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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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hi guys im sorry if this is long but i dont no what to do anymore
this might sound like a high school fling thing but i went out with this guy for almost a year and then we broke up and now hes moved on so quickly and has another gf and i havent moved on at all i still like him but we both agreed to be friends but i cant stand talking to him because it hurts so much he doesnt understand that everytime i talk to him i think of what we had so should i not talk to him and let it go because i tried that and he says that if i dont want to talk to him now i should forget about him altogether or should i just try and be friends and get over my hurt that way? we both loved each other so much and i pushed him away and he got scared and left i try thinking of how bad he treated me sometimes but all i think of is all the really fun things we did together i dont know what to do maybe i just want someone there for me? i dont no please help

I have been through this a lot. And believe me it is a slow, painful process. But if he does not want you back, and including all the times of trying to get back with him, he sounds like the kind of person that completely got over you, and if so, he most likely will not take you back. Don't feel so discouraged if everything you did failed. He just does not sound like a good person to be with if he refuses to be with you again. Try dating other guys, or hang out with some friends to get your mind off of him.

I know this isn't the best advice to hear, but soon you'll realize he wasn't worth struggling to get with. You'll find someone better.

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My best friend is turning 16 on Friday.

I want to get her something that will be special and that she'll remember. I'm not very crafty, otherwise I'd make her something.

I planned on buying her a small cake and decorating it myself. I want more then that though but I just don't know what. I dont want it to be something you get on just any birthday. Any ideas would be greatly apreciated!

Thanks

What happened on my 16th birthday was a fully customized birthday cake. Was surprised with balloons, and decorations. It would be great to give her a gift like a portrait of you two, or her celebrity crush. Or something simple like a stuffed animal, makeup, or jewelry -- Jewelry is a great thing to give on a special occasion. And to wrap it, wrap it in hologram paper and but a bow on it. I think that would look pretty.

And since it's kind of a personal thing a few decorations here-and-there would be nice. And mentioning going to places, I suggest a party place or a fancy restaurant.

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Hey :) i am 14 years old and i collect stickers........ i was just wondering, am i too old to be collecting stickers??? i love it..... am i too old? or is it all in my head??

thx

Noo.. I'm 16 years old and I collect stickers. It isn't really a significant or primary hobby of mine, but on occasion I like to get some stickers and collect them. You are not too old. It's like collecting anything else. My mom collects stickers and she is in her 40s. There is nothing wrong with it. Have fun with it!!

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My friend, Kyle, changed. He was always the type of person to not to drugs like weed and such. Him and his girlfriend (which is one of my best friends) have been going out for almost 2 years. He always got mad at her if she drank or smoked anything and that's why she never did it. Now, he started hanging out with our friend Luke. He's changed Kyle soo much. Kyle is smoking weed quite a few times and he's lieng to his girl friend. Their relationship is none of my buisness but I have to talk to her so she doesn't do anything stupid.

I care about both of them so much. They're like my family and she can't even talk to him anymore and she feels like he doesn't care.

What could I say to her.. what advice should I give her? Thank you so much.

Explain to Kyle how his relationship and friendship is more important than doing drugs. You need to confront him that what he is doing is wrong and needs to stop. It sounds pretty hyprocritical of him to tell his girlfriend stuff like that is wrong when he ends up doing it.

Tell Kyle that this isn't him and he needs to change. His girlfriend wants his old self back and you want your friend back as well.

The down side is in some cases it's hard to quit drugs, so you will need to support him.

In the meantime, explain to his girlfriend that she will need to help him quit the habit and to get his old self back.

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Okayyy i def believe in ghosts, because i actually saw one (no lies) ps. they aren't scary looking but anyway... i was just wondering if you guys believed in ghosts???? i do but i am wondering if you ppl do

Oh I believe in ghosts. I have seen them on television (I know that doesn't count) but as a point I think they are fascinating. And yeah I have seen them in real life. No lie!! It was weird.

