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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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I met my best friend in 2009, I Didn’t get close to him until October 2010, since then we have been inseparable. Phoning, texting or emailing each other constantly, since October, there hasn’t been a day where I haven’t spoken to him.
In February he told me he had feelings towards me, but not entirely, he was unsure of how he felt. I only saw him as a friend. Until April where I told him I felt the same that I was confused about how I felt towards him but we were still more friends.
Since then, he held my hand and held me close in his arms whenever we were alone, I knew we had crossed the friendship line
All our friends teased us about each other, since all we did was hang out together and talk to each other, wherever he was, I would be.
In may, I realised I had fallen for him and he had always told me to tell him if my feelings towards him changed, but I told him I wouldn’t because I was so scared of rejection.
I told him and he said he felt the same, of course I was overjoyed
Until a week later he told me he had changed his mind and didn’t feel the same and he only saw me as a friend.
I felt like I couldn’t trust him anymore, if he could change his mind in a couple of days
It took a couple of weeks and I thought I couldn’t bring it up anymore or it may lose our friendship
Last week he told me that he liked another girl and that he had completely fallen for her, since then he barely speaks to me, not even to say hi or ask how I‘m doing
Everything has changed, wwhen I ask him how he is doing, he answers with vague answers saying he’s feeling low and he won’t tell me what is happening
Its like he’s shut me out of his life, I realised the other day that I was putting more effort into keeping this friendship alive, more than him, so I gave up and now I barely speak to him
And today I may have asked him if he was still alive and he responded immediately and so I asked him if he hadn’t spoken to me because he was just ignoring me and he said
I don’t need you hating me too and he stopped responding
Can you please help me with what to do?
I feel like I’ve completely lost my best friend, I feel so lost and upset, I am so hurt but I miss him but feel that it’s the end. How do I cope?
I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel... let him know that you are hurting and maybe even show him your question above, he needs to know how you feel about this whole situation... If he wants to be your friend he has to put in some effort as well. Let him know that you dont hate him but you need him to be the friend he once was. If he doesnt shape up and be the friend you need then maybe you should move on. I know it sounds hard and you dont want to lose your friend but it is impossible to keep the friendship together on your own... Talk to him.. good luck
I've never told anyone this, but when i was younger, like from when i was age 5 to age 11, my cousin would molest me.
i just feel like i dont want to keep it bottled up anymore but i'd feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone.I think it will probally rip my family apart because Im really close to my aunt which is my cousins mom. And I dont think anyone will believe me. I think I'll feel bad forever if I say something.
I think my family will hate me if they think IM lying
Definatly tell someone it may be hard but there is nothing to be embarrassed about you are the victim here and that man could be doing it to another child and he needs to be stopped. Sadly you were a victim but you dont want another child to go through what you went through. Go to concelling and get help as well. Good luck on this I am so sorry to hear about this awful thing. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Well ok long story short im married, and both my husband and i are lookin to find another female partner to help us spice up the bedroom, im all for it and he says he is aswell but im just not convinced and am worried that if we go ahead with it a few months or years down the track he is going to turn around and throw it back in my face, we have talked and talked about it but i still feel since it was my idea in the first place he is just more or less going along with it so not to dissapoint me, is there any way that i can really be sure that he does want it as much as i do??? any advice would b great plz.
This is a hard one... Because either way you go here you could risk a problem in your marriage.. If you do decide to bring another woman in the relationship, someday your husband or you mat regret it ever happening. Lets say you do bring someone in the relationship even if its just for the sex, maybe your husband seems a little to into the other woman and seems to be paying more attention to her and you get jelous... not good.. or maybe he is not giving the other woman as much attention as you want him to and it causes an arguement also not good... also as you said what if he really didnt want to do it in the first place (if he doesnt really want to most likely he isnt going to tell you guys have this pride thing and he isnt going to want the other boys to hear that he turned down having sex with two girls) but that would cause an arguement and he may get angry with you in the future for making (even though he was not forced) him do that...
on the other hand if you dont then you might feel angry because you never got to expirience something you really wanted.. he may think that you secretly wonder what it would be like with someone else... either way you go you can run into a problem... and that sucks... but either way could turn out great as well.
