. You just wipe it and it cleans it (not like douching) and it makes it feel refreshed and smell better.
ADDITIONAL- no I don't think you should wash inside there with water because it is not good for your vagina. Let your vagina clean itself out. But there are wipes you can use. Just wipe it like you'd wipe after you poop and it should be better.
My cousin and I are very close and I wanna make something out of the pictures we have taken, but I don't have enough time or enough pictures to complete a scrapbook. Does anyone have any cool idea's? Like some kind of collage? anything helps. Please and thank you. (:
Shutterfly.com. You can make a picture book. They make the book and then ship it to you. My mom is obsessed with it haha
Or try making a photo slideshow on the computer (theres some websites. Not sure about the names but just searh it up. Or iMovie if you have a mac) and burn it onto a DVD. You can even put music in the background.
I'm 15/f. My face was extremely dry so I started using Neutrogena Cleanser and Neutrogena Toner at night and in the morning I would use Aveeno Tinted Moisterizer also as my foundation. It was working great for about 1 week and a half, my face was shiny and smooth and getting rid of my few blemishes that I had. However, just a few days ago my dry face started gettting worse than I had started out with. What could it be? Was I using the cleanser and toner too much? So now I decided to used Johnson's shea and cocoa butter baby lotion on my face at night and the tinted moisterizer in the morning. Any more advice as to what I should do and what could be the problem? I really enjoyed using the Neutrogena products because they worked haha well for an amount of time.
i don't think its because you use it too much because if you think about it.. lotion makes your skin moisturized. the less you use, the more dry your skin becomes.
try carrying around a little bottle of moisturizer (the travel kind) in a purse and lightly apply a coat during the day when you feel like you need to refresh yourself.
it could be the product. i don't really know because i don't trust neutrogena. i trust clean and clear products the best. they just came out with this new moisturizer. you should try it out. i absolutely love it because it doesn't make my face oily and it makes it feel super soft.
http://www.cleanandclear.com/product/finishes/pore-perfecting-moisturizer
I'm going to ask this question for my friend because he's in a strange situation. He is a 20 year old male.
He goes to a Christian college and is active in his faith. He has two female friends in particular that he is close to. The problem is, these girls claim they are in love with each other. I myself am not a Christian nor am I against gay marriage, but from what he describes, these two are not in love. They are actually very obsessed with one another and barely hang out with anyone besides each other. He feels that one of the girls is being manipulative towards the other, so that she thinks she needs the relationship.
What can he do to get his non-manipulative friend back...what can he say to put things in perspective for her?
let me ask you this.. does your friend know 100% sure that they are not in love..? can he prove that they aren't in love?? if he can't prove it, then he has no reason to interfere..
its their relationship. let them do what they want. how does he know that one of the girls is just manipulative? does he have proof that she is manipulative? does he have proof that they aren't in love?
if he's really that concerned with it, he should just talk to the girl (non manipulative one) and tell her what he thinks. but be careful because she could take it the wrong way and they could have a fight/argument. he can voice his opinions and tell her "i think your other friend is just being manipulative" but honestly, his opinion doesn't mean anything if he doesn't have anything to back it up with.
if i were him, i'd just back off and let them be. what good will it do to interfere? how is it going to help anything? lets say he does interfere and then they break up.. ok now what..? he's happy that they broke up? that they lost each other? that they aren't happy with each other? how is interfering with THEIR relationship going to make things better? the way i see it, it will just cause drama and stress.
its their relationship. let them do what they want. if they aren't "in love" then fate will decide what to do and things will happen naturally. everything happens for a reason.
So I have these two friends, lewis and tommy. tommy I like and just started hanging out with the past month. And lewis I have known for about a year and we tell each other everything, including how much i like tommy. now lately lewis has been kinda grrr whenever i talk about him and i was like ok whatever, and then a few days ago they call me threeway and both tell me that they both like me. . . they are best friends and have been since 7th grade....so u see my dilemma. also tommy says he likes me but doesnt wanna do a relationship.....lewis says he likes me but im not for sure how i feel about him yet...but either way they are best friends and i dont want to be the one to wreck their friendship....yet i feel a little awkward about the whole situation...are things gonna change? Will i still be able to talk to lewis about thing? will we be able to stay friends? i have been thinking a lot as you can tell. please help.....any help you can give at all small or big would be greatly apreciated. thanks
this one is tricky.. if you decide to go out with one of them, you're gonna risk losing a friendship. however, if you don't go out with either one of them, things might stay the same and nothing will be solved.
its really up to you. nobody on this website can tell you what to do. we can only give you advice and our opinions. my opinion is that you shouldn't go out with either one of them. because if you pick one, you're gonna lose the other. and that is way too messy and dramatic. you can probably find another guy who you will KNOW you like, instead of thinking "im not sure if i like him".
but like i said, its your choice. you should try talking to both of them separately and let them know how you feel. tell lewis that you're not sure about how you feel about him and that if you guys hung out some more and got to know each other better, you might know then. tell tommy that you aren't going to pressure him into a relationship (because he doesnt want one) but let him know that you care about him and like him.