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ok im really annyoyed right now.. i think i have a virus on my computer.

heres how it started:

i went to myspace layouts site and like a popup came up and i exed it out then my computer started freezing so i restarted it and then i saw an icon on my desktop it was like play poker for $10K and i deleted it then there was another one like FREE GAS (it came up right after i delted the poker one)and then internet explorer looks weird now. it says like mirar and there are tabs that say "dunham. baseball. job seekers. investing." but they change every time and now all i get are pop ups when im on AIM and they never came before.

so i was wondering do i have a virus? and if i do, how do i get rid of it?

thankss

It's indeed spyware. Here are some simple ways to get if off:

First way is to find the word "mirar" (it's a name of a Trojan). Go to CTRL ALT DELETE, click on PROCESSES and find mirar, or any unfamiliar programs especially ones that end with .EXE (extension name that stands for executable program.) Restart your computer. Then, go to START --> SEARCH (on the right), and search for mirar. Delete any files seen. But be careful.

Second way is to use an antivirus program or antisyware program. Nortan is pretty good at it. They offer free scanning and deleting viruses, trojans, or spyware. Sometimes this is ineffective, so try first tip.

Hope that helped =)

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For some reason my comment box has this error always occuring when my friends want to comment me. can someone help me... there is the code.

* Tell me you love me! textarea {background-color:CCCCCC; background-image:url(); border-width:; border-style:; border-color: ; color: 666666; font-family:Verdana;} input {background-color:CCCCCC; border-width:; border-style:; border-color: ; color: 666666; font-family:Verdana;} *

The code probably wasn't completely inserted. Try re-inserting the code making sure it's right, or get the code from a different website. That commonly happens from typos or incompleted codes, so double check the code in your edit profile section or delete the whole code and put it back in. Otherwise, get it from another website, such as eatcrack.com or mygen.co.uk

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ok well i want to hide my music player on myspace so my friend told me to go to www.eatcrack.com so i did and i got the code but it didnt work for me and ive tried it several times its worked for all my other friends why?

It could be caused by a few reasons that I know of:

1) You could have other HTML codes in there (especially generators for images or animations) that could affect other codes such as the one you are trying to get to work. And because of that,it won't generate.
2) There could be a typo, the code could be incomplete, or the code isn't working.
3) There may be other music generators/hidden codes that you may or may not be aware of.
4) Viruses could affect the performance of codes.
5) It may not be in the right place.
6) Your browser may not support it. Most HTML codes only work for browsers IE, AOL, or Mozilla. Netscape has many problems identifying HTML, so it does not support it.

Few things you can do:
**Delete some HTML codes you feel could be causing it.
**Check the code to see if it's right (is it the whole code, are there typos, etc.)
**Carefully check if the code is in the right place. Some codes tell you specifically where to put it.
**Carefully check through your profile if there are any mysterious or codes that you feel you didn't put in (they may be viruses, duplicated, edited codes that were created from hackers or computer trouble)
**Change your internet browser to the latest version of Internet Explorer or Mozilla (check websites for upgrades). This excludes AOL.

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I was dating a guy who joined the army, and he was scheduled to leave for basic training at the end of May or beginning of June. At the beginning of May, he started to ignore me. Wouldn't answer phone calls or anything. I had no idea what was going on, because I had seen him the night before he started to ignore me and everything was fine. This continued for about two weeks, until he finally answered one of my messages by breaking up with me. He was worried that it wouldn't work because he would be leaving for a long time after this year. He ignored me for another two weeks after that, and finally a few days before he left he let me know when he was leaving. I asked him if he would tell me when he was back, and he promised that he would.

I know from mutual friends that he is back, but he hasn't tried to contact me in any way. I don't know why, and I don't know if I should try to talk to him. I miss him so much it's almost unbearable, as a boyfriend, but even just as a friend and someone to talk to.

What should I do? I want him back in my life...I don't think that I will hear from him if I don't try to contact him first, and I really want to, but then I feel like I should respect his space because it's clear he doesn't want to talk to me, right? I am SO lost.

Hmm, Hard question..

I know this feels in way. In my opinion I think he is just trying to prevent you from getting really hurt, or alone if he left for the army. I think he wanted to breakup with you because he didn't want to be a burden to you once he started to go to the army. He wanted you to find someone better, and someone who won't leave you behind by temporarily moving away. I strongly think he didn't do it to intentionally to hurt you, or dump you for someone else. I know you miss him dearly, but give it time for him to realize who he lost. If you two were really meant to be he would come back for you. The thing is, in some case when people go to the army they lose contact to those who were/are close to them so they are not some burden, and let them lead a normal life.

