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I usually joke around with this buddy of mine. I mess with him, he laughs, and it all goes well. But today I was joking with him as usual, and he all of a sudden got really mad, called me horrible names, like I am a horrible person (and other innapropriate things). I am sure what I said wasn't offensive. It's the same thing I similarly say every time I talk to him, and every other day he laughs about it. He did say he was having a bad day but he took his anger out on me. So he is mad at me, while I am just slightly mad at him. He really hurt me, but I am worried if I talk to him I will make things worse for our friendship. Should I just let him cool off for a few days, or try talking to him (with the risks involved)? I don't want to lose him as a friend, but he really hurt my feelings.

Any advice?

thanks!

i really think letting him cool off for a few days is the best idea. after a few days he will probably be a lot calmer and over his bad day..i think everything will be fine in a couple days. When you talk to him about it just say you understand he was having a bad day and your sorry..tell him if he wants you wont joke around like that anymore..i hope it all goes well..inbox me if he doesnt forgive you and we will try and figure out a new plan
-melissa

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im 13.
and ive only had 1 bf
and he was younger then me
well he stayed back a year but still
he was so short and stuff differnt!!
is this bad
whats some ways i could get a boyfriend?

Hey..dont worry..the dating world is right around the corner..13 is young to be dating..a lot of people dont get their first boyfriends until 15,16,+! No, its not bad that your bf was different,short,etc. It doesnt matter who the guy is..all that matters is you liked him and he liked you..dont listen to anyone if they dont approve of a guy you like.
Ways to get a boyfriend? I would definately just stay myself. Why act fake and be somenoe your not? I would want a guy to like me for who I truly am. If you need to put on an act of change yourself for a guy..he isnt worth it..trust me. I hope my advice helped you out :)
-melissa

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okay make a long story short --
I met a boy last summer. He asked me out, I fell in love with him. I effed things up by making out in public, to affectionate, not hanging out too much. I was really stupid. So he dumped me a few times. We got back together everytime. 10/20/06 we broke up again, and that time we didn't get back together. I cried to weeks, and after a fews months I was 98% over him. Till he looked a me and smiled. I fell completely back in love.

He has been from girl to girl lately, and now he has a new girlfriend. I really want to go back out with him again. I was thinking about telling him [ how I really feel, and that I really messed things up, I'm still inlove, really sorry, and now I've comepletely changed and I want a second chance. ]Except telling him that online seems alittle pathetic and desprete. So I was thinking about telling him that in person. BUT HOW? I don't really see him in school much, and the only way for him to actually understand is in person. But I think he'll get the wrong idea if I actually show up at his house, or if he comes over him. But I want to be alone.

Or I don't know. I want to go back out with him, I miss him. I THINK i should tell him how I really feel.

What should I do?

I definately agree that you should tell him..however i must comment that it doesnt sound like you were a horrible gf to him the first time around. Well my suggestion is..
-maybe talk to him during school..i know you mentioned you dont see him..do you have any studyhhalls with him or lunch? If you see him before or after school and you are alone..stop to say hi..and ask..'do you ever think about me? do you ever see us together in the future? because i still have feelings for you..'
-if you want it to be in person you might have to show up at his house..or maybe call him first and ask if you guys can meet somewhere to talk
After telling him how you feel..leave the rest up to him..dont stop living your life..you gota at least tell him how you feel.but after that...its all up to him. i hope it all turns out good!
-meliss

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what are the benefits of tea?

Well besides the fact that its soothing when you are sick or cold..
drinking both black and green teas is associated with a lower risk of heart disease,heart attack deceases 11% with 3 cups of tea per day,# In animal tests, both black and green tea and tea preparations have repeatedly been found to reduce tumor formation for cancers of the skin, lung, oral cavity, esophagus, stomach, small intestine, colon, liver, pancreas, and prostate. Although the antioxidant activity of tea is often reported as the mechanism behind these results, there is not strong evidence that this is the case. Tea flavonoids have been shown to have other properties besides their antioxidant activity that protect against cancer, such as
# Inhibiting new blood vessel growth (tumors can't survive without a good blood supply)
# Promoting death of damaged cells that may turn cancerous, without harming normal cells
# Preventing cancer cells from multiplying


theres a whole bunch of information on how tea is good for you..here is the website where i got all of this from
http://www.theteatable.com/teahealth.shtml

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Hey! I am desperate for a job. I currently have one but I need another one for better pay, so I can prepare for college and other things.

