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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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I'm fifteen year old girl, and I really need some help.
I want to run away from home...I really do. My life...well, I don't want to tell everything...because...it's hard. BUt I think I can tell as much as I can. I have Chronic Lyme Disease, and so does my brother. My brother has had it way longer than I, and he isn't in a good place. He yells, he curses, screams at me and my parents. He even hurts me...like physical. He calls my mom names! And he treats her like s*it. He treats the whole family like this! He treats us as if we are his personal servants. My mom will be nice and get him stuff, and then my brother will yell that she doesn't do anything for him, and that all we do is yell at him and yadda yadda. I can't take it! He calls me names as well (Dumb f*ckin b*tch is one of the names) and it hurts me too much...all I hear is yelling and fighting anymore....and it hurts me, so much. And I try to help out so much here, but I can only do so much. BUt it seems like my parents want me to still help, even though my brother won't help at all. I think I'm about to go insane!I've read a mag about why girls want to run away...and I know I shouldn't, but I'm just getting to that point...where I dunno what else to do. I try to ignore my brother, and pretend that there is no fighting going on...but...a girl can only pretend so long. I do have a depression problem, but I am taking meds for that. I would talk to my friends about it...but none of them understand what is going on, because I act differently around them...because I want to pretend that I'm normal...atleast a bit normal. I want to scream...I wanna yell, but I can't. Since I have Lyme Disease, I can't do too much physical stuff because of my extreme joint and muscle pain...and more. I start hurting and aching even if I don't do anything, even if I just walk for a while. My parents will...like today, one of our dogs took off, and I'm trying to find something with her collar so that if she runs away, we press a button on it, and t shocks her, and she runs bakc. And we can't find it...I looked for a long time, and then I stopped because of my brother hurting me, and then...I just...started crying(which I can't cry much)and...then my mom called me and said that I should be helping and all that. And I yelled I was helping...and I just...I need help...please...help me. I know I can't run away because I have to take many meds to help fight the Lyme, but I'm at the point where I will run away soon...or something. And I did have a therapist, but I don't talk to her much anymore because my brother was getting better...but now?
Running away won't solve any of your problems, at all. You have to think about what you're doing before you do it before it's too late. I know it's hard being sick and having a sick sibling but you have to stick with it because he is your family. Him cursing and hurting you is not right and you have to talk to your parents about that. They have to let him know that just because he's sick that he can say and do whatever he wants. It's not right. Pretending that everything is okay won't make your problems go away. You have to face the truth and stop being so ashamed. Families go through hard times, argue and say things they don't mean but you have to understand that you will get through it and they love you and your brother very much. Bear with them and even though you help out a lot, do the best you can. Next time you think about running away, think about how much your family needs you.
my cousin wants to know if having sex ok for a twelve year old, well she isn't doing it with a boy, just an object. Because her Vagina is hurting. She doesn't want anyone to know , so do you think it is bad?
Using objects is not having sex. It's masturbation and yes it's normal. If it's hurting her, tell her to use something else like her fingers but like I said, it's not bad.
sorry that question wasn't directed towards you. i meant that if a girl is really confident,will she seem prettier to everyone?
When people are comftrable with who they are, they do seem more attractive to other people.
i saw some pictures of fonts i like and was wondering if you know what they are, or you know any similar one or even a few of your favorite fonts like to downlaod.& also i love you advie you give awesome advice, (:
here are the fonts--
http://i8.tinypic.com/67prewo.jpg
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http://i19.tinypic.com/4orns7b.jpg
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http://i16.tinypic.com/62svxwj.jpg
I don't know what those exact fonts are called but I do have other ones. I'll give some names of the fonts I like.
- Action Jackson
- Angelina
- Baby Kruffy
- Bitch Cakes
- Black Boys on Mopeds
- Cheri
- Kaileen
- Pornhut
- Rabiohead
- Surf Safari
- Violation
- King Cool KC
- Kravity
- Loquacious
You can also go to www.dafont.com or www.1001fonts.com Sorry if I gave you too many lol & thank you :]
If you're more confident will you seem prettier?
Is this question refered to me or what?
We may night have classes together, but that might mean we don't see eachother as much. I start school in only a couple of days, so what should i do? just try and not like him anymore? ALL summer i've been thinking about what i would do but i KNOW i'll blank when i see him lol it happens alot with him...any tips? thank you so much!!
Even though you guys might not have any classes together, try to make an effort on talking to him more. The more you talk to him, the more you will like him but it's up to you if you want to make that decision. You guys could be friends and just hang out but that would make it harder for you if you know that the friendship won't develop into something more.
i'm on the dance team at northwest, and sometimes i feel awkward because im kind of shy and dont talk alot...im usually not like this...but there's this girl that's PreTTY intimidating and sometimes shes a little mean but then she'll be like "aww i love you!" it pisses me off lol and she doesnt have that many friends and boys never really look at her soooo why does she have to be like that to me? i mean she talks about most of her "friends", and im always nice to her (except sometimes i really have to stand up for myself) she calls all the girls on the dance team her friends because she doesnt have any other ones! HA! shouldnt she treat me a little better since i've been a good friend to her? i cant exactly avoid her, and im NOT going to talk about it with her...she already knows that some girls on the team know that she could be nicer to me. and we just had another girl our age join and that girl (jen*) just follows her around like a lost puppy!! i couldnt believe it! how come no one else notices this :(
lots of feedback please
Some girls are just brats like that and think that they're better than the rest. She found you as an easy target and thought that she could say whatever she wants to you and get away with it but once you stood up to her, she didn't like it. If she wants to be mean and obnoxious to you, ignore her. Don't let her effect your dancing or let her frustrate you. She'll realize that you don't care for her. She could also be jelous of you and that could be another reason that she treats you that way. But.. like I said. Ignore her and let her think high of herself because the rest of the girls on your team obviously don't find her that great.
