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How can he save this friendship?
I'm going to ask this question for my friend because he's in a strange situation. He is a 20 year old male.
He goes to a Christian college and is active in his faith. He has two female friends in particular that he is close to. The problem is, these girls claim they are in love with each other. I myself am not a Christian nor am I against gay marriage, but from what he describes, these two are not in love. They are actually very obsessed with one another and barely hang out with anyone besides each other. He feels that one of the girls is being manipulative towards the other, so that she thinks she needs the relationship.
What can he do to get his non-manipulative friend back...what can he say to put things in perspective for her?
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let me ask you this.. does your friend know 100% sure that they are not in love..? can he prove that they aren't in love?? if he can't prove it, then he has no reason to interfere..
its their relationship. let them do what they want. how does he know that one of the girls is just manipulative? does he have proof that she is manipulative? does he have proof that they aren't in love?
if he's really that concerned with it, he should just talk to the girl (non manipulative one) and tell her what he thinks. but be careful because she could take it the wrong way and they could have a fight/argument. he can voice his opinions and tell her "i think your other friend is just being manipulative" but honestly, his opinion doesn't mean anything if he doesn't have anything to back it up with.
if i were him, i'd just back off and let them be. what good will it do to interfere? how is it going to help anything? lets say he does interfere and then they break up.. ok now what..? he's happy that they broke up? that they lost each other? that they aren't happy with each other? how is interfering with THEIR relationship going to make things better? the way i see it, it will just cause drama and stress.
its their relationship. let them do what they want. if they aren't "in love" then fate will decide what to do and things will happen naturally. everything happens for a reason.
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My suggestion would be for your friend to do nothing. If these two young women are that obsessed with each other his advice would not be taken well. He runs a risk of losing their friendship. I know you've said that he feels one girl is manipulating the other, but honestly as long as the relationship between his friends isn't abusive I don't feel like it's his place to intervene. Hope this helps!
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