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my names sarah 15/f.I just relized that im bisexual and i had a crush on my friend whos a girl but i dont know if i should tell her im bi.Because i don't want to hurt our friendship.So what should I do?Should i tell her?Or should i just keep crushes and friendships seperate(sp?)?
If she's straight, chances are she's going to feel very uncomfortable & not want to be around you knowing you feet that way. If you don't want to risk your friendship, find a way to figure out what her reaction would be in the event a girl admitted feelings for her. I'm all for admitting how you feel towards someone, but in this case, I think it's best if you don't.
What does a hangover feel like?
A hangover is usually classified with feelings/symptoms such as: headaches, tiredness/light headed, dizziness, sensitivity to light, sometimes sick to the stomach.
A couple of days ago my best friend asked my boyfriend if he smoked and he told her that he used to, but quit and still has cravings every now and then. I have smelled smoke on him several times, but just figured that he was hanging around his friends who smoke and the scent lingered on him. Several of our mutual friends tell me that he smokes though. He never told me that he didn't smoke, but he never told me straighforward that he smokes either. Everyone knows that I don't like smoking, so he must have known that I would disapprove of it. I just don't know what to do. Oh and we have only been going out for about two weeks.
Don't jump to any conclusions. It's possible that he was only around his smoker friends when he came over smelling like smoke. At this point, you can't get upset with him because, like you said, he's never lied about not smoking. If you want to know the truth, why not bring it up with him & ask him yourself? In the event he does admit he smokes, don't overreact. I know you disapprove of it, but I wouldn't dump him on that reason alone if your relationship is going well. Just let him know your stand on smoking & decide what to do from there. :)
Also another dead give away of a smoker: He may be able to hide the scent in his clothes & in his breath. But unless he just spent 5 minutes scrubbing his fingers with soap before he sees you everytime, his fingers will smell like smoke.
16/f- I live in Illinois, and my best friend and I are going to Fort Myers next weekend. We are leaving Friday and coming back Tuesday evening. Sounds great right? I'm freaking out because I've never flown before! My friend has, but she's never flown without parents, so we are going to have to handle everything on our own. And, we have to change planes once on the way there, and once on the way back, one of our layovers will be at the Atlanta Airport, which I've heard is really easy to get lost in.
So my question is Do you have any Flying tips or experiences that will help me? How to handle things, what not to bring on the plane (especially regarding the new rules), or anything else? And any personal tips? Thanks so much!
First off, I'd like to say I was almost your age when I started flying as well. & I only waited that long because I had too much anxiety - until I went on vacation with my friend & i was forced to. I'd suggest going to your airline's website to see what you can & cannot bring. I'm aware of the typical/basic things you can't bring, but I'm not completely positive about their new guidelines. Since you'll be traveling with your friend, it'll be much easier. From my experience, I think music is the most amazing thing to bring with you on your flight to help you relax. I had the worst anxiety when getting on a plane for the first time, but the second I turned on my music & talked to my friend, I didn't even care that we were on the plane & flying through a storm. If you're terrified of heights, try a seat closer to the aisle.
As for changing flights: I experienced the same type of anxiety. I had to do that when I flew by myself for the first time this past October & I won't lie. I was scared I would get lost. But it's really not that bad AT ALL. There's signs & screens everywhere letting you know where you need to go. & if worse comes to worse, there's always people/employees around that you can ask. It's really not a big deal. When that day comes, you'll realize it wasn't anything to get worked up about either. Good luck with everything! You'll do just fine. :)
My mother and I can never get along. We don't agree on anything and we're always really bitchy toward each other. We fight about everything and anything. Frankly, it's to the point where I can't take it anymore. I'm not saying it's entirely her fault. Sometimes I feel that I have anger management issues, but I'm trying to better myself. I've just gotten so much hate built up towards her that everything she does angers me in some way. She acts like she's perfect and she is trying to control every aspect of my life. We have considered going to counseling, but I know my mom very well and she would never take a shrink's advice because she can never admitt she is wrong, like I can. I admitt that I have a short temper, but she won't admitt that she nags about EVERYTHING and always thinks she's right when it comes to decisions about MY OWN LIFE. How can I deal with her? I don't want to shun her from my life, but at this point, I just want to get away and never see her again because all these fights are destroying my life. Does anyone have the same problem? How can I deal with this?!
Actually, you sound exactly like me. I'm not a very angry person. Infact, there's no one I know who I argue with & can make me upset besides my mother. I think the reason you two can't get along is because you're very much alike. I don't necessarily mean that you try to act perfect, complain & are very controling. What I mean is that maybe you two both posess 2 very dominant personalities. I have not entirely come up with a solution myself. My only advice to you is to bite your tongue until you are old enough to move out. She's your mother & no matter how crazy she drives you, you never want to be on bad terms. For now, you can try talking to her calmly. & if she still acts the same, atleast you know that you're making an effort. (& really, that's all that matters.) You can't change people, but you can change how you react & deal with them. For now, you can look forward to the day you are legal. I know since I turned 18, I've been able to be out more & spend less at home. (I know it sounds horrible, but sometimes some time apart is good - to avoid a lot of tension in this.) The day you move & support yourself, you'll be free. Until then, be nice to your mother & avoid arguments no matter how crazy she'll get. If you know it's something not worth fighting over, leave the room before you have anything to say that might start an argument. I know it may not be what you want to do, but atleast you're being the better person.