So if it were me I would probably say just forget bringing another woman in the relationship and try something different.. like maybe buy some fun sex games, toys, try some role play, there are so many ways to spice up the love life without needing another woman.. Maybe even try getting a fun group sex game like cards or a funny sex board game and invite another couple over to play who knows it could be fun and you still had the expirience of having someone else there without actually having to involve them sexually with you or your parter :) good luck on this I hope I helped out some
My mother and grandmothers relationship has always been difficult for one reason or another. my mother is not the easiest of people to live with and believes that my grandmother has treat her badly throughout her life.
whether my grandmother has done or not i dont know as both seem to believe its the other person making things up/forgetting things.
throughout my life it has been difficult with my mother aswell we have had numerous arguments and nasty things have been said on both parts. when my mother was being particularly bad my grandmother would support me and tell me how she understands and that its not my fault etc.. its just what my mother is like.
now things are going quite well between me and my mum but the relationship she has with my grandmother is still not great especially after a recent disagreement.
my grandmother is now saying she has had enough of trying and getting it thrown back in her face which is 100% understandable but it makes me feel uncomfortable to hear these things now things are ok for me and my mum.
i feel guilty as i feel like im sat on the fence after not being previously. iv always seen things from my grandmothers point of view as my mother is very stubborn and lets things cloud her judgement and is easily influenced by her moods whereas my grandmother is quite level headed.
i dont want to tell my grandmother that it makes me feel uncomfortable hearing her saying things now as i dont want to upset her and also feel as though im almost being two-faced/using.. i dont know!? im 20 and female and have left home for my education so im not directly involved and this doesnt happen that frequently usually because things are usually not ok with my mother (there has been a lot of heartache and hurt felt over the years)
I know exactly how you feel my mother and grandmother dont even talk to eachother most of the time and if they run into eachother at the store they fight its very hard to be stuck in the middle. Especially when you have your mother talking bad to you about your grandmother and in turn your grandmother complains to you about your mother. But recently I decided that this had to stop in my life so althoughit was hard and I didnt want to hurt anyone or seem disrespectful I had to talk to them. Of course neither one of them would agree to meet up and all talk together so I had to have the talk twice. I sat down with them and I told them just how I felt but in the nicest way possible. I told them look I love you both and I understand that the two of you do not get along but that is between you please do not include me in on this. If you have a problem with the other person I suggest you take it up with them please dont complain or say bad things about the other to me it hurts and I dont like it at all.
As I explained this I reminded them alot that I love them BOTH. But if they didnt have anything nice to say it would be best not to say it at all in front of me. At first my mother was a little upset but after she thought about it she realized she was hurting me and I havent heard anything about their arguements since. Now of course they are still fighting but atleast they are not trying to get me involved. So why dont you try what I did it seemed to work for me good luck
Why does my minture pinture eat everything and anything
Well lets make this answer short sweet and simple... your dog likes food ;) He is just a hungry one my can just like that!
Ok, so here is the story. My ex boyfriend and I met when we were 16 and now we are 20. A lot of stuff has gone on during that period of time. it's been one of those things that has been i love him one minute and the next I'm really angry. In my younger days, I did some immature things. But, nothing more than "silly girl" stuff, like a prank call or something stupid like that. I was a teenager back then. I would never do something like that now. He has a girlfriend and I am ready to move on with my life too. That ship has sailed. I understand that we can't be "friends" because of the romance that we had and because of the bad stuff that has happened. But, I expected us to be civilized. So, in my mind, I've been wondering... something must have happened. He can't POSSIBLY be that upset about one or two prank calls to the point where we can't be civilized and he looks at me like he hates me. So, I did my investigations and found out that my best friend, whose been my best friend since like we were little, framed me!
She would call him and tell him things about me that weren't true (like that I hated his family, she told him I was hooking up with girls, that I was hooking up with his entire fraternity, and to top off the lie, she told him I was hooking up with her)! There is a guy who she knows, who everyone knows is trouble, and she was hooking up with him and talking about my relationship with my ex. It turns out that guy knew him and would help her with her schemes. Everything that she said was not true. She also framed me by leaving things on his car and pretending it was me by saying "things I would only know," which she knew because she was my best friend. She also left nasty messages to his girlfriend, once again, pretending it was me. I would NEVER do something like that. EVER! So why would she do this?
Well, one of her friends confessed everything to me. She said that she was secretly bisexual and that she had been in love with me for years. I know that this is true because my school confirmed that these mysterious love notes that were coming through e-mail were from her computer. I am completely hetrosexual and would not hook up with a girl if they paid me. I would find that disgusting. Being it that my ex boyfriend and myself are very religious, he found this disgusting. He probably also didn't like the fact that "I" was leaving nasty messages to his girlfriend.