I have SUPER thin straight hair. The only thing I know to do for it is well leave it straight. Do you know of anything I can do thats "cute" but will also last. (Pictures websites anything) Thanks :)
http://www.beautifulhairstyles.com/
Scroll down and you could find some hairstyles that work for you. Since you have straight hair, try curling it and it doesn't have to be with just a curling iron. Curl it and put your ponytail to the side. Do things like that and just use hairspray to make it last.
One of my best friends boyfriends is being really rude to my friends and I. But when ever my friends and i tell my best friend she doesnt listen to us. She just denies it. What should i do to make her belive us?
thank you soo much
If she doesn't belive you and won't even take your side, it's not worth explaining it to her. Her boyfriend seems like a jerk and since he's rude to you guys, don't even talk to him or anything. Talk to her one last time about it and see what she will say. Even though she can't do anything about the fact that he's a jerk to you guys, she still should belive her friends over her boyfriend. She'll realzie that you guys were right and that she was wrong.
my hair is SO THICK! and im reallllly self conscious about wearing it down.im jealous of all the pretty girls with cute hair that's down ALL the time. i have an organic chi, it works pretty well. how do get the confidence to wear it down??
Don't worry about what anyone thinks about your hair or anything about you. You need to be comftrable with yourself before other people see the confidence in you. People have different types of hair and you just happen to have thick hair. Some people would love to have your hair because their hair is too thin. You could also get your hair thined by a hair stylist. So like I said, have confidence to wear your hair down. I'm sure it looks great even though it's thicker.
how do you get these eyelashes like that
http://i132.photobucket.com/albums/q16/kikisawhale/mememee/ghey069-1.jpg
Her eyelashes are natrual but I think that she has eyeliner on her top lid that extends her eyes. You could try using a liquid liner or just a normal liner on top and use some mascara.
I am 14 years old, and I have a friend thats going into college, I met him through my team. He lives in North Carolina while I live in Connecticut. He recently admitted that he really liked me, more than a friend. I dont like him anymore than a friend. He's like a brother to me and he doesnst seem to get the point. At practice tonight my coach said no boy-girl involvement and directed it AT ME because he started spreading that me and him had a thing. I was about to cry, so I wrote him a text message, and me and him are in a huge fight. NC and CT are going on vacation sunday- for a whole week. I dont know what I should do...?
You need to tell him once again that you only like him as a friend and make sure he gets the point this time. Don't let him effect your vacation and ruin things for you. If you're going to be immature about it, ignore it. You don't need that.
My boyfriend for over a year recently broke up with me because he needed some time to think and have his own space. I was completely devestated, we didnt talk for a while, and he just IMed me and wanted to talk to me tonight, i think he likes another girl and im really depressed about it. I really love him, what should I do?!
Don't assume things before you actually talked to him about it. I know it's hard not being with him but talk to him about it and find out what's going on with the two of you and if you could work things out. If things don't work out, don't beat yourself up for it. Things will get better and don't rush yourself to get over him. But like I said, talk to him and see where the two of you stand.
ok i have emo bangs but my hair is to long to be emo and also apparently if yuo have dark brown hair your not emo but i want emo bangs but idk what to do with the rest of my head of hair ?
Most "emo" people do have black hair but then again other colors. If you want emo hair then get a haircut. Find a picture of someones' hair that you like and take it to a hairstylist and explain what you want.
There's this guy who i've known for 2 years now...we are friends. He praised me only once, he poke fun at me when we talk or go out together...He stare at me sometimes and when i look at him then he'll be like "what?" and he'll turn away. The other day, we were playing truth or dare and i asked him if he like me and he said that i am nice, pretty and that's a good enough answer. The thing is he is not asking me out and i so want to go out with him...i want to have a long term relationship with him. Lately, we've been going out and stuff like friends but he kissed me...I like him as well but never told him. I don't know what to do. I want him to make the first move. You think i should tell him that i like him or not? I don't know why but i soooo want him to make the first move.
I think that you should tell him that you like him. He might not be making the first move because he's unsure of how you feel about him and doesn't want to embarass himself infront of you. He's dropping hints that he likes you and wants to go out but you're not really responding to it much. The next time you guys are hanging out or talking, tell him and see how things go from there. I'm sure only the best will happen.
Is is normal to miss your period the same month after your cherry was popped? Or do they have nothing to do with each other?
It's normal to miss your period and skip a month but I'm not exactly sure if it has to do with each other. If you had sex than I would get a pregnancy test just to make sure.
what exactly does it mean when a girl is giving a guy head? and can girls get head too? thanks guys
Uh, it means she is sucking his penis & girl's can't get head.. guys just perform oral sex on them as well and it's called eating out.
i have cut myslf many times before but i havent been for awhile and i feel like i need to telll my friends about it. but i dont want them to hate me or think im insane. and when they talk abou tthe subject they dont know why it bugs me and i hide it. what should i do??
If it's something that you have done a long time ago, I wouldn't just bring it up. However, if you still think about doing that, you have a problem and you need to talk to someone about it. If you're going to tell your friends, don't tell all of them. Make sure you trust them with anything and they won't hate you. Make them understand and they'll always be your friends no matter what. Explain to them why you do what you do and next time you want to harm yourself, go to your closest friends and talk to them about it instead.
What makes you happy the most?
My family and friends can make me happy no matter what. My little hamster can cheer me up :] Knowing that I have everything I need in life and that I'm healthy and taken care of makes me happy.
what do you guys do to make yourself cheer up when your sad?
When I'm sad, my friends can cheer me up. They can make me laugh & when I'm angry and upset, I usually write in a notebook about everything that makes me mad. When I'm doing that, I just forget that I was angry in the first place.