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should i ask this girl out
well there is this girl i think i like but it could be all in my head or it could be something psychological or maybe i just dont wanna like her but i do because everybody says shes a big step down from my other girlfriends and it would be like social suicide asking her out but i never really cared that much about that but i gotta consider it and it could be a bad relationship but it might not be cause we do talk and get along but it would be akward if she said no too because i have to be around her a good bit so what should i do
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Look dude I also say go for it because one I'm a girl who was on the otherside of this situation like me and this guy talked so much and then I found out he liked me but he never told me and I felt like I should of and I missedmy chance and I regret it bc it's just awkward now and I don't want that to happen to you so just come out and say it.... If it's social sucide do u really care about that more than the girl u think you like just don't miss your chance it'll do you good trust me!
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Go for it!
Choosing who to date is not a committee decision. Anyone who is not respectful of your choice is not really your friend.
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i say go for it :)
she could be the one.. how are you ever going to know unless you try??
do you really care THAT much what other people think..? does "social status" really mean THAT much to you..???
i'm guessing you're pretty young.. truth be told, dude you're never gonna see these people again in a few years.. what's the point in trying to "impress" people? why are you trying so hard to please other people?? don't you want to please yourself? do what makes YOU happy. not others.
if other people don't like you dating this one chick, screw them. they don't have to look at you guys or talk to you guys. if they were true friends, they would be happy that YOU'RE happy.
if they get mad at you because you date a girl who's not that "popular" they aren't true friends and you're much better off without them.
i hate when people talking about trying to be "cool" and keep their social status and be popular and trying to impress friends. its so annoying! who cares what other people think. if someone told you to jump off a bridge, would you do it? if someone said your shoes are ugly, would you take them off even though you love them?? if they said your girlfriend is ugly, would you dump her even though you love her??
its fine if your friends have opinions, but stop trying to impress your friends! stop trying to please everyone. please yourself. do what makes YOU happy.
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What does your heart say? It would appear as tough you have much in common and could work. You need to take a risk if she's worth it.
Put what your friend's think about her off to the side. It's what you think that matters. After all, you're the one dating her and NOT them. Half of those people won't even know you five years from now. Don't let them make decisions for you.
If they see her as a step down perhaps they're talking about themselves. It sounds like they don't truly know her whereas you do. As far as social suicide goes if you're worrying about them and their reaction forget it. You can always find people willing to accept you and her.
If you truly want to date her go ahead and let the chips fall where they may as they have no right to tell you their opinion or indicate it's social disaster. It's inappropriate and you need to tell them that. I mean, you aren't badmouthing people they're with now are you?
They may be showing concern but it's up to you to know what's right and whether to lose out of something potentially good or suited for you based on what others say. Use your gut.
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