also try thinking about flipping the situation and being in their shoes. what if you and your best friend liked the same guy? would you want the guy to pick one of you guys and then have you and your bff not be friends anymore? or would you rather have him pick nobody and that way you can stay friends with everybody?
inbox me if you have more questions.
everytime i like something or i think i look good in a picture or i get excited i either
rub both my hands together really fast or itch my forehead with 2 figners relaly fast
why do i do this?
it was relly bad when i was younger then it stopped now im 18 and its back and really bad
its so weird.
what is it?
why do i do it?
how do i stop?
haha that is kinda weird no offense. sorry. but you have to think about this- everybody has habits. my habit is biting my nails and picking at my cuticles. other peoples could be cutting, or whistling, humming, biting lips etc.
the way to get over your habits takes a long time and a lot of patience. try doing this- take a piece of duct tape (or any kind of tape that isnt clear) and put it on your hand. it could be on your finger, palm, thumb, back of hand, wrist etc. just anywhere on your hand. then take a pen/permanent marker and write on the tape and write- STOP. then everytime you rub your hands together or scratch your nose or face, you'll see the tape that says STOP and you'll realize that you need to stop your habit.
also, i suggest telling people who normally see you everyday. like your parents or close friends. that way, if they see you doing it, then can pull your hands down and stop you. just let them know and say "hey i'm trying to stop this habit, can you please stop me whenever you see me doing it? thanks"
another thing, if you master this task, you should reward yourself. my reward's are usually some hot cookies or buying myself a new outfit. whatever you like, reward yourself for being discipline and obedient :)
you CAN do this! have faith. believe it. research shows that if you think about it and keep telling yourself you CAN do it, you will end up doing what you want and succeeding. its all mental. keep a positive mind and don't think about failing or saying "oh i cant do this its too hard" none of that. keep your mind positive and keep telling yourself you CAN do this!
well there is this girl i think i like but it could be all in my head or it could be something psychological or maybe i just dont wanna like her but i do because everybody says shes a big step down from my other girlfriends and it would be like social suicide asking her out but i never really cared that much about that but i gotta consider it and it could be a bad relationship but it might not be cause we do talk and get along but it would be akward if she said no too because i have to be around her a good bit so what should i do
i say go for it :)
she could be the one.. how are you ever going to know unless you try??
do you really care THAT much what other people think..? does "social status" really mean THAT much to you..???
i'm guessing you're pretty young.. truth be told, dude you're never gonna see these people again in a few years.. what's the point in trying to "impress" people? why are you trying so hard to please other people?? don't you want to please yourself? do what makes YOU happy. not others.
if other people don't like you dating this one chick, screw them. they don't have to look at you guys or talk to you guys. if they were true friends, they would be happy that YOU'RE happy.
if they get mad at you because you date a girl who's not that "popular" they aren't true friends and you're much better off without them.
i hate when people talking about trying to be "cool" and keep their social status and be popular and trying to impress friends. its so annoying! who cares what other people think. if someone told you to jump off a bridge, would you do it? if someone said your shoes are ugly, would you take them off even though you love them?? if they said your girlfriend is ugly, would you dump her even though you love her??
its fine if your friends have opinions, but stop trying to impress your friends! stop trying to please everyone. please yourself. do what makes YOU happy.
okay, so i am a incoming freshmen at my new high school. everyone has been sating so far in mt school, but i have stayed clear of that to keep a clean slate reputation. but now there is this guy... hes a soft-more and has just broken up with a freshmen girl who was one of my acquaintances. People have told me that he is a butt-head who always goes for the freshmen, even though I have discussed this with him and he has told me that he has changed. Now this boy happens to be really cute and nice..but we met like three days ago. we talked in our creative writing class, in which we do nothing in, and ten later on that day he came by my locker and said how he was going to be really bored next period and told me to text him. Then we exchanged numbers and he texted me. Then for the rest of that night he was asking me questions to get to know me and sending me hearts and smiley faces. So then the next day in school I saw him again in the hallway and he hugged me and smiled..but then he'll always call me like a weirdo. Then when ill text him hell be like you know im kidding. Then the following day, when I saw him in the hall again he kissed me on the lips! then for the rest of the day he texted me saying how he loved me and thought that I was really cute. Then the next day was Friday and I saw him again in the hall. Only this time he brought me to a place where no cameras or anything could see us. Then he started to kiss me and use his tongue! I did not know what to do so I played dumb and acted scared as if we were going to get in trouble. However, he put his hands on my but and told me to my face that he loved me. So then I never actually ended up kissing him there, he just kissed me, and I would pull away. So now its Saturday and all day he has been texting me saying how he loves me and thinks im so cute and that he loves my smile, that he actually likes me and a bunch of sweet things like that. I know that on monday he will try kissing and maybe even other things again. but now i am unsure if he is just desperate and is playing me or if he actually likes me?! Please tell me what you think because I think he is a nice guy i am just so confused!! I am so nervous!
hmm ok well the way i see it, there's 2 potential characters in this guy.
character numero uno- he could be really desperate for a girlfriend. he could be desperate to kiss a girl (any girl and just so happens he picked you) and is using you for his satisfaction and doesn't really love you and all he cares about is his feelings.