And for the part when he didn't answer to phone calls. He was probably pretty upset about the fact he had to leave you for the army. In your case it feels as if he does not want you to feel lonely while he was gone. He probably needed to think about the life ahead of him.

If giving him time and space seems pretty inefficient, try getting contact information from your friends, and call him up. But I strongly think if he really wanted to get into contact with you again he would of called.

I still think he just needs time about his stay in the army. From this point all you can do is wait to see if this relationship is really worth keeping.

But don't give up hope. He could be lost or confused. He may miss you dearly at this point but is not sure if it is right to turn back or not.

Realize being in the army is stressful, especially when knowing you will be away from everyone you care about for a long time. I'm sure that's the main thing he is thinking about.

So give it time, and give him some space.

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I want to make a website but I do't know how to. Someone please help me. Thank you in advance to those of you who answer.

If you want to do it for free, go to www.freewebs.com, www.tripod.com, or www.angelfire.com. For a more premium, "professional" look, it will require money. Websites given offer premium websites. If you have little or no HTML knowledge I would recomment www.expage.com -- they offer features that don't require HTML. For more options go to http://www.funky-chickens.com/begin.shtml.

www.funky-chickens is the first way to go when you already have your site choice. They offer you step-by-step tips to get it good looking.

If you want to go more professional, here's the site that can help a lot. I refer to this site all the time -- http://codepunk.hardwar.org.uk/bhtml.htm.

Good luck!

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hey! I was just wondering if size 1 jeans are normal for a 14 yr. old girl? Would I be considered small then?

Yeah, that is pretty small. But supposedly common in many girls. Especially young teens. I have a friend who wears the same size like between 1 to 4 and she is 16.

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hey
i'm in need advice of my penis
i'm 17
how to increse the size of my penis as it only 5.3" inches long
and i feel that it does not produce much sperms just only like once a week
and only get erected 2 to 3 time per day is this normal or need anything to do
but i need advice to abt incresing the size o my penis
i hpe this ? willbe answered effeciently
thanx

There are surgeries and injections to increase the size of the penis. But it requires parents' consent. Although it's mostly effective, it's not a healthy approach to go since you can run into other problems "down there" later in life.

There are herbal supplements and medications to temporarily enlarge it safely, but contact your Doctor for things like that also.

And for those problems, I'm a girl, so I would not know much information on that, but it doesn't sound tooo abnormal, but you should check with a Doctor about that anyway.

Hope I helped.

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whats the difference between your hymen stretching and your cherry popping?

Your hymen does not stretch, yet if breaks. Mostly from tampon use or some sexual contact. "Cherry Popping" is a slang term for losing your virginity. And the 1st columnist below is correct, your vagina is what stretches when you have sexual intercourse.

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I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.

After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.

After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.

Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.

Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.

What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.

I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?

Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please.

A lot of guys do that when they want to feel intimate. Each guy is different when viewing porn. They may want to feel the "lust" in sexual activities, or is just curious on such things.

Now I know how you feel, I had boyfriends like that. But it's OK. Tell your boyfriend that you love him and porn is never the answer to whatever relationshup or outside-relationship problems he is having.

God isn't trying to make your life bad or, give you a bad view on men. He was trying to test you in your relationship. God gives all people obstacles in life, and he wants you to overcome them. And he also asks for forgiveness in everyone, so try talking to him and try to work things out. Forgive him.

And keep praying for things to get better in your relationship. God is always there for you to change things around and make things better. And I'll pray for you as well.

I know it's hard to deal with what your boyfriend has done, but it was a mistake and he most likely won't do it again. Just have patience, trust, and faith in him. Let him know you are there for him. It will be ok.

Hope I helped =). Good luck on your relationship and God Bless.

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Alright, I got a trojan virus yesteday.
It was called Trojan.Doppler, or something.
I got that deleted, but I dont know how to remove GetMirar, which got in around the same time. It's malware.

Norton's website was no help (Symantec) and Ad-Aware didn't do anything either.