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my name is Rachel and my boyfriend roosevelt and i have only been going out for about 3 days and on the first day we started to go out he asked me if he could kiss me and i told him that it would be my first kiss and i would have to think about it first the thing is iam kind of nervous becouse he wants to french kiss me and i've never kissed a boy before much less french kissed a boy and i don't think iam ready since i've only been going out with him for 3 days and i want to know how do i know when iam read to kiss a boy?
First off, kissing is not as big of a deal as everyone makes it out to be. There's nothing to get stressed out about. There's no rules or "wrong" way to french kiss. It's a natural thing & when it happens, you'll catch on right away. & if you're not comfortable kissing him, don't. Wait till you are & then go for it! :)
what are some basic fashion do-s and don't-s?
thanks in advance!!
Define your own sense. This is mine:
DOs:
- Be bold & confident in what you wear.
- Accessorize. Sometimes it can make the outfit.
- Layers.
- Stay classy.
- Flats.
- Belts.
- Your own essemble.
DONTs:
- Tight clothing.
- Ridiculously low rised jeans.
- Showing your stomach.
- Dark blue & black.
- Tennis shoes besides when necessary.
- Skimpy clothing.
- Sparkly/glittery/flashy clothes.
- Abercrombie, Hollister & other unoriginal & overdone stores.
How do I pump up my look? I am a pretty girl, i just need that extra jump, with make-up perferrably. What is in?
What's in? Confidence. Looks may get you to the front door, but personality will get you through the relationship. But if "pumping" up your looks is necessary to boost your self esteem, decide what your features are & bring them out. (Let me know by my inbox & I can give you specific make up tips.) :)
There is thios girl that everyone on campus thinks she is a hoe. And, our friends within our circlke of frineds don't even really like her because of her permiscuity. They don't really want to be associated with her. but, she is nice to me and has nice, respectful manners. I feel like if I like someone I am going to treat them and hang out with them the same way I do everyone else. I am not a hoe I am quiet and actually have never had sex before. I feel like anyone who htinks that i am a hoe just because i hang out with her is off their rocker and just plain immature. I feel like we don't have the right to judge people and when the only person a person harms is their selves, because she is not hurting anyone else if it is true, is the person who needs a friend the most. Do you think I should try to avoid being with her in public or do you think i am right? Give me your complete honest advice on this. I want everyones sdvice but especially if you are 18 and up I would really like to know your opinion?
You're right. Anyone who automatically passes judgements against you for who you hang out with is pretty immature. Just because "everyone" thinks she's a promiscious, doesn't mean she's not a person. Her morality & self respect may be a little different than yours, but that doesn't make her a bad friend. I can tell you right now, some of my best friends aren't anything like me. But just because people do "bad" things, doesn't make them bad people. For all you know, her reputation could be completely untrue. Get to know her & forget what the public thinks. Other peoples opinions don't matter. You may not realize that now, but when you're out of high school you'll wonder why you ever cared about what other people thought. Give it a shot! You never know, you might come out with a new good friend. :)
Okay, I'm straight edge and have been for a while but all of a sudden I realized that medicine such as Advil or Midol or medicine of that sort is a form of legal drug. But straight edge is no drinking, smoking, casual sex and DRUGS.
Do medicine like that count as drugs or not? [Not using it to a degree where it turns illegal but for purpose like a headache or something]
Yes, they are drugs. But there's nothing wrong or illegal about taking them for headaches or when you're sick. They are fine as long as you take as directed & don't abuse them.
whats an orgasim or w.e.?
i have an idea but like.. i never really asked anyone becuase i acted like i knew what it ment.
thankss
Orgasm: The peak of sensation during sexual activity during which sexual tension is released.
- Sex-project.com.
I have been looking for the perfect man for some time now. I am in 7th grade. I have been checking out some guys, but i am afraid they won't go for me, although there is one, but i don't know his name, he is cute, but not over-the-top cute. the big valentines dance is coming up. how do i get the boys to notice me?
Girl, you're in 7th grade. You have plenty of time to worry about finding the "perfect man." Be yourself, have fun with your friends & don't feel pressured to get the boys to like you. You don't need to go out of your way to be "noticed." They will when they will. :)
so i'm a fifteen year old girl.
i've had sex before with my boyfriend with condoms and it's been all good.
until today, we had it with the "mint tingle" from trogen.
we went all the way
and it broke.
we didnt notice it broke until he cumed.
so my questions are
what should i do? i've cleaned my self out a lot. we got it (or most of it) before it got in, i cleaned it with water and i'm about to go shower.
and what are the chances of me getting preg?
and has this happened to some one else, what happened, and what condom did you use?