ORRR
character numero dos- he could actually like you.. he could very well be interested in you. if this is the case, he is moving WAY too fast. you said you guys started talking like 3 days ago.. and now he's already kissing you and grabbing inappropriate areas?? he is clingy in my opinion if he really likes you.
you have to be careful with this guy.. my opinon, he is moving way too fast. but thats how i feel. i'm not sure how you feel but if you think he is moving too fast, let him know. tell him "hey i like you too but sometimes i just think you move at a faster pace then what i want. we should slow things down and get to know each other first." and ITS OK if you say "i'm not ready to do certain things yet like kissing and holding hands" its ok! DON'T feel pressured by this guy.. his actions are already showing proof that he would pressure you into things in the future like sex.
talk to him and i think you should slow things down with him, let him know how you feel, and say "we should get to know each other first a little bit before we go any faster" also, getting to know each other allows you to build trust.. 3 days is not enough time to build trust between each other. do you trust him? if its no, thats my point. you can't be all over this guy if you don't trust him and have no idea who he really is. he could be pretending that he loves you and then god knows what he would do to you if you guys were alone.. you need to trust him before you do anything else. trust comes in time. you can't earn it over night.. let him know that.
also here's another tip if another guy like him comes around.. play hard to get.. don't be so easy. if a guy starts to show a lot of interest in you like wanting to get your number, play hard to get and say "well you have to earn my number first". playing hard to get will tell the difference between players and guys who actually like you. players would give up instantly because its way too much work for them.. however, if it was a guy that really liked you, he would put effort into it and TRY. think of it as a test. test the guy out and see how far he is willing to go to go out with you. for example, when he is around you, start to walk away from him and see if he follows you. or if he texts you, dont respond right away and see what he does. if he texts you again or even calls you, that means he cares and WANTS you. unlike other players who would give up and find another girl to screw around with
main key here is to be careful. don't let him get too close to your heart. if you let him too close to your heart and say i love you within a week of knowing each other.. i garuntee you will have a broken heart. be careful.
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Hey. I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. I've dated two guys. One for seven months and we did everything but sex (he is a junior, sixteen, we dated last year, reeeally messy break up though). Now I previously just broke up with a guy I dated for three months; just second base (he is a junior, seventeen, I just liked it better when we were friends). Part of why I didn't like him all that much is because I think he's not... Bad boy enough? See... A hookup I like to have the... Not druggie skater punk but more jock bad ass thing going on. Relationship wise I like a guy I can trust, who wont promise what he can't give, but still has that edge to keep me interested. That's just some background to my real question. Im really interested in getting to know this guy. He's the baddest ive been attracted to haha. He used to do pot and drink but he hasn't in like a year. (btw he's a junior:17) He's really cute and has gone to third base. I've had a few conversations but I barely know him. The thing is... We don't have exaaactly the same group of friends and I don't know how to get something started. It's not like I'm saying I wanna date him but I wanna get to know him and see what happens. I'm curious I guess. I could handle him I think seeing as he hasn't gone any farther than me but there's something about him that's soooo intimidating and I don't know what it is. I always choke up around him and act like a ditz! (oh i should probably mention as ive kind of saud before ive hooked up with about four guys before, all bad, worse than this guy, but didn't go past making out with any) His cousin/friend is one of my close friends and is dating my bff. But it would be wierd if I was suddenly like "let's hang out with ...!" so I wanna make it come as naturally as possible. I know there's potential cause he's been flirty and smiles a lot. So I guess my main question is: how can I get over this intimidation and start something naturally with him?? If I've always been with bad boys why does he feel so different??
well if his friend/cousin knows you.. try to get to know his cousin/friend more. talk to your bff about the situation. i'm sure she will be glad to help you out. ask your bff if she can talk to him and see if you can double date? her, her bf, you, and that one guy. it doesn't have to be a double date either.. it could just be hanging out or a party or something.
as for the intimidation, i think you'll get used to it once you get to know him. i've never experienced being intimidated by a guy before, but just know that he's not so macho.. he's a dude. what is he gonna do? bite you? in my eyes, i dont see guys as intimidating.. girls are the same as guys. guys are the same as girls. we are all human. what makes him any different?? i mean he could be a potential threat like he could rape you or hurt you.. so that could be intimidating (which is why you should be careful and get to know him first) its OK if you're a little intimadated at first because you don't know who he is but i'm sure once you get to know him more, then it will go away.
find ways to talk to him. during school, through his cousin, in the hallways, outside of school. start off casually like- did you get the homework? or..i heard the test was hard, do you want to get together and study? or we should make a study group? then move on to bigger things like- i'm so hungry do you want to get pizza?
also, find things that you 2 have in common. you both know his cousin/friend. talk about him. casually just say- oh you know (cousin name)?? so do i! he's amazing!
just be friendly, flirty, smile, nice, compliment him, notice the small things (like if he is right handed or left handed, if he wears the same necklace, if he changes shoes, if he always sits in the same desk etc. that shows that you pay attention to him (make sure its not creepy though haha)) show him you care and are interested. fate will take care of the rest.
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