1) What is the best time to apply for jobs?

2) What are some AWESOME job search links specifically for teens? Not career searches (like monster.com); just temporary jobs (like groovejob.com).

3) What businesses could I start besides babysitting? And how do I start it?

4)If I need to build a resume, what things could I do to catch the employer's attention and consider an interview?

Thanks for all the help, and please try answering all questions.


1) Best time to get hired..is for summer jobs. During the winter places seem to cut hours. But keep on the look out because there is always some place hiring.

2)
Gotajob.com
Hiremachine.com
Snagajob.com

3) you can do a lot of stuff for a "make your own business " type of thing

-lawn/yard care-
Put up flyers around town adverising your price,your number, and what you can do. Go door to door asking neighbors if they need their driveways shoveled, lawns raked, gardens planted, etc

-cleaning service-
make flyers once again advertising..and simply clean houses. my friend did this..only she cleaned summer cottages and she made a lot of money!

-your own baking/cooking business-
make flyers..people can call you to request that you make their birthday cake..etc. or just go somewhere like a nice spot on the side of the road with your baked goods set up..you can make a nice chunk of change this way

-dog walking/pet babysitter-

-errand running for people-
this works especially well if you can drive.

-teaching older people how to use the computer and programs-
they could pay like $20 for a good thorough lesson or something. advertise with flyers/word of mouth

-ebay-
people can make a lot of money doing this. maybe sell birthday cards you make..idk people will buy anything off of ebay!

4) in a resume..include achievements in school..awards..sports..grades..past jobs..clubs/organizations..skills you have like communication skills,CPR certified if you are..include references,

i hope this helped!

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Okay well i'm 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little over 4 months now, and i love him with all my heart.. i really do. he's like an amazing boyfriend. he's so good to me. it's just like.. well he's like other guys and i don't understand. he tells me how much he cares about me & stuff but he doesnt show it all the time. we always fight about this & he says i only care about myself.. but i think that like if he cares, why can't he show it?! i mean he does show it.. but not as much as i want. i mean this is my first realllll boyfriend and i know i have very high expectations but idk what to do.. basically i've fallen too too hard for him. every day i cry on the phone with him over stupid things like if he ignores me a few times, or i think he's mad at me but is saying he isn't i'll think he's lying.. or if he forgets to call me especially. i'm so sick of getting hurt. i want to still be in love with him, but i need to stop caring so freaking much.. does anyone know how this is possible? like i tried giving us space & stuff but nothing works my weakness is i care too much... someone help me.

Heyy..i think you should just relax..really! He really cares about you too..let him show it! Instead of you crying/getting upset..just chill and let it go. You have to learn to let go of the little things that annoy you about him ..especially if this is going to be a long term relationship. Think how lucky you are to have him..he could prob have other girls.but he wants to be with you! :) So next time you start to get upset..think about that and let it go. I hope this helped..feel free to IM me at eatapasty if you want to talk more in detail
-melissa

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I just thought I'd get some different opinions from different people... The question is...

What is the meaning of Love? [define love]

Thank you

My definition of love is..
putting the one you love first. caring about them so much..you will give something up or sacrifice a lot(even your life) for the person's safety/happiness. You feel complete with the person,you feel a deep and intense trust/bond/friendship/attraction with the person. The person makes you feel wonderful..safe..happy..its hard to really describe..but to me thats what it is
:)
-melissa

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I am dating this guy and we really love each other and we're both 13 and his mom gave him 2 condoms that she got for him and has aloud to make out on the couch and stuff...we've talked about sex and stuff and we both this we're ready but I dunno how its supossed to happen ? Any tips,comments to suggestions ?

