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What charity would you like to support and why?

Well I used to volunteer at a bird hospital, The Bird Rescue Center. I think I put in about 400 hours in just two years, but I was one of their favorite volunteers, not to brag, but I had a lot more privilages than the average one did. Actually I am kind of bragging, but oh well, I'm proud.

But the hospital was sooo shabby. Its a nonprofit organization, and the only money they get is from donations, and they don't get that many of them. It was heartbreaking, because once we had to reject birds for three weeks because there was no room to keep them. It gets extremely busy during the baby bird season.

I am actually planning to do a huge bakesale in my neighborhood and raise money to donate to the BRC. I would still volunteer there if it weren't for various circumstances. =/

16/f

when a guy puts on his pants, does his penis like go to one pant leg? or does it like stay in the middle...that doesnt seem like it would be so comfortable

this is a serious question, because this girl put her hand on my guy friends leg close to his crotch area? and he was like "thank god that wasnt my left leg" so i thought "uhm is his penis on his left side?"

Well in most guys one of the testicles usually hangs lower in the scrotum, pulling the penis to one side.

to boy cats have nipples?

Yes, and so do dogs, and humans.

ok i know this sounds a little weird and its going to be long and i'm sorry about it.

for the longest time, i have been in love with Daniel Radcliffe. now i know that you think that i cant be i love with him because ive never meet him, but im pretty sure that i really love him. well ive thought about it, and i realized that im never going to be able to be with him. hes going to find another woman that he wants to be with, and im going to be alone. i never realized that im not the only woman on earth that likes him, and hes going to choose someone else. now the chances of me meeting him and us becoming friends and falling in love are like 1 to 5 trillion. and i FINALLY realize, that im never going to have him. i know that your going to say " its just a normal teenage obsession, you'll get over it" or " you cant really love him because you've never meet him "thats what everyone says. ive thought about other guys that i know, and i dont feel that way about ANY of them. I'm stuck on Daniel. can you please give me any adivce that you think will help me?

thanks to everyone!

Shelby

All celebrities put on a front for the media. They hide their blemishes, and I am sure Dan is doing that. Anyone who will become famous will have certain guilts that they will try to hide. So unfortunately, nobody truly knows Dan unless they are his friends and family.

You always hear celebrities saying how people just come up to them and act like they know them through and through. They don't. I know it feels like you know what he is really like, because we all watched him grow up during the Harry Potter films, but I assure you he is quite different in person. And yes, he that is not him in the interviews, either.

I assure you that you will get over him. I personally think its more infatuation than love, and that you might be very dissapointed if you meet him in person.

If you are still determined to do so, there are always prizes and trips that you can win, and you can go to www.mugglenet.com to learn more about Dan and I am pretty sure that there is a contest currently up in which if you win you get to meet the trio and visit the movie set. Just go to the website and scroll down.

im going to be hiking on the appalachain trail with my dog and my dad. my dog is about 5 and i want to know if there is anything i would need to bring for my dog in the case that he maybe gets hurt. i want to form sort of a first aid kit for him. my dogs are like human beings to me and i want to make sure he's taken care of.

I am a vet tech in training, so hopefully that would help a little in answering your question =)

Tweezers. Dogs often times get splinters, and tweezers help to pull them out.

Hydrogen Peroxide. If your dog gets a cut, clean it out with Hydrogen Peroxide.

Cotton balls. Perfect for dabbing at wounds. You can also use the cotton for the Hydrogen Peroxide.

Gauze. If your dog gets a cut, wrap it with gauze (after cleaning it), not too tight!! But tight enough so that it will help put A LITTLE pressure on the cut.

Adhesive tape. It is mostly used to keep bandages in place. Just make a ring at each end of the bandaged site. Make sure that half the tape is on the gauze, and the other is touching the skin. Again, make sure its not on too tight because its soooo easy to block off circulation.

Vet Wrap. This stuff you put over the gauze. It is quite tough, and dogs will have a hard time chewing it off. When you put it on: unwrap it a couple of feet, then roll it back up loosely, than wrap over the gauze. MAKE SURE IT IS NOT TOO TIGHT!!!! Vet Wrap is a bit dangerous to use because it is so stretchy, so it tends to tighten. Put it on very carefully, but again not too loosely because you don't want your bandage falling apart. And never ever put vet wrap on by itself: it should always go over gauze. It sticks to itself, so you don't have to worry about taping it down.

Scissors. For cutting off long hair around the cut, and for taking off the bandage.

Hope I helped, and hopefully you won't have to use this kit!!

Oh, and I completely forgot: when you are makng a bandage, always make sure it goes over a joint. For example, if you were to cut your arm between your wrist and your elbow, you have the choice of making your bandage go up over your elbow, or down to the wrist. Personally, I would choose elbow. Use your commone sense.

if your boyfriend cant get it up does it mean hes not attracted to you?
also if he cums real fast, will he ever get better?

Well, if he is a virgin, or had sex only a few times in his life, he could be just nervous. As for cumming really soon, its because this pleasure is so new to him that he is already very sexually excited, and it doesn't take much to set him off.

The more you guys do it, the more ummm.. "endurance" he will have, and he will last a lot longer.