Ever since, I've disaffiliated myself from my "friend." I blocked her from seeing my wall on facebook and I don't meet with her for lunch at school or anything like that. She is obviously crazy. I have kept secrets for her, like the fact that she was cheating on her boyfriend, that she had gotten an abortion, and that she would sneak out of her window at night in high school to go off with guys. I didn't think they were very moral things. In fact, I am against all three! But, I still kept the secrets for her. These aren't things you do for people who are close to you. I am heartbroken. more than I am about my ex, because I really trusted her.
Now that I have learned my lesson, I would like to make peace with my ex, and with his girlfriend, being it that I may be in her sorority this year. I didn't do anything to her. It's not like I can be her best friend because that's awkward and she's with someone who I really cared for. But, I'd like to be on good terms with her if we are going to be doing things together. Even if I end up in another sorority, I can't stand her looking at me with angry eyes, when I didn't do anything. But, it's awkward to just go up to them and tell them what happened. Who would believe me? They might just ask how I knew about those things and won't believe me when I say someone told me. I just want to make peace. And I don't want to be known as a psycho when I've actually been moving on with my life and leaving his entire relationship alone.I have my own issues and my own responsibilities to be worried about that. I feel like I've really grown and I left that behind. But, I can't handle this tension when we are all in the same university.
Help!
Well first I want to say I am sorry that you were hurt by your best friend. I myself have never been in a situation like this but if it were me I would first confront the friend and try to get her to come forward with the truth to the ex. If that doesnt workd I would then just go up to the or write a letter if It felt to weird, and explain what had happened and tell them the truth apologise for the confusion and hope that they understand. If they dont want to hear it or believe it then atleast you tried to make peace. But maybe they will understand and you can feel better about the whole situation and not get the dirty looks anymore. Good luck and I hope I helped!
A relationship of 6 years just ended, I just can't seem to get over it, This is the worst pain I have ever felt. How do I deal with this? I am a 30 year old female. We have 2 children
After 6 years it must be hard and sadly I in a way know what you are feeling. I have been with the same man for 5 years now and we also have two children and just two days ago he told me he wanted a divorce. It hurts and I know you are wishing you could go back into the past and fix it all. Asking yourself what if I would have done this or that differently? Would he still love me? Would we be the way we used to be? In my situation I am worried about being alone. Who is going to want to be with someone who has two kids? Can I trust anyone again? Can I even let myself fall for another person again? Yes I was feeling the same way. But I got some advice from a very close person in my life, my granmother, who at one time was in the same place we are now. She had two children (my mother and my uncle) with my Grandfather and he decided to leave. She thought her whole life was over. But it wasnt. Sure she was hurt and broken and it took a little while to pick herself up and move on with her life. But she did it and she remarried and had another child with a wonderful sweet man and they have been happy and together for 45 years! So when I feel down about my failing marriage I just remind myself that it is going to get better it hurts now but someday I will be happy again! And so will you! We can get through this!
So I was dating a guy whom I really liked for about a week. He stated to me that he was relocating on to the area where i live, we spent a lot of time together, spent father's day with him helped him out when his work vehicle was in the shop everything that i possible could do to be nice to him. he spoke with my roommate and she asked him what was his intentions for me he told her that he really liked me and wanted to start a relationship with me. the next day I spoke with him three times we text back and forth. Well the last conversation I had with him, he wasn't mad there was a connection problem and said he would call me back. The conversation was going great I had asked him was he going to be up when i got off from work because i wanted to see him after i got off from work. He said yeah. Well after the connection problem with the phone he said he was going to call me back he never did, so i text him a question he didn't respond i texted another question and he didn't respond. So after i get off work and I get to the place where he's staying he doesn't answer his phone, his room phone or my text. Now i'm pissed so I come back to his room the next morning speak with the hotel manager and they said he checked out the day that I spoke with him. Now i'm curious because he didn't mention that to me. So I call and no answer and I text him letting him know that I'm worried about him. and still no response for about 22 hours I'm calling and texting him worried sick about him and no reply. So i called for the last time and his daughter answers the phone hands the phone to him he answers with hello and all I say I just wanted to know that your ok and he hangs up. before this call I sent him, his brother and his niece a message on facebook basically saying that I'm a concerned friend and wanted to know if he was ok. But know that I know that he's ok I'm pisssed because he couldn't even tell me that he was ok, and why he did what he did......I really did like this guy and don't know what to do....Someone please help me.....