I know a lot of people have told you you arent ready and havent really answered your question...i agree with everyone else that you are still a bit young..but i will answer your question for you because nobody else really has. Sex should happen naurally..you should be alone with nobody to inturupt you two..while making out you should start to undress him or take your shirt off..it should happen naturally like that..and maybe kiss each otherr's necks...and other places ;)
I must urge you to wait..becaue 13 is soo young..my litttle brother is 13..and i cant picture him doing something like this. At this age you two are probabl curious and hormones are getting a little crazy...if you two really like and trust each toher..i suggest maybe exploring a bit ..but find alternatives other than sex. try touching and kissing places maybe. i hope this helped..but i agree with everyone else..sex should wait

-melissa

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melissa hi I'm the girl who is gay and I want youe babies... you see how u denied me, well this always seems to happen to me people take me as a joke and tell me no! some people are really mean about it others are nice like u. I think your hot your my type .i can turn any straight personn gay? how about it :) if you want we can exchange myspaces and then get on adopting baby's I WAMTA YOUR BABAIESS HEHEHEEH MWAHHH NO LIE THOUGH

lmao

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Hey melissa I have a delma I am gay and i like you and i want your babies but im gay and a girl so do u want to adopt some day?

haha you're funny lol..whoever you are..but sorry to break your heart (lol) im straight as can be.. and no thanks about the adopting thing
this made me laugh tho.

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if u pick up a perscroption from the pharmacy do they send mail home

i dont beleive so..ive picked up perscriptions for myself/my mom and everything was fine. if you want to double check just ask..its not like they will lie to you lol
i hope this helped

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23 Male

I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.

He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.

They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off?

wow. she really has deceived you. you guys have been together for a few years and this is the communication? lies..cheats?? no good.you desserve a lot better. i suggest you dump her immediately..talk to your friend about whhats going on..so he doesnt get hurt too. tell him you didnt want to tell him at first because you were so confused and hurt about the whole situation. he should understand.

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okay, i don't get this at all. my mom like doesn't trust me. doesn't like me going out with boys alone, but its wierd because im such a good kidd. i don't break the rules. i always do what my mom tells me to do. honestly, i think that she doesn't want me going out with guys alone is cause she thinks i'll be doing stuff with them only cause i have big boobs lol but how do i get her to trust me more. i don't do anything bad..

the best thing i can think of is try talking to her and tell her you are a good kid..also have the guy meet her first..maybe come over for dinner sometime. for the first few dates make it a double date or a group thing..then ask your mom if it can be just you two..she mighr warm up to things better this way :)

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when you are getting fingured does it matter like how much you shave and what should you do while it is happening?

i will be honest with you. if you are too hairy down there, the guy probably wont like it. however, if you are in a relationshipp with the guy and he really cares about you, he might not make a big deal. to answer your question..think about if you were jerking a guy off who is extremely hairy..i bet you would like it better if it were shaved. right?
as for the second part of your question..do what feels natural. dont be fake or try to put on a moaning show..if it feels good..show it.

i hope this helped you :)

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helloo :]]
bear with me, i know everyone's
question on here is like this but eh.
well, me and my boyfriend have been
going out for about 10 months but our
relationship slowly started going
downhill about 2 months ago. we rarely
see eachother or talk to eachother. i
always have to txt him or call him. he
never calls me or txts me anymore and it
just doesnt seem like he's putting effort
into this relationship. i wanna start over
with him but he's put me through so confusion and hurt. im just wondering what your
opinion is on all of thiss. thanks :]

alright this is what i think:
i think you should try to spark the relationship up..spice it up a little..try and do cute things like...
-candlielit dinner
-kisses/picnic under the stars
-watch movies on the couch
-go somewhere special
-make him a scrapboook
or something like that
HOWEVER..it takes TWO to be in a relationship
SO..if you put in the effort to bring the relationship back to life and it doesnt work..
consider breaking up with him
Like other columnists said..maybe hes going
through a tough time? Ask him about it..
tell him your feelings..
communication is key in a relationship
good luck with everythhing