As for the nervous part, make sure you guys are in a comfortable setting while having sex, where you don't have the fear that someone will barge in on you. Also giving him a blow job or a handjob will help a lot too.

Ps. For the other people who said that he can't get an erection because he thinks you are unattractive is complete crap. He's dating you, and he wouldn't have asked you out/said yes (if you were the one to ask him out) if he wasn't attracted to you.

I watched a porno and I can't get this one image from it out of my mind.
Any suggestions?

I gave this answer once before, but here it is anyways:

Think about this image as much as possible. Soon your mind will start to wander and you will forget about it. And it's pretty pernament because if you overthink that image, you will get sick of it, or it will become just too boring to think about. Hopefully that made sense.

15/f

my friends all tell me i eat way too little, and im too skinny, but when i went to my doctor, he said, im close to below average, but still average. this is an example of how i eat daily..

BREAKFAST:
a strawberry banna smoothie. which contains like..
-1 cup ice.
-i strawberry, IT WAS KINDA BIG.
-1 banana
-1 cup of ice creamm.

LUNCH:
-half of a cucumber.
-with probably like 1 tablespoon of ranch dressing.

DINNER:
oh i had alot for dinner.
-half of a cheese sandwich
-some cherries. like 4 tops?

so i mean, is that not enough? i mean i only eat whne my stomach is growling.

That is most definitely not enough. I don't know how active you are, but I am assuming you are not very active, because you will have feelings of starvation if that's all you eat. Here is an ideal meal plan:

BREAKFAST:
cereal, one glass orange juice
-kashi with some milk
pancakes, one glass orange juice/milk
waffles, one glass orange juice/milk
strawberry banana smoothie
-1/2 cup ice
-5-8 large strawberries
-1 banana
-1/2 cup milk

SNACK:
half a bagel/peice of toast/muffin
1 glass of milk

LUNCH:
soup/sandwhich/salad
1 glass of water

SNACK:
apple/cucumber/etc

DINNER:
each dinner should include
-meat/fish/chicken
-salad
-rice/mashed potatoes/etc
1 glass of water

DESERT:
fruit/cake/ice cream/etc
cup of tea/glass of milk/water

This could be a guide to your meal plan. Eating only when your stomach growls is unhealthy. When your stomach growls it means that you are very hungry, not just a little hungry. Eating small portions throughout the day is a lot healthier, and it won't make you feel as if you are hungry, and it won't make you feel as if you are uncomfortably full.

Because you eat so little, it may take some time to make such quick adjustments. Start out with very small portions, but do eat all the meals and snacks. Slowly increase your portions every three to four days, and you should be on your way to a healthy eating lifestyle.

okey. so i look at all these sites for masturbating, and they all say that the person gets wet. what is that and how and when does that happen?

When a girl is sexually excited (horny) her vagina secretes a lubricant that will make sex easier for her.

i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?

Well, proper capitalization, spelling, and grammar is what makes this site look more professional and presentable, as others have said. You also seem more trustworthy, I think, than "ritin lik3 dis althe time." You seem more responsible and knowledgable if you take the time to write correctly.

I used to write in uncapitalized letters all the time. Its only a couple months ago that I started writing properly in giving and asking for advice. I actually now feel a bit more confident in giving my advice because I feel more convincing if I write like an adult would.

Okay so I need help. And FAST! I've got a male betta who I've had for a short amount of time now and today he decided to show me that he indeed does know how to jump. I was cleaning his water like I ALWAYS have and I put meds in it because I expect him to be sick and I left him in a little bowl for awhile to let the medicine dilute in his water. LIKE I ALWAYS HAVE. Well, this time I come back a few hours later and he is out of the bowl and in the tub no longer moving. He moved when I touched him so he wasn't completely dead, just totally black on the side he was laying on. So I tossed him quickly into his new bowl and at first it wasnt too bad. he floated vertically with his mouth above the water and he swam just fine when I chased him with my finger. Now however is another story. He acts as though he is paralyzed and only his little fins would move. I can twirl him around in the water and he wont move. I still think he's breathing and he moves after awhile of bothering him. But not very far. He just twitches a little. Well I'm very worried about him and I don't want him to die. Is there anything I can do, or is all hope lost? PLEASE HELP ME!

Well, you didn't say when you cleaned the bowl, which would help a lot, but I'm going to assume this all happened in one day =)

Leave him alone. He seems really stressed out: I used to have a betta and he wouldn't move for up to two days after I changed his water. Don't touch him, don't even put your hand in the water (they could also contaminate the water by the way). Turn off the light in the aquarium. Don't do anything to him for two days. Hopefully he is ok, just scared to death.

ok .. so i'm a swimmer & have been since i think august??i mainly joined bkuz i thought it'd help loose those couple of pounds that i needed and just i'd be leaner. I'm most definitely leaner and i've definitely lost weight but where i wanted to loose it i'm not loosing it.it drives me nuts!!!and ugh i just can't stand it. i don't eat alot of junk just like 3 meals and then a couple snacks. so i dno but it's just my tummy and my inner tighs that is killin me!!please help =)

For your stomach: lots of dolphin (butterfly) kicking!!! If you feel it in your thighs that means you are doing it wrong, you should feel it in your stomach. Its alot better to do this on your back then with a kickboard or in streamline.