Can someone who is tech-savvy tell me how to delete it?
It has no uninstall software that I know of, and it's just the occassional pop-up (I dont want to erase my hard drive for this, that's just stupid. It's not worth the effort; the pop-ups are annoying my parents)

My computer is running just fine otherwise.

Thanks in advance to anyone who really helps!!

If no Anti-virus software are helping, you will need to do it manually. Here are a few things I know of that might just delete it.

Press CTRl ALT DELETE, go to PROCESSES. Click on the name of the trojan. (Trojan.Doppler).

Restart your computer.

Go to Processes again, if it has not been deleted, go to SEARCH and put in Trojan.Doppler for the search. Search through all options given including files, folders, network, computer and the drive. When they come up in the window, carefully read the details of the file. If it looks pretty much like the trojan, delete it.

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can someone tell me how to make myspace layouts?

There's a simple way to make a Myspace layout. You can go to www.mygen.co.uk and click on profile editor. Or go here -->http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=create. It's a step-by-step guide and gives you specific choices on the images (table and background) to put in, font colors and types.

To do it by scratch however. This is how to simply do it:

First put in < style type = " text / css " > (exclude all spaces)

then insert your scrollbox, images, font, and misc settings.

{background-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-face-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-highlight-color:HEX CODe;
scrollbar-3dlight-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-shadow-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-darkshadow-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-arrow-color:HEX CODE;
scrollbar-track-color:HEX CODE;
}

< font color = COLOR NAME NOT HEX CODE >
< font face = " FONT NAME "(like arial, tahoma, time new roman, etc >

ADD EXTRA FEATURES HERE like cursors, image filtering, dancing lines, etc.

You can find that on the same websites (MyGen) by clicking on Generators.

Then end code with: < / STYLE >


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idk what category this goes under so i did it under this one
ok
so i have verizon wireless and i was wondering what company is the best?
and i want unlimited text messaging but the person said they only have 500 a month and unlimited with verizon to verizon
and i was wondering if they really do have unlimited not just for verizon to verizon
if anyone could help me
thanxx!

Verizon goes up to 1000 messages a month, and if you want unlimited text T-mobile offers it. The whole text messaging/IM/and picture messaging package (comes in altogether) is only 15 dollars. In my opinion I think Verizon's airtime is slightly better compared to T-mobile, but T-mobile offere great plans and promos.

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I am tried to log in to my neopets account today and I know that the username/pass are right, but it keeps asking my to enter my pass and birthdate no matter how many times I do it. Does anyone know why this is or how to fix it. Its very frustrating. I do not want to create a new account. Thanks so much.

Two things could be happening: You may have a firewall to block you from certain websites that ask you to enter in information. Another would be your cookies are disabled, and when that's the case the information you put in does not come through because it's disabled from sending information.

And it is fixable: Just go to your internet options, and there is a choice to enable cookies or disable them, and also asks you how protected you want your internet from cookies. If it's the firewall, you may need an adult or who ever is the master of the firewall program to unblock the website for you.

If it's none of the above, try fixing your other browser settings, or contact your ISP (Internet Service Provider) because it may have something to do with your ISP as well

P.S. - As a quick tip the same thing happened to me on a website that asked for screename/password and it was because of cookies being disabled so that is probably the problem.

Hope I helped.

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i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd.

It's not abnormal at all. I'm 16 years old and proud to admit that I am a virgin. And I tell everyone that from what my friends told me that it's a regret to have sex, because 3/4 of my friends that had sex ended up pregnant. So think 0f the outcome. Also, it's nothing to worry about if not having a boyfriend. People get theirs at different times. Your friend may have a boyfriend already, but a boyfriend for you is out there somewhere waiting for you, as well.

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on myspace, my layout is like the default one and as you know, the font is like verdana.. i want to change the font to arial so my WHOLE page is the font arial.. does anyone know the code or where i can find the code? thanks a bunch

and if you want to change the font just add in any other font like verdana tahoma or times new roman. Afterwards, end with . Remember when putting it in, make sure it's at the top of the HTML text field, so all text activates to arial.

To find more complex ways to put in font, such as putting regular text verdana and links to arial, you can visit this site www.mygen.co.uk and click on generators, or www.eatcrack.com (sounds like a drug website but it's an HTML site for Myspace).

Hope I helped! =)

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