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Is he acting fake?
okay, so i am a incoming freshmen at my new high school. everyone has been sating so far in mt school, but i have stayed clear of that to keep a clean slate reputation. but now there is this guy... hes a soft-more and has just broken up with a freshmen girl who was one of my acquaintances. People have told me that he is a butt-head who always goes for the freshmen, even though I have discussed this with him and he has told me that he has changed. Now this boy happens to be really cute and nice..but we met like three days ago. we talked in our creative writing class, in which we do nothing in, and ten later on that day he came by my locker and said how he was going to be really bored next period and told me to text him. Then we exchanged numbers and he texted me. Then for the rest of that night he was asking me questions to get to know me and sending me hearts and smiley faces. So then the next day in school I saw him again in the hallway and he hugged me and smiled..but then he'll always call me like a weirdo. Then when ill text him hell be like you know im kidding. Then the following day, when I saw him in the hall again he kissed me on the lips! then for the rest of the day he texted me saying how he loved me and thought that I was really cute. Then the next day was Friday and I saw him again in the hall. Only this time he brought me to a place where no cameras or anything could see us. Then he started to kiss me and use his tongue! I did not know what to do so I played dumb and acted scared as if we were going to get in trouble. However, he put his hands on my but and told me to my face that he loved me. So then I never actually ended up kissing him there, he just kissed me, and I would pull away. So now its Saturday and all day he has been texting me saying how he loves me and thinks im so cute and that he loves my smile, that he actually likes me and a bunch of sweet things like that. I know that on monday he will try kissing and maybe even other things again. but now i am unsure if he is just desperate and is playing me or if he actually likes me?! Please tell me what you think because I think he is a nice guy i am just so confused!! I am so nervous!
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hmm ok well the way i see it, there's 2 potential characters in this guy.
character numero uno- he could be really desperate for a girlfriend. he could be desperate to kiss a girl (any girl and just so happens he picked you) and is using you for his satisfaction and doesn't really love you and all he cares about is his feelings.
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character numero dos- he could actually like you.. he could very well be interested in you. if this is the case, he is moving WAY too fast. you said you guys started talking like 3 days ago.. and now he's already kissing you and grabbing inappropriate areas?? he is clingy in my opinion if he really likes you.
you have to be careful with this guy.. my opinon, he is moving way too fast. but thats how i feel. i'm not sure how you feel but if you think he is moving too fast, let him know. tell him "hey i like you too but sometimes i just think you move at a faster pace then what i want. we should slow things down and get to know each other first." and ITS OK if you say "i'm not ready to do certain things yet like kissing and holding hands" its ok! DON'T feel pressured by this guy.. his actions are already showing proof that he would pressure you into things in the future like sex.
talk to him and i think you should slow things down with him, let him know how you feel, and say "we should get to know each other first a little bit before we go any faster" also, getting to know each other allows you to build trust.. 3 days is not enough time to build trust between each other. do you trust him? if its no, thats my point. you can't be all over this guy if you don't trust him and have no idea who he really is. he could be pretending that he loves you and then god knows what he would do to you if you guys were alone.. you need to trust him before you do anything else. trust comes in time. you can't earn it over night.. let him know that.
also here's another tip if another guy like him comes around.. play hard to get.. don't be so easy. if a guy starts to show a lot of interest in you like wanting to get your number, play hard to get and say "well you have to earn my number first". playing hard to get will tell the difference between players and guys who actually like you. players would give up instantly because its way too much work for them.. however, if it was a guy that really liked you, he would put effort into it and TRY. think of it as a test. test the guy out and see how far he is willing to go to go out with you. for example, when he is around you, start to walk away from him and see if he follows you. or if he texts you, dont respond right away and see what he does. if he texts you again or even calls you, that means he cares and WANTS you. unlike other players who would give up and find another girl to screw around with
main key here is to be careful. don't let him get too close to your heart. if you let him too close to your heart and say i love you within a week of knowing each other.. i garuntee you will have a broken heart. be careful.
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