For your innerthighs: breaststroke kick - when your legs come back together really squeeze them together. Do this with a kickboard or in streamline.

14/f

I have a really bad posture. My mom says that my shoulder are rolled over so my shoulder blades stick out. i try so hard to keep a good posture so my back is straight, but i'm always slumping over.

How do i fix this?

There is actually a quite simple excercise that you can do daily, and it will improve your posture fairly quickly:

stand with your back to the wall

bend your knees (not a whole lot, just slightly), and press your back, shoulders, and head into the wall... your legs should be as straight as possible, but still having your whole back touching the wall

take your arms and press them into the wall, keeping them at a 90 degree angle. (so basicly the hairy part of your arms are touching the wall, the 90 degree angle is on the inside of your elbow)

move your ams up and down, like you're making a snow angel.

do ten or so repetitions, always keeping your back flat and pressed into the wall, along with your shoulders and head (take out any ponytails and buns)

I used to have the same problem you had, and I went to a physical therapeaust (sp?) because I started getting shoulder problems.. but I also swim.

If any of this didn't make sense, let me know, and I will revise this so that you can understand it better =)

what exactly does that mean ?

Male circumsision: The foreskin of the penis is cut off, usually when the boy is still a baby. It is done so for religious (Jewish) and hygenic purposes: a circumcized penis is easier to clean.

Female circumsizion: The vaginal lips and usually the clitoris is cut off. It is done in Middle Eastern and some Afrikan countries to young girls. The belief is that without a clitoris, girls will be less liable to lose their virginity before marriage. This is an extremely painful thing to do, and I, amongst many, am very against it.

I'm 15/f and I have a loft bed in my room. I like it because it gives me more space in my room because my room's pretty small. But then again, whenever friends come over we don't have anywhere to just sit or lay around, cuz it's too hard to climb up to my bed all the time. So I was thinking about getting something to put under my bed, like a couch sort of thing that a lot of people could fit on but is still stylish: anyone know of any good places to look? I've already looked at PBteen.

This might seem a little childish, but my friend has a loft bed too, and she made this cute, cozy nook under it. She has a whole bunch of really cute pillows arranged there, and from the sides of the beds, she hung curtains that could be drawn back when desired.

She just has a whole bunch of oversized pillows, but I just got an idea of getting square sofa/couch pillows to stack up. This is the cheap way.

If you are actually looking for real furniture...:

http://www.comcore21.com/contemporary-loveseats-sofas.htm

http://www.target.com/gp/search.html/602-0978710-1857456?field-keywords=couch&url=index%3Dtarget&ref=sr_bx_1_1&x=0&y=0

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/range/10367

LOL Are cucumbers vegetable or not cause some of my friends say they are and some say there not lol ?

In scientific terms, they are fruit.

In culinary ters, they are vegetables.

i masturbate alot for a girl. im 15/f and i do it like twice a week. is this bad for my health in any way? thanks for answering.

Lol, that isn't a lot at all. It is not bad for you, in fact, it is a natural stress reliever, and it will not make you go blind or have your fingers fall off. The only harm it can do is make you soar down there if you are too rough. As long as it doesn't impede on your daily life, it is ok, and nothing you should worry about. =)

hey, i have a 2 y.o. guilding that is continually bucking, but does PERFECT in ground work. It's just that whenever i get on my horse, he starts acting up. I'm totally confused--i've never had this happen to any of my horses before. [i even got thrown off and dragged a little ways]lol .....so i'm open to suggestions...if anyone has a any idea what i could do...holler
[this question is free for anyone]
thanx a million!

Hmmm... How long have you had him: he could not be broken in yet.

Also, maybe the saddle does not fit him properly and is uncomfortable: try changing to a new girth. Or it just the shape of the saddle might not compliment the shape of his back.

I used to ride this mare and she would buck continuously if you used a whip on her (I never hurt her, I would just tap her butt lightly if she wouldn't listen to me). So just an idea, if you use whips/spurrs/etc, try refraining from using them, and see if that works.

This question is for the girls out there... My stepmom says that bras with underwires are really bad for you. Does anyone know why?

The wires tend to press into the breast, blocking off circulation, causing sensitive lumps to form. Although these lumps aren't bad, and healthy breasts may sometime have them, they are very uncomfortable and, well, hurt.

My cat won't stop crying. Literally. Tears are slowly coming out of his right eye, and they have been since yesterday. I don't know what to do. I've been dabbing his eye with a cloth to get the tears off of his face. I think maybe something got in his eye and he's trying to get it out, but could this be serious? Is there anything I can do to help him feel better or stop crying?

First of all, cats don't cry. At least they do not produce tears when they're sad. It could possibly be an infection, and even if its not, I would still take him to the vet to be on the safe side. So many pets go blind because their owners don't take them to the vet in time. Please make an appointment with your vet as soon as possible, most likely they will prescribe antibiotics.

Good job on dabbing his eye, just make sure you don't touch it, you might irritate it even more. =)

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