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Dealing with my mother.
My mother and I can never get along. We don't agree on anything and we're always really bitchy toward each other. We fight about everything and anything. Frankly, it's to the point where I can't take it anymore. I'm not saying it's entirely her fault. Sometimes I feel that I have anger management issues, but I'm trying to better myself. I've just gotten so much hate built up towards her that everything she does angers me in some way. She acts like she's perfect and she is trying to control every aspect of my life. We have considered going to counseling, but I know my mom very well and she would never take a shrink's advice because she can never admitt she is wrong, like I can. I admitt that I have a short temper, but she won't admitt that she nags about EVERYTHING and always thinks she's right when it comes to decisions about MY OWN LIFE. How can I deal with her? I don't want to shun her from my life, but at this point, I just want to get away and never see her again because all these fights are destroying my life. Does anyone have the same problem? How can I deal with this?!
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Dear Reader,
I understand how sometimes we dont get along with our mothers, trust me, I know what you mean. What I do is I talk with my mom, I tell her how I feel and I try to talk it out with her. I wouldnt ignore her becuase that creates more problems and you dont want that. I would just talk to her and try to understand where she's coming from. Its good that you know that it's not always her fualt, but try looking at things from her point of view and see if you can compermise with her. Let me know how things go! Good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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I have the same problem. Lately my mom has been getting under my skin, and I've got a ton of problems with life right now & can't really deal with her bullshit. I just don't talk to her, and I completely ignore her.
♥T!NA
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ive been going through the same thing, exept i was the one troubleing to admitt to my tempers
me and my mom are working on a stronger realtionship
but i still refuse to go to counsleing for i belive only us two can solve this together.
my parents go to councleing about out family relationship, and what me and my mom do is insted of my mom bugging me about my personal life and nagging me and once and a while we sit down and talk about things.. i still dont talk to her about personal things but we still talk about many things and get along better. so just something as simle as a talk can ake a stronger relationship
have you and your mom both make a list of things you dont like about how they deal or treat you
ex: nagging, not listening, judgeing b/fs and freinds, rules, yelling, etc.
best of luck!!
--ashley
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i know exactly how you feel and i have gone to counseling. i felt the same way about her not listening to the therapist so i was hesitant. you would be suprised how much counseling can help though. we still argue and fight but it is easier to deal with since counseling. i think counseling is beneficial to every teenager. even if there is no major problem in your life. the hardest thing in life is dealing with parents that you dont get along with but communication can ease so much. first step is telling her you think counseling is a good idea.
good luck :)
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Actually, you sound exactly like me. I'm not a very angry person. Infact, there's no one I know who I argue with & can make me upset besides my mother. I think the reason you two can't get along is because you're very much alike. I don't necessarily mean that you try to act perfect, complain & are very controling. What I mean is that maybe you two both posess 2 very dominant personalities. I have not entirely come up with a solution myself. My only advice to you is to bite your tongue until you are old enough to move out. She's your mother & no matter how crazy she drives you, you never want to be on bad terms. For now, you can try talking to her calmly. & if she still acts the same, atleast you know that you're making an effort. (& really, that's all that matters.) You can't change people, but you can change how you react & deal with them. For now, you can look forward to the day you are legal. I know since I turned 18, I've been able to be out more & spend less at home. (I know it sounds horrible, but sometimes some time apart is good - to avoid a lot of tension in this.) The day you move & support yourself, you'll be free. Until then, be nice to your mother & avoid arguments no matter how crazy she'll get. If you know it's something not worth fighting over, leave the room before you have anything to say that might start an argument. I know it may not be what you want to do, but atleast you're being the better person.
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