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How do I get over it
A relationship of 6 years just ended, I just can't seem to get over it, This is the worst pain I have ever felt. How do I deal with this? I am a 30 year old female. We have 2 children
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wow 6 years is a really long time, i can understand why this is so difficult for you, firstly i would like to say that i'm really sorry and you should remember that everything happens for a reason, i'm sure he wasn't the guy for you and there is someone out there who you're gonna spend the rest of your life with so remember to stay positive. now the first step is accepting that it's over and you don't need him in order to be happy, you need to get rid of letters, pictures, cd's etc. considering you have kids this is gonna be hard but do the best yoou can because these sources are only gonna force you to cling onto the past and you'll never move on so you have to make a clean break and let him know that he is out of your life. Try keeping a journal and write how you feel and what you have improved each day it is best too write down your feelings and most importantly, go out! have a drink with the girls, the worst thing you can do is isolate yourself at home it just gives you time to think about him and you don't want that, you could meet someone new and by realizing that he isn't the "one' just means that your special someone is out there waiting for you remember you have to kiss alot of frogs to find your prince, this won't happen over night it'll take time but it will get better i hope this helped
best of luck
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After 6 years it must be hard and sadly I in a way know what you are feeling. I have been with the same man for 5 years now and we also have two children and just two days ago he told me he wanted a divorce. It hurts and I know you are wishing you could go back into the past and fix it all. Asking yourself what if I would have done this or that differently? Would he still love me? Would we be the way we used to be? In my situation I am worried about being alone. Who is going to want to be with someone who has two kids? Can I trust anyone again? Can I even let myself fall for another person again? Yes I was feeling the same way. But I got some advice from a very close person in my life, my granmother, who at one time was in the same place we are now. She had two children (my mother and my uncle) with my Grandfather and he decided to leave. She thought her whole life was over. But it wasnt. Sure she was hurt and broken and it took a little while to pick herself up and move on with her life. But she did it and she remarried and had another child with a wonderful sweet man and they have been happy and together for 45 years! So when I feel down about my failing marriage I just remind myself that it is going to get better it hurts now but someday I will be happy again! And so will you! We can get through this!
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