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a hole looks so small.. how does the guys "thing" fit in..?

well, its not like a tiny hole drilled in concrete that is rough and dry..the vagina is a muscle that will stretch to fit the size of the penis..and it will feel really good (hhaaha) and also..it gets wet when aroused..so dont worry..sex wouldnt feel good or be fun if the hole was the size of a softball haha..i hope this helped :)

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Okay so tonight i lost my grandpa. and feel so horrible because i wish i had been closer to him. i am really scared that i wont be able to deal at the services and stuff thats coming up later this week. do you guys have any seggestions for saying goodbye easier and not letting go or moving on but becoming at peace with whats happened and idk. im not really sure im still in shock, because this was all so sudden and i feel so bad because the last time i could have seen him, i took it for granted and didnt go, wow i feel so awful. my friend says i should speak at the service and that would be like a way of saying sorry, but idk if i can evn pull it together enough to get to them.
but any help would be great

sorry for my poor grammar and everthing.

i think its a great idea to speak at the service..its ok if you cant keep it together and you cry..people cry at funerals. also, make it a goal to pray each night and maybe talk to your grandpa..if you beleive in that kind of stuff.

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my friend is getting abused by her boyfreind but she doesnt know it. i can tell, because she says "i called him an a$$hole and then he slapped me., but i forgive him because you know, if he called me a b***** i would slap him" or how she says "me and him had sex, i didnt really feel like it but i mean i am his girlfreind, i kinda HAVE to". and how he can check her phone atleast once a day. She just says its him making sure that noone is calling her that could harm her. Oh please the only harm that she has is him. What should i do? Ive told her a few times its considered abuse if he hurts her in anyway, and forcing her to have sex, even if shes his girlfriend, is rape. And checking peoples phones to make sure they arent calling anyone or texting anyone they shouldnt is basically violation of trust and privacy. She just won't listten. and won't report it. WHAT SHULD I DO? Hes even starting to not let her hang out with me and her other friends

see its one thing if she knows it abuse and GETS THE HELL OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP..but shes letting him hurt her like that..definately report it! one day things can get out of hand and he can hurt her ...realllyy bad.
report it to a guidance counselor or something..she needs to get out of that relatonship

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What do i do about my bf???!!!

ugh..i hate boys..dont let him get the pleasure of breaking up with you..do it first..and dont look back..forget boys like that...you desserve better

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This is going to be long or no one is going to understand my situation.

Basically I'm 16 & Female: I had this perfect boyfriend (or so it seemed) we dated constant, no breakups, for 17 months. He, too, was 16. We planned so much, we were even getting engaged, it was perfect. Near January of this year, things started getting a little rocky between him & I. See we go to different schools so we never really got to see eachother that often. We planned to meet eachother at the bowling alley, and that night we got in a fight. The fight wasn't really over anything big, he just got mad at me over something & hurt my arm. But I told him that he had anger problems & needed to resolve them. So basically, for the next 3 days he ignored me. He ignored my calls, my texts, my messages, my emails, & he never called me back, returned anything. Then I had gotten on the computer that day & he broke up with me. I was not only mad that it was through the computer, but I was furious because of everything he threw away. A week down the road, he comes back to me & asks for this thing he called "break-up sex" I knew it would have been a mistake for me to have done it, but I wanted him back & I wanted that feeling back. So I agreed to it. Later on, he tells me that he's "talking" to someone & doesn't want to ruin things with her, so he doesn't want to have this "sex." I was hurt. Basically because I still wanted him back. Friday night, I went to the basketball game at his school to meet up with a couple of my friends, and he was there. He wasn't with anyone like he told me he would have been. So he texts me & asks me to meet him outside. We ended up having sex in the backseat of his car. I don't really regret it, but last night he told me that he never would ever get back together with me & that friday night was an accident. What is your all's opinion on this situation?

ok..my opinion is that you tried to get him back..he knows how you feel..now i wouldnt do anything until HE comes around. eenjoy time with your friends..maybe even date around a little..watch..he might realize how dumb he is being and he might come around. i know from experience

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