Well reading this makes me feel very sad. It is so wrong what he did to you. But if he is going to leave just like that and cant even say a word then forget him. He isnt worth your time. You are better than that. There is someone out there for you and he wasnt that person. I know it may be hard because he lied to you and manipulated you and made you believe he was a good guy, when he wasnt at all. And you even felt a strong connection. But he just dropped off the face of the earth and didnt have the courtesy to say goodbye. You heard his voice and you know he is okay. So my advice to you is to be strong, it may hurt now but in the future it will only be a scar in your memories. When you think of him you will no longer feel hurt or betrayed. So tonight its a tub of icecream and tears but tomorrow its time to make him regret ever messing with you! Get dressed up and go out and have fun find yourself a good man he could never compete with and show this guy what he could have had. But most importantly never go back to him. If he sees you happy he may come back and try to lie his way back into your heart, get him back by not giving him the time of day! You are going to be okay! Just keep your eyes open, you will find the one you are meant to be with :) good luck!
I'm not interested in advice on why not to do it. I'm disabled, out of money, no chance to work, and a family to support. I have two life insurance policies that pay off at this point for suicide.
I tried getting metal health support in Chicago, but because of budget cuts I'm not able. An example is a place called C4. I called and they said because I have Medicare they can't take me. Why? They don't have the staff that is qualified, as they've been laid off. I tried several C4 locations and got transferred to the same person in the end. I even called one of the mental health people directly who told me she couldn't help me.
I called the Mayor's office. While they gave me leads on finding work and mental health NONE panned out. The ticket to work people say I'm over educated or qualified for their help. The mental health people say they don't have the resources.
I know the pain my family will feel, but the pain of not having a roof over their head or food will be worse in the long run. I'm not that special.
I'm in peace with my decision and my belief in the here after. Yeah, I know what mainstream churches say, but I disagree. God is a God of Love. no sin is unforgivable, except one and that's not suicide.
So, I'm posting asking for methods that are quick and painless (to me). I'm not for gun or bridge jumping. I want something private and not messy.
I'm thinking of pills, booze, and maybe a bag. I have lots of pain from my disability and have numerous schedule 2 drugs. I guess for a good answer the type is necessary. Methadone and Oxycodon.
I've been getting off of them slowly for two reason. First, so when I do the deed I don't resist them as much. Second, to have a good supply of them.
My thoughts are to grind them up into a powered and then mix it with water. This way I don't have to wait for them to dissolve or risk throwing them up.
I'm also considering mixing them with booze instead of water. My first choice is, though, to mix with water and drink the booze separately.
As for the bag, I'm considering two of them. One is a body bag to make it cleaner for everyone and second a trash bag for my head.
I'm considering the trash bag as it is big enough to give me time to actually pass out before running out of air. Hopefully, I'll be out enough not to fight for breath well enough to live.
Then I'll simply fall to that long sleep till God calls everyone to the Day of Judgment. If God doesn't exist the life has zip, zero meaning. If God is a God of Hate then I'll have to learn to hate.
If he is a God of Love, I'll only be able to stand for correction and simply say .. No one hath greater that he gives his life for another. In my case, I was giving my life so others might live awhile longer till the world of man gives them a better chance to find work or make other money.
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So, please give me your thoughts on clean, painless ways to die.
Oh, yeah, if you're in Chicago and need a computer expert with 30 years of operating systems and networking software development, team leadership, etc. OR you're in Chicago and know of mental health that is really available even if you have Medicare, ... Yeah, I'll listen to you, too.
If all you want to say is don't do it or try to scare me ... don't waste your time.
First I want to say that although I am a Christian, I am not goting to preach to you, because that is obviously not what you need. But even if you believe I am wasting my time or not, I am going to tell you not to do this. I can see that you are having a hard time. But there is always options and suicide is not one of them. You have a family who loves you and needs you there for them.
Just think of what you would do to them. In reality your choice of suicide is totally selfish! If someone in my family would kill themself for me, I would beat myself up for it everyday. What you are doing is basically saying "I have to kill myself so you can have what ever it is you want or need" and that will haunt them and torture them until they get so angry and so hurt and so upset with you but also and even more themselves that they may themselves commit suicide because they can not deal with the pain that you caused them by killing yourself. Do you really want that? I think that you need to go and get yourself some help. And I am not trying to be mean or hateful in anyway here. You do not have to do this. Imagine all the pain you will cause. Your suicide will not fix things, it will only make it worse. My advice to you is stop thining about suicide and go to the hospital tell them your thoughts and get help asap. Then ask as many people as you can what it is you can do, who you can contact to get you and your family what you need. Good luck and dont do this! Life will get better, just have faith.