You can't exactly "clean yourself out." But if the condom broke & he came, your chances are pretty high. My suggestion would be to go to your local Planned Parenthood (locate your nearest one @ plannedparenthood.org) & get the morning after pill if you had sex within 72 hours. (The sooner, the better.)
are girls supposed to buy guy anything for valintines day?
It's nice to (especially when the guy gets you something), but there's no rule saying girls or guys HAVE to buy eachother anything. It's your personal choice. :)
Hello. I always search through questions that I think I have the same problem with and your advice is always there, and I LOVE IT! I just wanted to know, how do I save people as favorites so I can just go to my advice coloumn and have it be there? I have one person on there already but it's been so long since I put someone on there. Can you please help?
:) awesome. Go to someone's column & at the top there should be the link that says "add as friends." Click that & it'll automatically add that person as one of your favorites. To view your list of favorites (& people who have you added to their favorites), click the link on the left column that says "Favorite Columnists." :)
I really want to get my stomach flatter. Is there a good diet for this? I am also going to start doing my zone pilates everyday. Also, i was thinking of taking some sort of weight loss pill, i know they are dangerous, but i am not looking for an extreme one. I am not overweight, i just have some fat, i need to get toned (i am like 110 and i am 5'4). The problem is that i am 16, so i wouldnt be able to order them because my parents CANT know...i need something from like a CVS.
Thanks so much!
Doesn't matter what height or age you are, someone who is 110lbs is skinny enough & does not need to rely on a diet pill to lose a few pounds. If you want a flatter stomach, avoid sugary foods & drinks. Do any kind of cardio (like running or jump roping) & start off by doing 100-200 crunches a day & eventually increase it to 300-400 IF you can handle it. I used to do anywhere between 500-1000 everyday & I saw results pretty fast. But I don't recommend overdoing it.
i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP!
You should appreciate what you have because most girls would kill to have a boyfriend like that. Here's my two cents & I'll keep it shrot & simple: He respects you & doesn't want to rush into anything. Just because he's had sex before & you "want" sex, doesn't mean he's going to give it up that easily. & I think you should accept that. Don't be the nagging & annoying girlfriend who keeps bringing it up with him. Just drop the whole subject & respect his decisions. He's a good guy with a good head on his shoulders & you should appreciate that. :)
What is the difference? I never really got that (oother than the name and spelling..duh) haha. Please don't just slap down a link. I just want a few worded simple answer =]
Anorexia is an eating disorder in which someone starves themself. Bulemia is when they will eat, but throw it up immediately to avoid gaining weight.
what type of lotion should i use? like what should i ask for?
its not like self tanner is it cuz i hate that stuff and then it turns you orange...
In my opinion, the tanning lotions with bronzers aren't as "strong" (or noticable) as self tanners. But if you're extremely pale, I'd recommend getting a non-bronzer lotion until you get some color. Once you're somewhat tan, you won't even be able to tell. & depending on what lotion you get, it should not turn you orange. I don't know too many lotions that don't have bronzers in it already, but try the brand Babie. Or talk to the person at the tanning salon to see what lotion is best for you. The only thing I can tell you is to make sure you get a Tingle-Free lotion. I (& a couple of my friends) have bad experiences with tingle lotions. They make your skin feel like you're on fire & give you a pretty bad red breakout afterwords. Your skin might react differently, but most people don't use tingle lotion for that reason.
i just recently started tanning in a bed and do u know what the difference is between a lay down and stand up bed? and when they offer the lotion what good does the lotion they offer at the tanning salon do anyways?
You are definitely asking the right person. There are a couple advantages & disadvantages for both. First off, stand up beds usually have more powerful lamps, making your session a lot shorter than a lie down bed. Regular horizontal beds have between 30 & 50 100-watt lamps, while stand up beds typically use 40+ 160-watt lamps. With these stronger lamps you can get the same results in 9-15 minutes instead of the full 20 in a lie down bed. Also, stand up beds are more likely to not miss any areas that might be shadowed & missed in a horizontal bed.
Horizontal beds are usually chosen over stand ups for the fact that it is still the most popular way of tanning. Most people would rather relax when they come in & tan rather than stand up. But it's all about your personal comfort & convenience.
Onto lotions: The lotions they offer at the tanning salons are specifically for indoor tanning. You are no good walking in with a bottle of lotion with an SPF of 25 made for outdoor tanning. (Don't bring outdoor tanning oil either. They ruin the beds.) Although the indoor tanning lotion does not contain sunscreen & can't protect you from overexposure, it's important to use it to keep your skin hydrated. Without lotion, your skin will become dry, making it much harder to tan. Since most lotions help stimulate the production of melanin, you can tan much easlier & keep the tan longer. Also, some include self-acting bronzers & maximizers which can help you achieve a tan/bronze look in a shorter period of time. To sum it all up - the lotions are an important part in the tanning process & provide you with better results.
Hope that answers all your questions! :)